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This and That

Posted by Mandolinrain Aug 31, 2019

Do you have it all? All the answers ~I don't.


It takes a little bit of this....and a little bit of that...and THAT

can be a different animal depending on who you are talking to on this site.


AND THATS okay. I don't want to be Like you or expect you to be like me. I just wanna be me and daily I am a working on becoming a better version of 'ME'.


I love the diversity of this site. We have all got something to give and take away to help us grow in our journey to stay and or be Nicotine free. 


What we do not need is folks coming on here giving us 'labels'.This is MY OPINION. You can agree to disagree if ya want.,...thats cool with me, but be kind.


This has been on me mind tonight and so I felt to share. I come here to tell folks that quitting smoking is HARD, yes, but I share how I did it. What worked and what did not for me. Others have a totally different way that worked or did not for them. Thats whats so cool. So many ways to work through it. Not one way is right or wrong.

I don't come here often because I need to...I come because I want to. I want to help someone like those before me came to be here  ( and most are still here) to help me. Period.

As always...Take what you need and leave the rest : someone will always take the leftovers....I did, and then some.

Have a great weekend. ~Missy

Sending out prayers of safety for anyone in Florida awaiting DORIAN.


sweetplt is down there right now. Ralph1955 and   vanlil who live there.



Be safe and keep us all updated!


Love is all that matters

Posted by Mandolinrain Aug 25, 2019

I am listening to this as I am doing some indoor chores. Love this song very very much. Wish I knew how to post the video for you, but Tec gal I am not.


"Love Is Still The Answer" lyrics

Jason Mraz Lyrics

Play "Love Is Still The A…"
on Amazon Music

"Love Is Still The Answer"



The question is why, why are we here?
To say our hello's and goodbye's and then disappear
This beautiful life, what is it for?
To learn how to master peace or master war


There's only one answer that matters
Even if your heart has been shattered
Whatever you want, whatever you are after
Love is still the answer
Love is still the answer


We all make mistakes, no, we're not perfect yet
Maybe God made us all from an accident
The question that sits on everyone's lips
Is why should we pick ourselves up and start over again


Well, there's only one answer that matters
Even if your heart and your dreams have been shattered
Whatever you want, whatever you are after
Love is still the answer


Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love


The question I'll ask at the end of my days
Is what did I give and what will I take


Well, there's only one answer that matters
Even if your heart and your dreams have been shattered
Whatever you want, whatever you are after
Love is still the answer
Love is still the answer


Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love


'Cause what the world needs now is love
And all you need is love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love




I don't partake in it. I hate it. It' s an invasive/intrusive way for people to hurt and take advantage of others. Sure, it is also an avenue to keep in touch with people/family who live far away....and sure, many people only 'friend' there friends, but guess what.....


The people who are NOT your friends have ways to still get your information and can destroy everything about you that you THINK your safe, on your own account. It has laded on our family....a family member who is a bright young man in college. He nearly got away with taking his life. This has been a week from hell that I don't wish on anyone..It is currently being investigated on who began a very ugly story on Social Media and I mean ugly and untrue. There are ways the individual can be tracked, but it is a long process and the world hurt this person brought on.

I put this out here now to let you all know that hurtful people can re-route any information on any social media and get it out anywhere on the internet. They can can track you...your location...your kiddos even by looking a a photo you post. They can superimpose anything on you phots ( which is what happened in our family members case) and make it look real and put it our for all to see and it can destroy your life, the life of a child, the life of someone depressed or struggling in an area and even those who have every marble left in their brain.


Theres so much ^&%$ in this world right now, and I guess I am going to remain old fashioned and have I stay away from the social media crap and if I wanna talk I will call the person. I'd rather hear a voice. 


This has been a horrific week not so much for me, but the other family member who feels life now, is not worth living. This young man did nothing wrong. He was a victim of someones sick mind. Please pray for this young man. Our hearts are torn for what he has gone through and what was done to him I cannot even talk about it. Just Pray for him and his family.


Bottom line~ Do you know who your kids are talking to online Do you know who your friends are online-DID YOU KNOW that any information you share with 'friends only' online that your friend can share it with another friend of theirs and boom....your info has been shared...and its a hard fall down people.


I am so angry right now. Please be careful. School is starting. Monitor your kids. Dont let them become victim . EVERYONE is vulnerable.


Even if you think you have the most secure settings....

Guess what

No you don't.


These idiots can re-write your posts

Re-design your photos

Share your info with sickos- unbeknown to you

Case your home when you leave on vacation

Follow your children/grandchildren just by seeing photos of them you post


The list is scary and goes on and on.

How bad do you really NEED Social Media.

Be careful

I know I do.


On a personal issue, I can't or really dont care to share, right now. Somethings are better left unspoken. With Adult children in our case anyway. 


There was a time it would drive me to smoke. Not now. No desire and I have this community to thank for that.


So much going on with BOTH of our elderly Moms it is surreal right now and I have allowed the responsibility to fall on me. Why? Because I can'r stand anyone feeling alone or forgotten, but what if we become the one forgotten, then what? It's been said I am a people pleaser, probably right. I like to spread hope and love and forgiveness and I know I know, sometimes, I dont ...but I think mostly I do. Im not talking about this site either. I am just venting. Venting like we ask those of you on this site to do when your feeling 'squeezed' by the 'NOUNS' in your life, as I am right now. Yes, an area I need to work on for sure though.


Sure, it will pass. I know it will, it always does and I will be just fine and dandy. 


Smoking will not change any of it it will only upset me that I caved to it, not happening. Worked too hard. 5 year Anny is coming up soon.


So here i am venting. Adult kids who make there choices and we can't change anyone but our own. Grasp that. Thats what I am trying to do. Trying to fix something I have no control over. Turning this over to my Maker. He has always led me through the turbulent times and I have no doubt He will now as well. Just need to be patient. His time, not mine.


On a good note, hubby and I are headed to a cool bluegrass/country afternoon tomorrow and enjoy company of many friends. Excited about that! 


N.O.P.E   never failed me yet  I'm fine , really...thanks to God and all of you and the love of the wonderful friends in my life. Have an awesome weekend everyone!

Climbing the mountains in life are a challenge. Getting over to the other side takes determination and an ongoing selection of good productive choices.

Making the decision to quit smoking, lose weight, exercise , work, get a new job, quit a job, stay in a relationship or leave one. Those are the few of the many choices people face everyday.


Determination to ride out the storms in life or move on all require you make a choice not an excuse.


Excuse's lead to failure no matter where you put them. Excuses to follow through may not always produce anything bad but they never result in encouraging you with anything good. They just prolong you obtaining it.


1. Acknowledge the Crave for what it is ~Your brains receptors want to be fed. Figure out what you can do to instead of caving in...clean out your house for instance, every cotton pickin' drawer-door and them some.


2. Look at your surroundings~ Are you somewhere physically that is inducing the    crave? Can you remove yourself from this situation and if not, what can you do to improve your surroundings? Theres always something here overlooked.


3. Consider your thoughts/Mood ~Are you reacting to them and what could you do instead of giving into them? Make it a Quest....we know who we are when we smoke, now let's discover who we are without them


4. Come to Ex~ Someones here all the time and while you may not get a reply right away, I promise as soon as people see you calling out for HELP, many will come to the rescue. In the blogs on the site. Use the search on the site and type in whatever it is that is making you want to smoke at that instance and again, I promise, many blogs will pop up that will walk you through your crave.


5. Vicks Vapor Rub~  Magic in a little blue bottle. A tad under my nose smashed craves instantly. Worked for me very well. I even used the inhaler when we went out so I would not smell like Vicks. After 3 months, I didn't need it at all anymore. I was good to go and craves were manageable.


6. Keep a journal. Write in n what is making you want to smoke at that instant, then list what you can do instead. I think its good to be aware of the triggers. And interesting to see how you got through it. Life is going to continue to happen smoking or not. Tell me this...Did the problem go away when you snuffed out the cigarette? Never did for me. It only set me up for the next cigg. and the more I smoked the faster the setup ( crave) came.


7. Expect the challenge of the crave, just don't Cave to it. When our Military Men and Women go to war, they know all there is about the enemy they are about to face. They prepare ahead of time and they have a plan of action and often several backup plans. Know what you're facing. Know your enemy~Nicotine. Don't get ambushed. This is war and consider us your backup troops. Lets do this!




We get it. While we all have our own personal journeys we have ALL had the same craves. The best way to beat the crave is to quit feeding it. Every time you

smoke, you are essentially  waking up your brains receptors and feeding them. The goal here is to starve them so they shut up and leave you alone. The longer they go without being fed, the sooner you will be on this side of Freedom and believe me, its all good and its all doable.


Bottom Line

Get out of the Cave and Engage

Smoking in Caves lead to death



Most likely there is. What are you doing to protect yourself from said storm?

Do you have provisions ready and waiting?


Storms can come quite or loudly....sometimes you hear the thunder warning you its near, other times it just comes out of nowhere and can leave a terrible trail of devastation.


Yes, the storms of life are real smoking or not smoking. Instead of smoking through them, make yourself ready to handle them. For every kind of storm there are things we can do to lessen the effects of it. Figure out what that is for you and your circumstance.. Just don't smoke. Come here first, allow us to help guide your through the storms of life. Many do, I did and you can can too. 


We are here for you and each other. You won't find a community better than this one that truly cares. Put us close to the top of the list, for a place to come for shelter.


Now go make that storm kit cause ya just never know when it will come in handy.