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Through it all.

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 18, 2018

4 am this morning my phone rang and I did not get up to answer it because I thought it was a fluke.  Immediately following my son's phone rang.  I knew instantly that something was wrong.  I asked my son what was it.  He said it was my sister and "the paramedics are at the house resuscitating Shaun and they have not been able to revive him". My nephew, Her grandson. 25 years young.  We got dressed and went to the house which is less than a 5-minute drive.  They had already left.  The yard had yellow tape around it we could not go in.  An officer came up and said that we could go to the hospital. They were still working on him but there would be a chaplain there. When the officer said "chaplain", I knew what the outcome may be. We called ahead to let them know we were on the way. The only response from his mother was, please "pray" for me.   I met my niece in the ER in tears.  I tried my best to comfort her.  A chaplain came out and told us they were still working to resuscitate him.  After 2 +hours they were still working on him.  The doctor came out and told us they had done everything but they would continue.  My niece went back to watch. He could not be revived.  His heart stopped, not sure what happened.  There is an ongoing investigation. This is so hard right now.  I want you all to know that through it all, not the thought of a cigarette or hint of the desire to smoke came to my mind.  I am very saddened right now and have not totally absorbed all that has happened in the last 5-6 hrs. I have started to shake.  Life is short.  Remember to tell someone that you love them and be kind to one another.  The day may come they are no longer here to let them know.  Be grateful to have a family. 


Give it your Heart

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 11, 2018

Just a little note to EX Land, especially to those just starting this journey.  Some days may seem very difficult. There will

be good days and bad days but my advice to you is to never give up.  Give it all you got. But most of all give it your heart.  If you give it your heart, your quit will take on life and sustain you on those tough days.  Life goes on and we are not on this earth for everything to be" peachy keen."   There will be trials and we have to prepare for them.  I sure try to avoid the ugly days but when they come, my quit goes into protect mode. 


When the nicotine addiction (self) starts tapping on your shoulder telling you-you "have to have" a cigarette, tell it is a liar and a time waster and to get to steppin'.  Better yet, knock it off your shoulder and kick it.  Tell that demon you will not allow it to cause you to make any EXcuse to smoke, No Matter What. NOPE!  Adapt to that mindset every day.  Give your quit your all.   Give it your heart and soul.  Bring it to life.  Love your quit with every part of your inner being. Your quit will not let you down if you give it your heart.   You will have no regret for the choice you made if you give it all you got and then some more.  You will become one, "forever" so to speak.  This is the only way you can make it without a doubt, no matter what happens if you have given your quit your heart.  You will become strong enough to go through ANYTHING  in your life and not smoke NOPE if you give it your heart.   If you love and protect your quit it will love you back.  You both grow and go hand in hand.  When you breathe it will breath because you have given it life.  If you develop it and bring it to life it will not let you down.  When you have those down in the dumps days and those cravings come, say "NO MATTER WHAT I will not smoke and mean it." Think NOPE NO Matter What. I will not smoke.  No matter how many times you have to to say or think it, do not give up.   You will see time and time again it will step right in when you need it the most if you keep it alive by continuously giving it your heart. NO MATTER WHAT let it grow by NOPE and you will develop a lifelong quit that has your heart.

Do it!  

It works! 


Put on Your Armor

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 2, 2018

Now that you have joined the Ex Community, you are to become a warrior of/for EX.  Each day you must put on the full armor of battle to protect your quit.  Joining the army of smoberity one must consider taking a daily pledge that you will not smoke no matter what.  Daily Pledge   Join with others and make the commitment that you will not smoke NOPE not one puff ever no matter what.  The NOPE should become your daily motto/mantra.  NOPE, not one puff ever ... remember that.  Know that you are not alone to fight the battles.  Be aware that some of the greatest battles come just before the greatest victories so never give up or give in. I heard that somewhere.   You win one battle at a time, one day at a time so that each day can be a day WON and not day ONE. 

No matter where we are in our quits, life happens and we have to be ready to put on the full armor.  Ready how?  Know when you are vulnerable and learn to automatically go into the protection battlle mode and Put on the Full Armor to fight the battle of addiction to nicotine.  Your armor should include the following.

 1. Belt of truth and Knowledge 

Education is the key to a successful quit.  Read the suggested materials.   Understand the law of addiction. Know the Truth for yourself. Learn and relearn behavior. Study read, blog research, ask questions. 


2. Breastplate of Determination. 


Be determined from within yourself that you are going to give this quit 100% of your time. No matter what is happening in your life your quit is the priority. 

3. Steadfast in Commitment

Stand firm in your quit that no matter what, when, where, or who will not be an EXcuse to smoke. 

Not even death, divorce, job loss, sickness, anger, loneliness, boredom, etc. nothing.
4. Shield of Faith and Courage

Do not doubt. Trust and believe in yourself. Believe that you can and you will. Whatever you are going through, know that it will not last forever.  Keep looking and moving toward the light as it gets brighter.   
5. Helmet of Salvation

Cleanse your mind of negative thinking.  Change people, places and things if necessary.  Be mindful of what is going on with you. HALT Hunger, Anger, Loneliness and Tired can be confused with the urge to smoke. Know you will become a new person for the better. 


6. Sword  Protection

Develop your own Toolkit for your protection.   Use your innermost strength as never before to protect the quit from the addiction to nicotine. Come here first when you are in crisis and we will help you in battle. Trust, pray and believe that God will work it out. Never give up.