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I wish I could mention all of you but I can barley see this without seeing double, so keeping this brief. We head home tomorrow and I already have an appointment scheduled for recheck on this eye thing. I am fine though really.


just wanted to say thank you for the ongoing prayers and love sent my way. This EX Family is amazing. My husband is sure Impressed with you all.


Next week I hope things are a bit better with vision and can type and read better. Meanwhile , much love and gratitude to you all and to Ellen for getting the prayer ball rolling. Prayer works. Thanks everyone..xoxo

Its getting more colorful everyday...worst is the double vision. No fracture but have to have repeat CT scan when we get home. Also I won’t be typing or replying much till I cnn see better. Xoxo

I may be out of the tundra escaping bad weather by being on vacation, but this morning as we decided to take the steps instead of the elevator.....I lost my balance and fell. Nothing broken but my ego. Can’t even blame my MS for this fall. I was simply going to fast and the steps were wet.  

Word: Slow down

So no.....I did NOT smoke but I think I may have gotten some folks attention.

lifes gonna happen anyway so don’t be in such a rush. Take time to look ahead and see what’s in front of you before you step out. 

Are you going to be in an environment where there might be an urge to smoke ? Slow down . Prepare ahead of time.

What can you do to change it. Don’t rush into anything that may challenge your quit without being prepared for it.


smoking or not smoking is most certainly YOUR choice and the more you take the time to slow down and prepare for the obstacials in life that will surely come, the choices will become much more clearer and present less of a challenge.


As far as wet at a time , slower pace was my lesson today. I saw it coming but didn’t slow down. So gonna go fill up another ice bag and chill awhile. Miss you all and will be back regularly next week!

We are having a wonderful time and much needed vacation. Weather is absolutely perfect. Pete took off this evening to go enjoy sprint car races with the guys tonight and I decided to stay put and enjoy the sounds of the waves breaking outside and stop in and say hello to all of you. I may not be on much till we return, but your all close to my heart and mind everyday. That, and I am wallowing in Aloe because of. A pretty bad sunburn....and no, I doubt I’ll never learn.....I did finally get some 50 sunscreen today...after the fact, ugh,


Thanks, by the way jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 for the sweet post in regards to missing Sherry and me, that’s was very kind. I hope Sherry Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 comes back sooner than later. Maybe she’s gonna work on that book I told her she should write? Wow talk about someone who seriously made an impression for my heart and the hearts of many of us here at Ex.


So anyway, just a note to say hello. I think I will go for a beach walk and watch the sunset. Meanwhile here’s a pic I took thru our screened in lanai last evening. Love and miss you all.


PS -

Thought for the day : Be kind to everyone because you never know who’s eyes Gods using today to look through....and taste your words before you spit them out. ( My Nana used to say these quotes, ...she was very much loved and full of much wisdom, her words were few but they were always said in love-patience and truth)


Now here’s that sunset I promised




Posted by Mandolinrain Feb 1, 2019

Am going to be away for awhile on vacation. Will stop in when I can off and on..


Meanwhile be good to yourself; and know you are all ALWAYS  in my prayers.

Keep it simple.


N.O.P.E. ~Missy -xoxo

Your thoughts can consume you if you allow them too.

Your decisions~plans~can all be evicted by just one thought.


Fumbling through your day~making matters worse by concentrating on where your mind is trying to take you.  Be aware of rambling thoughts.


Pondering over circumstances from past to present may lead you to indulge

in behaviors you're working hard to avoid. Consider those.


Just  a thought before I turn in tonight.


By hidden mind upon  where i go

i know not where it takes me so

From valleys deep of where I strayed

Impressed my heart and there stayed


I wondered  forth paths unknown 

Sowing seed that yet have grown

So I tarry and hold on tight

Tis this my glory ?….Yes, my  fight


I rise high ~ my journey slow

I fight hard ~ for worth I know

I hold tight~to those whom share

I end my day with them in my prayer


So follow on ~Your journeys own

No matter how the seed was sown

We’ll nurture it as if our own

The bounty worth it…so lets go home





Encouraging Words

Posted by Mandolinrain Jan 25, 2019

So you ask....whats that got to do with 'encouraging Words' Hold on.....


I'll tell's coming...


Not Yet......



Last one....



I think these are ALL encouraging Words. So many people on Ex fighting so many battles we know little about aside from their fight to be nicotine free.


When you can't fight for yourself to quit~ come to EX...we will Solider up and be an Army in your quit. If your battleground goes beyond what we can do for you....

realize YOU have the power to make choices in any circumstance.....from well meaning friends to negative rubbish....We've got your back.



Then come back here and encourage someones else.

Why you ask???


To nourish your own quit and help someone  else





......and two hours later and several trips to garage to find the right tools, hubby and I assembled a new crib we bought today. We have twin grand-daughters and we had one crib and decided to go get another one because they are staying here more often. In fact we have them the next couple days so wanted to make them more comfy......made me think...


2 HOURS!!!!! We had all the directions and they looked easy enough, but no. You have these little round metal things you have to stick under the rail and then a threaded screw goes into the other section and they have to meet just right....UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  We had it all together then noticed the stickers were backwards, so we basically assembled it backwards! We were getting pretty frustrated but thankfully we ended up laughing when it was all done.


Quits can be like this. We get all the information and think we know everything then start the process and think WHAT THE HECK???? Geese. Folks we all gotta work on patience and slow down and step back and consider its not gonna happen overnight.....well the crib perhaps, but not your quit.  Its funny Sootie made a perfect blog about this tonight as I came on to share this ...and saw her blog....but decided to go ahead and write this anyway. Her blog covers it all very well. Please read it.


Anyway, don't feel alone if your struggling ....think of it as cleaning your house ( your body), your detoxing chemicals that you have been putting into you for who knows how long....along with all the habitual scenarios that tugged at you to 'light up'. Your now re-training your brain....making new habits...perhaps your ASSEMBLING will need some readjustment and take longer than you hoped....but hang in there...

Rome wasn't built over night...neither is your quit.


Crib assembly may also fall into this category.

Mom, how do I walk in that, I gotta pee!!!!


 Does that help ?


Dad loves having and Excuse to ride the John Deere. We got over a foot of snow and much much more in other areas due to drifting.


Last night when the winds were howling and we were tucked inside safe and sound...I was wondering how many people were stuck home without their 

cigarettes because they could not get out to travel? I recall it was a HORRIBLE feeling to be stuck somewhere and had no way to go buy cigarettes.


And the monster it turned me into when I was without them??? That monster has not been fed for Aloooonnnngggg time, and we will keep it that way. I am betting there will be a 'Monster Bash' at the stores today....smokers stocking up and lighting up as soon as roads are cleared.




One thing for sure.... I won't be among them



One amazing Elder in my book ~ Who is a constant driving force on this site and in our hearts!!!!


Much love to you from ALL of us.


....And I am celebrating  1600 days today which is even more special because I get to celebrate that with our Ellen


I AM SO SORRY---YIKES..... neglected to mention jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 with HIs amazing 4400 Days of freedom yesterday. You know we all love you and are so grateful your here for ALL of us. The wisdom and support you bring to Ex is amazing!




I recently came across this old Native story and thought how well this applies to so many areas of life. I felt you may all enjoy this.




An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

”It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather:

“Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied,

“The one you feed.”

And thats all I got to say about that. Goodnight


Have you? Hard telling what it will bring. 


Are you one of those that wait until the last minute to fasten down the hatches?,.....or are you one to be prepared because you know the danger and damage a bad storm can cause.


Much like a bad crave. Are you ready?

I am. We are.

No snows gonna do me in ( we actually have a winter storm warning in effect right now)....and because I always have a quit kit to turn too, 'Life Storms' won't cause me to retreat back to Day One.


So again....I ask you " Have you prepped for the storms"?


You can be sure of this much, they will come.


Be Prepared. 

And thats all I got to say about that

Many Congrats to you Barb102, your determination has paid off! Congrats! to 365 DAYS OF FREEDOM!


We have all been there at one time or another in our life. We 'Let go' of a relationship that was not productive in our life.

Sometimes others around us could see it but at first...we couldn't. Even those we loved the most could see the damage it was causing us yet we continued to stay in the toxic relationship until finally...something just 'snapped or clicked' for us. What makes me snap may not make you snap....and I need to consider that more often...perhaps we all do.


When I made my first attempts to quit smoking I didn't listen to anyone around me. I thought I was in LOVE with the smoking and while it was very clear to those around me that I was in fact being led on or 'deceived', if you will, I guess I knew in the back of my mind somewhere they were right. I just was not truly ready to let go. In all actuality...I was not prepared. Period. I was foolishly thinking I could leave it anytime I wanted.


The thoughts then grew into thoughts of " I just can't let go~I can never live without them'. I was successful to block out any arguments as to why I COULD let go, and now as I think back, it was pure denial on my part.

Yet I had to go through that as well. It was for me, perhaps part of the walk on my quit journey, that I HAD to go through to get to the understanding I have now. 


While I have always understood we all have our own path to make it through the breakup stage, it has become even clearer to me that as much as I want someone to 'get it and/or get over it', it may not be their time yet...perhaps they have things they yet need to go through.


So again.... I look back over many posts from many people from many people and I see it. Crystal clear. Why was I so stubborn to think someone else can 'get it ' like I 'get it' right now? it's all going to happen for them on their time. Meanwhile I feel perhaps I may need to eat more humble pie and be patient. All good things are worth waiting for and EVERYONE who comes to this site is worth the wait. Oh the lessons I learn here, so are my teachers, all of you.


So See....I am still a work in progress.

We all are and I hope we always will be

Have a beautiful Hump day 

It didn’t stop the day I became one...I continue to learn from them not only how to stay quit but how to help others on this site.

When I started on this site I had so many.....SEVERAL failed quits, that I shamefully just threw in the towel and decided I could never do this. 


I had had a few Elders who are still active in This site release some tuff love on me and I took that personally. I recall thinking, wow....they hate me. But the truth really was ...they cared. I hated me.


I didn't feel cared for and others were fighting in this site so I left. I can’t recall for how long , but I came back after I had  substantial time actually successful, with my quit. During the time away, I did find that everything the Elders were trying desperately for me to understand was EXACTLY what I finally applied and worked...thus my final quit finally happened.


 The same Elders were here and those who were truly causing trouble were gone so I stayed. I am so glad I did. 


The only way I know how to help others is how I was helped. Folks  who had made such an impression on me I still hold in high regards....Dale, Giulia,Ellen, Sootie, Nancy, Skygirl, Michwoman , Indingrl Stac2.....and JenniferQuit and Jackie.....there’s so many and some who are so close to my own year....I am here today because they cared enough to be here for me and not mince words but to be Rock solid examples....and in fact they still are and I STILL LEARN FROM THEM! One thing for sure, they will ALWAYS be ahead of me so I ALWAYS have an ear to learn from them.

Gosh I have loads of respect for them and so MANY others I didn’t even name. If Your an Elder here and I left your name out, please forgive me. You have ALL been my teachers and I admire and respect you all. I should also say, the New folks coming in I learn things from as well....but truth be really comes down to my choices. I cant rely on my feelings because they are forever choices are easier to understand and apply due to the knowledge I gained by listening to my Elders and putting it to action.


At times I am sure they scratch their heads and wonder where I come from but they know the direction I am going in and that’s to grow and they know this because they have been there before me.....they have gone through the same things already at one time or another.


I am babysitting these two sleeping twins sweethearts right now so I need to go but I want the new folks to know this.........Those Elders on here are not here to hurt anyone and sometimes they may come off sounding ‘uncaring ‘ but I can assure you we are not.  We give out time here to help and had they not done that for me I am sure I would not be here for you. I may not have liked what they had to say but I needed to hear it and the seed was planted. I learned rather late to take what I need and leave the rest. I have found I usually come back for 'the rest' because although perhaps I didn't  know it then...I am finding more and more that I need it now....all of it.


For those who are struggling please allow seeds to be sown and allow them to sprout. Beautiful gardens bloom with care so you have to do your part too. It was when I began to do my what was suggested...I finally made it through.


xoxo my sweet babies are waking have a blessed day......


Quit Token call

Posted by Mandolinrain Jan 11, 2019

Calling out for anyone who has not yet received a 'QUIT TOKEN'.


The only requirement is that you must be have one year in Quit. ( I can add you to a list though for when you reach your year. Many have already)

Theres no charge to you. I will make and send them as long as my supplies last.


They are made from Vintage Silver-plate Silverware. Guys get a keychain and gals get a necklace. Sometimes if I have enough the gals also get a keychain  ( Sorry dudes).


I just started doing this, this past year and to date...I have sent out over 30 Tokens....even as far as Africa!!! 


I also keep track of anyone who wants one when they reach their please let me know so I can add you to my calendar and you will get it then , Meanwhile here is a pic of mine.

I engrave your Ex name and Quit date on them. 




Another option I recently thought of is that if you have a piece of vintage silverware thats perhaps meaningful ( perhaps it has been in your family )....I could make it into a token for you. It's up to you. Currently I have loads of Vintage silverware.


This is my way to give back to a community that just keeps giving and is special to my heart. 


So there ya have it! I just need an address to mail it to and you can message me if your interested  I will try to call out to make people aware monthly...if me brain remembers, her-hee-hee

Have a lovely weekend~Missy