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"What Drives your Life? Day 3 

The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren


Ecclesiastes 4:4 

I observed that the basic motive for success is the driving force of envy and jealousy!

But this, too, is foolishness, chasing the wind.


Drive- to direct, control or guide.

Everyone's life is driven by something.  A health problem, a pressure or deadline.  Some by a painful memory, fear or belief.  Many situations may drive our lives, of the hundreds  Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life list 5 of them. 

Guilt, resentment and anger, materialism and the need for approval.  I can relate to several.


Many people are driven by guilt and manipulated by memories.  They spend a lot of their life running from regrets and shame. They allow their past to control their future.  Through self-punishment, they sabotage their own success.  We are products of our past but we do not have to be prisoners.  There are many occurrences in the Bible that prove God's purpose in our life is not limited to our past.  God specializes in a fresh new start. 

Resentment and Anger

Quite often many people are driven by resentment and anger.  They hold on to the hurt and never get over them.  Instead of releasing their pain through forgiveness they rehearse the pain over and over in their minds.  Some resentment-driven people "clam up" and internalize their anger, while others "blow up" and explode it on to others. Neither way is good.  Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent who has probably moved on.  Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you unless you hold on to it.  Your past is your past! 


Fear may be the result of a traumatic experience. Regardless of the reason, fear is a False Expectation Appearing Real.

Fear-driven people often miss great opportunities for fear of venturing outside of their comfort zone.  Fear is self-imposed and will hinder you from God's will in your life.  Move against fear with faith and love.


The desire to have becomes the goal based on the misconception that having more creates happiness, importance, and security.  This is not true.  Things are only temporary.  Self-worth is not determined by your valuables and God says the most valuable things are not things.  Real security is your relationship with God that can not be taken away. 

Need for Approval

One key to failure is to try and please everyone.  Being controlled by others opinions is a way to miss an opportunity

for God's purpose.  Many of us are still trying to win the approval of our unpleasable parents or by peer pressure.  Those who follow the crowd get lost. 

"Nothing matters more than knowing God's purposes for your life, and nothing can compensate for not knowing them. "

Rick Warren


Job 5:2   For wrath kills a foolish man, And envy slays a simple one.


Psalms 32:1 Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, Whose sin is covered.


I John 4:18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.


May God Bless you.

The journey continues...




  Have mercy on me, O God,  according to your love; mercy, and kindness.  Blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin!it.  I pray, Amen.


When I retired I thought it would be a great time for me to read some of the books that I have collected.  Some I have read, some partially read some not at all. It appears that it is God's time,.4 1/2 years later.  As I browsed through the shelf, there was one that I had started but I won't mention the date  It is the Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, I am sure many of you have heard of it or read this 40-day spiritual journey.  You know how old that one is. I have several other books by him. I have been on day two for four days and that is okay.  I have been wanting to share with you, however, I have been lead in other directions but today is the day. 

First, this morning while preparing my breakfast as I reached for the cinnamon for my french toast, the most profound thought came "God is Love"..  After re-reading chapter 2,  "You Are No Accident"  one of the verses to study is none other than, John 1::8  Whoever does not love,  does not know God because God is love.  This was confirmation that we are on the right track. 

Here are a few passages of study from the chapter. New International Version (NIV)

Isaiah 44:2  

This is what the Lord says— he who made you, who formed you in the womb, and who will help you:

Ephesians 1:4  

For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love

James 1:18  

He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.


You are who you are for a reason. 

You're part of an intricate plan. 

You're a precious and perfect unique design, 

Called God's special woman or man. 


You look like you look for a reason. 

Our God made no mistake. 

He knit you together within the womb, 

You're just what he wanted to make. 


The parents you had were the ones he chose, 

And no matter how you may feel, 

They were custom-designed with God's plan in mind, 

And they bear the Master's seal. 


No, that trauma you faced was not easy. 

And God wept that it hurt you so; 

But it was allowed to shape your heart. 

So that into his likeness you'd grow. 


You are who you are for a reason, 

You've been formed by the Master's rod. 

You are who you are, beloved, 

Because there is a God! 


(By Russell Kelfer, Adapted from The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren)



Today God is creating something new in me.  It is a Joy that will extend to others.  I am not to mistake it for something that I am doing but what the Holy Spirit wills.  Thank you God for your Holy Spirit that dwells in me.  I am not to take credit but to watch in delight as the Spirit flows from me to others.  I am not to try and control it.  I pray,


Have a blessed day in Christ




New Day, "Prioritize"

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Jun 26, 2018

I had no idea where the Spirit would lead today for my morning devotional blog. So many things came into my heart and mind as I read, studied and pondered.   As I studied and reminded of my imperfections. (e.i. Forgive me if I have hurt someone along the way.)  In my moment of indecision, God allowed someone who is very dear to me in Christ to call.  It was a very rare call for the time of day and how the call came through. It only lasted a few minutes and was cut off.  But those moments of conversation helped me to continue in the direction I am to go no matter the trials or persecution and without a doubt. Please be mindful these are lessons for me as well. 

Colossians 3:2 NIV

Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.


If you were to ask the goals of the average, everyday individual, most of them would answer with something temporal—save a “nest egg” for retirement, get a better job, build a “dream home,” buy a new car, find a life mate…When was the last time that you heard anyone (Christians of course) communicate spiritual goals in everyday conversation—get closer to God, win more souls to the kingdom, give more to support ministry…As Christians, we must remember to prioritize God’s Kingdom above and before anything else (Matthew 6:33). But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well

Remember the following as it relates to worldly goals: 

  • -You may build a beautiful house, but eventually, it will crumble
  •  -You may develop a fine career, but one day it will be over
  •  -You may save a great sum of money, but you can’t take it with you
  •  -You may be in superb health today, but in time it will decline
  •  -You may take pride in your accomplishments, but someone will surpass you




Reference and Inspirations

The Holy Spirit, NIV,






This Wise Elder is a...

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Jun 26, 2018

Mentor: definition- a wise and trusted counselor. I can say it freely without hesitation because she is and has been my mentor and role model on my quitting smoking journey.  I am EXtremely proud to highlight this Elder today.  She is the prime example of someone I would like to aspire to be as an Elder. This wise Elder is the calm before and after the storm.  Her words of wisdom are seldom misunderstood for they are seasoned with understanding and Christlike humility.  She shows genuine care and respect for others.  When she speaks we should all listen, not only to her words but her delivery of unbiased wisdom laced with love from the heart.  Her approach to Eldership, even to those who have relapsed is nonjudgemental with unconditional support.  Her background as a nurse speaks to you directly with concern for good health and mental well-being. "She is not a complainer". 

I am very proud to highlight Barbara145  and by the power invested in me as the author of The Wise Elder Series,

I induct Barbara145  with the Quit Date of October 11, 2013, into This Wise Elders Series, "Hall of Fame".  Please take your place, Ms. Barbara, you have earned it.  I love you, we love you, God loves, continue to keep peace, love, and hope alive. 




Here are few of her blogs .

Words of wisdom , I Could Have Never Imagined , Time to try to inspire 





Series: Dec 2017-June 2018

To locate other tributes Tag:

                                               a wise elder once told  


New Day "Be Prepared"

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Jun 24, 2018

Prepare yourself every day, by putting on the full Armour, of God 

Dress with Truth, Righteousness, Peace, Faith, Salvation, Spirit, Word of God, Prayer 

Just like breathing, take it wherever you go. 

10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the [a]wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of [b]the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—





Today God use me as you see fit.   I am not to mistake it for something that I am doing but what the Holy Spirit wills.   I am not to take credit but to watch in delight as the Spirit flows from me to others.  I am not to try and control Forgive me for my sins as  I forgive those who trespass against me.  Strengthen me as I learn to put on the full Armor of God to face the wiles of the devil. I do not have all the answers I trust you and that Your will be done. I pray, In Jesus Name Amen.

Phillippians 4:13

I can do all things through Jesus Christ which strengthens me. 


 People often ask how am I capable of doing the things that I do?   Whether I am dealing with a wayward child, a sick relative, failed relationship, restoring a home, mechanical repairs, running a 5K, and maneuvering an obstacle course... just to name a few or my many life crises: this scripture is always with me.  Along with Mohammed Ali's "float like a butterfly sting like a bee." ) when I am running. Just telling it like it is)

I remember the day in 1983 when Evander Holyfield (World Champion Boxer) made a surprise visit to our office building.  Someone came to me and whispered where he was. I located him and I asked him for an autograph.  He signed his name along with this note. "Phillippians 4:13."  When I got back to my desk I searched my Testament for the passage. I can do all things through Jesus Christ which strengthens me.  I had heard the passage many times but this time it stuck with me. 

At one point I had this scripture framed hanging where I could readily see it.  To make a long story short, I am a witness that if we BELIEVE, we CAN do all things through Christ...NOT ON OUR OWN...We can make it.  I believe I can and I do, did, have done and will do through His power and strength.  Amen


Write a note to yourself.  Keep it where you can see it.

I Know that I can _______________________ through Jesus Christ who gives me the strength.  

                            Fill in the blank with your crisis

Yes, YOU can make it.  He has already given you the strength, just use it!


Today God continues to use me.  It is a Joy that will extend to others.  I am not to mistake it for something that I am doing but what the Holy Spirit wills.   I am not to take credit but to watch in delight as the Spirit flows from me to others.  I am not to try and control it.  I pray, Amen.

Today We Celebrate!

Our Organizer, Coordinator & Planner who is a rarity

She dot's all the I's and crosses every T'

A Gentle Butterfly but still a Busy Bumble Bee 


Kathy's quit has just turned 8

So today we're going to celebrate!

Let's Give a Shout out to our very own

Our Butterfly/Busy Bee aka Strudel, Kathy Sloan


Before we start could someone please explain?

How Kathy got her username?

And what in the world she meant?

That "semi-cold turkey " was the way she quit?

Today we Celebrate! Strudel

There is no question that the EX family is very important to Kathy.  As with our gentle butterfly, her actions speak loud and clear. Kathy is consistently steadfast in showing her support.   As a retired Special Education Teacher her love for humanity spells over into this community.  To Kathy, big things are small and small things are big.   After 8 years she is here every day to congratulate, comment and express words of wisdom and support.  Most of her blogs are congratulatory for celebrations and cheering someone else on to motivate, inspire and empower.  Kathy also loves to share a laugh.  She gains joy and a twinkle comes into her eye when she sees that others are happy. Her consideration of others is her DNA.

Busy as a bee Kathy works tirelessly to help plan, organize and coordinate the EX Reunions.  Her attention to detail in making sure that everything is "just right" creates a memorable event.  Kathy is a determined soul to "get it right the first time".  Kathy analyzed, evaluated, planned, prepared, and has executed a successful quit for 8 years.  Each day she continues to give back to this community in so many ways.  Kathy as the Elder exudes wisdom with a voice of reassurance, confidence, strategy, and care. Today let's celebrate Kathy for her dedication to the EX community.  Kathy, there is no one like you.  You are uniquely made. We love you back. Enjoy your day. 


Break the connection - and thank you! Never too late! 


From the Other Side

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 May 16, 2018

Missy's Mandolinrain 's blog reminded me of an encounter I had today. I was returning home from shopping and decided to stop at the WAWA  for a cup of coffee.   I am parked at the WAWA checking my phone and making up a song about sitting at the WAWA waiting on my ya ya. but don't have to smoke. This is one of the main places that I purchased my cigs. The song thought was cute but I could not get all of my words to rhyme.  I go inside, get my coffee and proceed to the line. Quite a long line I would say but I didn't mind the wait.  Retirement helps to keep me out of rush mode. As I stood in line, I noticed the cashier was anxiously searching behind the counters.  She mumbled to the customer "we may not have any". The customer waiting had her head down resting on her arm on the counter. It was more like please, please, please find what I need.  Relief, the cashier found her brand. As she stood up I noticed that her face was swollen along with that bluish-purple look you get from smoking. The one we don't see when we smoke.  Now it is 81 degrees outside and she has on this heavy jacket.  A little girl was very close to her. Cashier asked are these the ones?  Something short is a red box.  Yes, the brand she wanted. I could see the relief on her face. She got two packs paid for them and quickly stuffed them in her pocket as if to hide them and we do try to hide them or even look around to see who is watching us buy them.  Sad, she was pregnant. I tried to tell myself, maybe they weren't for her. She put her sunglasses on and walked out of the store with the little girl.

Next person in line asked for a pack of Salem light menthol.  My brand but he wanted the "shorts" I smoked the regulars. Shorts were always too short for me. Wow Iooked at them, said to myself, I use to buy those things.   The gentlemen struggled to pull the money from his wallet and get the correct change to pay for that pack.  How I remember emptying my money jars to go get a pack. $6.56 they haven't gone up that much in 3 years if I remember correctly. I stood there wanting to say something about EX but I didn't.  I just thanked God that I am free and do not have to stand in line for smokes and there is no temptation to buy any  The cashier seemed surprised that all I wanted was my coffee with my coffee.   

As I proceeded to my car  I sang.

So I was sitting at the WAWA waiting for my JAVA  Yeah

May sound funny but I don't smoke anymore. Yeah. 

Sitting at the WAWA waiting for some JAVA Yeah.

May sound funny but I don't smoke no more. Yeah 

Wearing Many Hats. 

Daily, offering support with such special care.

Each day she doesn't know which hat she may have to wear.


If there is a problem Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14

Steps right up to help solve.them. 


Even though she works a  9 to 5 

She's hands on to help with this platform Jive.


Most days she quietly and patiently waits

to see what hat she has to take.


When you don't see her, she may be behind the scene

Checking on someone if they have need


She has the gift of listening ears 

Letting us know how much she truly cares


Jennifer-really stays on top of things

She makes sure that we are in the know

You can count on her for the answer of

what, when, who, how and where to go 


Whether conducting the Freedom Train,

or giving good solid advice

The very best part of all

Jennifer is a sweetie and very nice


But lately, Jennifer has been smitten 

by a  furry little kitten 




A few blogs that highlight Jennifer's dedication and kindness.

 Go to her page to read more. She is celebrating 5 Years of Freedom

Roll Call! 

More blessed to give...


I was saving this for another day, but I think today is just as good as any 


If someone tells you something over and over again you will began to believe it. 


This ElderMarilyn.H.July.14.14. without fail is here everyday.   I don't know how she does it but she does. 

She would tell us newbies almost everyday that quitting smoking is   do·a·ble

If you take the time to read her daily blog you will see that word quite often.

adjectivewithin one's powers; feasible

Don't take whatMarilyn.H.July.14.14 tells us for granted.


Chin up and hang on tight even though quitting smoking is EXTREMELY difficult to say the least, it's also very doable an...

Please take a moment to read a blog i wrote about the word I was taught.Doable 

Life is ALWAYS going to happen - it's how you respond that tells the tale.


Lots of things happen in life out of our control.

Smoking is not one of them. THAT is a choice! Choose wisely!


Life has its ups and downs, it’s thrilling and terrifying, easy and difficult..........quitting smoking.......... has a better ending!


Choose to deal with what life throws at you without smoking!

It IS a matter of life and breath.


Life IS grand when we don't smoke!!!


This is the REAL freedom – when you realize how much smoking controlled your life! This takes time to see clearly. But – it is SO worth the time it takes to unlearn this!


Isn't life grand with cleaner lungs?


You can CHOOSE how you will think today - grateful, or sad, or remorseful, or guilty, or wishing you could hide behind a cloud of smoke instead of dealing with what life has thrown at you.  Choose wisely!


There is no magic pill to take that will do the work for you. You must commit yourself to it 100%. If you do, I promise you will be successful. The payday will be both monetary and physical. You will literally be saving your own life.


Most importantly As you move forward, you make NEW memories for your associations and triggers







 Thank you 


The Train, The Train

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Mar 6, 2018

Don't forget to ride the trainFreedom Train 3/6/2018 

"Slipsies" Bewildered

There was a lot of slipping and sliding going on in my 5th month here.  I got this response from the original blog.  Why do people "slip"



"There's an easy answer.  They DIDN't work hard.  They TALKED hard.  If you've been here long enough you can spot them a mile away.  Said what they thought sounded right, what we wanted to hear, all the things that made it sound like they were in it to win it.  But it always sounds off somehow.  And they are the ones who come back and have 'slipped'.  And yes, even after years of quit - they will slip because they didn't mean it.  The option stayed open.

By the same token you can tell the ones who mean it.  We almost never see them back here having slipped.

Mrs.Rum  5/3/2015

"Slipsies" Bewildered 


Thank you

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Feb 27, 2018

For riding the train today and celebrating some amazing quits.  elvan, @Bree19 and Anya  It's still not to late to get on board celebrate with these winners.Freedom Train 2/27/2018 

I will quote a poem I heard a long time ago:

My mind is a Garden

My thoughts are the seeds

I can harvest

either Flowers or Weeds.

Lillian   10/5/16


vanlil now an Elder from the blog Rethinking the stinkin' thinkin'