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Posted by Mandolinrain Dec 29, 2017

There was an old woman who chocked on her smoke

She wanted to quit cause she felt like a dope

It was so cold outside, her breath she could see

But no matter what , she'd do the deed...


She would smoke when she was mad

She would smoke when was Happy

Heck, she even smoked  when she felt a bit crappy


She kept a spare smoke hidden in the cabinet above

Just in case someone else would smoke

These death sticks she loved


Then came a day she'd thought never come

She got very sick and thought

This smoking is dumb


She failed many times at the beginning

She even had 3 months in and thought she was winning

But the nicotine monster kept nagging at her

And she ended up smoking...that day is a blur


It was time, she decided

To clean up her act,

she went back to the Ex Site

As a matter of fact.


She buckled down quickly

And did all that they said

She knew if she didn't

She soon could be dead


Now this old lady is finally free

The craves have all left her

She's happy as can be

I know this is true

For the lady is me


So if your one that stumbles and fall

And relapse and think no big deal at all.....

The secret, be told..if you want to stay quit....

Study this site and chew on it.... a bit


Thats my lil ditty to ya 'all on this fine COLD evening.

Gotta go watch the Buckeyes now, make popcorn and chill with my hubby!

Nite all!


Last minute thought: if you really want to quit something you will find a way to quit...or you'll find an excuse.

This has always been my personal favorite in more areas of life than one...



Missy - 1212 DOF


One more thing:

 What comes Easy won't last....What Last's, won't come easy . Truth.

You gotta love Nat King Cole and 'Unforgettable'.


That my favorite song by him...that and 'chestnuts roasting on an open fire...' as far as a Christmas Song my mind, it doesn't get much better. Oh man, and when his daughter Natalie does a voice over with, just wow. Love them both. Miss them both.



I wish you ALL a very safe and happy Christmas. May the love of Christ live in all of your hearts and extend to all of your friends and loved ones.


Busy day tomorrow. Going to see all our kids and grandkids, cannot wait!

I will be back to start the train engines on Christmas morning, just hoping I don't derail it or get lost, lol.


Your all 'unforgettable ' to me. You have ALL touched my heart in different ways, I wish you all the best now and always.


xoxo Missy

Nat King Cole, Unforgettable - YouTube 


Nico and Merlin say Merry Christmas too!


Actually not even close to topic, lol...2 things I need...


1. I need a recipe and hope SOMEONE will have for Christmas jello salad. Normally my Mother in law makes and brings it and its a family favorite, but she can't remember it or find her recipe. It has 3 layers, made in a 9x13. One green layer, one white layer...cream cheese...and a red layer...and does red later have cherries in it and if so, do you drain them first?


2. I am picking back up on knitting and wondered if we have any knitters here? I need the EASY instruction for basic washcloth. I think its starts with casting 3 on, but can't recall how far before you backtrack????


Have a blessed evening everyone. Am trying to get my menu together for Christmas. Wrapped Asparagus, Beef tenderloin, Baked sweet potatoes...jello salad, IF I can figure it out. HELP...PLEASE, its a family tradition but nobody has the recipe!!!!!


Thought for the day

Posted by Mandolinrain Dec 22, 2017


Its tuff....this quitting thing, and we tell ourselves in the beginning that its just to hard to do. Thus many people continue to smoke.


The truth is hard. It rarely comes easy.


This saying holds true  enough matter if its eating to much, drinking addiction, drug addiction, smoking addiction...really...any addiction  or activity that we know in our heart is unhealthy for us.


It will not stop until you put the brakes on and stand firm.


Go the Pledge page and STAND FIRM today.

N.O.P.E ( Not One Puff Ever )...

It IS doable

It IS Freedom

Stand your ground and fight for it! You deserve to be free!

The past couple of days I have so enjoyed taking care of our 17 month old grandson, Cillian. He brings such joy to our hearts! 

He loves to snuggle before going down for naps or bed and its a special time. Even more special because he has NEVER, nor will he EVER smell nasty cigarette smoke on me. This is a non smoking house-home and property . Period . No Exceptions. 


Just another blessing I am counting today for being grateful that        'I don't do that anymore'!


This is me holding one of the twins ( Vivian) a week ago at their house when I got to babysit very happy, non-smoking, Nana

So Im thinking, perhaps none of us may experience quitting the same either. The following is MY journey and may apply to you, or not....but if this will help one person, its worth the time to type it.


I know I have failed when I first began my quit journey. I always came back feeling so shameful....I felt worthless and I felt I left everyone here down. I learned later, it was myself that was let down the most.


One very wise elder told me that once you quit it changes your smoking should you start again, and he was right. Everytime I started to smoke again....I would soon have terrible guilt hovering over me.Shame. How could I ever come back in here and hold my head up again?


At first I had done the required reading. I blogged, stayed active. BUT...I didn't stick it out. I didn't pull out my toolbox and use the wisdom shared by all the great friends I made here on EX. I caved in....And looking back, for me anyway.....

Shamefully, I think I just desired to smoke too much. I just THOUGHT I enjoyed it too much to give up. So I thought.....Truly, I had just not understood the WHY.


It would mark the end of freedom, happiness, restlessness, anxiety, stress relief....I had no idea ( then ) it was all lie.I thought I could get by reading the material once and have a hold of this addiction and be done with it...but no.. i NEEDED TO UNDERSTAND THE 'WHY'.


It was not until I finally , throughly and utterly forgave myself and submitted myself 100% to gaining the understanding that IT had ALL THE POWER...and until decided to take it back and follow through with everything daily...IT would win. It would eventually take my life...I had to decide and commit to 'going through to get a breakthrough that I so desperately wanted, needed and finally achieved on September 2, 2014. I got serious with understanding the WHY, by reading reading reading and more reading.......old blogs, new blogs, elder blogs, newbie blogs ( everyone was my teacher on EX, all very important to my quit )


So whatever is holding you back from your  feelings on the matter are, until you totally understand the WHY of this addiction, you will be going around the same ole mountain. Listen....the view of the mountain has so much more in store for you to see, but you have to quit going in circles to see them.


Also, I do give 100% credit to my personal Savior, Jesus. This girl knows she would never even have found this site, had HE not led me.


Thank you to everyone here at EX. Old and have help me to see a better view of the mountain and experience life ups and downs without the smokes. It is doable. I promise.




We all did, or something darn close...

We would not allow weather conditions-or get togethers or dinners-or yada, yada,yada....

stop us from having that cancer stick!


Its snowing like crazy here and it made me think that I would be outside smoking in it had I not quit back in 2014.

I would go out in to to smoke even when I had bronchitis! Stupid!

I remember after dinner at a restaurant feeling so shameful that I needed to excuse myself to outside to smoke and was ELATED if someone from the table joined me ( All the while secretly wishing I didn't smoke ).

I dont do that anymore!


Can I get an AMEN!


I love sitting in here looking out and knowing I do not have to go outside to smoke..... need a smoke nor do I want one. I love this freedom. I worked hard to get it. I NEVER in a million years thought this possible, when I quit. The program works if you work it!

Have a safe nice evening everyone!


Big type tonight cause am having some vision trouble, but no worries, all will be handled, nothing wrong, nothing serious, I am FINE....but makes it easier tonight to type tonight

When our sons were in High school, although they were both very involved in academics and sports....they both were tempted , as many kids are, to partake in activities that would have most likely gotten them kicked off of teams or even worse.....involved in illegal drug activity. 


A lesson they BOTH remember to this day and have said they will apply to their own kids when they are older is this.  BOTH of ours sons have told us that this lesson saved their skins many a time. Here’s the lesson:


We told them to THiNK THROUGH the action BEFORE you partake....

In detail......Is the immeadiate gratification going to last? 

Or.....will the end results cause you grief - pain- humiliation- sorrow, will it hurt you or someone else?

THINK it  all the way through. Then decide.


As a former smoker who had many unsuccessful quits before I smartened up, I can honestly say I did not heed my own advice back then. I went for the immeadiate gratification and gave up a strong quit to feel good, only to feel terrible right after. I threw away several days, weeks,  months of a good quit to feel great for a few seconds. Are you doing that too.?


Ya know, truth be told...

I have honestly never met a person who didn’t regret starting smoking again.

I have met many who wish they could quit.


Think through your next temptation before you light up.

The only way to get past this through it.

Its snowing here and very cold. I am tucked inside getting ready to wrap present, which I DREAD. BUT I will play some Holiday tunes and get in the mood.....or maybe I need to reorganize my little studio area....????


I am noticing a lot of nice ENCOURAGING comments on this site......Love seeing that!

The Spirit of Christmas should live in our hearts EVERYDAY.Oh yes there is......


Anyone else getting snow? I am in Ohio...not to close to the snowbelt, but close enough. Id run out and make a snow angel and post a pic, but currently it would look more like a muddy angel. 


Have a great SMOKEFREE day and remember....





Home Sweet Home

Posted by Mandolinrain Dec 6, 2017

As a lot of you know, we have had a hectic past year with building a new house. Now we have been in since October 6-7th and it is still taking time to get used to. I can honestly say this is Home Sweet Home now.


Ex is also a place I refer to as Home Sweet Home. So many people have become like family to be and I can't imagine any of you not being here. There are those I have know along time here and those whom I am getting to know. Sadly there are those who leave....some who come back, as I did....some whom we just keep a candle lit for them...praying they are well and hoping they will find their way back.


Meanwhile if your new here at Ex. Your a treasure. Your a progress in works as we all are. Years- months- weeks or days.....ALL of us have the one thing in common. We don't do that anymore ( smoke). We all come from different backgrounds/situations. What I can share may not help the person reading it...but it may help someone else...yadda yada, yada. You follow?


So wherever you are, wherever HOME SWEET HOME is for you, know that you have this family as well. Its one of the greatest gifts I got when I sombered up. You guys.....this site.


Take what you need....leave the rest. Someone will always take your leftovers I find.


Have a great day, your here....Your blessed



Giving up

Posted by Mandolinrain Dec 4, 2017

Just a thought.....

Honestly, I didn’t mean to type ‘Quits’ just happened. So I decided it was meant to be.

Make quitting your Christmas gift to yourself this year. 


I am getting into the Holiday mood. Listened to festive music as I decorated, especially Nat King Cole....his voice is so mesmerizing . ..smooth as chocolate....unforgettable....and when his daughter Natalie does a voice over with him wow, just wow. I miss them both.  Jennifer-Quit, I’m thinking we need another music night sometime soon


I just finished decorating the tree and can’t find the skirt for it. Oh well, it will turn up. OSU vs Wisconsin starting soon so gotta run and make popcorn,


Have a great evening everyone and stay strong and GO BUCKS!!!

Heres our skirtless tree,lol


What Ex does for me

Posted by Mandolinrain Dec 1, 2017

There are two kinds of Nicotine addicts, those who have quit and those who still smoke. Actually let’s say 3 kinds....for the addict who is off and on weaning their way to freedom....


You guys are terrific. No matter what anyone is going through...your ever faithful to be here. Through ups and downs and go arounds, through in and outs, comes and goes , happiness, sorrows, trouble and woes...your here. Your a safe place for me to count on. A safe place where I can come to express myself without judgement. A safe place I can come to if I even THINK a smoke will cross my mind. A place to learn about my addiction and how to apply the tools given to me to become a non-smoker...I will always be an addict.  But most of all....


A place where all of us have in common the addiction of nicotine. Weather you like it or not, I have choose all of you to be extended family. I have always felt that family that is ‘chosen’ is extra all of you are to me.


You have accepted me with and without my baggage ......I have had my trials during my quit but one thing that never left me was all of you.

Does not matter to me which type addict you are Your just like me. Your addicted to Nicotine. I don’t always say the right thing at the right time to the right people, and I am sure I have offended some on this site one time or another,  but I am a work in progress. My canvas has a lot of work that I suspect will always need worked on so long as I am on this earth. For ANYONE I have ever offended, believe me it was unknowingly and unintended.


 Life makes it tuff to be regular here ......sometimes.

I dunno, feeling kinda like this needed said tonight. Full moon pulling?...Maybe


Thanks to everyone who prayed for my Daughter in law and son and the twins. All are well and healthy.

We are all tired, so much excitement, but happy excitement.


 I know this is rambling now and probably to long. Truly though, every single person on this site is important to me, even the newbies. Just had these thoughts in my head and wanted to release them, even though words just flowing right tonight. I am very tired and need to sleep. So I’m off to bed as son as I read a few posts. Peace my friends and thank you EX. This site truly Is God Given as are all the members


All went well

Posted by Mandolinrain Dec 1, 2017

Thank you all for the prayers.

Mother and babies are all doing great.’They were born shortly after 11pm.


Margo was first baby. She weighed 5.6lbs

Vivian came 9minutes later and decided to do a flip flop and arrived in breach position. She weighed 4.7. Both girls 18 inches long and both healthy. 


We we didn’t get home till 3am so I’m gonna go back to bed. Just wanted to let ya all know. I’ll post more later. Xoxo