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Root Development relies on the care given to form them


The necessary ingredients to help them grow and get established  ~ nutrients, sun, air quality, water, earth, shade and so on…the proper amount can bring about a beautiful plant. The improper balance can cause damage that can lead to disease and or death itself.


Today I celebrate 1700 days of Nicotine Freedom. I wanted to take the time to share how I rooted my quit  and pass along suggestions that continue to help my quit form good healthy roots.


  1. I payed attention to the soil I planted my ‘quit’ in

I am most always aware of my surroundings….the little things that can ‘push my buttons’, or make me ‘feel’ uncomfortable. Those are warning sign's telling me I need to move along. I recognize now that in the past when I was a smoker, those ‘conditions’ often set me up to smoke.  Being aware of my surroundings.... Learning how to say 'NO'....

'Setting healthy Boundaries'. Priceless lesson indeed for me.


2.  I make sure I spend quality time doing something joyful everyday. It could be just spending time with my grandchildren, or putzing with my plants, doing art…reading …whatever I like that gives me joy. I find I need to slow down more and truly see and enjoy the environment I am in. For reasons unknown to me, when I smoked I was always in a hurry and I ALWAYS had to make sure my ‘habit’ was number one…. I always made sure I would not run out of cancer sticks and had to always have access to a lighter. Its good to not have to plan everything anymore based on my smoking. It stole way too much from me.


3. Stay active on this site….as well as take breaks from it now and then. This site helps me hold myself accountable to my quit. It also is the water to my roots. I have many friends here at home but it occurs to me that the ones I have made here on Ex are as close or closer than any of my friends here at home. Theres something about talking someone through a rough patch that’s a total stranger, who is willing to listen to you and share with you….its truly a gift. YOU ALL are truly a gift to me.  Together we are really an amazing community. I know the God of my understanding gave you all to me as a ‘gift’ and I don’t take that lightly. I am grateful to everyone here. 


4. I remain teachable. I am a work in progress.

I don’t have all the answers. I learn so much from being a participant on this site. I understand good people make mistakes and bad people can be givers of good. I watch for the opportunities to pass along good and I  recognize when my own behavior is less than and needs addressed and realigned. I take responsibility for my quit and my actions on Ex and at home. I 'prune' myself when I see weakness's in/on me. It's good for future growth.


5. I rest when I need to rest and eat when I need to eat. Physical or mental overload can drive me to smoke or at least it used to. I still have days I ‘overload’ but for the most part I do what I can and then I don’t. I stop and rest. The laundry will still be there the next day…if you follow….


6. I like to learn new things to do. It could be learning about new plants or gardening techniques , new musical instruments, new crafts, new recipes, volunteering ….I like to keep challenged and I think this has been something that really has helped my quit roots develop. I highly recommend it. All can help a bad mood and or crave….and helping someone less fortunate than you ALWAYS comes with rewards. It lets you see that you are not only person who hurts, lost, feel bitter, is sick,  feels broken….Being a light to someone else in bad times may be just what they need to get out of the darkness. We all need a dose of light daily. ALL of us. And what happens when you enter a dark room and someone turns on the light???? You see and you can proceed with more vision, clarity and hope. Be that light today. Do it without expecting a thing back. Even better….do it without anyone but yourself knowing. I guarantee you will reap rewards for that. Being a light not only helps your roots mature but it will spark a light in someone you may never know needed it.


7. Finally, and ( this should have been number one on  my list ), is my spirituality. I have a strong faith in God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Had it not been for Him, I would never have been here and I know that ,so I pray and Thank Him daily for this gift and for the gift of all of you and Ex. I am not ashamed of my Faith and I don’t judge anyone for their own beliefs. I don’t always have a clear understanding of my faith, but I know it will take me where I need to be, and right now it is here with all of you.


And there you have it

My roots exposed. I suppose one could say I am offering you a ‘start’ off my roots, because I feel they are very strong and division of roots can actually make this plant ( me) stronger and I choose daily to take care of these roots, after all...They are the only ones I will ever have. 


Happy Monday!

Missy  1700 Days of Freedom


Andwaddaya know, it's midnight.... I wrote this to post for Monday the here it is and I'm heading to bed and sleeping in for a change ~See ya on the flip side!




The above reflects my opinion on quitting smoking. It may or may not apply to you. Take what you need and leave the rest. Someone always shows up for leftovers.

For the most part I raised our kids by example. I also explained to them about consequences for their actions and how they would need to take responsibility for their own actions.


I also taught them about forgiveness. That there's never a good reason to be insulting to anyone. That they ( my kids ) may simply agree to disagree and move on. Yet if someone had hurt them and was sincere enough to make an amends, that they should forgive them. It did not mean they had to continue a friendship with them, it meant they would not have to feel as though they have to share their candy with them again....if you follow. The forgiving lesson was for them so that THEY could move on and not be held by a grudge they were harboring in their heart. If they were meant to be friends, they simply would be and they would feel in their heart if that was the case.

When my kids screwed up I didn't encourage the bad behavior but I did encourage the good behavior. Good behavior  may have gained them more responsibility and freedoms in the long run but they received no reward for bad behavior. I loved them no matter what their behavior was but tangible rewards were saved for the horse shows or sporting events, when they won awards or trophies.

Good behavior was expected of them not earned. Bad behavior only increased their measure for our grounding them and incentive for me to make sure they understood why their behavior was unacceptable and teach them how they could grow from that experience so as to not be repeating it. 


So what I am saying in regards to smoking is this. Many here have failed  quits several times. I was one of them. There came a time in my failures that I knew darn well what I had to do and if I wanted this quit for myself to 'stick. I got serious about it, very serious. It had become obvious to me that MY QUIT METHODS were not working.

I learned so much from my Elders it was time to apply what they had been telling me.  Let me share something with you....I STILL learn from them. Why do I care to? Because I want what THEY HAVE. I want to be the light they were for me. I want the Newbies to 'get it' and experience this beautiful smoke free life I have. I was fortunate enough to have Elders that held back the 'sweets' and drilled the lesson into me instead overdosing me with sugar. 


Same was with my kids. Now they tell me..." Mom, I'm glad you didn't let me get away with 'xyz'....and it's clear to me now why you did what you did back then even though it really %^&$^#ed me off then.. We find ourselves saying the same thing you did back then to our kids and it's working. Thank you". ( Strong secure young men they are , they didn't get an overdose of sweets as kids, but they did get plenty of love and support)

If we would have given them 'hugs and kisses and candy and awww sweetie, its okay, you messed up' every time they messed up, we would not have the 2 great sons we have today that are hard workers, dedicated and responsible husbands, Dads and businessmen. No. They learned to develop a backbone from us , not a wishbone. Thats what I want the New people here to develop...a STRONG BACKBONE, not a wishbone.


Love and support comes in an array of fashion and MY BLOG here is to share mine. It served my family well and me . If it helps you, cool. If not, no worries. I am one of many who has opinions and I don't have to agree with yours anymore than you do mine. Cool Beans


Others have their way to teach, this is mine. No sugar and sweets for bad behavior. Just a FYI. you know. I am not pinpointing anyone. I'm just putting this out there. I also would not expect and sugar coated stuff for any bad behavior I am ever a part of . Whats good for the goose.....


Happy Tuesday~





PS~ Thank you to my elders for not feeding me sugar



Pull up

Posted by Mandolinrain Apr 20, 2019

When airplanes get into flight patterns that create danger, sometimes they are advised to 'pull up'. Right now thats how I feel. I am pulling up..


I have been foreseeing turbulence and have been going through turbulence recently at home that I have felt the need to 'pull up' , danger signs, warning signs, warning bells  coming from all directions.  Pull up.


When I was still smoking , this would have been a real need for me to smoke. I would abort to the nearest exit and smoke. Escape. I was fooled though. When I would return from smoking, the 'turbulence' was still there and still needed dealt with.


Today, I recognize the signs. Because I like to write, I see it in my own blogs, my responses to other bloggers, it all becomes clear when I look hard enough. Sometimes I am my worst enemy. Trying to make my point and overthinking things....but not just that...I also see how I have so much going on in my life and trying to please so many people here at home right now, I am physically and emotionally 'spent'. I need a break. I need to pull-up  and start refocusing on my own needs.

New quitters are much in need of 'Pulling Up'. New quitters are often sidetracked at worrying about what everyone else thinks of their quit and their quit needs. New quitters are often trying so hard to protect everyone around them that they often forget to protect their quit-there own needs are set aside to make everyone else around them 'comfortable' as they struggle to make a day, a one 24 hour period , 'smoke free'.

So I throw this out to you all today. Wherever you are in your quit, days, weeks, months, years....PULL UP. 


Least you crash and burn......Who will PULL UP with me tonight????


And for those who have been noticing my descent and lack of peace ( because if I can feel and see it, I know you have) I apologize. I recognize it now...and I am Pulling up.

Happy Easter a day early.



A decision you are thinking about or are in the process of doing....or already have....Some will make it and some won't and as cold as that may sound, it's the truth.


I think they got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was one f them. I was sick of the smell it left behind me, and on me....The cropping up of health issues....the money I was throwing away weekly, monthly- do what? Make me unhealthy and stinky??? Yes I was sick and tired of it all. I was sick of being a prisoner of Nicotine.



I finally did that as well. Not overnight. It did not happen without a plan. It did not come with green eggs and ham....( sorry, me brain needed to add a touch of humor there)......It came because I made a decision to go through whatever I must, uncomfortable situations, bad feelings....I had to RESOLVE to get it done. No more excuses, whining. Just make a CHOICE one day at a time, that I will not smoke today.

I decided to read about how my brain turns on and off the receptors when I smoked vs not smoking and how it had been playing cat and mouse with me for YEARS. Once I understood this concept, for me, it was like a superpower of understanding. My AH-HA moment, if you will.The Elders here planted so much info into my brain and now it was all coming together. The lesson plan they gave me made sense. It was time.



You knew enough to put a flame at the end of your cigarette to make it burn and engage in 'smoking' so why not use use your brain to learn about this addiction once and for all and stop this crazy war going on inside of you. Or....Don't.



I used excuses I hear on this site over and over again. I know them all and then some. I feared I would get fat, lose friends, lose smoking buddies, never be able to relax, never be able to make decisions, I'm sick, I lost a loved one, I'm depressed, I'm sad, I really angry...I will, I won't I will I won't......Damn if I do Damn if I don't...No one cares, why should I. Poor me. I THOUGHT I resented my quit..but I had it backwards......



SO what's YOUR excuse? You do know the moment you decide to quit smoking it will never leave you? Nope, never. And FYI..... you probably WILL GAIN WEIGHT., lose some smoking buddies, not be able to smoke in stressful times...but what are you really missing? Think about it. Most of your friends that smoke really want to quit also. Don't you ever recall looking at a group of non smokers, wishing you were them? I know they were never wishing they were smokers, like I was. Quitting smoking ruins the habit from the first time you begin a quit. Smoking will never be the same again for you, and you know that to be turn or you would, not be here.



Of course I gained weight. 10 lbs maybe more or less? I know theres a variety of thoughts on this subject. I can only share MY experience with you. I have always taken good care of myself. I once was a gym rat back in the day and taught aerobics on the side. I used to be a runner. I am no longer into the gym scene. I work out at home and I walk now and no running. I enjoy a whole food diet most day and intermittent fasting most days.  I have several sweet teeth, lol, and if I want something I do not deprive myself, but I have learned to recognize true hunger from emotional eating. Its all about balance for me.. Always has been.


I know when my body needs to rest and when it needs to move. I make it a priority to listen to it. When I quit smoking I decided I would need to listen even clearer to my body's food requirements. This was where the fasting began for me and helped me to stay in tune.  I drink a lot of water, always have. The best way I taught myself to recognize hunger vs emotional eating was with water. I start each day with water and end each day with water. If I am hungry, I drink water, wait 20 minutes and if I am still, hungry, I eat. Water is fuel. You would not put crap in the fuel tank of your car and expect it to run great, so why would I think less of my own body? You get out of it what you put in to it. My opinion.

Early in my quit I journaled my food and exercise. It helps me when I have a visual of whats going on.


Okay, thats my thoughts for the day. I'm headed out to walk Nico.


This is as good of a day as any to quit.

Missy 1689 DOF


PS: Thank you to ALL of the wonderful Elders who have taught me I am worth my quit and for sticking around to remind me /teach me and others, we can all do this together, One day at a time. Thank you to EX Community.

Together we are One!



The above reflects my opinion on quitting smoking. It may or may not apply to you. Take what you need and leave the rest. Someone always shows up for leftovers.







How strong is YOUR foundation


Most here know, that during the summer of 2017 we sold our home of near 30 years to build a new one. Staying in the country as we love, it was a hectic summer but we stuck it out and are very pleased with the results.


It took time patience and lots of dedication on our part. We made sure all of the conditions were right when we began pouring the footers to framing the house and we even made it through surprise storms as they filtered the area many times unannounced. We went to every length to protect what we had worked so hard on to achieve.


So I ask again, how is YOUR foundation?


Quitting smoking is much like building a house. It will be as strong as its foundation. Most of us smoked for many years and were very comfortable doing so, just like I was very comfortable our past house. Something changed though...

We saw our old home needing constant repair, just like a smoker often gets....our human frame just was not withstanding the elements of smoking any longer. It was time to move on just as it was time to quit smoking.


No house or quit will stand long without a strong foundation.  Jumping into your quit without preparation is asking for trouble


Thats why we take the time to suggest you have a good understanding of this particular addiction, how it relates to you and preparing ahead of time, having a plan of action ready to go when the 'craving' sets in.

Lifelines in Place

Lifelines are people you can contact when none of your 'plans of actions seem to be working. Who can you call to help you through it? Lifelines may be as simple as just coming to this site and reaching out to us.


30 years is a very long time to live in one place. It's also along time to smoke, which I did for OVER 30 years. So yes, it was a hard move. Going from being a smoker to a non-smoker, but I did it. Many here have. While we may all have our different style of homes and quits~ one thing we have in common is our foundations are strong and our lifelines are in place.


Happy Monday to everyone. Since this is the day of the week I used to run the Freedom Train I decided this will be my weekly blog day for now. Enjoy your day.



The above reflects my opinion on quitting smoking. It may or may not apply to you. Take what you need and leave the rest. Someone always shows up for leftovers.


Missy 1686 DOF


Confession Time

Posted by Mandolinrain Apr 12, 2019



I DELETED YEARS AGO and regretfully so and choose to leave EX and decided this just was not my cup of tea. Now I am sorry I did this and I understand fully why I should not have. Nobody told me back then I would regret it, so I am telling you now.  


I was a Ex flunky. I was good at holding to my quit days at a time, then boom…right back to smoking. About a year of messing around before I decided to buckle down and truly get to know and understand the addiction I had. I had a kazillion things going on in my life back then, all good, I might add….but I NEVER spent the dedication to truly learning about my addiction. Therefore, I kept failing my quits. Many 'seeds' were planted in me here though.

I gave encouraging words out when I blogged as I was flopping around like a fish out of water. Now I regret to say…..I deleted most of them all long ago and I cannot bring them back. I wish I could . 


I wish I could just to show you how scared I really was. I feared I would never be able to make any decision if I could not smoke, I cried alot. I was angry.  Rage to be more direct. I covered up all my fears about quitting with pretty posts of things that were pleasing to me and God forbid you commented on my ‘pretty blog’ and told me to read a particular article. Nope, wasn’t for me. I was not having that. Who are you anyway??? I wanted your sympathy and understanding and for the longest time, I got it already......geese


Not in a bad way , no never......but it was clear I needed to truly buckle down and get serious about quitting. I had been caressed and 'enabled' long enough and it was time to rise to the challenge. I left. Yep, thats would fix them! HA! pooh on you! Au revoir , Auf Weidersehen- addio!!! Through, finished-DONE WITH EX!


I did come back, obviously, with a secure quit going I might add. I reintroduced myself and am fully committed to my quit and this community. The seeds driven into me  here , I finally watered and nourished and what do you know?.... They grew, they grew because I took the time to read many of my mentors OLD BLOGS and I saw their struggles and I began to understand how they became who they are today. Nicotine free. Living life with all the same ups and downs as the rest of the world yet, without a desire to smoke.


When I DELETED back then, it was fear talking to me. But because I made the poor decision to DELETE those posts, comments and all, you will never know the crap I put myself through. You can never learn from that and I am going to be forever sorry I dod that that.


Theres much to learn from our early struggles. Not just for us but for all of the new folks coming in.  You can look back and see how we made it….our struggles. See where are now if we stay long enough to give back....and how we have changed for the better.

 How our breakthroughs impact ,someones else's quit, you may never know, if you DELETE.


Now while I am getting all honest here , I did delete a blog I wrote, oh maybe 1 year or 2 ago? Regarding a health issue.? Had nothing to do with smoking and I truly should not have posted it out here anyway. I just want to be clear is all. I feel though, as now I am an Elder here, I owe this truth to you all. Some of you already know it. I felt it needed to be said. 



I surely hope this helps others to understand when we say 'don't delete'~Your words/comments may just be what another person needs to read that day to give them the courage to NOT light up

~or even yourself


With much love and respect~Missy


Get ready to PUSH

Posted by Mandolinrain Apr 9, 2019

As a Mother I can tell you the 9 months prior to having our sons, I went through  plenty of ‘moments’ Some good, some bad. I knew what I was getting into beforehand so I prepared for it. Then Labour pains began. Some gals don’t have them long, mine were 30 plus hours for the first child~ then a C/S for the second.


What has this to do with smoking you ask ?????

A lot actually


I have found that some of the best gifts I have ever received in this life come from going through a considerable amount of discomfort/pain. Maybe its so we can remember and appreciate all the more the gift that is about to be bestowed on us.


So the next time your suffering with your quit…turn it around and inspect it throughly. The pain is leading you to a beautiful breakthrough. Expect it and put your efforts and anger in that direction. Focus on what you can do to manage this pain at that moment and grit your teeth and go.


I have been through my share of pain recently 

What I choose to do is to look ahead for the gifts coming because I know full well this pain is not infinite.

It will pass and I will get something from it all. I always do. I dId not fully understand this concept early in my quit but I do now and I treasure the gifts i will get or have received from the pain. It leads me to growth.


I think I am about to give birth and I can't wait to PUSH , knowing and EXPECTING the precious gift will have all been worth it....AND THE PAIN WILL BE over!  I hope this helps you to look at your own pain in a different way. Good things can and do come from bad things but BAD things will never produce good. Now theres a thought. Have a great day




PS:   A wise Elder always includes in her post how she is sharing HER experience. Wise indeed and 

indingrl.01.06.2011, I am going to follow your lead from now on as well. I am going to end every post from now on with the following:




This post contains MY thoughts and MY experiences. I share them in hopes they will help another person. What works for ME may or may not work for you.

Take what you need and leave the rest. Someone will always come for the leftovers, Peace ~Missy


Waves and Emotions

Posted by Mandolinrain Apr 8, 2019

WAVES & EMOTIONS…Time to get serious about this, Because it IS a life or death situation.





Waves and Emotions have a lot in common.

If you have ever sat on a beach and looked out at any given time during the day…the waves are present. Perhaps ever so slightly at times, yet other times they can surprise you and roll in very fast.

 Emotions are much like waves. One second you may feel very strong and sure of yourself and out of nowhere a sudden impact hits you out of nowhere. It may catch you off balance.


 Perhaps you have noticed in your quit journey some ‘waves’ rolling through yourself. Perhaps you didn’t see it coming and a rip currant pulled you so far under that it was hard to get your head out of the water. Some people die this way….




Good swimmers ( and I am NOT one…..) know what to do when the waters change. They take precautions .  Perhaps they recognize the signs…the weather is inconsistent therefore they understand the water may toss up some rip currants or white caps… They are sensitive to the signs.

They read the beach warning signs. They STOP. They RECOGNIZE they ADJUST….OR they plain just decide to NOT swim. Duh!


Are we sensitive enough with the signs our quit journey to notice when to seek shelter? When to ask for help? When to research for more information? Or do you wait until it is too late?

Life is going to happen. Smoking or not. People who have never smoked manage the signals without smoking. Perhaps their other vises are not what we would do......





Personally I will get out of the water. Take the good with the bad and realize smoking won’t change any situation. It will just push me back to day ONE. This is no game.  This is the rest of your life. Get serious about your quit and quit playing Russian roulette with it….because I promise….you will not win. That undertow will get you and there will come a time that there IS no coming back.


So yes, I am staying out of the water for now., watching the weather, not taking risky chances….I will ask for help when I need it no matter what area of life is troubling me.  I am not just taking information in, I am applying it to my life and working my quit. I realize what hubby and I went through today could have made me reach for a smoke ( or go swim in a riptide)…but I recognized it. I blogged it and talked about it with folks here who have been there done that. 




Emotions and Waves….yep…..They won’t define this person. I will STOP-RECOGNIZE-ADJUST


I hope you do too. We are ALL worth the effort, the love and the time when we quit trying to fool ourselves that we can swim through anything and truly begin to address the Waves and work our quits.


I have much yet to learn, but hey, I have not smoked for almost 5 years……I must be doing something right, eh?



I RECOGNIZE I need sleep.

PS~I have learned much from my Elders and continue to...... Daily. 


Time to let go......

Posted by Mandolinrain Apr 7, 2019

We have known this time was approaching and thought we were going through with this a week or so ago but then, as dogs do, he surprised us and offered us moments of hope. Last night, his light began to dim....lower than ever.

We spoke with my cousin who happens to also be our Vet and made the ultimate hard decision that it is time to let Merlin go. I am sobbing as I write this.

Tomorrow is the day...around dinnertime -6pmish', when Sues office closes for the day. Meanwhile Pete and I will spend all day with our beloved friend knowing he will be joined with other loving pets we have had....his beloved Tess, pictured in the above banner, with him out in the yard who died too soon of Cardiomyopathy.


Our other dog, Nico~turns 5 on Tuesday and He is going to be beside himself. I know we will get another companion down the road for Nico but it will be awhile I think. Nico is a Rescue Doberman, so we may find another rescue Dobie down the road. Theres no dog that will replace our sweet gentle giant, Merlin. None. Those of you who have dogs know what I mean.


Merlin has had a good life for a 150# Italian Mastiff. He was glad I quit smoking to I think. He is 11 years old. His weight has dropped significantly.


Anyway, I will be gone again awhile to heal. This is so hard. I have been through it before and the one thing that gives me comfort is the word

'DOG'. ( God spelled backwards). I know there was no mistake in naming this creature. Other than God Himself there is no other 'being' I know of that loves as unconditionally as a dog does. May we ALL learn to love that way.


Anyway, I will be back in a few days.




Again~ May we ALL learn to love that way



Are you feeling~

Hungry-Angry-Tired-Sluggish-Ugly~Fat~Forgetful~Lost~Empty...or an abundance of just plain 'I don't know'~swimming around in your head?


This is common for everyone from time to time but it is especially common when you quit smoking. There is a solution. It's called Spring Cleaning Your Insides. Below is how I go about Spring Cleaning my insides, perhaps others will jump in and offer their own suggestions  Have a lovely Thursday! N.O.P.E.


1. Begin your day taking a COOL shower, start out warm and move gradually to cooler to stimulate/invigorate


2. Start your day with drinking water. I prefer mine room temp and I drink a quart as soon as I wake up....and more throughout the day. The aim is for your pee to be darn near clear at HS ( Bedtime) Like a car needs gas to run, we need water.


3. MOVE. Walking is my favorite and jumping on my mini tramp when I first quit smoking, was a crave buster and it also stimulates POSITIVE energy within me.


4. Avoid sugar. I have a sweet tooth. Actually, truth be told, I have a lot of sweet tooth's and I DO indulge now and then in moderation. BUT for me, I find, when I am in a slump , sugar is the last thing I need to have. It actually enhances bloat, water retention and pain levels. Arthritis and sugar are NOT friends. Not a good thing at all and of course sugar makes me tired. 


5. Fresh Air. Air out your home even if only for 5 minutes. Dust out the heater vents. Get some fresh air by stepping outside. Often.


6. Think color when you eat and I don't mean sprinkles and sherbet! I am talking veggies and SOME fruit.


Okay, that is my two cents. Taking care of your insides now that you quit smoking, will pay off and make you feel better and recover faster.








Short Story Long

Posted by Mandolinrain Apr 2, 2019



Sometimes taking the shortcuts will give you just that. a quick way to fail


Shortcuts are good when your running from the rain, 

making up for time lost to get to work on time,

Finishing off a recipe when your lacking all the ingredients….

But rarely do they have a place in your quit.


It pays to take the longer road most times. 

You get to see-feel-smell-experiance ALL of your senses to complete the inside of you 

that needs time 

to heal-repair-understand…and just take care of you.


Nothin wrong with that. Find out what you need to take care of you and don rush it. Prepare and plan and find out the when and why’s……don’t just dive in without checking the depth of the water.


Okay, so I back. Family stuff-dog stuff-health stuff with elderly parents and in-laws. Full plate, yes.

I am doing great though. I have so many awesome people in my life here and outside of Ex that I surround myself with and I am not afraid to ask for help when I need it. Hey we all need it now and then, yes?

Anyway, sure have missed all my peeps here on EX and I am going to be more active again now. 


So Short story Long…take care of you. Figure out exactly what that means. Its going to be more complex than you think because I bet many of you have not yet done that….figured it all out Once you do, I promise, it will change again. So be ready. Ready to take care of you.


Don’t take shortcuts with your quit. Take the long way. Enjoy the journey more by learning everyday what makes you feel. Just feel. Go out and walk in the fresh April air. I cannot WAIT to begin walking again. The twins leave in another hour and I am headed out to the long path. I will breath in and take it all in. Cant walk? Music videos and a chair. ….stretch, open a window. Breath.


Meanwhile I LOVE this guy, Jason Mraz and especially this particular song of his. So positive. Heres the Lyrics. I highly recommend his videos. Uplifting

So my wish for each and every one of you is this: I want you to have it all.

It’s good to be back to this site, I sure missed you guys


Lyrics- Have it all

Artist: Jason Mraz



May you have auspiciousness and causes of success

May you have the confidence to always do your best

May it take no effort in you being generous

Sharing what you can, nothing more, nothing less

May you know the meaning of the word happiness

May you always lead from the beating in your chest

May you be treated like an esteemed guest

May you get to rest

May you catch your breath


And may the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows


And may the road less paved be the road that you follow



Well, here's to the hearts that you gonna break

Here's to the lives that you gonna change

Here's to the infinite possible ways to love you

I want you to have it


Here's to the good times we gonna have

You don't need money, you've got free pass

Here's to the fact that I'll be sad without you

I want you to have it all


All (all)

I want you to have it all (have it all)

I want you to have it (have it all)

I want you to have it all (have it all)


May you be as fascinating as the slap bracelet

May you keep the chaos and the clutter off your desk

May you have unquestionable health and less stress

Having no possessions though immeasurable wealth

May you get a gold star on your next test

May your educated guesses always be correct

And may you win prizes, shining like diamonds

May you really own it each moment to the next


And may the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows


And may the road less paved be the road that you follow



Well, here's to the hearts that you gonna break

Here's to the lives that you gonna change

Here's to the infinite possible ways to love you

I want you to have it

Here's to the good times we gonna have

You don't need money, you've got free pass

Here's to the fact that I'll be sad without you

I want you to have it all


All (all)

I want you to have it all (have it all)

I want you to have it (have it all)

I want you to have it all (have it all)


Oh, I want you to have it all

All you can imagine, oh

No matter what your path is

If you believe it then anything could happen

Go go go, raise your glasses

Go go go, you can have it all


I told you here's to the hearts that you gonna break

Here's to the lives that you gonna change

Here's to the infinite possible ways to love you

I want you to have it

Here's to the good times we gonna have

You don't need money, you've got free pass

Here's to the fact that I'll be sad without you

I want you to have it all


All (all)

I want you to have it all (have it all)

I want you to have it (have it all)

I want you to have it all (have it all)

I want you to have it


Here's to the good times we gonna have

(I want you to have it all)

Here's to you always making me laugh

(I want you to have it all)

Here's to the fact that I'll be sad without you

(I want you to have it all)

I want you to have it all





 Missy 1643 DOF