(This is a response I wrote on one of Thomas' blogs back in 2016. Thought it might be a good stand-alone blog.)
Quitting takes guts and gumption. If you can't face the hard truth about your addiction, and your specific relationship with it, it's likely you'll continue to relapse time and again. And if you can't take some constructive critical behavior analysis, if you're that fragile, how do you expect to overcome this addiction? The Elders are not here to beat relapsers up. That serves no purpose and most relapsers do enough of that themselves. But we do want quitters to stand up for themselves (against their addiction) and also be able to stand alone, without us. That takes unvarnished Truth. We want to make them stronger, not weaker. What we're attempting to do is to teach relapsers to recognize that an excuse is simply a need cloaked in a lie. And sometimes, especially with serial quitters, that analysis needs to be particularly blunt.
To my mind it's the behavioral aspect of quitting that's the most difficult to overcome. Part of our education is self-analysis. Quitting is about learning to get over ourselves in order to get on with ourselves. Behavior modification takes work and one needs to be open-minded and able to receive constructive criticism. It’s not for the faint of heart.
Your success is our success. We want you to be the Champ of your quit. And to do that you have to pull up your britches, stick out your chest and say YES I CAN!