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Thoughts On Deleting Comments

Posted by Giulia Champion Jan 27, 2016

I spent quite a while composing what I considered a thoughtful  response to someone who had relapsed.  The purpose of which was to ultimately urge them to dig deeply into the reasons for the relapse and find out what opened that previously locked Option Door.  I also expressed my own to-the-point opinion on the usage of the word “slip.” The intent was to get this person to take responsibility for their actions.  They apparently did not appreciate my response, (nor that of some others)  felt that it was scolding, condescending and inconsiderate and thus deleted it.

There are other reasons one posts comments on blogs.  It is for the rest of the community that might be reading those responses as well.  It is part of the education one obtains here.  The varied opinions enable people to make up their own minds.  We often get into heated discussions about terms and methodology.  But the one thing we all agree upon is that smoking is slowly killing us and quitting is imperative.  

As I said in my response to this person: “...I don't have the same laissez faire attitude (if that's the right word? "the practice or doctrine of noninterference in the affairs of others, especially with reference to individual conduct") as many here.  And that's the beauty, I think, of this site.  We all get to speak our own individual truths.  And anybody here is welcome to take it or leave it as they will.”

What they are not welcome to do is delete it.  For though they may not have liked the response, they have prevented anyone else from reading it and perhaps gaining some knowledge from it - good, bad or ugly.  

However all is not lost when someone deletes your words.  (Especially if you keep a copy, which I do.)  For the process of responding in itself is a method of quit maintenance which lights it’s own fire in your brain and spurs you on to other, newer thoughts.  

Quitting is a tricky business.  Support is even trickier!



More on the subject:   Don't Delete................ 


EX Community Google Hangout

Posted by Giulia Champion Jan 11, 2016

For those times if and when the site goes down.......

Just a reminder for anybody who wants to join the hangout - PM me your Google name (I THINK I can just find you through your Google name rather than through your gmail address.  If not, you can always create another gmail address for the purpose of the hangout only and give me that.)

For those times when the site goes down, it's a place to get together to communicate.  It's also a place where, if you're having a bad craving, you can get some support!


Follow the Best of You

Posted by Giulia Champion Jan 10, 2016



It's late at night - or not -   could be the middle of the day - and you don't give a crap any more about your quit.  You've fought and fought to remain true and you're tired and SO WHAT??!!  That smoke, that cigarette  will alleviate the pain you're feeling, right?  It will give you the comfort you need.  At this moment.  It won't solve the problem, the REASON for the pain, but it will give you SOME form of comfort.  That comfort you so desperately need.   It will fill that empty space in your gut that's been aching ever since you quit.
Yeah.  It will.  For about 5 minutes.   And then that empty space will be right back.  But before you go back to another Day One, I want you to think this thing through.  Really think it through, not just act on the emotional, gut response.  That's just the addiction speaking.  Act solely on that - and you remain a slave.  Which you don't have to be.  Act solely on that, and you're back to another Day One which you don't have to be either.  It's a choice.  Really.  A choice.
Think.  Use what's between your ears.   It's there to help you!
OK, I can picture being in an emotional place where nothing matters.  "I don't care if I live or die.  Preferably the latter".  But - yet - there is this little thing within us that...wants to choose the best for us. And it's simply undeniable. That's why you came here in the first place.  Isn't it?  Isn't that why you're here?  Isn't that why you quit?  Isn't that the BEST OF YOU that's been whispering and then shouting to you?
Follow that voice.  Not the other one.  That needy whiny other one.  That other one will only lead you to failure in your quit and back to another Day One.  THINK - before you choose to give up your quit.  THINK before you give up on everything you've fought so hard for during the days - however many you have on your quit clock  (because every day smoke free is one that has been earned, not given).  EVERY day is precious.  Every day costs us something, yes, but gives us an equal if not greater reward.  Even if you don't know that right now - Hang in long enough and you will understand that.  Really you will.

THINK.  Just - THINK.  



Posted by Giulia Champion Jan 8, 2016

Looking to add some more fun games to my Games Group.  If you have any that you recommend, please drop a link either here or in the Group.  They're good for craving distractions!


Your Options

Posted by Giulia Champion Jan 5, 2016

What are your options?

Wish you could quit
Quit and wish you could smoke
Quit and then smoke and then quit again
Close the door on the option to smoke

Give up your quit.

Stick to your quit.

I’ve opted  for the latter.  YOU?



Posted by Giulia Champion Jan 1, 2016

If you're here to make a pledge to quit because you've decided without any prior thought to do so - think again.  This is not just a place for end-of-the year New Year's resolutions.  The "Oh I REALLY NEED TO QUIT SMOKING" cry and so "THIS YEAR I'll really DO IT!"  And "New Year's is the PERFECT TIME!"  We've all been there, attempted that.  For most of us that New Year's resolution was just a wishful thought based on hope and what our inner wisdom told us we should do for the benefit of our health.  It was a beautiful, but brief, emotional desire, supported by very little else than the "I SHOULD” and “I WISH I COULD."
Quitting takes so much more than that.  It  takes all sorts of thoughtful supportive measures.  It takes desire, yes, but desire is not the deciding factor.  Knowledge, dedication, commitment, sacrifice, homework, perseverance...  all the words we really don't want to hear.  That's what quitting takes.  Well, the lasting kind, anyway.   We want it to be easy.  We want to take a pill and awaken the next day craving free.  Doesn't happen.  YOU have to do the work necessary to achieve the success you want.  YOU have to make and take the time.  YOU have to learn and apply that learning and you may have to make some sacrifices along the way.  Are you willing?  It's an incredibly empowering journey.  You'll learn things about  yourself you never knew  And they are positively THRILLING!
No, it's not an easy ride.  Smoking has consumed your days and twilights.  For YEARS.  It has consumed most of your being  in more ways than you have even considered - mentally, physically and spiritually.  But you'll discover all that if you stick around and, well - just read.   In order to overcome this addiction, you have to consume something else.   A different mindset.  Our brains, unfortunately were sabotaged without our knowledge when we took those first few puffs.  But knowledge gives us the keys necessary to unlock the door to our Freedom.  It's OUR choice.   YOUR choice.
What will you choose?
This is a one-day-at-a-time journey.  Get through today and you will find it will aid your tomorrow.  Each smoke-free day builds upon the next and adds strength and encouragement to those days which follow.
Come pledge with us..  I dare ya! 

Let us join hands (the newly quit and the old faithfuls) in this  New Year Pledge by clicking the following link:  A New Year - A New Pledge


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