Good morning. Lately I have been on the Ex community site a lot more than usual. As some of you may know I recently started a group. SINAO smoking is not an option. In an effort to make it interesting, I have been doing research, reading my old blogs and comments for ideas. While reading one of my old blogs the thought NEF came to mind.
I remember as a newbie trying to figure out what the heck all the acronyms meant. There seemed to be an assumption that everybody knew. So I really did not want to ask. Eventually another newbie was brave enough to do so. Since then I try to make an effort to explain the abbreviations. But anyway my point today is NEFnever ever forget. I believe that is what it means. lol
I was reading a blog that was written within my 20 something day quit. I asked the question: Where were you when you smoked your last cigarette? The response was very enlightening for us newbies so I am asking the question again as a way to help the newer members of Ex. Oldies can answer too if they would also like to NEF. Have a great smoke free day. I am a nonsmoker. NOPE not one puff ever.
Glad to have come this far. I have learned so much on this journey. One of my greatest aah ha moments came when I realized that I don’t have to smoke. Now when I think about smoking it’s “I don’t do that anymore”. At this stage of my quite, most days I am not dealing with urges, triggers, withdrawal, cravings, etc. A slight flicker may come but I quickly shun it away. I am stronger now than when I first started this freedom from nicotine journey. No matter how long you are smoke free, you have to be ready to protect your quit. (Very Important) Each time you protect your quit you develop a new inner strength that will keep you moving forward in your freedom from nicotine.
If after over forty years of smoking, if I can do it so can you. Trust in yourself with every fiber of your being. Don’t let negative thoughts, people, places or things overpower your desire to be a nonsmoker. With a no matter what I am not going to smoke attitude you can do it. It is about getting started and not looking back but NEF. You are not alone on your journey here.
In the first few months of your Quit, try to think of your Quit as a newborn baby.
During the first few days, you are like a brand new parent with your newborn Quit. You are a little frightened, unsure, worried. You think you may not be cut out for this. You panic easily. Your Quit is tiny and helpless.
Your Quit can't make it all on its own yet. Your Quit needs lots of attention. You must watch carefully over your Quit. Your Quit needs you to take good care of it. Just like a real baby.
So spend a lot of time nurturing your Quit. Do the things you need to do to make sure your Quit stays healthy. Spend a lot of time helping your Quit to grow stronger. Just as you would do for a real baby. Feed it healthy foods. Take it for a walk. Cuddle and coddle it when you first bring it home with you.
You may need to cut back on your usual activities in order to take good care of your little Quit.
Stay away from the places that might harm a newborn Quit. Don't take your sweet little Quit into bars. Don't take your precious Quit into the homes of smokers. You wouldn't take a real baby to these places, would you? Of course not.
Hang around with other new parents of itty-bitty Quits for support. Ask for the advice of older parents whose Quits are now toddlers, pre-teens, teenagers. Listen to their advice; they've already raised good, strong Quits.
Just as in the case of a real newborn baby, your Quit will grow every day. It will become stronger and smarter. It will learn to stand on its own without you having to cradle it in your arms all the time. But not right away. Right now, give your baby Quit what it needs to thrive.
Maybe someday, as your Quit grows up, instead of constant attention, it will only need a pat on the head or a kiss on the cheek to stay strong and tall.
It will always need loving attention from you, just like any growing child. But as it grows up, it won't need your constant hovering devotion. Just remember to make sure your Quit always knows how much you love it and how you will always be there for it, no matter how old it gets.
But until then...do all that a parent can, and should, do to protect your precious newborn Quit.
Sometimes there is so much to say and not enough words to express. I am 237 days free from nicotine. I wanted to quit so badly that I was willing to do whatever it took to be smoke free. With the help of this community I have been successful. I am thankful to be a part of this wonderful group. I wish everyone the best. Those who are sick I pray for your healing and recovery.
The first three days were grinding, (don't want to do that anymore)
With your help two- three weeks was "doable" new word for me. Got it from (Marilyn, Nancy, Guilia)
Staying close to the site made 1-2 months okay,
Not giving up: 3 months had to work it sometimes as if it was the first day,
stayed focus and 4 months back to sailing,
5 months learned to deal with stress I am okay,
6 months celebration was a great day,
7 months I took in stride with a lot of pride,
8 months in a few days now it's about making healthy choices, being happy and staying alive.
For me SINAO (Smoking is not an option)
My Mantra: Not in my hands, not on my lips, not in my mouth, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, not in my throat, not in my nose, not in my clothes. Good night everybody. Good night John Boy, Good night DJ...where is DJ
I have been on a holiday for several weeks from the South FL to the North NH having a blast. I have not had the opportunity to be fully involved with the blogs and celebrations of milestones. First of all congratulations to those who are still smoke free. Whoo HOOoooooooo. I will be reading the blogs today to get an update of what has been happening. Have a good smoke free day. Enjoying life smoke free is the best life. NOPE saved me.
It’s a good thing to start a new day and the thought of getting a smoke is not on your mind,
It’s a good thing to drink your coffee and not be concerned about a smoke.
It’s a good thing that you can take a walk and breathe and smell nature at it’s best even the stinky stuff.
It’s a good thing that you can start your day knowing that no matter what a smoke is not an option.
It’s a good thing to know that you are saving your life one moment at a time.
It’s a good thing to have forgiven yourself for not taking the best care of yourself
It’s a good thing to say and mean “I don’t do that anymore. “
It’s a good thing to no longer have the guilt, shame embarrassment that comes with being a smoker.
It’s a good thing that you have a support group that is knowledgeable and caring.
It’s just a good thing to be free. If you haven't gotten here yet you will, just remember SINAO smoking is not an option NOPE. Not one puff ever. Have a smoke free day. I am a non smoker. Not in my hands not in my mouth not on my tongue not in my lungs not in my nose not in my clothes. 228 DOF
225 Days of Freedom. I could almost write a book by now but I will keep it simple. Yes, there may be days harder than others or even days in a slump, funk=This will pass. We may have unexpected MOMENTS of urges=They will decrease. Sometimes in the beginning the thoughts of smoking stay on top of the brain=stay focused they will subside.
YOU >WE >US can always be in CONTROL not the addiction. It is a CHOICE.
Recognizing what may be a danger zone and staying out of it certainly helps. (Drinking, Overeating, Anger, Loneliness, Tired, Hungry,Boredom)=DO SOMETHING!
Knowing that no matter SINAO (Smoking is Not an Option).
I am a non smoker. I pledge today, not on my lips, not in my mouth, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, not in my hands, not in my plans, not in my nose, not in clothes.