~~The real value of setting goals is not the recognition or reward, it's the person we become by finding the discipline, courage, and commitment to achieve them.~~ Unknown
"I'm sorry I let you down".
"I finally gave in".
When I read someone lost their quit, I don't think that they let me down no matter how many times I congratulated them for each quit milestone. I don't think that they are failures and I certainly don't think that they are losers.
And for those of you who have lost that precious quit, you shouldn't think so either. Honestly, I think beating yourself up just makes it easier to smoke really because at least you feel bad about it. Right?
You have to start over. And when you decide to start over, please start over with the right mind set. Don't think that if you don't start over we won't like you or we won't respond to you or you won't look like you're trying.
When you start over, find the discipline, courage, and commitment to quit successfully. No more "I hope I can do it this time". No more "I think I've got it".
When you quit, be disciplined. No excuses, no wavering. No maybes. Honor your commitment and courageously stay your quit course. It's the only way to quit successfully, you see. It's all about personal achievement, not popularity. It's about integrity, not 'fingers crossed'. It is about actively living a life that does not involve nicotine NO. MATTER. WHAT.
So when you set your quit, remember that its all about discipline, courage, and commitment. That's what will keep your quit. We can't. Feeling bad about yourself won't. And keeping that door cracked to 'I failed again' will only keep your relapse cycle moving in circles.
Discipline. Courage. Commitment. All you need for your quit.