Anyone who knows me understands that I am pretty much a bottom line person. I strive to say what I mean and mean what I say, while still trying to say the right thing. Sometimes I have to use duct tape on my lips. These last few weeks I have refrained from saying some things so not to appear as being harsh. Today my philosophy is if the shoe fits wear it. lol I may get thrown off the site but here goes.
The main thing I want to say is actions speak louder than words. You can go on and on with excuses to keep smoking and slipping or say a lot of things about what you are going to do. Until you do quit it is only words, no action.
When I first came to this site there were blogs about taking ownership of your quit, putting grown pants or panties on, growing up and putting aside childish, selfish behavior that accompanies smokers. Some tough love was used and spread along the way. Looking back I always thought tough love was for kids so my advice today is to grow up. I get a little unraveled when someone tries to patronize me and say things they think I want to hear. I may not have been here as long as others but I have gained a sense when someone is “tickling my ears”. Until you put your quit in action “talking” has a tendency to create deaf ears. It’s like crying wolf. It seems there are instances no matter what advice is given, what you want overrides it. Then you QUIT on your QUIT. Give up, throw in the towel and say you can't. When I was growing up the word " can't" was not allowed in my vocabulary.
Another thing, this isn’t a social media site this is a quit smoking support website. Sure we discuss a lot of other topics but the bottom line is support for quitting smoking. If you are here just to have a story or a byline due to boredom or need of attention you are wasting your time because if you are not serious about your quit nothing we say is going to help. There are some here we have to hold their hands a little longer or tighter. Some we have to talk to a little longer or harder. Some we have to go to behind the scenes to lift them up. So you may be taking away time from someone who is serious, wants, needs and uses the support and advice. When advice is given, we hope you utilize it and when you don’t it is disappointing.
So my advice to you today is grown up talk, not tough love.
Do your homework. “ Education is the key to a successful quit.
Listen to the Elders,they are here to help.
Don’t’ give up and don’t give in, no matter what don’t light up.
Get back in the game.
Stop thinking and talking but start doing.
Stop saying can’t and say can.
Believe that you can and do it one day at a time.
If you are serious I will be here for you.