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Happy Resurrection Day

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Apr 21, 2019

At the end Holy Week, as we celebrate Resurrection Sunday, let us remember that Jesus is alive. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He deserves all of our hearts and all of our worship. It is about love. Let’s treat every week like it’s holy.

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That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 


 

 How pOSITIVE ?

Answer: So pOSITIVE  she created her own positive thought game here on EX. A positive thought for the day - game 

How pOSITIVE ?

Answer: Straight to the point positive!

Someone slipped, this was  her response

Just calculate how much money you've saved by December if you stay with us and become an EX  You can do it, we are here to help!  Back on the wagon, you go!

 

 

How pOSITIVE ??  

She will pick up cigarette trash and discard it for a cleaner environment. lol  Don't fall over Pall Mall 

 

 

 

 

She often speaks of  A better world   Oh what pOSITIVE lovely thoughts! 

In response to Dales blog, Smoking built a wall, knock it down, let it fall.  

"If the Berlin wall had not fallen, I would not be here with you today" 

 She is a native of Romania.and  Sometimes I really miss my first home 

 

When things are not well with her health she puts a pOSITIVE spin on it. 

Oh, yes, and I forgot to mention: joints pain (to the point I could not walk anymore, which was my saving grace at the beginning of my quit), and hair loss, a lot of hair loss

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so happy when I was finally diagnosed with hypothyroidism dreaming about losing all that water I was retaining in my whole body...it wasn't more than 5-6 pounds

 Please note some quotes have been taken out of context for humor.

Peace and Positivity  

The pOSITIVity.. No shame to her game when she wants us to get along.Let's stay together 

When it's cold outside she's got the month of May Smile and enjoy 

She also has the cure for any bad odor.  Let her know what stinks she will fix it!Aromatherapy helps 

pOSITIVity with ”love” is her motto. Love and Belonging 

 

  She has graphics that will Positively calm you.  Healing thoughts 

Or get you excited and laugh

 

 If her graphics aren't working her meditation will 

3 min meditation 

 

There is so much I could say about this Elder, more than I could ever acknowledge here.

Please take time to read more of her beautifully written blogs. They reflect her sincerity, humor, genuineness, hardworking, dedicated super POSITIVE Elder

Today I give tribute and introduce to the newbies

 Miss Positivity

Elder

Daniela-3-11-2016

 

Daniela-3-11-2016

3 years 1 month 1 week 1 day Free

 

 

 

 

 

Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.”– Alphonse Karr

 

No, I was not what we call a "happy quitter"  the numbers here for happy quitters is always very few.  I would call myself "a positive quitter"  (You can read my blogs. lol)  I was pumped up!  For every negative, I would turn it into a positive or just resolved that No Matter What I was not going to smoke. 

I believe for every negative, some good has to come from it.  Being the middle child of seven this has been a part of me for a long time.  I do understand everyone is not like that.  Some people see the positive in a situation, and others see the negative. It is all about the point of view. For one person, something might be pleasant, but for the other, it is annoying.  How do we get from negative thinking to positive thinking that we CAN quit smoking?   It does not happen overnight, it takes, guess what? TIME and PRACTICE ( in my high pitch singing voice).

Here are a few pointers

  •  Visualize how you will feel and what you will have once your goal is completed.”   (Freedom)   What does that look like to you?

  •  It requires a change in your attitude and point of view from within with persistence.  (it may mean letting go of past hurts) If necessary seek professional help. 
  • Being around people that have positive attitudes help.
  • You will be surprised how wearing a smile or a laugh can change things. 

      Even if you have to force one. It will improve how you feel.  Try it.  It Works!Smiley - Wikipedia

  • Speaking about your problems over and over again, eventually, develops the habit of staying negative most of the time. The more you speak about your negative experiences the more negative your mindset becomes.
  • Avoid,  repeating in your mind negative thoughts and narrations about yourself. 
  • Use less often the words like 'cannot', 'impossible', 'difficult' 'struggle" and similar words
  • Engage yourself in some physical activity if you can. Go for a walk, swim, or go to the gym, cook, bake, or go dancing or fix something at home.
  • Don't act like a victim, instead, take charge of the situation.
  •   Live while you are alive and find some enjoyment in each day (Joyce Meyers) just heard this one.  
  • Watching a funny movie diverts your mind from your problems and negative thoughts.
  • Read positive quotes Positive Affirmations and Support
  • Move forward and break the bondage of addiction. 
  • Say YES I Can!

There is power in positive thinking.  Believe that. 

 

ref. https://www.successconsciousness.com/stop-negative-thinking.html

For the last 48 hours, the act of smoking has crossed my mind at least two or three times.  Even though it is a smidgeon of thought, do I shrug it off and say oh well?  Don't know where that came from and keep it moving?  Yes, I do BUT I also know that it is time for me to go into protect quit mode, real quick.  I guess a smidgeon is huge for me because I rarely think about a stinking cigarette or even desire for one.  Breathe.  Don't know where the thought came from.  Right out of the blue.  Wow, I heard it could happen and it has. lol.  Not stressed about anything.  hmmm?  Maybe a few anxious moments Sunday, our church is going through a major change but nothing extraordinary. Change of seasons?  hmm?.  Been through 3 plus season changes.  Hmm? Not absolutely sure.  But I am sure of one thing, Just because the thought of smoking crosses my mind does not mean I have to act on it.  It has been more than 4 years since my quit date.  I know how to suck it up and keep it going and not be fooled by my addiction.  NOPE and  I am in protect quit mode right now. Period. That is why I am here talking about it. What do my EX friends have to say? 

No, I am not going to smoke.  No, I am not going to the store to buy any. NOPE no matter what!   I am just doing what I have always done.  Come to EX first.  I will never quit on my quit. I will never ever forget NEF where I started and what it has taken me to get where I am.   All my energy, all my inner strength, all my prayers, loss of sleep, all the pain of thinking about a cigarette.  Wondering when it would end and what it took to be free. No! I will never give it up or give in no matter what, by any means necessary.  Therefore I am not blowing it off and think that I am above the law.  NOPE.  Yes, I have kicked the demon to the curb and run right over it several times.  I am not looking back but will continue to stomp on its head if I have to. 

Mantra time!  No matter what, who, when, where, how.  I will not put one in my hand.  Not on my lips, not on my tongue, not in my lungs,  Not in my clothes, not up to my nose. Not in my throat, I will not choke. Breathe.  NOPE no matter what has kept me free and will keep me free.  Suprised I have to deal with this today. However, by any means necessary, I will not smoke.  I am being reminded that no matter where I am with my quit I am not above the law of addiction. I could relapse if I did not use my tools.  Wow smh.

The secret to quitting, I decided, was never to smoke again.  Ever. Close the door on it totally and forever.  Not just "I hope", but not to open that door ever again.  So all I had to do was not to smoke.

 

And I decided I could do that.  I didn't try to figure out the rest of my life, I didn't cement my plan into stone, I didn't even announce to anyone I was quitting.  I quietly shut the door and refused to open it ever again.

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13    2/1/19

The Most Effective Way to Quit 

 

 

Close the door to smoking, do not hold on to it as an option.  Be willing to close the door and never open it again.  NOPE. 

Early on my EX journey, I came upon a few EXer’s who had fallen.  Some had been on this journey longer than I.  Why did they fall?  I walked past them not understanding what happened.    I also noticed when one fell another would come along and trip.  I just couldn’t quite” get it”.  I became frightened with thoughts that I was doing all these things to quit smoking and this could happen to me.  I was baffled in the beginning but learned I could trip or fall if I did not read and pay attention to the signs (triggers) on this journey.   The sign that reads, "One Puff  Away To Relapse".

Your journey may be in one those seasons we talk about.  No matter where you are in your quit you have to be vigilant and guard it (read the signs) and do what is necessary to stay smoke-free.  If it means avoiding people, places, and things that may cause us to be vulnerable, do it.  The signs may not be visible in the beginning because we think we have become stronger than the addiction. Don't be so fooled.  We feel we have gotten the addiction under control and we are okay with certain situations. Maybe, but for some, it can be taking your quit for granted.  It may not happen the first time in those situations but over time it can build up and because of the fog, you don’t stop and read the signs.  We have to recognize that we are only one puff away to relapse.  This addiction is as real as crack, heroin, meth, cocaine so you have to protect your quit.

I understand that we live in a world that people smoke but sometimes we have to do whatever is necessary to avoid those people, places and things before it’s too late.  Hindsight is 20/20. If you are breathing second-hand smoke on a regular basis you are not reading the sign to a possible relapse.   We cannot subconsciously test ourselves or we may be smoking before we know it.  So don’t set yourself up for failure because you think you are strong.   Smoking cessation isn’t always about strength. Sometimes it is knowing where you are weak so you can set boundaries to protect your quit no matter what, who, when, where, or how.  In the end, we are responsible for it.

So no matter how many days you are smoke-free, you are still “one puff” away from relapse because the nicotine addiction is real.  Quitting smoking is a continuous work with no stop sign or date.  It is forever. It just gets easier with time. So if you are new or old to EX work your quit and most importantly, protect it. Stay close.  “Don’t quit on your quit. NOPE no matter what.  SINAO.  Smoking is not an option. 

JACKIE1-25-15

Are you still smoking?

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Feb 15, 2019

A Wise Elder Once Said...

"If you quit smoking and you are still smoking, you are doing it wrong". 

 

jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 

If you are still smoking, recently quit and or on the fence and need support

...Please Read

 If You've Quit Smoking And You're Still Smoking 

JACKIE1-25-15

HaPPy LoVe DAY

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Feb 14, 2019

JACKIE1-25-15

Know the LAW!

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Feb 1, 2019

Look around... You are a nonsmoker now.   Everything seems brighter now.  Be proud and pat yourself on the back.  You have made it!   What a wonderful feeling.  Your health and stamina have improved.  You are starting to see the benefits of not smoking.  No more stinking ashtrays around or hunting for a lighter.  The time used smoking is used differently now.  Oh my, the smell is no longer in your hair. You feel beautiful.  You can breathe better.  No more hiding and covering-up.  You have arrived.  Even the dull yellow finish on your fingernails has disappeared and food taste like it never had before.  You can really smell now.   Ahh, breathe.   Bottom line you no longer have to focus on getting a "fix". 

 

Celebrate your success.  You can hardly believe that the thoughts of smoking have become a flicker. Sure it took some time and hard work to get here but the benefits outweigh the challenges.  You have arrived!  YES,  You did it!  You are thankful that you did not give up. Whoo Hoo!   When the going got tough you stayed the course. Congratulations. Even when the withdrawal at times, literally drained you, you survived. Yes, all of the mentioned is EXcellent but...NEF (never ever forget)  the LAW!   Know it for yourself.  Protect your quit.  It is your own.  Don't lose it. 

What are you going to do to protect your quit?  Answer...NOPE

  The Law of Addiction

“Administration of a drug to an addict will cause reestablishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance...Know that!

Definition Of Addiction

I could easily cry tears of joy for THIS DAY!.  There are no words to express how I feel.  I am honored and happy to be a part of this community.  I am having many thoughts and reflections on this journey right now.  I have much to be thankful for but I will try to be quick this morning.  Now and then I go back to read some of my old blogs.  I have found them very helpful throughout the journey.  I can see where I started, the trials and accomplishments.  The comments, wisdom help, and support from the community have impacted me and I hold a keepsake of my journey.

 It takes a village to help a quitter.  Jackieism

BTW (by the way)  I would advise everyone to chronicle their journey whether by blog or in a personal journal  

You will not regret it.

Four (4) years thank God I am free. I don't have the words to explain it. I am free.  No longer bound. No more chains holding me.  My soul is rested, oh what a blessing.  Praise the Lord!  Praise the Lord! Praise the Lord!  Hallelujah, I'm free. 

This morning I read a few of my old blogs.  One was written roughly 270+ days into my quit.  It chronicled how I felt.  I hope that you will take the time to read it.   The link is below.  I hope someone gains something from it and will help you to move forward on your journey.  Because the journey continues...

Overview

I had made up my mind that no matter what  I would never take another puff and had resolved that it would be by any mean necessary.  Whatever I had to do not to smoke I was going to do it. Smoking was no longer an option. SINAO

Here are a few blogs that I would like to share.  Have a blessed day.  NOPE, I am free. 

Make up your Mind! 

By any means necessary

This is how I feel right now.  

JACKIE1-25-15

New Day, Move Forward

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Dec 26, 2018

 Love Yourself/Forgive Yourself

There were times in my life that I felt I wasn’t loved.  As I look back I now questioned whether I knew how to truly love myself.  I often ponder how does one love or forgive themselves.  One of my main reference for questions is the Holy Bible.  So there I go to search.  I do not find anything that speaks directly of loving oneself.  However, there is a passage that says we should love our neighbors as ourselves.  So I can interpret that as to say we should love ourselves and love others.   Let me be clear, I am not a Bible scholar but the Word has been a part of my life most of my life, my "self-help" book of which I have read many.  The Bible is the best one.  My search leads me to "Love thy neighbor as thyself. Mark 12:31.  I am sure many of you have heard, read and were taught this scripture. 

Question?  Do we live it or are we holding on to a disagreement or misunderstanding and not talking to our neighbor.  Are you harboring anger in your soul?  Who does that help?  Forgive them move on.  How do we do it?  I think the proper term should be "acceptance."  One of life’s obstacles is self-acceptance.  Though it may be difficult, learning to be okay with who we are is one the most important things we can do to be happier individuals.  No matter what life has dealt us, we have the opportunity to accept ourselves and learn from our experiences to be used tor our good. 

How does this fall in line with quitting smoking?  Quitting smoking will open the door to help us reach a higher level of accepting ourselves. It is a growth process within the quit that brings this assurance. It is easier to live than to put into words.  It is about a healthier and more spiritual lifestyle. This attitude of acceptance makes life more wonderful.  So NOPE no matter what. 

To all who are MAD and ANGRY about something.  We have all been hurt.  We have been lied on, talked about, abused, scorned, etc. How we respond to those misdeeds is our choice. We can forever burden our hearts by constantly reliving the hurts or we can release the hurts, forgive our offenders, and move on. Carrying the hurts keeps us in bondage. Releasing them gives us freedom.  Which do you choose Bondage or Freedom? 

Wish the best to/for those who hate and despise you. 

Matthew 5:44 

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

 

How do you know when you have forgiven someone?  

Answer: When you do not have to continue to speak ill of that person.  

Note: Start Your New Day with a New Way.  Forgive others to allow forgiveness for yourself in order to move forward. 

 

Thank God I am Magnificently Made  I am stronger, wiser, courageous, loving, generous, kind, forgiving, funny, smart, beautiful, talented, not perfect but a happier more self-accepting person smokefree.  I can smile about me. I am loving my life smoke free1431 DOF

Don't quit on your quit.  Keep it Movin Forward

For every Exer no matter where you are in your quit.

I pray that you have peace and joy this time and forever.

Forgiveness for our sins, those we see and don't see.

I pray that you accept your quit, not as a struggle but "doable."

Praying that difficult days to be made easier

And giving up is not an option no matter what 

NOPE. Not one puff ever

 SINAO smoking is not an option. 

I pray for your loved ones,

those estranged, who have lost loved ones and are lonely,

the sick, and all who need and are willing to receive God's help.

I pray for healing and forgiveness in our relationships.

I pray this journey will cause you to love yourself more each day.

That you have comfort on difficult days

 And you will trust and believe that too shall pass.

I pray that if you fall you will forgive yourself and

Have the strength and courage to get up and start a graceful forever quit.

I pray for peace and harmony on this site

That love overrules all, for we are an EXtended family

I pray that each life be blessed

Knowing God will fulfill all of our needs 

I pray that you will receive help here and one day pay it forward.

I praise God and I am humbly thankful for a changed mind

And deliverance from nicotine

With gratitude, I will protect this precious quit.

Mindful, that no matter what NOPE

Most of all, thankful for true friendships here

May we continue to focus on freedom goals

With love and respect for each other.

Bless the elders, newbies, and administration.

In Jesus Name I pray….

Amen & Merry Christmas.

Love you all the most. 

JACKIE1-25-15

Be On Guard

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Dec 21, 2018

Don't be fooled. 

Protect your quit. Many a quit has been lost during this time of year.  

Don't get caught with your guard down. Plan Prepare and Protect your quit.  Keep your toolkit with you.

You do not need a cigarette to celebrate the holidays. 

Stay Close.  If you are having problems come here first and ask for help.  Have a contact.

Keep it simple. 

If you are around smokers and you have to smoke, don't be around smokers. 

If you have to smoke if you have an alcoholic drink.  Don't Drink Alcohol. 

Don't quit on your quit just because of the holidays.

It is no longer cool to smoke. 

 

Don't believe the hype. 

DON'T BE FOOLED

Lies

JACKIE1-25-15

Through it all.

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 18, 2018

4 am this morning my phone rang and I did not get up to answer it because I thought it was a fluke.  Immediately following my son's phone rang.  I knew instantly that something was wrong.  I asked my son what was it.  He said it was my sister and "the paramedics are at the house resuscitating Shaun and they have not been able to revive him". My nephew, Her grandson. 25 years young.  We got dressed and went to the house which is less than a 5-minute drive.  They had already left.  The yard had yellow tape around it we could not go in.  An officer came up and said that we could go to the hospital. They were still working on him but there would be a chaplain there. When the officer said "chaplain", I knew what the outcome may be. We called ahead to let them know we were on the way. The only response from his mother was, please "pray" for me.   I met my niece in the ER in tears.  I tried my best to comfort her.  A chaplain came out and told us they were still working to resuscitate him.  After 2 +hours they were still working on him.  The doctor came out and told us they had done everything but they would continue.  My niece went back to watch. He could not be revived.  His heart stopped, not sure what happened.  There is an ongoing investigation. This is so hard right now.  I want you all to know that through it all, not the thought of a cigarette or hint of the desire to smoke came to my mind.  I am very saddened right now and have not totally absorbed all that has happened in the last 5-6 hrs. I have started to shake.  Life is short.  Remember to tell someone that you love them and be kind to one another.  The day may come they are no longer here to let them know.  Be grateful to have a family. 

JACKIE1-25-15

Give it your Heart

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 11, 2018

Just a little note to EX Land, especially to those just starting this journey.  Some days may seem very difficult. There will

be good days and bad days but my advice to you is to never give up.  Give it all you got. But most of all give it your heart.  If you give it your heart, your quit will take on life and sustain you on those tough days.  Life goes on and we are not on this earth for everything to be" peachy keen."   There will be trials and we have to prepare for them.  I sure try to avoid the ugly days but when they come, my quit goes into protect mode. 

 

When the nicotine addiction (self) starts tapping on your shoulder telling you-you "have to have" a cigarette, tell it is a liar and a time waster and to get to steppin'.  Better yet, knock it off your shoulder and kick it.  Tell that demon you will not allow it to cause you to make any EXcuse to smoke, No Matter What. NOPE!  Adapt to that mindset every day.  Give your quit your all.   Give it your heart and soul.  Bring it to life.  Love your quit with every part of your inner being. Your quit will not let you down if you give it your heart.   You will have no regret for the choice you made if you give it all you got and then some more.  You will become one, "forever" so to speak.  This is the only way you can make it without a doubt, no matter what happens if you have given your quit your heart.  You will become strong enough to go through ANYTHING  in your life and not smoke NOPE if you give it your heart.   If you love and protect your quit it will love you back.  You both grow and go hand in hand.  When you breathe it will breath because you have given it life.  If you develop it and bring it to life it will not let you down.  When you have those down in the dumps days and those cravings come, say "NO MATTER WHAT I will not smoke and mean it." Think NOPE NO Matter What. I will not smoke.  No matter how many times you have to to say or think it, do not give up.   You will see time and time again it will step right in when you need it the most if you keep it alive by continuously giving it your heart. NO MATTER WHAT let it grow by NOPE and you will develop a lifelong quit that has your heart.

Do it!  

It works!