~~She's got that whole purpose-driven, warrior queen, save the world type of vibe.~~ Unknown
I think I've been accused of this once or twice here :) Not exactly true but wouldn't it be great if I could??? If you could???? If someone could?!!
But we are each responsible for our behaviors, actions, changes. And it is up to us to learn, grow, stagnate, or revert. And we may whine, stamp, pout, or tantrum but the fact of the matter is that change doesn't care if we're ready....change occurs and we can accept or get left behind.
You are here. On the Ex site. Which means you either want to quit, are interested in quitting, or need to quit. Once you get any of these things in your head, please be warned...the only thing stopping you now is you. You'll find information, wisdom, support, advice, encouragement, coping skills, cheer leading, applause, tough love, gentle hugs, warm people, acceptance, knowledge, links, humor, honesty, spirit, joy, laughter, loss....you'll find it all here.
But the one thing you won't find here is your quit. That is something that is in you alone. And, trust me, it's there! You may be afraid or nervous or stubborn about it but your quit is waiting for you. To accept it. To quit battling yourself over "I can'ts" and "I wants" and "I shoulds". To accept your addiction. To accept the process of recovery. It's going to take you out of your comfort zone and into something complete foreign to your nature.....freedom.
So no, I don't really have that "save the world" kind of vibe. Because you can save yourself. You are the only one who can. But I will be here. As will Terrie and Dale and Shawn and Thomas and Giulia and Nancy and Wendy and Jackie and a host of others. All here to help you succeed. All here to guide you and to support you. But your quit? Only you have control over that. Your changes are happening or you wouldn't be here. Move with them rather than fighting them and I believe you'll have an easier time.
As for this warrior queen who is 1225+ days into her own quit....I think I'll go save the world......