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New day new beginning

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Dec 1, 2020

I am not sure how this is going to go this is the first time I have ever posted from my cell phone my internet at home is down. So here goes.

Today is another opportunity to do and be better. In life there will always be mountains (days) to climb. Sometimes we have to take each day (mountain ) one at a time. Take your quit for instance. We get in our heads (how long is it going to take to get over thinking about smoking or you get stuck in a plateau and don't understand what you're feeling or you have disappointment that you can't find a way out because you have relapsed.

Sometimes in life we have to stand still be quiet to think and plan in order to move forward. Nothing remains the same, not even quitting smoking. If you never give up or give in the quit will grow no doubt about it. As it grows it will take less and less work but you have to n o p e no matter what before you get to a mature quit. The work will never be over for an addict even if it's just being here paying it forward to help someone else or protecting your own quit. Protecting is another story, read some of my blogs on protecting.

The bottom line is each day is a new day to take the opportunity to never give up. Not tomorrow but today. Each day of freedom is a milestone whether it is 2 days or 2,000 days. Rejoice in this day today and only today. One day at a time is all you can do one mountain is all you can climb so never give up never give in hang tough and be free just for today.

Today while driving in my car, feeling good and wanting to feel better, I thought about perfume.  So I dug in my compartment to get my favorite travel Lancome Est Belle. If you have ever smelled this perfume you have a good idea of how good this perfume can warm the senses.  Once I started putting it on it reminded me of one crazy thing I would do early in my quit...Spray perfume.  Since I was pretty much a closet smoker, before going out I would spray perfume.  When I quit that was one way I would tell my brain that it was not time to smoke.  Of course, after a while the brain catches on and you have to try something different. .

Another scenario: I had been abstaining from coffee and fried foods.  I loved coffee and fried chicken.  Roughly in the 2nd or 3 rd. week into my quit I said the heck with it.  I am having my coffee and chicken.  I put my  pj's on to  brew coffee and fry chicken. I figured putting the pj's on would deter me from going out to the store to buy cigarettes.  Yes this all sounds crazy but it worked.  I could list a few other things, but I guess you get the point.   Your quit is your number 1 priority and you should be willing to do what ever you have to do not smoke.  My motto was by any means necessary.  NOPE 

Never give up never give in no matter what. NOPE will keep you free.

Not in my hand, not on my lips, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, not in my throat.   I will not choke because I will not smoke. 

Do you have a mantra? 

What are you willing to do not to smoke?


Plan Prepare Protect your quit.

If you are new here it is a very good idea to blog.  I found this One Battle at a time. 



Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Nov 8, 2020

well it looks like the problem worked itself out. 

Often times we can correlate life activities along with our quit journey.  It is good to recognize they can go hand in hand.  Yesterday I had the opportunity to do something I love, FISHING. I am a fisherperson at heart. The weather was perfect. Wind, Sky A+.  I fish from a pier. This pier is the longest pier in the United States. Ocean View, Norfolk VA, formerly Harrison Pier before Hurricane Katrina.  When I arrived I was surprised the parking was jammed pack. What are all of these people doing here on a weekday in the middle of the day?  Answer: Oh, Pandemic.  Blessed as I am I readily found a parking spot.  Easy Breezy. I unloaded the SUV and headed to the pier.   As I am walking to locate a spot there is a silence that I have never experienced on a pier. Hundreds of folk quiet. Unbelievable. As I walk I am telling folk you have to talk to the fish.  One guy replied, "they have to be here to talk to them".  I recanted. "well, sing to them to make them come".   Most of the people are out of towners.  I call them "tourons" because they don't know how to fish.  lol.


The word was, the fish had been biting for the last 2 days nonstop, but here at day, 3 things don't look that good.  Bottom line the fish were not biting. Sad sad sad day at the pier.  My belief is I am always gonna catch something regardless.  Even if it is just a breeze but I never say the last part out loud. (only positive self-talk is spoken)  I found a nice spot to set up about 3/4 the length of the pier. I did not bring my easy chair for trying not to bring the kitchen sink. The backup plan was to use the benches or I could easily use my cooler to sit on. 

Well, the fish were NOT biting AT ALL, but I knew if I just waited, I would catch something.  I kept telling the people around me the EXact time the fish would start biting. If they would just stick it out they would see.  Some gave up and left. I have been fishing from this pier for over 30 + years so I kinda knew if I just waited something good was gonna happen.


Wow, I am sitting here writing and just thought... no one around me smoked or I just didn't notice for having so much fun waiting.  Can't imagine that because it is so obvious. Go figure. That is amazing in its self. I met some really great people.  We just had to wait.  In the meantime, we could enjoy the scenery and each other and that is what we did. I had so many laughs. Time went by so quickly.  I met a nurseryman whom I shared my flower pictures. Great conversation. His name was Leroy. Do you know there are a lot of songs for the name Leroy?  lol, Of course, we sang them.  I met Otis, a landscape photographer. Amazing work. What a distraction not thinking at all that the fish weren't biting. At least I wasn't and I kept telling everyone it was going to be okay.  Just wait. 


Lo and behold someone was catching a few.  Mr. Nathan A., a 94-year-old gentleman.  He had EXtra patience to wait. I was impressed with his determination to walk the distance to fish. I am glad he did.  I gained a new friend.  We shared coffee and ginger snaps and supported one another. I learned a lot from him since he is an elder and had EXperience more than I.   He had a way of letting the fish hook themselves. By the end of the night, he had out fished all of us. 


Well, it happened as I thought, spoke, and believed at the almost Exact time the fish starting biting.  Once I pulled out my magic sauce it was on.  Those who did not give up, and did not give in, but hung tough No matter how long they had to wait had a great night and gained so much more. WAIT !!!!!!!!!  God Bless 


New Day New Beginning

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Aug 16, 2020

When we quit smoking so many things go through our heads.  We are pushed and pulled to take that one puff. We have told ourselves that we need a cigarette so many times that we have to reprogram those thoughts. There are so many ups and downs but if we believe in ourselves we can make it.  We have to surrender and let go of our desire to smoke. Believe that you can and you will. By changing the mindset we do not have to smoke with the NOPE concept we can cross the threshold to freedom and stay there.  One day at a time.  Do what you have to do not to smoke. It is doable. Believe it!



I Won't Go Back

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Jun 21, 2020

That was my no smoking thought for today.  "I won't go back"!  As always we have a life that keeps happening but no matter what I will not go back to the pain of taking a deadly puff.  I will not allow my addiction to be in control.  It is not worth the grief, sorrow, guilt, agony or disdain for picking up again..Nothing is worth giving up the freedom I have from nicotine addiction.  I chose to take a deep breath and suck it up.   Sometimes we have to do just that...suck it up and keep moving.  In the early days of my quit, I would keep my hands busy, cleaning, organizing, and yes washing dishes.  lol.  Even now if I have to, Yes, I will wash dishes or anything else that I need to do to distract from the urge/thought of a smoke.  After 5.5 years I know that if I take a deep breath, dismiss the thought of smoking and move on I will be secure not to smoke. NOPE no matter what will keep my sanity.  I know that fantasizing and romancing a cigarette could lead to trouble.  So I brace myself, move out of the space that I am in,(literally)take a deep breath, and do something different.  101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke  If you take this list and implement the things that you can do and not smoke you will make it through that 3-5 minutes of an urge and dismiss it.  Now of course it takes practice of doing it over and over again until it sticks. Like spaghetti.  The more you do it the easier it becomes.  I call it reverse automatic pilot. We would automatically smoke when triggered now you learn that we can reverse the action and automatically not smoke.  Turn AutoPilot to "OFF".  Just Breathe. ..

Never give up, never give in, hang tough no matter what NOPE.  Be willing to save your quit.

Life is going to happen if you keep living.  Jackieism

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But thank God for traveling mercy I am okay and I did not have the need to smoke.  I have not written a blog lately but recently tried but somehow I did not save it soon enough. You all know how that goes sometimes. One day I will get those thoughts back. It was about "you can make it" There have been days my head could not relay a message of help to those who are challenged with quitting smoking.  Right now I am popping in and out.  It seems I just haven't had very much to say.and that I had said it all but that is not true.  So much had been going on in my brain which was rather tired.  I miss my dad and sister.  I find myself still reaching out to them but they are no longer there.  It is kind of weird to explain. I am not complaining because through it all God had been good.  Therefore I take a deep breath and do my best to deal with life on life terms as Youngatheart.7.4.12  says and keep it moving.  

I just want to make a quick observation.

I did not have the need to smoke

That is a big statement right there.  Yes! After smoking for over 40 years and telling myself that I needed a cigarette every day not smoking is a major accomplishment.  It took time for me to change my thought process to KNOW and BELIEVE that I did not NEED to smoke.  If you want to get through the challenge of quitting smoking, start telling yourself that you do not need to have a cigarette.  One of the greatest tools you can use 

It can happen for you just like it happened for me. NOPE no matter what will keep you free.

My mantra:

Not in my hands, not on my lips, not in my lungs, not on my tongue, not up in my nose, not in my clothes, not in my throat, I will not choke because I will not smoke. 

Love you guys, missing you. Thank you all for your love and support.  Maybe when this is over we can do a mini-reunion.  Zoom seems to be the going rage with live streaming and all. For the techno-savvy folk Anyway.  Take care of yourself.   Keep it going and be real with yourself and know that you can make it with the desire, determination, discipline, and direction., ( The D's another topic, soon to come).  Just popping in to say NOPE will keep me free. 

I can not say thank you enough for the love and support you have shown me over the last five years, including now. 

I appreciate all the prayers and thoughts, words of encouragement, love, and support in this chapter of my journey. 

I believe God has an answer to prayer and His will be done in our lives.  My daddy lived to be 98 years. In just a few weeks his health declined.  My sister of 73 years old had a great life serving the Lord.  I am thankful for the life and love our family shares.  Both my sister and dad will see each other in Glory therefore in time I will be okay.  SINAO.  Love you all. Support is good but support with love is a lot better.  Thanks for your love and support.  God bless, peace out. I will talk with you later. 

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Say Yes!

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Mar 17, 2020

I am going to be very brief and to the point.   Monday morning, I buried my sister.  Monday evening my father passed.  I say yes to no smoking.  I say yes, no matter what I will not smoke.  I say yes, I can do this.  I say Yes, it will be alright.  I say yes we have ups and downs but I say yes, I will not take a puff no matter what.,  I say yes NOPE.  I say yes, SINAO for me.  Say Yes!  If I can do it.  You can too. Just say yes you can!  Just say Yes!  I am free and yes I will stay free. Image result for say yes

One sure way to protect your quit is to recognize when you are vulnerable and be willing to do something about it.  These last few days have been filled with ups and downs.  Life is like that.  Sometimes it levels out sometimes it doesn't seem that way. You can use the word trigger instead of vulnerable. If you have a trigger to smoke if you are around smokers, don't be around smokers.  If you have a trigger to smoke if you take a drink, don't drink. I call that "Keep it Simple"...   I may pass on that cognac on the counter.  Oh well.  I have to recognize and not be tricked by my addiction.

It takes mindfulness to go directly back to the basics of what has kept you quit.  Part of that for me is the EX community.  So here I am doing what I did in the beginning.  Blogging.  Don't know where this is going to go but I know if you are vulnerable one sure thing you can do is come here and blog. 

Another tip that worked for me is deep breathing. It seems I have been deep breathing a lot lately.  Perch my lips like a duck.  I hope they do not get stuck. Practice this Breathing Exercise Staying busy was always key, but the body does have to have rest not to be fooled that one will do it for you.  Just one will not do it.  I want to continue to breathe healthily and to have a pep in my step so smoking is not an option for me. SINAO  I  have to do something different.  I used adult coloring books that really helped me stay calm.  I still have a few on hand just in case I need it.  Gosh, sometimes our emotions can take us in so many different directions.  Just know that whatever you are going through will not last forever and NOPE no matter what will keep you free.  So Breathe, Come here, Blog, Vent, Read all that is going on.  You are not alone.  The EX Community is one of a kind...So USE It.  I do. I just took another deep breath. 

My mantra: Not in my hand, not on my lips, not in my mouth, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, not in my clothes, not up in my nose, not in my throat, I will not choke because no matter what I will not smoke. Good night all.  God Bless,


Stay Close, Hang tough, Never give in Never give up.  One day at a time.  1876 days free.  The journey continues...

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Sending this blog to the top of the list. My computer is under the weather. Happy Martin Luther King day!

I wanted to make sure it is seen. I think only those who commented are able to see the notice in the inbox.  Thank you Thomas.  Happy MLK Day


I Won't Smoke Over It!

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Jan 17, 2020

I started writing this blog last night with only two completed sentences  I saved it to draft. I could laugh if not for crying.  Some of you may know that my oldest sister has been very ill. 

After coming here this morning and reading the blogs I thought it would be a good time to share.  I think we EXers have the same mindset or on the same page at times when it comes to never ever taking another puff.  indingrl.01.06.2011   and Marilyn.H.July.14.14.  (Your recent blogs) 

 I will try to be as brief as possible. So here goes.

After having spent 8-10 hrs at the hospital with my sister these last two days, last night as I stepped on the elevator to leave that little sneaky addiction put the thought of smoking in my brain.  Gosh, I said to myself. The addictive brain can be very sneaky when it thinks you are vulnerable. That is why the elders continuously say to the newbies

be vigilant, don't let your guard down. 

 If I had not made a commitment to never take another puff, I could be fooled to believe that I need to smoke.  Since I have educated myself, deprogrammed, debunked the brainwashing and stopped the stinkin thinkin this was just a flicker of a thought.  I understand the law of addiction therefore I did not allow this thought to fester but I recognized it for what it was, an EXcuse that could have been used to take a puff.  Yes, EXcuses that is all they ever are. I have used and heard a lot of them  (fill in the blank)  ___________  

 I am thankful to be at a place on this journey to recognize that there is nothing in life that I have to smoke over.  It is easier to say having EXperienced that I can.  By relearning behavior and thinking I know that smoking does not help a thing.  NOTHING. NADA, ZERO.  Smoking was an addictive reaction to my cares and woes both highs and lows but now I can EXperience life and my emotions without sucking on a stinking stick of poison, wrapped in white paper, placed in pretty packaging, given a creative name along with the lie of "feel good".  With a sincere commitment never to take another puff ever; along with the support here I am free. Thank God for deliverance.  So today, I commit again: not in my hand, not in my mouth, not on my lips, not in my lungs, not on my tongue, not in my clothes, not up my nose, not in my throat I will not choke because I will not smoke  Yes, my sister is ill but smoking is not going to help her in any shape form or fashion.  Don't be fooled by the addiction.  4 years 358 days with a flicker the addictive brain can awaken but with a flicker, I can let it go.  NOPE, No matter. 

Do not be fooled, you do not have to smoke PERIOD.  

Say it with me..... No matter what I will not smoke. It is possible NO MATTER WHAT


Dig Deep

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Oct 23, 2019

There is one thing certain in life, everything must change, nothing remains the same. Life does not stop when we quit smoking/vaping but it may appear to intensify when we quit. The keyword is "appear"  We just have not yet developed the skillsets to deal with raw emotions which were once clouded by nicotine addiction. When circumstances arise, whether good or bad, we have to respond. How we respond depends upon our character and resolve which comes from our inner strength. One thing I can attest to for certainty; quitting smoking can help to develop your inner strength if you tap into it.  If you dig deep enough you will achieve more than you could ever imagine. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from.  Inner strength can be attained to overcome life’s challenges including quitting smoking or vaping.  Quitting smoking can be a catalyst for developing your inner strength. Learn to tap into it to go the distance to remain smokefree. Digging into your inner strength(resilience) is not easy. It has to be forged. Realize that it can be forged through a determined effort of NOPE "NO MATTER WHAT".  Start thinking of quitting as an opportunity to attain an inner strength to meet the challenges of quitting smoking which builds a solid foundation to help in other areas of your life.  A wise elder once told me.

"If you can quit smoking you can do anything".

There are many on this site who daily use their inner strength to achieve their goals, dreams, and to meet challenges by not giving up and going the distance NO MATTER WHAT.  Digging deeper is the resolve to overcome any obstacle to become stronger. It’s simple to understand, difficult to do but it is doable. It becomes easier as we continue to not give up.  How do we do it? First, no one is strong all of the time. Second, sometimes we may not meet that challenge but the idea is to never give up with the resolve to be and do better. There’s only one roadblock to achieving inner strength, and that is complacency.  A wise elder one once told me

to not be too confident.

I was a little taken back but I finally understood but I use the word "complacent" Do not become complacent. Need I explain? If so let me know.

Here are a few things that you can do to tap into your inner strength.

Learn to Relax and Take Care of Yourself. It takes mental and physical work to quit smoking. You have to have energy. Find a way to recharge. Breathing and finding a quiet place worked for me. Staying as calm as possible was an added plus.  Make sure you get plenty of rest. Being tired is a trigger. Recharge by EXercising, meditating, taking a bath, or reading,  Come here read, study blog, research. I did. Prioritize and choose what you will tackle. Do not become overwhelmed. Step back and take the time to recharge, we’re in a much better position to handle whatever comes our way It’s also important to take care of our physical needs. Make a conscious effort to eat healthy food and get an adequate amount of sleep each night.

Spend time with positive people. Negative people have a tendency to complain and make other’s lives more difficult and deplete your energy which can be an unnecessary burden when trying to build inner strength. There is only one certainty in life, and that is change. Grab hold of a mentor here and read their blogs. You may have to change people along with places and things.

Forgive yourself. Let the past be the past. It’s very important that we have the ability to forgive ourselves from any and all past mistakes that we’ve made and move forward. Along with forgiving ourselves. Forgive others.

Build Confidence. Reflect on past accomplishments and what roadblocks you have overcome. Make comparisons of what you are going through with what you have already achieved. This reinforces that obstacles can be overcome despite the difficulty. Remember no one is perfect. It’s often inner strength that is the deciding factor.

Positive affirmations. Affirmations can be an important part of our inner being. When cultivating a stronger self, come up with some daily positive affirming phrases/mantras to state. Tell yourself that you are valuable. Positive Affirmations and Support

Be Accountable Daily Pledge Making EXcuses cannot build inner strength. If there is a situation that we’re responsible for and we fail, we must own it. Take responsibility for our actions. If a mistake is made, admit it, forgive, and move on. I'm included. I am still learning and continuous work in progress.

If I have offended someone forgive me. If you would like we can talk about it.

Set Goals Step by step one day at a time. My first goal- 24 hours. I believed if I could go 24 hours I could do the rest. Here I am. 1732 DOF or more.  Some days I had to do it one day at a time. The next goal was 3 days, then 2 weeks, 30 days then. 60, 90, 120, 365, 2 yrs and now a forever quit.  Sometimes, we want things now. This cannot be so with anything worthwhile, but we can expect to earn inner strength with every step that we take towards the achievement of our goals. Nothing breeds confidence, accomplishment and inner strength like progress. Progress is one of the keys to building stronger versions of ourselves. So embrace the progress and be better for it. Gosh, I love it!

Celebrate your milestones In being stronger expect to earn rewards. When things begin to come to fruition, make sure to savor moments. They are worth celebrating. Celebrating Milestones All of that hard work in developing character has paid off and will continue to do so. Pet yourself on the back. Be your own champion and toot your horn.

Last thing. I love you God bless you all, Never give up, never give in, hang tough, stay close and connected, protect your quit.

A Recipe for a Forever Quit 


The Good Stuff

Posted by JACKIE1-25-15 Sep 13, 2019

 I have a few excerpts of wisdom and information from some articulate masterful bloggers that I would love to share. I believe new and old members can benefit from it. I am hoping that you take the time to review what I have here and/or go through the archives on your own.  There is an abundance of wealth in information, wisdom, inspiration, and encouragement on this site to help on your journey to freedom.  Some of these writers have gotten me through some of my toughest, hardest, emotional, need some love times with words of kindness, encouragement, and direction.  I just want to share a few.  I enjoy reading it and I feel it deserves to be shared. We are blessed.  Just a few...More to come.   


I thought it was my best friend - turned out it was a wolf in sheep's clothing! I thought I loved that come hither smell - turned out that it was stinkin thinkin! I thought I loved that ahhhh taste - turned out I was consuming arsenic - literally! I thought I was relaxing and relieving stress - turned out I was stealing life from myself like Dorian Grey!  I thought I was staying in shape by not being overweight - turned out I was killing myself from the inside out with every puff! I thought I was getting high on dopamine - turned out that I wasn't getting high on LIFE! Oh that wonderful fabulous smoky life before I quit! NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thomas3.20.2010  is our own online COPD EXpert.  Go to his content and read his blogs.  They will help 


Smoking is not just a bad habit, it’s an addiction. The only way to control “it” is to not feed it until it becomes dormant. The only way for it to stay dormant is to never have another one again to be guaranteed 100% of no relapse.

I call it Adulting 101. Tell yourself “No” or “NOPE” out loud. Don’t give yourself permission for the first one. You know what it will lead to so don’t do it. Quitting again does not necessarily get easier with addictions because its the previous permission(s) you gave yourself that can make it harder to say no to yourself again. It’s up to you to parent yourself. Tell yourself no and mean it.

Ladybug--7-3-12 Infamous Wisdom


 Every day, you get up and make the same choice---today, I choose not to smoke.

You need to put down the lights as well as the "full bodied" cigarettes---put them all down

You need to put them down and never pick them up again RIGHT NOW---don't wait for a "no stress" optimal period----it doesn't exist.

No Games---just No Smoking

Sootie,  (11-15-9)  her claim to fame...toughness. No bars holding. lol.  Read her content.



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So always believe in yourself. Always believe in your ability to win. Never run from your addiction but rather embrace it. Learn it. Know it. Keep it close so it can do you no harm. Never question your ability to succeed in your quest for freedom!

Chuck_Quit_2-20-2011  Takes me to church every time. 

It has to start somewhere . . .