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When it rains...

Posted by Daniela-3-11-2016 Aug 12, 2017

What a lucky dog I am: after having the storm damage, and the roof replaced this morning (and being up since 5:00 am waiting for the crew), had some lunch and went to take a little nap; and little it was; it felt I could not breathe anymore.

 

Guess what, they killed something to my AC unit which resides on the Roof!!! So now I have 85 degrees in the house, the big fan running full blast and having to wait 3-7h till an AC technician can come over...at least he committed for today, and hoping they did not killed but a connection somewhere, and it can be repaired tonight.

 

Wish me luck, please, pray, keep your fingers crossed, and as someone was telling me this morning, I will not smoke over that; leave the house and go shopping in an air conditioned mall as soon as hubby gets home, you bet!!!

Watched him till he made his way behind the entertainment center.  I hope he makes it out of the house before the cats get up.  They are good for a home, and was rainy and stormy last night; he might have looked for a shelter.

Not bigger than a safety pin, the pic is as close as he let me be without moving away.

 

Waiting for a team of roofers to replace the damaged roof.  About three weeks ago, a microburst selected our home, and left half of the house uncovered.  And of course the insurance company says only the impacted half needs replaced, the rest of the roof is great, yeah, right!  We got a good deal from the roofer to put it up 13 years ago, and will pay out of pocket to have it all replaced.  Not sure they will work today, it rained last night, it is still overcast and windy, they might just reschedule.

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Saying Hello

Posted by Daniela-3-11-2016 Aug 6, 2017

And I am sorry again for not showing up as I used to do. 

 

Life has sometimes a way of getting to us and change the way we feel about being with people; even those people we love and are so grateful for being in our life when we needed them.  And this has been me lately; on the bright side, as for many of us here, the non-smoking days are accumulating, every single one in my favor; on another hand health issues are leaving me confused, lacking clear direction when it comes to whose advice to follow. 

 

But things seem to get some definition in my mind, all I have to do now is follow through, one step at the time.

 

Hoping things are well with you all, hugs and love!

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Checking in

Posted by Daniela-3-11-2016 Jul 19, 2017

I need to make my apologies for staying away for a little while now.  Work is slowly but surely killing me, I told my boss today something is got to give; she will have to make some changes to the schedule, 2-3 sometimes 4 days/week working 12-14h, plus some weekends it is becoming hard for me.  She made some promises today.

 

I hope everyone is well, staying quit, and eventually I will have the time to catch up on all the news.

 

Had to check my days of freedom, "495 Days Since I Quit Smoking" sounds pretty good to me.

 

In the spirit of honesty, there were many days and evenings, and nights when I thought about smoking.  No later than today, I passed a young man smoking in his car with the window down and thought to myself "lucky you, still young, you have plenty of time to quit, I had my "fun" for enough years", and kept driving while chewing on some cashew nuts. Was I jealous? Yes...Did I go to buy myself some? No.  We are making a choice every day to keep our freedom from nicotine.  It is what we ex-smokers do, every hour of every day, week after week.  And if I still "miss" it, I am patiently waiting for 2 sets of seasons, when my feelings will catch up with my reason.

 

For our younger quitters, I am so proud of you making the right decision early in life!

 

Have a wonderful evening/night all of you my friends!

My son is my pride; there is nothing in this world I love more than I love him.  It was last week I shared with him how I am starving myself in order to get to a better weight, and lighten the task of the liver.  And he asks me: "Wasn't it easier to quit smoking than it is to lose weight?" And I never thought of it this way...but here goes.

 

When you quit smoking you get through the first couple of weeks, then the first month, then the first 6 months.  By then you already know pretty well how to stay quit, and things are just progressing along if you learn to use NOPE, and make it work for you. And know you will always make the choice not to smoke anymore.

 

When you are working on your weight, not only you have to be pretty much hungry all the time, but you are bombarded with food images as long as your eyes are open: your fridge, TV, food trucks on the road, lunches or snacks at work, restaurants, cafes on the surface streets, if you go for a walk in a populated neighborhood....and I could just continue.

 

This is for all the EX beginners, or for the "I am thinking about quitting smoking" out there:

 

Quitting smoking is not easy, but it is easier than many other things you have to do in life:

lose weight,

keep a regular exercise program,

raise a kid,

make a new home from scratch, several times,

change your residence from a country to another one,

be proficient in a new language, or two

change careers several times, and make them earn you a living. 

and these are all things I have experienced, I am sure everyone can add to the list.

 

Please just do it, the big regret I have is I had not done it sooner, it is feasible, and easier than many other things.

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Learning to drink

Posted by Daniela-3-11-2016 Jun 3, 2017

A little late in life, right, nearing 60 and having a 1/2 glass Rum and Coke (1 shot of Rum and 1/2 can of Coke, I hope I have the right recipe)! 

Hubby is to blame for it, lately we manage to fight even over the phone.  He worked this morning, and he told me last night: "I am stopping by Trader Joe's on the way back, what do you need?"  Me: "Nothing, thanks"; Him: "Think of something" Me: "OK, please get me Gluten free sesame oyster crackers" Him: "What is that?" Me "If you ask me, I am telling you, you can find it as you walk the frozen aisle, from the meat section towards the outside door, about your eye level, above frozen meals, on the first shelf (there are only 2)".  And with that we go to sleep. 

 

Today 12:30 pm, He calls: "I am walking into Trader Joe's, what do you need?"  Me: "Nothing", Him: "You said something last night, I am walking that aisle, let me read you what I see: sticks, whole grain crackers, chocolate covered pretzels" and the list goes on and on...I say " please forget it and come home" Him: "no, I am going to the other store to get bread" Me: "you have enough for the whole next week and more in the freezer" Him: "Why do I even call you, I can go where I want and buy what I want" and with that the "communication" ends.

 

If you know what I am talking about please type "Yes".

 

I hope I made you smile, now I do, but it is after I had a drink, and since for me smoking was never associated with drinking, guess what, I don't feel like smoking, rather, take a nap....

 

Wait....he just got home...he found my crackers and got me 3 (three) packages.  I don't want to know what else he purchased, but I am sure our freezer will have a hard time keeping up with the content. This isn't mine, but I can't take a pic right now, he is unloading...

 

Am I a bad wife???

 

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Our Reaction

Posted by Daniela-3-11-2016 Mar 25, 2017

Some years ago I was reading many self help books.

It was from one of them I took the formula:

E + R = O

Events + Reaction = Outcome

The only way we can change an outcome is our reaction; event will always come our way, we can't stop them.  But we can adjust the way we react to events to impact the outcome.

 

It is the same way with smoking: if we adjust our reaction to positive or negative events in our lives, electing to not include smoking, it will keep our EX status intact. 

Loving my DOF today, 345, and hoping to be here when I’ll celebrate the 3456 DOFs..

So what did I learn so far on my recovery journey?

  • Quitting smoking is absolutely the best Health decision I made in my life
  • Quitting smoking is not by far as difficult as it might seem Before you engage on the recovery journey
  • Quitting smoking does Not have to be Hard; it is your attitude that makes it Easy or not: be happy about the craves, as they are the proof you have quit smoking, look forward to tomorrow being another smoke free day, another day added to your Freedom. If thinking about tomorrow is too far, take it one hour at the time until you get there
  • Quitting smoking won’t make you lose friends;
  • You will lose your Smoking Buddies; I have lost 2 work buddies, thought to be my “friends” after over 15 years of working/smoking together; hard life lesson, but I realized they were never real friends to start with, I was “needed” just as company, and to make them feel better about their addiction
  • You will make New Friends, real friends, friends who are supporting your great decision; plenty of these in the real life, even more here, in the virtual world, people who have been through the same things as you, who love you, encourage you, help you, are proud of you, make you feel good about yourself and your recovery
  • You will learn the New You, what you actually like and dislike, and the courage you gained to say it as it is
  • You will start Loving You for who you really are, be gentler, more appreciative about your qualities, and more acceptant about your weak points; we are all human and we have it all…
  • You will learn Tolerance and love of your peers, more forgiveness, more sharing
  • You can start Giving yourself to this community and enjoy to see newer quitters who will appreciate your gift of sharing, it is like raising a healthy baby and being happy for every new acquisition the baby makes towards becoming an adult

And I will learn even more as the recovery is a journey…

You are all invited to stop by The EX Café    Wed 02.15.2017

There you can meet some of our elders (people who have quit 1 year or more), ask questions, grab a cup of coffee, just say Hi or share a smile!  There will always be someone to greet you, help you if you need help, or guide you to the right place on the site, or the right resource to help your quit stay strong and healthy!

 If you feel you have not been heard after posting in Blogs or Conversations, you can drop a line at the Café, use the @ followed by your post name or your user name, and we will come find you, and try our best to help!

 We really hope to see you soon, and be of service to you!

You are all invited to stop by EX Café  Tuesday 02.14.17

There you can meet some of our elders (people who have quit 1 year or more), ask questions, grab a cup of coffee, just say Hi or share a smile!  There will always be someone to greet you, help you if you need help, or guide you to the right place on the site, or the right resource to help your quit stay strong and healthy!

 If you feel you have not been heard after posting in Blogs or Conversations, you can drop a line at the Café, use the @ followed by your post name or your user name, and we will come find you, and try our best to help!

 We really hope to see you soon, and be of service to you!

Happy Valentines' day to all!

You are all invited to stop by The EX Café    Sat 02.11.2017

There you can meet some of our elders (people who have quit 1 year or more), ask questions, grab a cup of coffee, just say Hi or share a smile!  There will always be someone to greet you, help you if you need help, or guide you to the right place on the site, or the right resource to help your quit stay strong and healthy!

 If you feel you have not been heard after posting in Blogs or Conversations, you can drop a line at the Café, use the @ followed by your post name or your user name, and we will come find you, and try our best to help!

 We really hope to see you soon, and be of service to you!

You are all invited to stop by The EX Café Fri 02.10.17!

 

There you can meet some of our elders (people who have quit 1 year or more), ask questions, grab a cup of coffee, just say Hi or share a smile!  There will always be someone to greet you, help you if you need help, or guide you to the right place on the site, or the right resource to help your quit stay strong and healthy!

 

If you feel you have not been heard after posting in Blogs or Conversations, you can drop a line at the Café, use the @ followed by your post name or your user name, and we will come find you, and try our best to help!

 

We really hope to see you soon, and be of service to you!

You are all invited to stop by The EX Café Thur 02.09.17

 

There you can meet some of our elders (people who have quit 1 year or more), ask questions, grab a cup of coffee, just say Hi or share a smile!  There will always be someone to greet you, help you if you need help, or guide you to the right place on the site, or the right resource to help your quit stay strong and healthy!

If you feel you have not been heard after posting in Blogs or Conversations, you can drop a line at the Café, use the @ followed by your post name or your user name, and we will come find you, and try our best to help!

We really hope to see you soon, and be of service to you!

You are all invited to stop by Welcome to the EX Café     Wednesday 02.08.2017.

 

There you can meet some of our elders (people who have quit 1 year or more), ask questions, grab a cup of coffee, just say Hi or share a smile!  There will always be someone to greet you, help you if you need help, or guide you to the right place on the site, or the right resource to help your quit stay strong and healthy!

If you feel you have not been heard after posting in Blogs or Conversations, you can drop a line at the Café, use the @ followed by your post name or your user name, and we will come find you, and try our best to help!

We really hope to see you soon, and be of service to you!

And will start with the good news: the brain MRI came back negative for anything drastic; just “Mild chronic microvascular disease”, just a nice way of saying “just a little used up”, or the brain of a diabetic person…oh well.

And now the bad news is that the PCP Dr has no clue about the current symptoms, he just told me to go home and drink lots of water, and he wants to see me in 3 months…Yeah, like that is going to happen!!!  He had a student with him and really told me “I am sorry you are suffering but I got nothing”, insisting I go back to the GI Dr because it is probably the liver…  well I had fatty liver for probably about 5 years and I was walking like a pro 6 months ago, before the famous Cymbalta…

Anyways I took the big leap and made an appointment with a naturopathic Dr, she went to school in my town, and practices in my town, and she’s got some awesome reviews, from many patients, some  driving 3h, to be able to be seen in her office.  Her prices are not cheap, but she is the one stop shop, the new patient visit lasts for 2h, and is being preceded by a 15min complimentary first visit.  I scheduled the 15min on Wednesday morning, and will let you know how it goes.

A glimmer of hope from a direction I did consider for a while, but finally had the courage to go for it!

You all have a great evening, and keep it smoke free.

And for the newbies here, it feels so good when you are being asked “do you smoke” to answer, “I quit”, so keep being an EX, it is the right thing to be, no matter what challenge life serves us, you can deal with it as EX just as well (if not better) as before being one, and you get all the health benefits from being one!

NOPE