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Busy time

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Mar 19, 2018

Just wanted to drop in quickly. I just started making the hour drive weekdays at 6am and not getting home till 

just before 6pm to help with the twins. My daughter in laws mom, who lives with them and helps them a lot, is recovering from her surgery and she cannot lift anything for next 5-6 week.  Its a lot of driving and I hate the highway part late in day. I just missed the 80 car pile up by 10 minutes last week on 71. But I want to help them and I get to bond with the girls


I wil still do freedom trains on Monday but they will be posted pretty early in morning ...other than that I get some time when babies are asleep to look on ex but not much time to respond for a few weeks. So don't go thinking Im leaving y'all....justa busy time and it will pass and I do enjoy those babies. I will be reading when I can and replying when I can.

So meanwhile, love ya all.

Hold tight your quit and newbies.......hang tuff and read read read. When you think you know it some more. In informed quit is a successful quit...and get prepared with all that knowledge and know how you will deal with your craves...have a plan of action, BEFORE you quit!


I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers every night. Please say one for me to have safe travels, if you would.


SOOO.....I will stop by when I can. My pillow is calling my name now, as is the darn clothes dryer.


Sweet dreams and N.O.P.E.




My grandfather came over from Ireland.



Happy St. Patricks day!


Beware of the Noun

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Mar 13, 2018

3am in the morning and I have been feeding the twins and can't get back to sleep. So here I am. EX Community is also Figure I would add more reading material for the newcomers.



You learned about them in school. A noun is a person , place or thing...and it got me to is also a TRIGGER that tricks our minds into believing  we need to smoke.

Beware of the Noun early in your quit. 

Identify these Nouns. Who are they, where are they and what they are.


Heres a list of MY NOUNS early on in my quit.

*Friends that smoked

*Establishments that permitted smoking

*Events that permitted smoking



I avoided them as though they had the worst flu ever because I didn't want to 'catch it or be tempted to smoke'.


Your friends will understand. If they don't maybe you need to re-evaulate that friendship. Honestly I had few friends left who smoked and now the ones that did have all quit as well. Smoking alone was no fun and misery always loves company. Believe me when I say this...every single one of them wanted what we had ....the courage and determination to quit. I know I did when I was still puffing away like the fool I was. I don't do that anymore.


So...look at those Nouns. Make a list and take a break from them for awhile. When your well into your quit you can always partake in the nouns and you will be much stronger to face them. Then again...maybe some of them you will replace anyway. I did that too and am happier for it


Baby number 2 ready for bottle    


Sweet dreams~Missy

Nicotine and I used to be inseparable. We did most everything together.

We battled through bad times~ Sad times and we rejoiced in the good times. 


I really thought I was in love and would never leave it. Could never leave it. It would surely end me and all the happy days of my life. I would never be able to 'relax' again.


I had many friends/family tell me how bad this relationship was for me.

How could that be true...did'nt they see how happy I was. Little did I know that as I remained in this long relationship , damage was being produced deep inside of me...and I was soon to find out I needed to drop this like a bad habit.


OH WAIT.....It IS a bad habit and also a thief and a liar!


The journey was hard. I cried and cried. I had trouble focusing on things,sleeping....what was that? I had horrid bursts of anger, then looked back many many times and wondered...hummmm, just one...I can smoke just one.


No I can't. I would be right back to where I used to be.....wishing I was where I am now. FREE!


  Theres other types of damaging relationships, yes, I know. I have walked through that valley also and I have risen above it. I'm not here to discuss that....Im sure many on here have had or are in those in one aspect of their life or another.

Today I am discussing the relationship we HAD or HAVE with Nicotine.


It was a choice then and it is a choice now and everyday for the rest of 

( my ) your life...Not to smoke. N.O.P.E.


We have many beautiful examples of folks on this site who have broken off that damaging relationship with Nicotine. Some who have been around for years and some who are rather fresh but are digging in there heels because they want what we end the madness and the relationship with Nicotine.


It is so very possible to live happily without the smokes. I never in a million years thought I could, but I am here today to tell you...

Yes You Can !!!


One more thing I do need to add.....I failed so many , many times at leaving this relationship. I was a basket case and a bag of mixed nuts...I needed shelled for sure and for certain.

The Elders here taught me that until I truly understood the how and the why I was always failing at my quit...I would continue to keep going around the same old mountain.


Isn't it time you stop and figure this out. Are you ready to see other views of the mountain? Maybe even leave the mountain and get a fresh start with another view? 




Just Do It



Have a great Day! I'm off to go babysit my twin grand daughters, I'm so glad they will NEVER smell smoke on me or my breath!




Missy 1287 DOF



So we have 10 days I believe until Spring and as many know....I have been starting some things inside. While I know its real early before I can plant them...if ever, cause generally I wait until a week after Mothers Day to put most of my garden in....I love watching things grow...which got me to thinking....I love watching the new members grow here on EX as well, especially when they are doing the things suggested to help them quit and stay quit.


We have a beautiful variety of new members in here now 'growing'. I want to encourage them to PROTECT THEIR QUIT. They may want to know how so I thought I would share how I protected mine then and now.


I watered and fed it. I drank and still do, a lot of water a day. It is much better for my insides than the nasty smokes. It refreshes my energy, keeps me going so I can endure and do the things I need to do. While I do not feed it plant food, lol ...I feed myself EX food on a pretty much daily basis.


EX food diet is simple. Come here. Encourage others and share what works and what does not work for you. Some folks will take your advice and others will not...we all have our own recipe for success that feeds us a five star quit.


Stay active on Ex...Give and take. I know for myself anyway, that I am not the best person to teach myself how to quit and stay quit....If I was, I would not be here. I want to remain teachable. I want others ideas and suggestions on my blogs because thats how I grow. 


SO I am choosing to grow where I am planted. Thats here at EX.


One more thing- seeds take time to produce. They have to be watered and fed carefully. They need the right amount of daylight and moonlight. With the right amount of nourishment they will establish roots and grow. Even well rooted plants require care. I have seen good plants wither away to nothing due to lack of care and knowledge on how to be cared for....


~The Moral of my Blog today ~


Don't come to the garden empty handed...share your harvest and grow


Have a lovely weekend!




So tell me how you really feel....thats how some people want it.

Some of us ARE health care professionals...and yes, we are ALL addicts of Nicotine.

It may come a as surprise, but even professionals of ALL occupations can be an addict...of anything and still be an asset , a good example , because they are Recovered.


I dont do it anymore. Smoke.

I come here to stay motivated with my help others get what I have.

FREEDOM from Nicotine.


When I was a new member on this site I held those Elders in high regards.I still do.

No matter how many days of freedom I gain they will always be ahead of me.

That being a huge point.

My thinking was then....

They have walked through all the valleys I have yet to go into. They also hurt, dealt with hardships, pain, they had been there, done that. So they speak from their experience.


Even as a retired health professional, I have many friends who are also health professionals, that never smoked, that although they understand the dynamics of quitting smoking, they will tell you themselves...the best way to learn and understand the addiction is in fact from a successful EX addict. Those of us who practice in the health care field understand that. We were even taught that.


This site is a blessing. We have both. Dr. Hayes has given us much knowledge to help build and maintain our quits and we have this AWESOME community with so many gifted talented members of ALL walks and stations in life to learn from, lean on and build and maintain our own quits on.


I truly don't like when someone comes into the community , who is new at their quit or is not even quit yet, or at all even trying  ,to give their logic on how this all works. It can lead someone who is truly in need of some experienced advice in the wrong direction. 


Im not usually this outspoken but Im not going to dwell on this anymore. Take what you need and leave the rest....someone will always take the left thats what I am doing.


Meanwhile...I can't say enough for all the Beautiful Elders on this site. Without them, I would surely be puffing away in the garage....but's cold outside.


Perhaps those Elders are pretty good role models after all...This forum would not be here if we weren't.


I don't do that anymore AND THAT IS ALL I GOT TO SAY about this. 


Food for thought

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Feb 27, 2018


This conductor missed a person today on the train, soooooooo


I had to male it right and give her a special ride!



I just had to backtrack to get her and I know you all understand!

These milestones are very important!

YAY Lisa!!!!!


Special Note:

Please make sure you have registered with the Freedom Train so we never miss anyones Special Day. I will check again  to make sure I didn't mess up, which I most likely did, but I never want to forget anyone.


Heres a late night treat for the evening express just for 




Goodnight All

I know its sounds weird , but wow did I ever get a lot done today. Situated. We moved in the beginning of past October and things kinda got tossed anywhere because I got so busy with family. BUT felt so good to organize the mud room , laundry room and some of my studio which I THINK I have the day off from grandkids and will be able to get it done. I am falling behind for some spring orders, so I need to get the hammer down. PLUS I was able to get some seeds started today and some rooting things started. I used my SPRING BANNER because thats how I feel inside

AND...I got my hubby all to myself as we have both been in different directions since we moved in, so it seems. It felt good to be outside, the sun is now out and warmer temps finally on the way.


I am relieved I don't smoke anymore and I feel healthy and don't get that crappy bronchitis like I used too...and I SMOKED even then when I was sick is that???


EVERYONE on this site matters. I take in the good and leave behind the things that don't leave a good feeling in my heart....and move forward. I am 3 years and a half quit. I STILL have to watch my back, watch the 'Stinking Thinking', watch for emotions that can drive me crazy enough to think, 'well, maybe just one..." I know it is the addict in me but I am aware of it and always watchful.


I stay close to God and He gets a lot of my 'issues' turned over to Him daily. He does not mind one bit. Somedays are better than others and this happens to be one of them. I am very blessed and very grateful for you all and this site.

I am certain that if I was a smoker yet, my life would be a bag of nails...poking on me constantly and creating pain in areas I have healed and continue to heal.

I am happy to say today I am poke and smoke free




Real quick check in

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Feb 20, 2018

Thanks so much to Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 for running yesterdays train and congrats to everyone today who is celebrating milestones. Sorry, I only have a minute, literally. Moms progressed into Pneumonia  and its very hard for her because she's 88 and in poor health already. Ive just been trying to keep her comfortable and getting over crud myself. Waiting to find out if she going to be admitted today. Hospital has been very full.No beds were available. Anyway, just a hectic time right now, but no desire to smoke.


Miss everyone and hope to get back to normal routine soon. xoxoMissy


Re-Post Worth Reading

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Feb 15, 2018

This is a post from an Elder a few years back. I always love this post (and the Elder who wrote it) and thought to bring it forward to share with the new people here on Ex. I think as time permits, I am going to share some of my favorite blogs other people have written that inspired me and helped me grow , learn and cherish my lovely quit.



What's in YOUR Tool Box?

Blog Post created by SkyGirl on Oct 6, 2015

You know how we are always talking about having the "tools" to help us when we are quitting?  We talk about using our "tools" to make it through a craving.  We talk about using the "tools" we've been given to protect our Quit.  Let's talk about these tools.  

  It would be great if you could walk into a hardware store and say, "I'd like to buy some Quit Smoking tools, please."  You can't.  But if you's what you'd walk out of the store with:
  1)   Education:  This would be articles, books, websites where you can learn about nicotine addiction.  The tool of Education will be key in helping you learn that you CAN quit smoking and never smoke again.  You will use this tool before you quit to get yourself ready and keep using it after you quit to keep you strong.  This tool gives you knowledge and helps you benefit from the experience of others. Example: "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking" by Allen Carr and (my personal favorite) "Nicotine Addiction 101" on
  2)   Distractions:  You should have plenty of suggestions and ideas from other people here on EX about ways to distract yourself if you need ways to redirect your brain when you can't seem to stop thinking about smoking or when a craving hits you.  There are   two types of distractions:   Activities that will distract your hands/thoughts (examples: scrub your toilet, weed your garden, redo your nail polish, organize your tackle box, dance for an entire ABBA song, browse around on eBay, etc.) and   Flavors/tastes that will surprise (or shock!) your tastebuds and sense of smell (examples: a spoonful of peanut butter, a drop of Tabasco, a shake of cocoa powder, blue cheese crumbles, a squirt of pancake syrup, a whiff of curry powder, Fruit Loops one at a time, Red-Hot candies, etc.)  Make a physical list, written or typed, and keep it with you at all times.
  3)   Human Support:  Online (like EX) or in person (family, co-workers, friends) can be some of the best tools you have during the first few weeks of your Quit.  Obviously, it doesn't help to lean on someone who still smokes.  Never-Ever Smokers can't understand what you are going through, BUT they can be your biggest face-to-face cheerleaders.  Don't forget to educate Never-Evers before your Quit Date, using the  "Letter to My Loved Ones".  You can find this letter here on EX by doing a search for it.  Many quitters have said it made a world of difference in the way their friends and family were able to understand and support them.  EX is, of course, an invaluable support tool.  I don't think I need to elaborate on why EX is so amazing, do I?
  4)   Common Sense:  Your tool box should be chock full of common sense. Your common sense will tell you about things to do, things not to do, things that will help you, things that will hurt you, things to stay close to, things to stay away from.  This tool is different from the knowledge you got from Education (#1 above) because it requires you to be creative and think for yourself within the details of your own life.  It's that little angel/devil on your shoulder thing, right?  Oh, wait. That's called "Conscience".  Well, that's a good tool, too.  But be careful of Conscience because that can cause a very UNhelpful thing called "guilt", which has NO PLACE in the tool box.
  5)   A Bottle of Water and A Big Yellow Lemon in a Baggie:  Okay, okay, these both actually fall under Distractions (#2 above).  But they are SO basic (the water) and SO effective (the lemon) that I felt they deserved the separate category of "Honorable Mention Tools".  If you feel like you are losing control at any time during your Quit, take a big slug of water from the bottle.  It's easy, it's available and it takes no great thought.  Sometimes a few big swallows of water is all it takes to get you back on track.  Or...take a deep breath and bite into that lemon, peel and all.  It is not pleasurable.  But it is a Hall of Fame Crave Buster.  You will NOT want a cigarette after biting that lemon.  I promise.  (The baggie is so you can carry it with you.  I got some very odd looks when I took out my lemon and bit it in airports!   But...I don't smoke anymore, do I?)
  6)   Patience:  Quitting doesn't happen in a day or a week or even a few weeks.  As Youngatheart (Nancy) has said many times "Quitting is not an event; it's a journey.".  It doesn't happen all at once and the road can be rocky, at times.  Sometimes, all the best tools in your Tool Box aren't doing the trick.  That's when you need this tool : PATIENCE.  Thomas posted a blog about riding out cravings, experiencing the feelings, acknowledging the difficulty, not trying to fight it, and waiting for the urge to ebb away like a wave.  It was a brilliant blog; go read it.  Sometimes, you just have to be PATIENT.  And patience in action means this: When you think you can't stand it another minute?  Just wait a little longer.  It WILL pass.
  So, Quitters, go check your toolboxes!  Are you missing any of these tools?   And if you have counted "Willpower" as a tool, forget it.  Pitch it out.  It won't help you find a Fovever Quit and it's not a real tool at all!  Instead of "Willpower", use   Education.
  xxxooo,  Sky

Lifting up the families and loved ones who lost there loved one  in the school shooting that claimed 17 lives yesterday in Florida. Such tragedy. Prayers for all of the staff at the school and ALL of the students who will carry this memory with them forever.


Happy New You

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Feb 14, 2018

Happy Valentines Day


AND to all the new folks on the Site...Happy New You!


Theres so many New people and its wonderful to see! I have not had much time to be on computer so wanted to just say hello and welcome everyone thats new and to say hello to the regulars here on Ex.


This site is loaded with information on how to prepare to quit smoking and how to quit smoking. Makes no difference what tools you choose to use to quit because everyone has something that works better for them. While we may not all agree on how to quit and stay quit we all agree that quitting smoking was one of the best things we did for ourselves...and our hearts-lungs...well, everything really.


Many of us have health problems related to our past smoking and some of us have health issues not related to it at all.


Body image -Body weight and diet is another thing I see often with new quitters who are concerned about that when they quit. Personally I feel your going to see many changes that are actually good for you when you quit and the few negative ones such as weight gain. Don't stress it. Look at it as a challenge to prepare for the New Non Smoking You. 


Newbies, explore the site- keep an open mind - blog often -use this site on good and bad days-and feel free to ask any of us about any aspect of quitting . 


Anyway just wanted to pop in say hello and wish everyone a Happy Valentines Day!







Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Feb 11, 2018




Recipe for QUIT STICKS

Posted by Mandolinrain Champion Feb 10, 2018

Thought these may help someone? I actually did make some and they helped me. Still the Vicks Vapor Rub under my nose was the biggest crave buster for me....but these did also work when I didn't want to smell like a medicine cabinet.




In a 8 oz mason jar or flat bottomed little jar :


2 tsp.  Fractionated coconut oil

15 drops black pepper essential oil

15 drops of cinnamon essential oil

Stand as many toothpicks as you want ( I used a whole box) in the mixture, in the jar. Put lid on jar.


Allow a couple days for the picks to absorb the oils. Then use a stick BEFORE your craves start