I just happened upon this. Watch it. Learn from it. It's potent mind medicine for those of you who still need it..
I just happened upon this. Watch it. Learn from it. It's potent mind medicine for those of you who still need it..
Came across this. Liked it. And wanted to share it.
Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
because it means you've made a difference.
It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who
are also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,
and they can become your blessings.
Stay strong. Stay true.
Happy Thanksgiving Everybody
Jackie prompted the thought for this blog.
“Thanks for challenging me to be the best at my quit.” I didn’t know I was doing that until she said it on my page. But it’s true. That’s EXACTLY what I try to do here. I don’t let you get away with anything. I challenge you when you are weak. I don’t need to challenge you when you’re strong. (What would be the point?) And I come across at times like bad ass for that and that's ok. Because if you can’t take the harsh truths about excuses and go into relapse whining (which is different from regular old whining), you won’t get past the point of no return.
And THAT’S how you achieve longevity in this journey. Getting PAST the Point of No Return. Getting PAST the stage of thinking about a cigarette every day. Getting PAST the point of being jolted by surprise cravings. Getting PAST being a victim to this addiction and instead - taking control of it yourself.
It’s also about getting PAST the HOPE that you can smoke. The hope that, “well, I can just have one cigarette tonight on this celebratory occasion,” or “well my entire life fell apart today, so I’m entitled to this one cigarette,” or “--------------“ (you name the excuse for yourself.) But then recognize it for what it is - an EXCUSE. And get PAST it. Stay true, remain steadfast, understand what an excuse is and deny it. And if you do so - you cannot fail.
It’s really very simply. You don’t have to want to quit. But you do have to CHOOSE to quit. And commit with everything you’ve got. And everything you didn’t know you had.
I KNOW you can quit. Because I’ve seen the weakest of the weak do so on here. And they have become strong through commitment. Which indicates to them that they weren’t really weak to begin with. Ya hear me?
In case you don't think we Elders know what it's like... I wrote this on the 54th day of my quit back on the first support site I joined.
I have lost my sense of humor and am not enjoying myself. Oh, I suppose and hope it's only temporary. Can I just vent a little here? Yeah, I know I can.
So in January I got hit in the eye by a tennis ball and my humorous vitreous separated from my retina. Was told to lay low. So I did. I am not a person who likes laying low. I'm a CHARGE ahead type. Ok, so I see dark spider webs floating across that eye and Olympic gold flashing circles now and then. And my eye sight is a lot worse in that eye. But I can deal with that. Then in Feb. my tooth was killing me. That made me lay low. Then I stopped smoking March 1st. And we all know what THAT's like. Then I had to have the tooth extracted. I know, lots of people are missing teeth, but this was my first. Then the beginning of Apr. my achilles were so bad I went to an orthopedic surgeon. He put me in a walking cast and said wear it for a month, then do physical therapy for two months. Forget that. I am wearing the cast but began PT immediately.
Now I'm about as frustrated as one li'l ole non-smoker can get. It's just been one thing after another. (Gary, you know.) And as we all know stopping smoking changes metabolism - slows it. AND makes one eat more. Or WANT to eat more. And I HAVE been eating more. Trying to eat non fattening more, but it's still more.
Finally got so disgusted with the way I looked I started doing at home weight workouts again. Which is all fine and dandy but doesn't do a thing for taking off the weight. And I WANT TO PLAY TENNIS and I CAN'T. And I want to do aerobic workouts and I CAN'T. And I want to chain saw and haul wood and I CAN'T. And I'm PISSED! And I'm not thrilled that I'm not smoking. I don't feel all wonderful and free and healthy and like I'm gonna live forever. I feel like I want a cigarette and can't have one.
No, that's not true. I don't want a cigarette and I can have one.
Oh I don't know if I want a cigarette or not but I'm in turbulence. And thoughts say I felt happy and satisfied when I smoked. Well, satisfied at least. Definitely satisfied. And there's still an emptiness in my gut, an unsatisfied feeling. And I truly believe smoking would cure that. After I got over the dizziness. It would not solve my problems, but it would cure the unsatisfied feeling. It would make me feel replete. And replete would mean happy.
HOWEVER, I won't smoke. Period. I know that it is simply my programming that has made me feel the way I do. It is not truth. The Truth is the way I was before I ever began smoking. The Truth is that I don't need a cigarette to feel replete, that I am replete without it.
the truth is - that doesn't help.
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I believe what creates a long-term quitter is that one sentiment: "HOWEVER, I won't smoke. Period." (I didn't know that at the time, of course. It's only in retrospect that I've come to understand that.) No matter what happens, no matter how much you may want one, the answer to the desire of putting a cigarette in your mouth, lighting it and inhaling it, has always got to be NOPE.
The good news is that that lack of satisfaction, repleteness I spoke of - does not last forever. The good news is that now, rather than kill for a cigarette, I would kill if someone tried to force me to smoke one. The good news is - I don't have to do that any more. And neither do YOU!
Be free. Hang in until it happens for you. Then stay free. No matter what!
This is how to deal with him - be a samurai! (She's 9 years old I believe, in this video.)
Just pretend you're a Samurai and old Nico won't have a chance!
This is definitely a work in progress, we’ve learned a few things during the past week about how to chat. First of all it’s a bit complicated and confusing until you figure it out. Once you have the basics, it’s easy to chat and/or video with someone.
I originally had told people to PM me with their Gmail address if they wanted to be included, but I now believe that’s not necessary. One can search just for a Gmail on-line name and send out an invite that way. So if you’re loath to give me your Gmail address but want to be included, try giving me your Gmail name only.
You must have a Gmail account and a Google+ account in order to use Chat. It’s easy to get one. From y0ur Gmail account click on the box with the 9 small circles to the left of your avatar. When you hover over it will say Google Apps. Click on it and then find the Google+ icon. From there it should give you instructions. To go directly to Google+ type www.google.plus.com in your browser window.
One of the things that we’ve discovered is that privacy can be an issue. So it’s important to create your settings the way you want them.
From https://plus.google.com/ (The Google + home page) hover your cursor over the HOME icon on the left under the colored Google+ sign. You will be presented with a dropdown box of options. Wen you click on Profile it will take you your Profile Page. If you then click on About and scroll down, you will see what others are seeing when they click on your profile. There are Edit links whereby you can change the information. Since I wanted total privacy I gave no information when I signed up for the account, except a false birthdate (because your birthday is required). I think Google+ is similar to Facebook in some ways as far as contacts and circles and shared content and who you let in to see what, or not. (I’ve never used Facebook, so I can’t say for sure.)
To change settings hover over the HOME icon (in Google+) and then click on Settings. You will be presented with choices.
The following link will give you information that can help you create the settings and notifications you wish. “Choose how you share information on your Google+ profile”
I think your Gmail settings are a bit different than your Google+ settings.
You can create a second Gmail account just for the purpose of chat should you wish - a few of us did. Sign into your normal Gmail account and then click on your avatar. You’ll be presented with the option to add an account. Once the account is added you can come into your Google+ account from there. Whichever Gmail account you sign into is where you’ll be in Google+. You can switch back and forth between them with ease.
A few other things that we’ve discovered: If there are only 2 people in a chat you can delete it. If there are more than that it remains there forever. You can LEAVE the chat, but the chat itself and what has been said is there for life. You cannot delete a comment you’ve made. (Dale I’m sure likes that aspect! Lol) Archiving a chat just removes it from YOUR chat list, not from anybody else’s.
If you want to be notified when someone places content on a chat in which you’ve been involved, locate the chat, click on the Options gear and select Notifications, then Save. You can have several chat windows open at the same time. For instant we have gone back and fort from the EX COMMUNITY chat to a private chat with 2 or 3 people.
How To find Someone in Chat/Hangouts
Once you log in to Chat or Hangouts, recent contacts will appear. These may be users you have chatted with recently, or ones you email frequently. There is also a search box above your recent contacts. Here, you can search for anyone with a Gmail account. The first time you connect with someone, you may need to first click the “Invite to chat” link to the right of their name. They will then have to approve your request before you can use Chat or Hangouts to contact them.
Apparently you may need to accept a “plug in” in order to use chat and/or video. (Depending on your browser.) It’s a one-time thing. If that should pop up, allow it. Else you won’t be able to chat.
You can always get back to any chat you want simply by clicking on the chat (assuming you haven’t “Left” it.) Like the EX COMMUNITY chat. If you have LEFT it (on the chat window - settings gear icon - Leave) and want to be invited back in, let me know. If you don’t “leave” it, then you can return any time you want. (From Google+ click on the quotation marks - upper right - and you’ll be presented with a list of chats you’ve had.)
And if you have your notifications set to be notified, when anyone posts you’ll hear a little chime sound. At least that’s what’s so on my computer. You could always turn your speakers off if it bugs you or change your setting to notifications off.
Shawn and Terrie and I have gotten pretty comfortable with it. (Feel free, both of you, to make any corrections or additions to what I’ve put here.) But we are still definitely in the learning process. It’s fun. Frustrating as all get out at times, but fun.
If you want to participate let me know and I’ll do my best to help you.