I started writing this blog last night with only two completed sentences I saved it to draft. I could laugh if not for crying. Some of you may know that my oldest sister has been very ill.
After coming here this morning and reading the blogs I thought it would be a good time to share. I think we EXers have the same mindset or on the same page at times when it comes to never ever taking another puff. indingrl.01.06.2011 and Marilyn.H.July.14.14. (Your recent blogs)
I will try to be as brief as possible. So here goes.
After having spent 8-10 hrs at the hospital with my sister these last two days, last night as I stepped on the elevator to leave that little sneaky addiction put the thought of smoking in my brain. Gosh, I said to myself. The addictive brain can be very sneaky when it thinks you are vulnerable. That is why the elders continuously say to the newbies
be vigilant, don't let your guard down.
If I had not made a commitment to never take another puff, I could be fooled to believe that I need to smoke. Since I have educated myself, deprogrammed, debunked the brainwashing and stopped the stinkin thinkin this was just a flicker of a thought. I understand the law of addiction therefore I did not allow this thought to fester but I recognized it for what it was, an EXcuse that could have been used to take a puff. Yes, EXcuses that is all they ever are. I have used and heard a lot of them (fill in the blank) ___________
I am thankful to be at a place on this journey to recognize that there is nothing in life that I have to smoke over. It is easier to say having EXperienced that I can. By relearning behavior and thinking I know that smoking does not help a thing. NOTHING. NADA, ZERO. Smoking was an addictive reaction to my cares and woes both highs and lows but now I can EXperience life and my emotions without sucking on a stinking stick of poison, wrapped in white paper, placed in pretty packaging, given a creative name along with the lie of "feel good". With a sincere commitment never to take another puff ever; along with the support here I am free. Thank God for deliverance. So today, I commit again: not in my hand, not in my mouth, not on my lips, not in my lungs, not on my tongue, not in my clothes, not up my nose, not in my throat I will not choke because I will not smoke Yes, my sister is ill but smoking is not going to help her in any shape form or fashion. Don't be fooled by the addiction. 4 years 358 days with a flicker the addictive brain can awaken but with a flicker, I can let it go. NOPE, No matter.
Do not be fooled, you do not have to smoke PERIOD.
Say it with me..... No matter what I will not smoke. It is possible NO MATTER WHAT
There is one thing certain in life, everything must change, nothing remains the same. Life does not stop when we quit smoking/vaping but it may appear to intensify when we quit. The keyword is "appear" We just have not yet developed the skillsets to deal with raw emotions which were once clouded by nicotine addiction. When circumstances arise, whether good or bad, we have to respond. How we respond depends upon our character and resolve which comes from our inner strength. One thing I can attest to for certainty; quitting smoking can help to develop your inner strength if you tap into it. If you dig deep enough you will achieve more than you could ever imagine. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from. Inner strength can be attained to overcome life’s challenges including quitting smoking or vaping. Quitting smoking can be a catalyst for developing your inner strength. Learn to tap into it to go the distance to remain smokefree. Digging into your inner strength(resilience) is not easy. It has to be forged. Realize that it can be forged through a determined effort of NOPE "NO MATTER WHAT". Start thinking of quitting as an opportunity to attain an inner strength to meet the challenges of quitting smoking which builds a solid foundation to help in other areas of your life. A wise elder once told me.
"If you can quit smoking you can do anything".
There are many on this site who daily use their inner strength to achieve their goals, dreams, and to meet challenges by not giving up and going the distance NO MATTER WHAT. Digging deeper is the resolve to overcome any obstacle to become stronger. It’s simple to understand, difficult to do but it is doable. It becomes easier as we continue to not give up. How do we do it? First, no one is strong all of the time. Second, sometimes we may not meet that challenge but the idea is to never give up with the resolve to be and do better. There’s only one roadblock to achieving inner strength, and that is complacency. A wise elder one once told me
to not be too confident.
I was a little taken back but I finally understood but I use the word "complacent" Do not become complacent. Need I explain? If so let me know.
I have a few excerpts of wisdom and information from some articulate masterful bloggers that I would love to share. I believe new and old members can benefit from it. I am hoping that you take the time to review what I have here and/or go through the archives on your own. There is an abundance of wealth in information, wisdom, inspiration, and encouragement on this site to help on your journey to freedom. Some of these writers have gotten me through some of my toughest, hardest, emotional, need some love times with words of kindness, encouragement, and direction. I just want to share a few. I enjoy reading it and I feel it deserves to be shared. We are blessed. Just a few...More to come.
I thought it was my best friend - turned out it was a wolf in sheep's clothing! I thought I loved that come hither smell - turned out that it was stinkin thinkin! I thought I loved that ahhhh taste - turned out I was consuming arsenic - literally! I thought I was relaxing and relieving stress - turned out I was stealing life from myself like Dorian Grey! I thought I was staying in shape by not being overweight - turned out I was killing myself from the inside out with every puff! I thought I was getting high on dopamine - turned out that I wasn't getting high on LIFE! Oh that wonderful fabulous smoky life before I quit!
Thomas3.20.2010 is our own online COPD EXpert. Go to his content and read his blogs. They will help
Smoking is not just a bad habit, it’s an addiction. The only way to control “it” is to not feed it until it becomes dormant. The only way for it to stay dormant is to never have another one again to be guaranteed 100% of no relapse.
I call it Adulting 101. Tell yourself “No” or “NOPE” out loud. Don’t give yourself permission for the first one. You know what it will lead to so don’t do it. Quitting again does not necessarily get easier with addictions because its the previous permission(s) you gave yourself that can make it harder to say no to yourself again. It’s up to you to parent yourself. Tell yourself no and mean it.
Ladybug--7-3-12 Infamous Wisdom
Every day, you get up and make the same choice---today, I choose not to smoke.
Sootie, (11-15-9) her claim to fame...toughness. No bars holding. lol. Read her content.
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So always believe in yourself. Always believe in your ability to win. Never run from your addiction but rather embrace it. Learn it. Know it. Keep it close so it can do you no harm. Never question your ability to succeed in your quest for freedom!
Chuck_Quit_2-20-2011 Takes me to church every time.
On the night before 18 years ago, 246 people went to sleep in preparation for their morning flights. 2,606 people went to sleep in preparation for work in the morning. 343 firefighters went to sleep in preparation for their morning shift. 60 police officers went to sleep in preparation for morning patrol. 8 paramedics went to sleep in preparation for the morning shift of saving lives. None of them saw past 10:00 am Sept 11, 2001. In one single moment life may never be the same. This morning as you prepare for your day, never forget to kiss the ones you love, snuggle a little tighter, and never take one second of your life for granted.
I am fortunate to have become an EX. Along with that comes a very wise support system which I had never experienced until coming here. Now I am honored to be one of them an EXer...elder. I acknowledge the help, support, friendship, and love that I am given by my peers even when I am not perfect. This has been a magnificent journey of freedom for me. I love chronicling there words of wisdom that will be with me forever and today would love to share a few excerpts with more to come of the wisdom that has been the foundation of my successful 1685 days of freedom. Their wisdom helped me to develop a solid quit. Hopefully, you can take some of it that can be helpful to you.
Barbara145 (My Mentor)
You are never too old to quit smoking. I love my new life and the new me. If I can quit smoking, you can quit smoking. I promised myself no matter what I wanted, no matter what I was feeling a cigarette would never again be the solution. It is tough especially for the first 3 or 4 months and it is a journey.
Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 -.aka Sheri
The secret to quitting, I decided, was never to smoke again. Close the door on it totally and forever.
Not just "I hope", but not to open that door ever again. So all I had to do was not to smoke. And I decided I could do that. I didn't try to figure out the rest of my life, I didn't cement my plan into stone, I didn't even announce to anyone I was quitting. I quietly shut the door and refused to open it ever again.
freeneasy aka Jim
When you learn about quitting and nicotine addiction, you'll build confidence. You may even be more afraid of continuing to smoke than quitting." "I like to call them "smoking thoughts" rather than craves."
Yup, " I lost my quit" Translation: " I decided to smoke.""Once an addict always an addict. S.I.N.A.O.""A crave won't hurt you, smoking will.""No luck necessary. You're the boss of your quit"
froguelady_quit_3-16-11 – RIP
I will not smoke for today and that is how we become nonsmokers, one day at a time. Take care of you first. NOPE counts for No in some cases
Giulia - "G"
Each time you do something as a nonsmoker that you have never done before you just get stronger "When nothing is certain - EVERYTHING is possible!" And depending upon how you view that statement, the possibilities for good things happening are limitless.
jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 aka Dale
Nothing will do it for you except a decision and your willingness. As we get older it becomes "I can't do that anymore. Keep them away from your face!
If you have quit smoking and continue to smoke you are doing it wrong.
I am an addict. If I smoke even a drag I will open myself up to being back to a pack a day. I must guard my quit. One way I do this is to come here every day, make my pledge and read blog listen. This is how I've done it for all these days.....make a promise and KEEP IT!
Youngatheart.7.4.12 Gives the Facts of Life
Isn't it better to be an ex-smoker who thinks of a cigarette every once in awhile than a smoker who thinks about quitting ALL the time?
From our New Elders
@AnnetteMM aka "Amazing Annette"
I think that fighting addiction doesn't work long term because it's exhausting. Instead, the acceptance of it, owning it as part of who we are, is key to a forever quit. So when that weirdness descends I can let it in and let it bounce around in my head for a minute until I get to the eventual knowing that it's stupid and self-defeating and I don't do that anymore.
Daniela-3-11-2016 aka "Miss Positive"
We love our peers, we are all one, we belong together.
Not as former smokers, but as human beings.
We crave the love dispensed here unconditionally.
And we crave sharing that love.
I do, I am here because I am loved, and I am here because I want to give love, to newbies, to friends I made here, to complete strangers who are willing to take it.
And even if I don't understand some of the references to past social behaviors, or food, or cars, or kid's games, I still feel I belong. Because I learn it, I ask questions and someone will answer me.
And I am grateful for being here in this loving environment.
Education is the key to a successful quit. Never give up, Never give in, Hang tough, Stay close, Protect your quit it is your own. No matter what NOPE, Not One Puff Ever, smoking is not an option SINAO.
To learn more about our elders and their infinite wisdom use the tag @a wise elder once told to search blogs or go to my content and type a wise elder
The original blog Voices in My Head
...More to come
Yes, I can run marathons, obstacle courses, 5K's, fitness competitions but I still smoked. Out of 7 kids, I was the only one that was a long term smoker. Now as we age I wonder, will I be the first to go...because I smoked? No, they do not run marathons, nor watched their diets, but they did not smoke. I did. I sit and ponder why did I do that to myself?
I have a few clues. I can almost cry at the thought of so much wasted... because I smoked. Now, I wonder, what does the future hold for me ... because I smoked?
I have not been diagnosed with any smoking-related diseases, but will that day come? Should I not be concerned? Life is good and I have crossed the line of addiction with a firm commitment to never turn back Was it too late? Will I still have to suffer the consequences....because I smoked? These thoughts crossed my mind. Will I have to pay more of a price?
My answer for today: I can not see in the future. I can only live today to the fullest knowing that the use of the drug is behind me. I am blessed to breathe very efficiently and move well for a woman of my age group. Thank God. So many are not as fortunate. No matter how long I live, I have conquered the use of the drug nicotine for the rest of my life. I am free and the journey continues for I am firmly committed that I will forever protect my quit no matter what and never turn back ever again. Amen. Some say you can't say that because you do not know. I can, because I know that I know that I know!
If you are questioning whether you should quit or whether you can do this and have a forever quit. The answer is yes. If you have become a serial quitter, you don't have to be. Make a firm commitment to NOPE. NOPE no matter what can set you free. It is a choice to cross the line from addiction to a new life of freedom. One step at a time in the right direction to freedoms journey. It is never too late. Start today to truly live without smoking. With the help and support of the EX community, you can Have a new life and end the vicious cycle of addiction. 1646DOF I know! You can do it too.
If you are new here, Welcome. You have come to the right place for support to quit smoking. As addicts, we are often in denial when we are faced with the truth that we are addicts. Addictive behavior whether, using heroin, cocaine, meth, nicotine or any choice drug comes a specific way of thinking that enables the addict to continue using substances despite the serious consequences. I can remember many times being drawn by the addiction to mindlessly drive in the middle of the night to buy smokes. I wondered why I could not make myself turn around and not buy those smokes. For some reason, I could not stop myself. The reason why....addiction, the impulsive gratification. Like any other drug, I had to get my "fix". As I look back, was I really putting in the effort? Today I can honestly answer that quickly....No.
I had "hope" but did not put in the "work" required.
When I came to this site things changed. I learned of the law of addiction and treated my drug choice nicotine as such. "The Law" was/is vital in my recovery and a better understanding of overcoming the desire to drive mindlessly in the middle of the night, or walk-in deep snow, scrounge my pockets and car seats for change just to get a "fix. I am thankful for the knowledge. It is true....knowledge is power Quoting Thomas3.20.2010.
For those who do not know, . Until I was willing to never take another puff NO MATTER what was happening in my life I would continue on the vicious cycle of not being able to turn around. The only way around this law of addiction is NOPE. No matter what. That will keep you on the journey to freedom. Stop convicting yourself by going back to smoking. With a support system, quitting is doable. NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF! NOPE A wise elder once said, just don't smoke. Dancingthrulife_6.4.13
I made a commitment never to ever touch one, or put to my lips, not in my hand, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, not in my throat. I will not choke.
We all know that smoking is deadly. Make a commitment today that NO MATTER WHAT, you will not smoke and stop playing roulette with your life. You have to go through to get to freedom. It is not easy but doable.
The title of my blog was the theme for EX 7. I won’t write much right now because I am filled thinking about a wonderful memorable EXperience with my friends here. New and old. Just making a quick highlight my keyboard is acting up
Messages were written and placed in a bottle to read a statement from someone that made an impact on our journey. Many heartfelt moments of sharing. It was great. Lots of Kleenex tissue passed lol. Special thanks for the souvenir gifts, Giulia, flower, Barb102, NOPE buttons (cool) Mark business card Strudel, a message in a bottle, @ Daniela-3-11-2016 for the cookies, Sorry no pic, they got eaten before I thought about a pic. Mandolinrain gave us a seashell on a rope and soap which is the base. Kathy’neighbor (God bless her)baked cupcakes. A miniature message bottle on it, so delicious. Glad I did not bite too hard. More to come, have to go buy a keyboard. Thank you all for your love and friendship.Special shout out o Strudel and Michwoman for making this happen and anyone else for their support and input. Hoping to connect with EXers in the area djmurray_12-31-14 and DonnaMarie EX 8 here I come wherever it is
Be Blessed, Continued prayers for you all.
Oh gosh I am about to cry.
At the end Holy Week, as we celebrate Resurrection Sunday, let us remember that Jesus is alive. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He deserves all of our hearts and all of our worship. It is about love. Let’s treat every week like it’s holy.
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
How pOSITIVE ?
Answer: So pOSITIVE she created her own positive thought game here on EX. A positive thought for the day - game
How pOSITIVE ?
Answer: Straight to the point positive!
Someone slipped, this was her response
Just calculate how much money you've saved by December if you stay with us and become an EX You can do it, we are here to help! Back on the wagon, you go!
How pOSITIVE ??
She will pick up cigarette trash and discard it for a cleaner environment. lol Don't fall over Pall Mall
She often speaks of A better world Oh what pOSITIVE lovely thoughts!
In response to Dales blog, Smoking built a wall, knock it down, let it fall.
"If the Berlin wall had not fallen, I would not be here with you today"
She is a native of Romania.and Sometimes I really miss my first home
When things are not well with her health she puts a pOSITIVE spin on it.
Oh, yes, and I forgot to mention: joints pain (to the point I could not walk anymore, which was my saving grace at the beginning of my quit), and hair loss, a lot of hair loss
Please note some quotes have been taken out of context for humor.
Peace and Positivity
The pOSITIVity.. No shame to her game when she wants us to get along.Let's stay together
When it's cold outside she's got the month of May Smile and enjoy
She also has the cure for any bad odor. Let her know what stinks she will fix it!Aromatherapy helps
pOSITIVity with ”love” is her motto. Love and Belonging
She has graphics that will Positively calm you. Healing thoughts
If her graphics aren't working her meditation will
There is so much I could say about this Elder, more than I could ever acknowledge here.
Please take time to read more of her beautifully written blogs. They reflect her sincerity, humor, genuineness, hardworking, dedicated super POSITIVE Elder
Today I give tribute and introduce to the newbies
3 years 1 month 1 week 1 day Free
Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.”– Alphonse Karr
No, I was not what we call a "happy quitter" the numbers here for happy quitters is always very few. I would call myself "a positive quitter" (You can read my blogs. lol) I was pumped up! For every negative, I would turn it into a positive or just resolved that No Matter What I was not going to smoke.
I believe for every negative, some good has to come from it. Being the middle child of seven this has been a part of me for a long time. I do understand everyone is not like that. Some people see the positive in a situation, and others see the negative. It is all about the point of view. For one person, something might be pleasant, but for the other, it is annoying. How do we get from negative thinking to positive thinking that we CAN quit smoking? It does not happen overnight, it takes, guess what? TIME and PRACTICE ( in my high pitch singing voice).
Here are a few pointers
There is power in positive thinking. Believe that.
For the last 48 hours, the act of smoking has crossed my mind at least two or three times. Even though it is a smidgeon of thought, do I shrug it off and say oh well? Don't know where that came from and keep it moving? Yes, I do BUT I also know that it is time for me to go into protect quit mode, real quick. I guess a smidgeon is huge for me because I rarely think about a stinking cigarette or even desire for one. Breathe. Don't know where the thought came from. Right out of the blue. Wow, I heard it could happen and it has. lol. Not stressed about anything. hmmm? Maybe a few anxious moments Sunday, our church is going through a major change but nothing extraordinary. Change of seasons? hmm?. Been through 3 plus season changes. Hmm? Not absolutely sure. But I am sure of one thing, Just because the thought of smoking crosses my mind does not mean I have to act on it. It has been more than 4 years since my quit date. I know how to suck it up and keep it going and not be fooled by my addiction. NOPE and I am in protect quit mode right now. Period. That is why I am here talking about it. What do my EX friends have to say?
No, I am not going to smoke. No, I am not going to the store to buy any. NOPE no matter what! I am just doing what I have always done. Come to EX first. I will never quit on my quit. I will never ever forget NEF where I started and what it has taken me to get where I am. All my energy, all my inner strength, all my prayers, loss of sleep, all the pain of thinking about a cigarette. Wondering when it would end and what it took to be free. No! I will never give it up or give in no matter what, by any means necessary. Therefore I am not blowing it off and think that I am above the law. NOPE. Yes, I have kicked the demon to the curb and run right over it several times. I am not looking back but will continue to stomp on its head if I have to.
Mantra time! No matter what, who, when, where, how. I will not put one in my hand. Not on my lips, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, Not in my clothes, not up to my nose. Not in my throat, I will not choke. Breathe. NOPE no matter what has kept me free and will keep me free. Suprised I have to deal with this today. However, by any means necessary, I will not smoke. I am being reminded that no matter where I am with my quit I am not above the law of addiction. I could relapse if I did not use my tools. Wow smh.