When we quit smoking so many things go through our heads. We are pushed and pulled to take that one puff. We have told ourselves that we need a cigarette so many times that we have to reprogram those thoughts. There are so many ups and downs but if we believe in ourselves we can make it. We have to surrender and let go of our desire to smoke. Believe that you can and you will. By changing the mindset we do not have to smoke with the NOPE concept we can cross the threshold to freedom and stay there. One day at a time. Do what you have to do not to smoke. It is doable. Believe it!
That was my no smoking thought for today. "I won't go back"! As always we have a life that keeps happening but no matter what I will not go back to the pain of taking a deadly puff. I will not allow my addiction to be in control. It is not worth the grief, sorrow, guilt, agony or disdain for picking up again..Nothing is worth giving up the freedom I have from nicotine addiction. I chose to take a deep breath and suck it up. Sometimes we have to do just that...suck it up and keep moving. In the early days of my quit, I would keep my hands busy, cleaning, organizing, and yes washing dishes. lol. Even now if I have to, Yes, I will wash dishes or anything else that I need to do to distract from the urge/thought of a smoke. After 5.5 years I know that if I take a deep breath, dismiss the thought of smoking and move on I will be secure not to smoke. NOPE no matter what will keep my sanity. I know that fantasizing and romancing a cigarette could lead to trouble. So I brace myself, move out of the space that I am in,(literally)take a deep breath, and do something different. 101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke If you take this list and implement the things that you can do and not smoke you will make it through that 3-5 minutes of an urge and dismiss it. Now of course it takes practice of doing it over and over again until it sticks. Like spaghetti. The more you do it the easier it becomes. I call it reverse automatic pilot. We would automatically smoke when triggered now you learn that we can reverse the action and automatically not smoke. Turn AutoPilot to "OFF". Just Breathe. ..
Never give up, never give in, hang tough no matter what NOPE. Be willing to save your quit.
Life is going to happen if you keep living. Jackieism
But thank God for traveling mercy I am okay and I did not have the need to smoke. I have not written a blog lately but recently tried but somehow I did not save it soon enough. You all know how that goes sometimes. One day I will get those thoughts back. It was about "you can make it" There have been days my head could not relay a message of help to those who are challenged with quitting smoking. Right now I am popping in and out. It seems I just haven't had very much to say.and that I had said it all but that is not true. So much had been going on in my brain which was rather tired. I miss my dad and sister. I find myself still reaching out to them but they are no longer there. It is kind of weird to explain. I am not complaining because through it all God had been good. Therefore I take a deep breath and do my best to deal with life on life terms as Youngatheart.7.4.12 says and keep it moving.
I just want to make a quick observation.
I did not have the need to smoke
That is a big statement right there. Yes! After smoking for over 40 years and telling myself that I needed a cigarette every day not smoking is a major accomplishment. It took time for me to change my thought process to KNOW and BELIEVE that I did not NEED to smoke. If you want to get through the challenge of quitting smoking, start telling yourself that you do not need to have a cigarette. One of the greatest tools you can use
It can happen for you just like it happened for me. NOPE no matter what will keep you free.
Not in my hands, not on my lips, not in my lungs, not on my tongue, not up in my nose, not in my clothes, not in my throat, I will not choke because I will not smoke.
Love you guys, missing you. Thank you all for your love and support. Maybe when this is over we can do a mini-reunion. Zoom seems to be the going rage with live streaming and all. For the techno-savvy folk Anyway. Take care of yourself. Keep it going and be real with yourself and know that you can make it with the desire, determination, discipline, and direction., ( The D's another topic, soon to come). Just popping in to say NOPE will keep me free.
I can not say thank you enough for the love and support you have shown me over the last five years, including now.
I appreciate all the prayers and thoughts, words of encouragement, love, and support in this chapter of my journey.
I believe God has an answer to prayer and His will be done in our lives. My daddy lived to be 98 years. In just a few weeks his health declined. My sister of 73 years old had a great life serving the Lord. I am thankful for the life and love our family shares. Both my sister and dad will see each other in Glory therefore in time I will be okay. SINAO. Love you all. Support is good but support with love is a lot better. Thanks for your love and support. God bless, peace out. I will talk with you later.
I am going to be very brief and to the point. Monday morning, I buried my sister. Monday evening my father passed. I say yes to no smoking. I say yes, no matter what I will not smoke. I say yes, I can do this. I say Yes, it will be alright. I say yes we have ups and downs but I say yes, I will not take a puff no matter what., I say yes NOPE. I say yes, SINAO for me. Say Yes! If I can do it. You can too. Just say yes you can! Just say Yes! I am free and yes I will stay free.
One sure way to protect your quit is to recognize when you are vulnerable and be willing to do something about it. These last few days have been filled with ups and downs. Life is like that. Sometimes it levels out sometimes it doesn't seem that way. You can use the word trigger instead of vulnerable. If you have a trigger to smoke if you are around smokers, don't be around smokers. If you have a trigger to smoke if you take a drink, don't drink. I call that "Keep it Simple"... I may pass on that cognac on the counter. Oh well. I have to recognize and not be tricked by my addiction.
It takes mindfulness to go directly back to the basics of what has kept you quit. Part of that for me is the EX community. So here I am doing what I did in the beginning. Blogging. Don't know where this is going to go but I know if you are vulnerable one sure thing you can do is come here and blog.
Another tip that worked for me is deep breathing. It seems I have been deep breathing a lot lately. Perch my lips like a duck. I hope they do not get stuck. Practice this Breathing Exercise Staying busy was always key, but the body does have to have rest not to be fooled that one will do it for you. Just one will not do it. I want to continue to breathe healthily and to have a pep in my step so smoking is not an option for me. SINAO I have to do something different. I used adult coloring books that really helped me stay calm. I still have a few on hand just in case I need it. Gosh, sometimes our emotions can take us in so many different directions. Just know that whatever you are going through will not last forever and NOPE no matter what will keep you free. So Breathe, Come here, Blog, Vent, Read all that is going on. You are not alone. The EX Community is one of a kind...So USE It. I do. I just took another deep breath.
My mantra: Not in my hand, not on my lips, not in my mouth, not on my tongue, not in my lungs, not in my clothes, not up in my nose, not in my throat, I will not choke because no matter what I will not smoke. Good night all. God Bless,
Stay Close, Hang tough, Never give in Never give up. One day at a time. 1876 days free. The journey continues...
I started writing this blog last night with only two completed sentences I saved it to draft. I could laugh if not for crying. Some of you may know that my oldest sister has been very ill.
After coming here this morning and reading the blogs I thought it would be a good time to share. I think we EXers have the same mindset or on the same page at times when it comes to never ever taking another puff. indingrl.01.06.2011 and Marilyn.H.July.14.14. (Your recent blogs)
I will try to be as brief as possible. So here goes.
After having spent 8-10 hrs at the hospital with my sister these last two days, last night as I stepped on the elevator to leave that little sneaky addiction put the thought of smoking in my brain. Gosh, I said to myself. The addictive brain can be very sneaky when it thinks you are vulnerable. That is why the elders continuously say to the newbies
be vigilant, don't let your guard down.
If I had not made a commitment to never take another puff, I could be fooled to believe that I need to smoke. Since I have educated myself, deprogrammed, debunked the brainwashing and stopped the stinkin thinkin this was just a flicker of a thought. I understand the law of addiction therefore I did not allow this thought to fester but I recognized it for what it was, an EXcuse that could have been used to take a puff. Yes, EXcuses that is all they ever are. I have used and heard a lot of them (fill in the blank) ___________
I am thankful to be at a place on this journey to recognize that there is nothing in life that I have to smoke over. It is easier to say having EXperienced that I can. By relearning behavior and thinking I know that smoking does not help a thing. NOTHING. NADA, ZERO. Smoking was an addictive reaction to my cares and woes both highs and lows but now I can EXperience life and my emotions without sucking on a stinking stick of poison, wrapped in white paper, placed in pretty packaging, given a creative name along with the lie of "feel good". With a sincere commitment never to take another puff ever; along with the support here I am free. Thank God for deliverance. So today, I commit again: not in my hand, not in my mouth, not on my lips, not in my lungs, not on my tongue, not in my clothes, not up my nose, not in my throat I will not choke because I will not smoke Yes, my sister is ill but smoking is not going to help her in any shape form or fashion. Don't be fooled by the addiction. 4 years 358 days with a flicker the addictive brain can awaken but with a flicker, I can let it go. NOPE, No matter.
Do not be fooled, you do not have to smoke PERIOD.
Say it with me..... No matter what I will not smoke. It is possible NO MATTER WHAT
There is one thing certain in life, everything must change, nothing remains the same. Life does not stop when we quit smoking/vaping but it may appear to intensify when we quit. The keyword is "appear" We just have not yet developed the skillsets to deal with raw emotions which were once clouded by nicotine addiction. When circumstances arise, whether good or bad, we have to respond. How we respond depends upon our character and resolve which comes from our inner strength. One thing I can attest to for certainty; quitting smoking can help to develop your inner strength if you tap into it. If you dig deep enough you will achieve more than you could ever imagine. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from. Inner strength can be attained to overcome life’s challenges including quitting smoking or vaping. Quitting smoking can be a catalyst for developing your inner strength. Learn to tap into it to go the distance to remain smokefree. Digging into your inner strength(resilience) is not easy. It has to be forged. Realize that it can be forged through a determined effort of NOPE "NO MATTER WHAT". Start thinking of quitting as an opportunity to attain an inner strength to meet the challenges of quitting smoking which builds a solid foundation to help in other areas of your life. A wise elder once told me.
"If you can quit smoking you can do anything".
There are many on this site who daily use their inner strength to achieve their goals, dreams, and to meet challenges by not giving up and going the distance NO MATTER WHAT. Digging deeper is the resolve to overcome any obstacle to become stronger. It’s simple to understand, difficult to do but it is doable. It becomes easier as we continue to not give up. How do we do it? First, no one is strong all of the time. Second, sometimes we may not meet that challenge but the idea is to never give up with the resolve to be and do better. There’s only one roadblock to achieving inner strength, and that is complacency. A wise elder one once told me
to not be too confident.
I was a little taken back but I finally understood but I use the word "complacent" Do not become complacent. Need I explain? If so let me know.
I have a few excerpts of wisdom and information from some articulate masterful bloggers that I would love to share. I believe new and old members can benefit from it. I am hoping that you take the time to review what I have here and/or go through the archives on your own. There is an abundance of wealth in information, wisdom, inspiration, and encouragement on this site to help on your journey to freedom. Some of these writers have gotten me through some of my toughest, hardest, emotional, need some love times with words of kindness, encouragement, and direction. I just want to share a few. I enjoy reading it and I feel it deserves to be shared. We are blessed. Just a few...More to come.
I thought it was my best friend - turned out it was a wolf in sheep's clothing! I thought I loved that come hither smell - turned out that it was stinkin thinkin! I thought I loved that ahhhh taste - turned out I was consuming arsenic - literally! I thought I was relaxing and relieving stress - turned out I was stealing life from myself like Dorian Grey! I thought I was staying in shape by not being overweight - turned out I was killing myself from the inside out with every puff! I thought I was getting high on dopamine - turned out that I wasn't getting high on LIFE! Oh that wonderful fabulous smoky life before I quit!
Thomas3.20.2010 is our own online COPD EXpert. Go to his content and read his blogs. They will help
Smoking is not just a bad habit, it’s an addiction. The only way to control “it” is to not feed it until it becomes dormant. The only way for it to stay dormant is to never have another one again to be guaranteed 100% of no relapse.
I call it Adulting 101. Tell yourself “No” or “NOPE” out loud. Don’t give yourself permission for the first one. You know what it will lead to so don’t do it. Quitting again does not necessarily get easier with addictions because its the previous permission(s) you gave yourself that can make it harder to say no to yourself again. It’s up to you to parent yourself. Tell yourself no and mean it.
Ladybug--7-3-12 Infamous Wisdom
Every day, you get up and make the same choice---today, I choose not to smoke.
Sootie, (11-15-9) her claim to fame...toughness. No bars holding. lol. Read her content.
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So always believe in yourself. Always believe in your ability to win. Never run from your addiction but rather embrace it. Learn it. Know it. Keep it close so it can do you no harm. Never question your ability to succeed in your quest for freedom!
Chuck_Quit_2-20-2011 Takes me to church every time.
On the night before 18 years ago, 246 people went to sleep in preparation for their morning flights. 2,606 people went to sleep in preparation for work in the morning. 343 firefighters went to sleep in preparation for their morning shift. 60 police officers went to sleep in preparation for morning patrol. 8 paramedics went to sleep in preparation for the morning shift of saving lives. None of them saw past 10:00 am Sept 11, 2001. In one single moment life may never be the same. This morning as you prepare for your day, never forget to kiss the ones you love, snuggle a little tighter, and never take one second of your life for granted.
I am fortunate to have become an EX. Along with that comes a very wise support system which I had never experienced until coming here. Now I am honored to be one of them an EXer...elder. I acknowledge the help, support, friendship, and love that I am given by my peers even when I am not perfect. This has been a magnificent journey of freedom for me. I love chronicling there words of wisdom that will be with me forever and today would love to share a few excerpts with more to come of the wisdom that has been the foundation of my successful 1685 days of freedom. Their wisdom helped me to develop a solid quit. Hopefully, you can take some of it that can be helpful to you.
Barbara145 (My Mentor)
You are never too old to quit smoking. I love my new life and the new me. If I can quit smoking, you can quit smoking. I promised myself no matter what I wanted, no matter what I was feeling a cigarette would never again be the solution. It is tough especially for the first 3 or 4 months and it is a journey.
Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 -.aka Sheri
The secret to quitting, I decided, was never to smoke again. Close the door on it totally and forever.
Not just "I hope", but not to open that door ever again. So all I had to do was not to smoke. And I decided I could do that. I didn't try to figure out the rest of my life, I didn't cement my plan into stone, I didn't even announce to anyone I was quitting. I quietly shut the door and refused to open it ever again.
freeneasy aka Jim
When you learn about quitting and nicotine addiction, you'll build confidence. You may even be more afraid of continuing to smoke than quitting." "I like to call them "smoking thoughts" rather than craves."
Yup, " I lost my quit" Translation: " I decided to smoke.""Once an addict always an addict. S.I.N.A.O.""A crave won't hurt you, smoking will.""No luck necessary. You're the boss of your quit"
froguelady_quit_3-16-11 – RIP
I will not smoke for today and that is how we become nonsmokers, one day at a time. Take care of you first. NOPE counts for No in some cases
Giulia - "G"
Each time you do something as a nonsmoker that you have never done before you just get stronger "When nothing is certain - EVERYTHING is possible!" And depending upon how you view that statement, the possibilities for good things happening are limitless.
jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 aka Dale
Nothing will do it for you except a decision and your willingness. As we get older it becomes "I can't do that anymore. Keep them away from your face!
If you have quit smoking and continue to smoke you are doing it wrong.
I am an addict. If I smoke even a drag I will open myself up to being back to a pack a day. I must guard my quit. One way I do this is to come here every day, make my pledge and read blog listen. This is how I've done it for all these days.....make a promise and KEEP IT!
Youngatheart.7.4.12 Gives the Facts of Life
Isn't it better to be an ex-smoker who thinks of a cigarette every once in awhile than a smoker who thinks about quitting ALL the time?
From our New Elders
@AnnetteMM aka "Amazing Annette"
I think that fighting addiction doesn't work long term because it's exhausting. Instead, the acceptance of it, owning it as part of who we are, is key to a forever quit. So when that weirdness descends I can let it in and let it bounce around in my head for a minute until I get to the eventual knowing that it's stupid and self-defeating and I don't do that anymore.
Daniela-3-11-2016 aka "Miss Positive"
We love our peers, we are all one, we belong together.
Not as former smokers, but as human beings.
We crave the love dispensed here unconditionally.
And we crave sharing that love.
I do, I am here because I am loved, and I am here because I want to give love, to newbies, to friends I made here, to complete strangers who are willing to take it.
And even if I don't understand some of the references to past social behaviors, or food, or cars, or kid's games, I still feel I belong. Because I learn it, I ask questions and someone will answer me.
And I am grateful for being here in this loving environment.
Education is the key to a successful quit. Never give up, Never give in, Hang tough, Stay close, Protect your quit it is your own. No matter what NOPE, Not One Puff Ever, smoking is not an option SINAO.
To learn more about our elders and their infinite wisdom use the tag @a wise elder once told to search blogs or go to my content and type a wise elder
The original blog Voices in My Head
...More to come
Yes, I can run marathons, obstacle courses, 5K's, fitness competitions but I still smoked. Out of 7 kids, I was the only one that was a long term smoker. Now as we age I wonder, will I be the first to go...because I smoked? No, they do not run marathons, nor watched their diets, but they did not smoke. I did. I sit and ponder why did I do that to myself?
I have a few clues. I can almost cry at the thought of so much wasted... because I smoked. Now, I wonder, what does the future hold for me ... because I smoked?
I have not been diagnosed with any smoking-related diseases, but will that day come? Should I not be concerned? Life is good and I have crossed the line of addiction with a firm commitment to never turn back Was it too late? Will I still have to suffer the consequences....because I smoked? These thoughts crossed my mind. Will I have to pay more of a price?
My answer for today: I can not see in the future. I can only live today to the fullest knowing that the use of the drug is behind me. I am blessed to breathe very efficiently and move well for a woman of my age group. Thank God. So many are not as fortunate. No matter how long I live, I have conquered the use of the drug nicotine for the rest of my life. I am free and the journey continues for I am firmly committed that I will forever protect my quit no matter what and never turn back ever again. Amen. Some say you can't say that because you do not know. I can, because I know that I know that I know!
If you are questioning whether you should quit or whether you can do this and have a forever quit. The answer is yes. If you have become a serial quitter, you don't have to be. Make a firm commitment to NOPE. NOPE no matter what can set you free. It is a choice to cross the line from addiction to a new life of freedom. One step at a time in the right direction to freedoms journey. It is never too late. Start today to truly live without smoking. With the help and support of the EX community, you can Have a new life and end the vicious cycle of addiction. 1646DOF I know! You can do it too.