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Love is all that matters

Posted by Mandolinrain Aug 25, 2019

I am listening to this as I am doing some indoor chores. Love this song very very much. Wish I knew how to post the video for you, but Tec gal I am not.


"Love Is Still The Answer" lyrics

Jason Mraz Lyrics

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"Love Is Still The Answer"



The question is why, why are we here?
To say our hello's and goodbye's and then disappear
This beautiful life, what is it for?
To learn how to master peace or master war


There's only one answer that matters
Even if your heart has been shattered
Whatever you want, whatever you are after
Love is still the answer
Love is still the answer


We all make mistakes, no, we're not perfect yet
Maybe God made us all from an accident
The question that sits on everyone's lips
Is why should we pick ourselves up and start over again


Well, there's only one answer that matters
Even if your heart and your dreams have been shattered
Whatever you want, whatever you are after
Love is still the answer


Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love


The question I'll ask at the end of my days
Is what did I give and what will I take


Well, there's only one answer that matters
Even if your heart and your dreams have been shattered
Whatever you want, whatever you are after
Love is still the answer
Love is still the answer


Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love


'Cause what the world needs now is love
And all you need is love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love




I don't partake in it. I hate it. It' s an invasive/intrusive way for people to hurt and take advantage of others. Sure, it is also an avenue to keep in touch with people/family who live far away....and sure, many people only 'friend' there friends, but guess what.....


The people who are NOT your friends have ways to still get your information and can destroy everything about you that you THINK your safe, on your own account. It has laded on our family....a family member who is a bright young man in college. He nearly got away with taking his life. This has been a week from hell that I don't wish on anyone..It is currently being investigated on who began a very ugly story on Social Media and I mean ugly and untrue. There are ways the individual can be tracked, but it is a long process and the world hurt this person brought on.

I put this out here now to let you all know that hurtful people can re-route any information on any social media and get it out anywhere on the internet. They can can track you...your location...your kiddos even by looking a a photo you post. They can superimpose anything on you phots ( which is what happened in our family members case) and make it look real and put it our for all to see and it can destroy your life, the life of a child, the life of someone depressed or struggling in an area and even those who have every marble left in their brain.


Theres so much ^&%$ in this world right now, and I guess I am going to remain old fashioned and have I stay away from the social media crap and if I wanna talk I will call the person. I'd rather hear a voice. 


This has been a horrific week not so much for me, but the other family member who feels life now, is not worth living. This young man did nothing wrong. He was a victim of someones sick mind. Please pray for this young man. Our hearts are torn for what he has gone through and what was done to him I cannot even talk about it. Just Pray for him and his family.


Bottom line~ Do you know who your kids are talking to online Do you know who your friends are online-DID YOU KNOW that any information you share with 'friends only' online that your friend can share it with another friend of theirs and boom....your info has been shared...and its a hard fall down people.


I am so angry right now. Please be careful. School is starting. Monitor your kids. Dont let them become victim . EVERYONE is vulnerable.


Even if you think you have the most secure settings....

Guess what

No you don't.


These idiots can re-write your posts

Re-design your photos

Share your info with sickos- unbeknown to you

Case your home when you leave on vacation

Follow your children/grandchildren just by seeing photos of them you post


The list is scary and goes on and on.

How bad do you really NEED Social Media.

Be careful

I know I do.


On a personal issue, I can't or really dont care to share, right now. Somethings are better left unspoken. With Adult children in our case anyway. 


There was a time it would drive me to smoke. Not now. No desire and I have this community to thank for that.


So much going on with BOTH of our elderly Moms it is surreal right now and I have allowed the responsibility to fall on me. Why? Because I can'r stand anyone feeling alone or forgotten, but what if we become the one forgotten, then what? It's been said I am a people pleaser, probably right. I like to spread hope and love and forgiveness and I know I know, sometimes, I dont ...but I think mostly I do. Im not talking about this site either. I am just venting. Venting like we ask those of you on this site to do when your feeling 'squeezed' by the 'NOUNS' in your life, as I am right now. Yes, an area I need to work on for sure though.


Sure, it will pass. I know it will, it always does and I will be just fine and dandy. 


Smoking will not change any of it it will only upset me that I caved to it, not happening. Worked too hard. 5 year Anny is coming up soon.


So here i am venting. Adult kids who make there choices and we can't change anyone but our own. Grasp that. Thats what I am trying to do. Trying to fix something I have no control over. Turning this over to my Maker. He has always led me through the turbulent times and I have no doubt He will now as well. Just need to be patient. His time, not mine.


On a good note, hubby and I are headed to a cool bluegrass/country afternoon tomorrow and enjoy company of many friends. Excited about that! 


N.O.P.E   never failed me yet  I'm fine , really...thanks to God and all of you and the love of the wonderful friends in my life. Have an awesome weekend everyone!

Climbing the mountains in life are a challenge. Getting over to the other side takes determination and an ongoing selection of good productive choices.

Making the decision to quit smoking, lose weight, exercise , work, get a new job, quit a job, stay in a relationship or leave one. Those are the few of the many choices people face everyday.


Determination to ride out the storms in life or move on all require you make a choice not an excuse.


Excuse's lead to failure no matter where you put them. Excuses to follow through may not always produce anything bad but they never result in encouraging you with anything good. They just prolong you obtaining it.


1. Acknowledge the Crave for what it is ~Your brains receptors want to be fed. Figure out what you can do to instead of caving in...clean out your house for instance, every cotton pickin' drawer-door and them some.


2. Look at your surroundings~ Are you somewhere physically that is inducing the    crave? Can you remove yourself from this situation and if not, what can you do to improve your surroundings? Theres always something here overlooked.


3. Consider your thoughts/Mood ~Are you reacting to them and what could you do instead of giving into them? Make it a Quest....we know who we are when we smoke, now let's discover who we are without them


4. Come to Ex~ Someones here all the time and while you may not get a reply right away, I promise as soon as people see you calling out for HELP, many will come to the rescue. In the blogs on the site. Use the search on the site and type in whatever it is that is making you want to smoke at that instance and again, I promise, many blogs will pop up that will walk you through your crave.


5. Vicks Vapor Rub~  Magic in a little blue bottle. A tad under my nose smashed craves instantly. Worked for me very well. I even used the inhaler when we went out so I would not smell like Vicks. After 3 months, I didn't need it at all anymore. I was good to go and craves were manageable.


6. Keep a journal. Write in n what is making you want to smoke at that instant, then list what you can do instead. I think its good to be aware of the triggers. And interesting to see how you got through it. Life is going to continue to happen smoking or not. Tell me this...Did the problem go away when you snuffed out the cigarette? Never did for me. It only set me up for the next cigg. and the more I smoked the faster the setup ( crave) came.


7. Expect the challenge of the crave, just don't Cave to it. When our Military Men and Women go to war, they know all there is about the enemy they are about to face. They prepare ahead of time and they have a plan of action and often several backup plans. Know what you're facing. Know your enemy~Nicotine. Don't get ambushed. This is war and consider us your backup troops. Lets do this!




We get it. While we all have our own personal journeys we have ALL had the same craves. The best way to beat the crave is to quit feeding it. Every time you

smoke, you are essentially  waking up your brains receptors and feeding them. The goal here is to starve them so they shut up and leave you alone. The longer they go without being fed, the sooner you will be on this side of Freedom and believe me, its all good and its all doable.


Bottom Line

Get out of the Cave and Engage

Smoking in Caves lead to death



Most likely there is. What are you doing to protect yourself from said storm?

Do you have provisions ready and waiting?


Storms can come quite or loudly....sometimes you hear the thunder warning you its near, other times it just comes out of nowhere and can leave a terrible trail of devastation.


Yes, the storms of life are real smoking or not smoking. Instead of smoking through them, make yourself ready to handle them. For every kind of storm there are things we can do to lessen the effects of it. Figure out what that is for you and your circumstance.. Just don't smoke. Come here first, allow us to help guide your through the storms of life. Many do, I did and you can can too. 


We are here for you and each other. You won't find a community better than this one that truly cares. Put us close to the top of the list, for a place to come for shelter.


Now go make that storm kit cause ya just never know when it will come in handy.

Song I just wrote called 'BE BRAVE'



I was driving, 

late at night

I thought .......I saw ........everything


But temptation

Challenged me

And I fell for it….again


I tried

To leave them behind

Never look back them


I cried 

Never denied

They were the best thing then



Lying to myself

Is what it came down to

Lying to yourself

Will soon catch to you


I ‘ve learned

They never solved

A sol.....itary thing


And I’ve come

To undestand

They don’t do a good  damn thing…..


To help me

Or my health

My love ............or my strife


The only thing

They’re good for

Was exiting my life



Lying to yourself

That's what it  came down to

Lying to yourself 

Will soon catch up to you….



I’m free now

Four years, 

In September........, it will be 5


I’ve struggled 

With good and bad 

And yet I have,.......... survived


Don’t tell me

You can’t do it .....

You can’t hold your own


I’ve been though it

Reach out to us

We can lead you home


( Chorus)

Lyin myself

Is  what it came down  to

Lying to yourself 

Will soon catch up to you



If you

Are in a bad spot

Your thinking can’t hold out


Come here

Type it out, 

Give us....... a shout


Be brave

Say no your not…

Not gonna....... light it up


Feel strong

The days that you’ve one

You will not give up_______________________________


Thats how we do it folks goodnight all :)


Low Dose CT Scan

Posted by Mandolinrain Jul 19, 2019

Happy to say was uneventful, for me


A week ago Wednesday, ( and I never shared this because, well, I just didn't) I was on my way to work and began having chest pains in the car/truck, whatever you call a Tahoe....anyway by the time I got to work and walked up the hill to where I work I was really hurting and out of breath. My co-workers said I looked 'gray'. Anyway, My boss drove me to ER, because they thought I was having a heart attack, and I thought I was too. I had pain in the center of my sternum, behind mu left scapula and into my neck and jaw.


 After CT  scan  ......It was the Linx device. NOT heart. While they did scan , they checked lungs. Lungs clear. One very small nodule, perfectly round, they will watch but not concerned because it is perfectly round and tiny, below what they can even biopsy. It is probably a cyst and I have a large history of cyst.


SO....LINX device that I had implanted last December is fine, still doing its job. but unfortunately one of the side effects is esophageal Spasm which is what that was and it mimics a heart attack. Great. I had heard they were a possibility but I figured I was a lucky dog since its been so long since surgery. Not so. I was told it could happen for 1-3 years post surgery. Yay me.


HOWEVER, no lung cancers, YAY ME! I highly recommend getting the scan. Worth the peace of mind


I am okay, by the way. Just have to go to a ER whenever I have this spasm due to it cannot be diagnosed as a spasm vs heart attack without EKG. That Stinks. I have a huge family history of heart attacks/stroke with both maternal grandparents and my Mom.


I'm good to go for now though

Many Congrats to you Ralph1955


Is was for me,

so how was it for you???

 I had to leave them cold. I had to re-learn many things, stress was at the top, how to 'DEAL' with people-places and things without them.

And NOPE, my friends and family did NOT approve of them at at all. I was the only one who say anything  there to love about them. Now  I call that deception. They had me HOOK-LINE and SINKER.

Getting over them was hard to do ,but doable. Finding this Site and these fabulous people who had already been through where I was headed was KEY. They understood me and my crazy thoughts.


 Anytime you want to learn something , you follow through. You buckle down and get busy getting on with it. You quit making excuses and learn. You FIRST understand and LEARN about what your getting yourself into. You PREPARE. You buy the essential books or material and hook up with someone who has EXPERIENCE to teach you.


It becomes a choice and thats why we talk about choices and excuses so much on here. Make your choices with a clear head-and an educated mind. It will serve you well.

Back to Coffee now


Bluegrass and Camping

Posted by Mandolinrain Jul 12, 2019

Feeling very grateful today......

Twins napping so I have some time to type….They go home when they wake up and I could wait and post then, but I have a date with my garden



Have not been camping in a long while. Used to do this very often and took the horses along, running a picket line and tying up straw to keep them occupied after a long day on the trail ,as the we would go off and explore the musical variety and enjoy the sounds of many fiddles, mandos, Bass, banjos…well you get the idea. while even stopping to ‘jam along’ as many festivals promote.or kicking up our heels on flat boards to jig along to the tunes.


Anyway this trip ( last week )  was not like any bluegrass festival I have ever attended and I have attended a lot…but this one…not one sighting of a smoker or scent lingering anywhere. It was awesome.

I recall ALWAYS making it a priority to have my own supply well stocked and packed as well as waterproof matches because God forbid my lighter would not work or it would rain.


It did rain one night after we returned to camp but I slept well and it was SO NICE! I did not wake up stinky except for campfire lingering in my hair which I love the smell of.  What a great long walk around the resivour  where we camped and enjoyed the beautiful colors of all the wild flowers spring up n the banks. Soft hints of music somewhere off in a distance, muted. ( A few early morning jammers) Not once did I have an urge to smoke. 


Life is newly being admired by me in new ways as I find the smokes no longer play any part of it. I dont depend on them or need to re-arrange my plans because of the NEED to smoke. That in itself is a pleasure…a gift.


I thank all of you who have walked before me and led the way. 


It truly is a new kind of freedom and when you recognize that freedom growing in your quit, it’s s beautiful thing, and while I feel I have ‘arrived’ on the other side , I know I will always need to remain vigilant.  I truly appreciate life as a non-smoker, 


So anyway, I didn’t ‘ruff it’ this time. We slept in a camper this time, not a tent. No horses came along therefore much of the workload was lighter. I didnt have to worry if I had matches except to start a campfire and I certainly didnt need to wonder if I would run out of smokes. Life is good, who knew it could be this uncomplicated. :)


Thanks everyone, because ALL of you have played an important part of my continued smoke free life, newbies and Elders. You are all gifts. :)

Love you all~respect you all so much!


I QUIT because I was sick and tired of being sick and tired


I QUIT because I hated the way my hair smelled and I smelled and my breath smelled


I QUIT because health issues started flaring up


I FAILED because I thought I could quit anytime ( wow.thats genius )


I FAILED because I made crappy choices


I FAILED because I didn't 'Get it' ( understand the theory behind addiction)


I OVERCAME by the grace of God, 'Letting go and Letting God' do 'in me' what I could not do


I OVERCAME because I took the time to understand the beast, educate myself on addiction


I OVERCAME because I reached out to this site for help and actually APPLIED what Elders were teaching 



I have more to share but I am to tired. Know this....We ALL have a different path to our sobriety from smoking. Some folks take the long way around the mountain , some short. My belief is , that it happens for a reason. We all have life lessons to learn and what brings us all around to same point is the same beautiful be advised....from me anyway, you WILL reach your destiny just as it is expected of you and the more time you put into exploring the journey, the sooner you will arrive.  


Life is still hard at times on 'the other side' but I promise you...its coming ( those hard times) no matter if you smoke or not. I am grateful to be able now to manage those times without the crutch of a smoke. They were only a 'instant gratification sprinkled with  reality ratification' the moment, it felt good, but the 'situation'  was still present.


Can you say 'Wake up call"


New day at zoo

Posted by Mandolinrain Jul 1, 2019

Took grandkids to zoo and waterpark today. Short post as I am exhausted. 93 degrees. Not one 'smoker sighting'. 

Happy Day! I recall I HAD TO HAVE A SMOKE BREAK, when our kids were young. Geese, Im glad not to have to do that anymore. Going to bed and dying...seriously, I am SO TIRED!


Wherever I go~There I am

Posted by Mandolinrain Jun 21, 2019

Its been hectic in my life the past few weeks but all good. I have missed being more active here and I will be again soon. Meanwhile I am recognizing new things about life and my life especially.

Wherever I go there I am. Simple philosophy I did not come up with, but whats so clever about it , is that, THAT is exactly how I am enjoying my life as of most recent. I'm enjoying the present and staying there.


I have choices of how I will react to any given situation at any given time and this includes smoking.


Nancy , aka Youngatheart.7.4.12 has been faithful to remind us every Friday about the dangers of drinking, due to its pull that makes us more likely to let down out guard and 'smoke'. I suppose you could like this passage with 'Whomever I'm with~There I am , as well. 


Hold tight your guard around People-Places and Things.

Be aware of your surroundings and the folks you're with. Are you in an environment that the activity may weaken your stance on your quit should you decide to 'partake',and what about the People? Are they folks who will encourage your quit or are they the kind who will sluff it off as, 'awww now, won't make or break ya.?


Just something to chew on. Wherever you go, there you are. Make good choices. Days won are much better than Days One. Been there done that. Just sayin.


Happy weekend! I am just praying for a dry one. Seen enough rain here for awhile . Now me gardens beds are begging to be plucked of weeds, so I'm gettin' goin'

Negativity can reduce a persons self worth in a red hot second.

Think on these things before you react or speak :

1. Is it kind

2. Is it True

 Basically-Taste your words before you spit them out


What has this to do with smoking you ask?

Not a thing. But it is good food for thought. 

It never hurts any of us to do this.



One more thing~

Hurting People Hurt People.

So the next time you find yourself in the line of fire

don't react to it.


Be the Light in a dark room.


Today I had to clean up my 2 yr. old grandson who basically exploded in his diaper. Very bad explosion. I asked him if he would like a diaper change, he said  " No Nana,I just farted, I don't pooh~I'm really okay" 

Of course I knew otherwise as the odor was very obvious . So he ended up getting another bath and of course anything to avoid going to bed and getting yet more bubble time.


Moral of that little story~


Stink is stink and it all comes out in the wash, providing you do wash it.


And just like words......

Some may take awhile longer to clean

Forgiveness and Love are ALWAYS the best option.


Goodnight and sweet dreams