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Be ready

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 May 28, 2016

Okay, so you have been smoke-free for a while and you’re feeling rather confident that you’ve got it.  Well, don’t be fooled, staying quit requires keeping your quit tools sharpened and ready to use.  You have to protect your quit because our addictive brain (the trickster) may try to regain control.   Why? Because it has been controlling for years and doesn’t like not being the boss, so be ready. Don't be tricked by the trickster. 

 Be ready, use the tool Self-talk.   Don’t be blindsided by letting the trickster "out talk" you.  Tell your addictive brain to “shut up!”   Let the trickster know that it is wasting it’s time because no matter what you are not going to smoke.  Say it like you mean it.  “I don’t do that anymore”!   “I am not going to be fooled,  so trickster, move on”!  It will get to steppin’. 

 Be ready when the argument with a loved one occurs and  leaves you totally exasperated. Don’t smoke!    Find a quiet place and breath.

 Be ready when loneliness, boredom, tiredness, depression, sickness, death or a family event occurs. Don’t let the trickster make you think you have to smoke.  You don’t! Get your hands Busy /Change your location.  

Be ready when the trickster says “oh just one”.  Don’t be fooled pull out your quit tools.  It is a test.  Pass it. You will become stronger each time.   Don’t take the easy way out.  Wait it out and let it go.  SINAO.  Smoking is not an option.   

Believe in yourself.  Know that you can do this.  Make up your mind that nothing and no one is going to get in your way.  Think outside of the box, your quit depends on it.  Kick the trickster to the curb by any means necessary.   N.O.P.E (not one puff ever) NO MATTER WHAT!  

Enjoy the holiday weekend but protect your quit.  

Keep it Simple…. If you drink alcohol and have to smoke, don’t drink.  If you are around smokers and have to smoke, don’t be around smokers. 


i did not know

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 May 23, 2016

Some of you may have been wondering where I have been.  Along with lurking in the background, I have been living and enjoying the life of a nonsmoker.  I didn’t know that starting this journey would change my life with things I had hoped for would come to existence.

 Before I started my journey on EX I didn’t realize that education would be the key to a successful quit.  I didn’t know that I had to reprogram my thinking from the brainwashing that comes with addiction.   The mainstay was willingness not willpower to make lifestyle changes to be a nonsmoker.  Willingness to do whatever is necessary to remain smoke-free.  Through the power of self-talk, I learned to continuously tell myself   “I am a nonsmoker, I don’t do that anymore”.  No matter what!  NOPE over and over again until it became automatic.  I had no idea I would start a mantra that would be used regularly on the site.  SINAO. Smoking is not an option.

I had no clue that I would develop sincere friendships and receive the best support and give support by being on this site. I learned that coming here blogging and reaching out would help save my quit.  I was soon seeing that Ex had become my new addiction.   Morning noon and night reading and reading and reading and reading until my eyes were tired red and gritty.    I quickly let go of the excuses to continue smoking.  My commitment and honoring my quit each day was my main goal.

Never thought I would prove Allen Carr’s theory about quitting to be correct, EXCUSES weight gain, relaxing, enjoyment, or can’t, won’t stop.  I didn’t know that my emotions were caught up in nicotine for a good feeling.  I had to learn and relearn how to deal with life crisis without smoking.  NO MATTER WHAT!   Headaches, insomnia, fatigue, dizziness, depression, loneliness, anger, mood swings, weight gain and agony.  All worth it. NEF never ever forget.

 I have come to the awareness that quitting at times can be the easier part but guarding and protecting requires focus and work just as well.  Never knew but as time passed my thinking and acting like a nonsmoker would help cement me being one. We are who we think we are NON-SMOKERS   

I now know the true peace that comes with being smoke-free.  I feel so spiritually cleansed.  At 484 days I can run 3-4 miles while breathing easy.  My clothes are fitting and smelling wonderful. My skin and hair have a marvelous glow.  I know now what it is like not to have to cover up with perfume.   I no longer have to hide in shame about being a smoker. I am free. I am a nonsmoker.  

Get focused and stay focused.  Give your quit 100%.   Part time smoking is still smoking.  Never give away your quit.   “One puff” will lead to relapse.  Be willing to let it go.  You’re not giving up a thing. 

Your addictive brain may be telling you that it is okay to take a "puff".  Don't believe it.  It is a LIE.  That one puff will have you smoking a pack, then a carton.  You will be A SMOKER again  

Never ever forget how bad you wanted to quit.

Never forget how long it took you to get there.

Never ever forget that ugly cough you had to endure.  

Never forget all the money you spent.  

Never forget the stench.  

Never forget the shame

Never forget having to find a place to smoke.

Never forget always trying to find them and a lighter

Never forget the cloudy thoughts

Never forget the first 24 -48 hrs of agony.  

Never ever forget insomnia you had to bear

Never forget the endurance, determination, perseverance, hard work

Never forget the JOY that has come in your life because you are smoke-free.

Don't let the addiction find EXcuses for you  to smoke.

Don't be fooled. NEF

Stay free.  FREEDOM is better than a cigarette.  Don't give up, don't give in. 

I have been out of town all day.  Got to catch up on the blogs.