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Loving yourself

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 28, 2016

Sometimes we read blogs and recognize how happy and confident some of our Exers are in their journey of freedom.  If you asked them how or why they seemly find the bright side of life crisis, they probably wouldn’t give one specific answer.  One thing for sure they would say it was a process and it wasn’t always this way.  However, quitting smoking is like starting your life over again for the better.  They will say yes, they had fears but learned not to let the fears win. They would say it wasn’t easy but determined that no matter what they were not going to smoke. NOPE.  Their conversation would be about how better physically, mentally, financially, spiritually their life has become.  They would say how grateful with a new awareness how beautiful life can be without nicotine.  They would go on and on about not having to focus on getting a fix and smoking is no longer a part of their life which they rarely think about.   They will talk continuously about moving forward,  loving life and improving it more each day.  We may not have gotten to the same level of their calm, peaceful quit coveyed in their blogs but we can get there by never giving up, never turning back NOPE no matter what and paying it forward, knowing it is a process..

 It is growth in the quit that brings this assurance about life and being happy with who you are.  This attitude of loving yourself makes life so wonderful.   This morning I was reflecting on times in my life that I felt that I wasn’t loved.  As I look back I now questioned whether I knew how to truly love myself.   One of life’s obstacles is self-acceptance.  Though it may be difficult, learning to be okay with who you are is one the most important things we need to do to be happy.  No matter what  life has dealt us, we have the opportunity to accept ourselves and learn to like who you are. Quitting smoking opens the door to help reach that level.  I am loving my life smoke free because I am stronger, wiser, courageous, loving, generous, kind, forgiving, funny, smart, beautiful, talented, not perfect but a happier woman.  I can smile about me. Smoke free 642 days.  Thank God.

click on this link and get started here

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/3533-love-yourself

Good morning, fellow EXer's!

The Freedom Train is on the tracks, and prepared to make its daily run to freedom from smoking. Everyone is invited to come aboard to celebrate their own personal freedom, and that of their friends!

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Today's Celebrations   swilson 900 days   https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/swilson2

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We encourage you to come aboard today! Shout out your personal milestones, those of your friends, and show pride in your quit: 2 days, 200 days or 2000 days, or more if you have them! Let us hear from you, and let us all celebrate our freedom. Post food and music - IT IS PARTY TIME! This train is bound for FREEDOM from the evils of tobacco and smoking.

 

"IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN"

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ABOARD!!!!!!    -JACKIE

 What is the Freedom Train? More  here

If you are new here, this vehicle provides a place for everyone to gather to celebrate the milestones and successes of those in our community. There are no tickets. The fuel for this locomotive is love and caring. The rides on this train are paid for in contributions to the quits of others! The only thing required to ride this train is a desire to breathe free. We encourage everyone to join in the celebration. No matter where you are in your quit, today is special, and is cause for celebration! Celebrate with others, and they will celebrate with you! There are no baggage fees; bring all your "EXtra baggage" and we will help you sort it out.

 How do I count my days?

Your quit info is here

From time to time we have questions about counting days. While we encourage everyone to celebrate every day of their freedom, here on the Freedom Train we count the days you have completed. For example, Tommy quit on 01/01/2010. On 12/31/2010 he had reached 365 days. However, he had not completed a year until 01/01/2011.

 Where can I sign up?

You can register for the Freedom Train here.

 Have a question?

Please feel free to address any questions or suggestions to Pir8fan (Tommy) at any time.

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Daily Freedom Train Conductors
Sunday: Pir8fan

Monday: YoungAtHeart

Tuesday: JACKIE

Wednesday: Jennifer72113

Thursday: Terrie

Friday: Smorgy

Saturday:Shawn

 

I am on with 639 Days of Freedom

JACKIE1-25-15

Change your mind

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 24, 2016

We do it every day.  It is simple, like changing what to wear, eat, or route.  Sounds easy doesn’t it.  We change our minds automatically all the time. I call it flipping the switch.  Now if we apply it to smoking it doesn’t sound as easy does it? Well to be honest it's not as easy as deciding what to wear or eat.  It is not automatic but with practice and time it becomes easier and automatically doable.  There’s that word again “doable”.    Changing of the mind is vital for a successful quit.   Our minds are very powerful and what we feed it has power over it.  We can feed our minds negative thoughts or positive.    We can tell our mind that we can’t do this or we can tell it YES I CAN. 

Are you wandering sometimes why it is so hard and a “struggle”?   Partly because we keep telling ourselves that it is.  I remember how difficult the beginning of this journey can be BUT telling myself that I could do this made it easier.   I said it out loud many times a day.   I told my mind I was not going to give up.  I learned to get pass the urges and the withdrawal by using the advice of the Elders.  When my mind told me I needed a cigarette I told my mind it was a lie.  When my addictive mind told me to have just one I told it to leave me alone.  I would yell at it.  “I am not going to smoke so stop wasting my time”.   When I was confronted by a trigger, I talked myself out of it, one of my greatest tools, SELF TALK.  I started telling my mind a new a story.  That I am a nonsmoker.    Once I started believing it  my quit got easier.   I would not consider myself a happy quitter but a positive quitter.    I told my mind that I was going to be smoke free by any means necessary.  NOPE meant a lot to me and it carried me a long way. 

Being here and witnessing others going through some of the most difficult times in their lives and still not smoking was a testimony to me that this is doable.   I considered my journey much easier so I could not complain.  This site gave me strength and encouragement so I came here on a daily basis, reading the suggested material, blogging, learning and feeding my mind new thoughts.  Every morning I looked forward the greeting from Mike or an encouraging blog from Marilyn.  Finding a key for that day would help me.   I was here.  I was a little concerned that I had a new addiction but I told my mind this was a better one than smoking.  My morning coffee was no longer with a cigarette but with EX.  I learned new ways to think.  They said change hands when drinking coffee. I did not take my quit lightly.  I held my cup with both hands and I was okay because I wasn’t going to miss a beat.    I would read the educational and encouraging material from so many like Thomas, Shawn, Storm. SkyGirl , Sheri, Guilia, Ellen, Nancy, Sharon, Terry, MikenAt , just to name a few.    A “joke” from Dale always made me ponder. (go to their pages and read.)  I had quit buddies that helped along the way.  

 Now My mind constantly tells me there is so much more to life living it smoke free because I am living it. 638 days of it.  Change your mind and your quit can be easier.  Like flipping the switch.

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/JACKIE1-25-15-blog/2015/05/28/flip-the-switch  

JACKIE1-25-15

Mind over Matter,

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 18, 2016

I am quite sure you have heard the phrase”mind over matter”.  You take it with you to the gym.  You use it when you are trying to accomplish a difficult task.  It simply means that your mind is “the force” you are using to get the job done. We often hear it here in the format of “it’s what’s between the ears”.  That phrase resonated with me when I first came here.  

Okay, so mind over matter; why can’t it be used also to quit smoking?  Well, in my opinion it can  to some degree but it has to work with “no matter what”.    IF you learn about nicotine addiction   IF you are willing to go through the process of changing your thought patterns which changes behavior and lifestyle.   Yes, it can be done but it takes time to relearn something we have believed.  It requires an a open mind and willingness to do whatever is necessary not to smoke   NO MATTER WHAT.NOPE 

 As an addict we take a defense when someone is telling us the truth about the Excuses we use to continue smoking. Or just make new EXcuses..  We have to start to realize as nicotine addicts we are in denial just like any other type of addict. Our brains have been feed so many lies from the tobacco industry that they are so engrained in our thoughts.  How about these, “cigarettes taste good and are good for us” or "we have to and need" to smoke.  ALL LIES. 

In quitting sometimes we become vulnerable to culprits who promote products that don’t work or continue the addiction if not used properly.   It is a requirement that we debunk all the lies we have been told.  We must accept the fact nicotine is a drug.   Like other addictive drugs we must go through withdrawal and change our way of thinking.  It is not easy in the beginning but doable.  IF you engage your mind to read the suggested material.  Come here to read blogs, do the pledges and affirmations, ask questions and participate your mind will gradually change.   Sure, we have tried some crazy things to quit smoking and failed but with willingness and determination, education and with changing of the mind we will be successful (transformed).  We can no longer allow our addictive brain to rule telling us that we can’t.  By placing our MINDS OVER MATTER we CAN.  Start telling yourself just that….”Yes I can and I will not take that one puff. NO MATTER WHAT.   Take control of your mind.  It is your force and your armor.  

My name is Jackie and I am an addict free from nicotine 632 days. 

Good morning, fellow EXer's!

The Freedom Train is on the tracks, and prepared to make its daily run to freedom from smoking. Everyone is invited to come aboard to celebrate their own personal freedom, and that of their friends!

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Today's Celebrations   YOU and YOU and YOU!!!!!!!

We encourage you to come aboard today! Shout out your personal milestones, those of your friends, and show pride in your quit: 2 days, 200 days or 2000 days, or more if you have them! Let us hear from you, and let us all celebrate our freedom. Post food and music - IT IS PARTY TIME! This train is bound for FREEDOM from the evils of tobacco and smoking.

 

"IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN"

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ABOARD!!!!!!    -JACKIE

 What is the Freedom Train? More  here

If you are new here, this vehicle provides a place for everyone to gather to celebrate the milestones and successes of those in our community. There are no tickets. The fuel for this locomotive is love and caring. The rides on this train are paid for in contributions to the quits of others! The only thing required to ride this train is a desire to breathe free. We encourage everyone to join in the celebration. No matter where you are in your quit, today is special, and is cause for celebration! Celebrate with others, and they will celebrate with you! There are no baggage fees; bring all your "EXtra baggage" and we will help you sort it out.

 How do I count my days?

Your quit info is here

From time to time we have questions about counting days. While we encourage everyone to celebrate every day of their freedom, here on the Freedom Train we count the days you have completed. For example, Tommy quit on 01/01/2010. On 12/31/2010 he had reached 365 days. However, he had not completed a year until 01/01/2011.

 Where can I sign up?

You can register for the Freedom Train here.

 Have a question?

Please feel free to address any questions or suggestions to Pir8fan (Tommy) at any time.

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Daily Freedom Train Conductors
Sunday: Pir8fan

Monday: YoungAtHeart

Tuesday: JACKIE

Wednesday: Jennifer72113

Thursday: Terrie

Friday: Smorgy

Saturday:Shawn

 

I am on with 632 Days of Freedom

Good morning, fellow EXer's!

The Freedom Train is on the tracks, and prepared to make its daily run to freedom from smoking. Everyone is invited to come aboard to celebrate their own personal freedom, and that of their friends!

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Today's Celebrations  

Kristen 400 Days https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/kristen_9.7.15

Barbara 3Yrs https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/barbara145

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We encourage you to come aboard today! Shout out your personal milestones, those of your friends, and show pride in your quit: 2 days, 200 days or 2000 days, or more if you have them! Let us hear from you, and let us all celebrate our freedom. Post food and music - IT IS PARTY TIME! This train is bound for FREEDOM from the evils of tobacco and smoking.

"IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN"

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ABOARD!!!!!!    -JACKIE

What is the Freedom Train? More  here

If you are new here, this vehicle provides a place for everyone to gather to celebrate the milestones and successes of those in our community. There are no tickets. The fuel for this locomotive is love and caring. The rides on this train are paid for in contributions to the quits of others! The only thing required to ride this train is a desire to breathe free. We encourage everyone to join in the celebration. No matter where you are in your quit, today is special, and is cause for celebration! Celebrate with others, and they will celebrate with you! There are no baggage fees; bring all your "EXtra baggage" and we will help you sort it out.

How do I count my days?

Your quit info is here

From time to time we have questions about counting days. While we encourage everyone to celebrate every day of their freedom, here on the Freedom Train we count the days you have completed. For example, Tommy quit on 01/01/2010. On 12/31/2010 he had reached 365 days. However, he had not completed a year until 01/01/2011.

 Where can I sign up?

You can register for the Freedom Train here.

 Have a question?

Please feel free to address any questions or suggestions to Pir8fan (Tommy) at any time.

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Daily Freedom Train Conductors
Sunday: Pir8fan

Monday: YoungAtHeart

Tuesday: JACKIE

Wednesday: Jennifer72113

Thursday: Terrie

Friday: Smorgy

Saturday:Shawn

 

I am on with 624 Days of Freedom

Let's have another cup of coffee

At 7:36 pm a flash flood warning until 1:00 am came via my cell phone.  Within 45 seconds of the warning. thunder rolled so hard and loud that it rumbled through my home, a lump came in my throat and my heart dropped but IWSOI.   (I won’t smoke over it)

Saturday has been a good day, started with a few showers.  I had received an early morning text( they don’t call) from my 17 yr old grandson to check if I still wanted him to come and do some chores so he could earn some cash.  I told him if and when the rained stopped I would come pick him up because it would be a great day to weed and feed the lawn.  Well around 1 o’clock I picked him up and it started raining again.  So the chore list went from outside to inside the house.  We made a few stops and everybody was talking about the storm coming.  I am saying to myself, I had not seen any news about a storm. I mean rain but “storm”?  I thought the storm is not passing the Carolinas.   Oh well, I really must not be paying attention.

We cleaned the garage and packed some really nice things to donate to CHKD that's the Children’s Hospital King Daughters Thrift store.  In the meantime,  the rain is coming down harder.  I said we are going to do this anyway.  SUV packed and we are off.  I told my grandson that this must be the storm everybody was talking about.  We arrive at the store and I back up under the store canopy so we don’t get wet and start unloading.  As I walked in the store the clerk immediately blurted out in a demeaning tone, “if it is wet we’re not taking it”!   She went on and on that they had to check things before I left them.  She arrogantly stated they did not want anything that they could not sell.  Now mine, you I have been donating to this facility for at least 15-20 years on a regular basis and no one has ever questioned what I donated.  They have always been gracious, so I was a little taken back with her attitude.  She must have been having a bad day but IWSOI.   I kept reassuring her that the items where good.  She insisted that the manager had to come and look at them, I said okay.  I was on good behavior my grandson was with me, lol.

Well the manager was pleased some items were immediately priced and placed on sales floor. Six boxes of household goods, pub chair, and wheel chair.  So give me my receipt for IRS and I am out of here.  Mission accomplished IDSOI

So we are off to get my grandson home.  Of course, I am being extra careful because I have to make sure the life I have with me gets home safely.  Headcount!  After dropping him off the rain became almost blinding. The streets started to flood.  I almost hydroplaned twice. IDSOI. (I didn’t smoke over it)  All of a sudden my car tire sensor says rght frt tire add air.  IWSOI   I started to go home but thought I should take care of it right away.  I am thinking “Why don’t I have a man to call and take care of this right now.  (lol)  no lmho  IWSOI (I won’t smoke over it)   So I am thinking.  with my umbrella and raincoat I should be okay.  I start searching for coins found 3qtrs. finally came up with 4 qtrs.  Got to the machine it cost $1.50   IDSOI   Oh, I could use my debit card.   Now how safe is that? IDSOI.  I am out in the pouring rain pumping  air and checking notice on dash getting SOAKING wet.  Dashboard continues to read rght frt tire add air after paying twice.  Gosh $3    I decide to drive off thinking maybe the sensor has to adjust. I traveled around the gas station and came back.  The sensor still read add air. Not! IWSOI.  Jackie I said to myself ‘you have putting air in the wrong tire.  IWSOI.  Air pumped, home I go.  I have to get out of the “STORM”. 

Bottom line, I am still learning.  All of these things would have been triggers for me to smoke.  I would get stressed and really believed that I needed a cigarette.  . Light bulb.!!!! It wasn’t the situations that were causing me all of the stress but the added stress of wanting, and having to have a smoke  with the situation.  That’s addiction. Wow,  I am amazed.  Today I had an awakening.  I can be calm during and after the storm.622 DOF Hang tough stay close don't give in don't give up.  Protect your quit.

JACKIE1-25-15

The 6 %

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 6, 2016

Will you be part of the 6%?

Will you do what you have to do?

Will you move forward and to yourself be true?

Never faltering nor failing no matter what!

Some days may be tough but NOPE never give up

Maintaining your freedom should be your daily vision

Never looking back on your journey to freedom decision.

Will you be in the 6%? A lot of time needs to be spent

Never giving up working and always protecting your quit.

Learning and relearning so those old thoughts die

You have to stop believing the nico addiction lie

Each day make an honest pledge

To commit with inner strength and move ahead

Strengthening comes with each passing day

Be part of the 6%, so don’t throw your quit away.

Are you going to give it your best?

Take what you can use and leave the rest. 

November 11th, 2011

A new government study finds almost 70 percent of American smokers want to quit, and more than half tried last year, but only 6 percent succeeded

http://www.drugfree.org/news-service/almost-70-percent-of-smokers-want-to-quit-but-few-do/

 

Hang tough, stay close never give in, never give up.     620 DOF

(footnote after thought)  I have seen 30 days challenges, 130 day challenges and 6 month challenges here. How about a 365 day challenge?

I woke up this morning with a slight headache which I rarely have.  One which I could have used as an EXcuse to smoke.  In fact my mind characterized it as such.  However, I knew that I wasn’t going to smoke because I no longer choose smoking as an option. Yep, I could believe the lies that the nicotine addiction tells but thankfully I have passed the point of being fooled.  No matter what “I don’t do that anymore”!   

So I look at the situation.  Why do I have a headache?  Not enough sleep, need to eat or my eyes tired from too much computer time?  I focused on the reasons instead of focusing on telling myself that I “need” a cigarette? (Brain washing)  I equated this situation with other life experiences; sickness, grief, death, job loss, anxiety, depression, divorce or just life in general.  You can name your experience and put it here.

You have heard it before and I will say it again, “Life does not stop just because we quit smoking”.  At times it may feel life has taken on a new intensity (brainwashing) but we can’t blame it on not smoking.  Life happens every day and we have to take time to step back, evaluate and relearn how to handle things without a smoke.   Nonsmokers do it all the time,  so can we.  We have to stop believing that lighting a cigarette will help. (Brainwashing)  It won’t.   To get to this point we must go through the task of learning new life skills without smoking.  It may not be easy to start and we may not like the moods that we see ourselves in but the process is doable.  The main part of the journey is learning and relearning how to handle life without smoking.  We learn by no matter what NOPE(Not One Puff Ever). 

With practice this mindset can become automatic if we allow it.  We are simply reversing the I "need" a cigarette mentality.  It does not happen overnight but by continuously saying NO to smoking you will get there. You will act, think, believe and live a wonderful life as a nonsmoker.  So come here first if you are having difficulty and ask for help.  Someone here may have experienced what you are going through they can and will help you.

Hang tough, stay close.  Don’t give up, Don’ give in ! No matter what protect your quit.

Do Not put the stinking thing to your lips!  

I am a nonsmoker and I approve this message. NOPE saved me. BTW,  I ate a meal, took some Tylenol and my headache is gone.

Good morning, fellow EXer's!

The Freedom Train is on the tracks, and prepared to make its daily run to freedom from smoking. Everyone is invited to come aboard to celebrate their own personal freedom, and that of their friends!

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Today's Celebrations   tjanddj   Trudy 600 days!!!

  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/tjanddj

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We encourage you to come aboard today! Shout out your personal milestones, those of your friends, and show pride in your quit: 2 days, 200 days or 2000 days, or more if you have them! Let us hear from you, and let us all celebrate our freedom. Post food and music - IT IS PARTY TIME! This train is bound for FREEDOM from the evils of tobacco and smoking.

 

"IF YOU ARE NOT RIDING WITH US, YOU ARE MISSING THE TRAIN"

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ABOARD!!!!!!    -JACKIE

 

 

What is the Freedom Train? More  here

If you are new here, this vehicle provides a place for everyone to gather to celebrate the milestones and successes of those in our community. There are no tickets. The fuel for this locomotive is love and caring. The rides on this train are paid for in contributions to the quits of others! The only thing required to ride this train is a desire to breathe free. We encourage everyone to join in the celebration. No matter where you are in your quit, today is special, and is cause for celebration! Celebrate with others, and they will celebrate with you! There are no baggage fees; bring all your "EXtra baggage" and we will help you sort it out.

 

How do I count my days?

Your quit info is here

From time to time we have questions about counting days. While we encourage everyone to celebrate every day of their freedom, here on the Freedom Train we count the days you have completed. For example, Tommy quit on 01/01/2010. On 12/31/2010 he had reached 365 days. However, he had not completed a year until 01/01/2011.

 Where can I sign up?

You can register for the Freedom Train here.

 Have a question?

Please feel free to address any questions or suggestions to Pir8fan (Tommy) at any time.

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Daily Freedom Train Conductors
Sunday: Pir8fan

Monday: YoungAtHeart

Tuesday: JACKIE

Wednesday: Jennifer72113

Thursday: Terrie

Friday: Smorgy

Saturday:Shawn

 

I am on with 618 Days of Freedom