Hello Exers, I'm here with 25 days and I'm so proud of it! I am physically healthy and so thankful for that. However, I do have some emotional situations to overcome. I'm down and sad.
I'm not working and it leaves me with so much time on my hands. I have a daughter that I love with all of my heart. She is a very young mother and financially unstable. She is a mother to my 3yo. granddaughter that I also love with all of my heart.
Due to my daughter's immaturity she is so very interested in finding a boyfriend. Her first priority has never been my granddaughter. My granddaughter has lived in the homes of her mother's boyfriends parents. She has lived in more places in her 3 short years than I have in my 47 years. It has been such a struggle watching the instability and the moving from home to home this baby endures.
I have a 2 family apartment building and recently my girls just left. They were here for 2 months in between my daughter's boyfriends. While they were here I got my granddaughter enrolled in preschool. She doesn't go anymore since leaving because my daughter can't afford cigarettes and daycare and half the bills at her current boyfriend's parent's apartment. Currently Aubree, my granddaughter, shares a bedroom with my daughter, her 18yr old boyfriend and my granddaughter said to me "Nanna, I sleep on the floor and it is sooooo cold!" She wrapped her little arms around her body to show me how she shivers. It broke me!
I have contacted lawyers and children's services through the years but as long as the mother provides a roof (no matter whose roof it is or who provides it) clothing and food, I can't do anything about it. I would keep her until my daughter becomes stable in a minute if I were allowed. Children's services are proactive and not reactive. Meaning, that the child has to be hurt before they can help me to attain guardianship. My daughter leaves my granddaughter with the family of one of her girlfiriends for 4-5 days at a time without visiting her. The enviornment there is terrible but at least I know the people feed and care for her.
My daughter won't leave her with me like that because I judge her when I find out that she is neglecting my grandchild.I have asked her time after time to leave her with me until she is able to provide stability but she doesn't see a problem with this lifestyle or leaving her with another family for days at a time. I'm forever at a loss as to how to handle it. I know no one can really help me but I just needed to vent. I'm still not going to smoke because when my granddaughter is with me, I can dance and chase her which are some of her favorite things to do and smoking won't change my heartache over the situation. I will be a non smoker just in case I ever do get to keep this beautiful child with me.
