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2015

~~Note to self:  None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an after thought.  Eat the delicious food.  Walk in the sunshine.  Jump in the ocean.  Say the truth that you're carrying  in your heart like hidden treasure.  Be silly.  Be kind.  Be weird.  There's no time for anything else.~~  Nanea Hoffman

When you look in the mirror, do you see all those things that make you sparkle?  The delightful smile....the twinkling eyes?  When you get dressed in the morning, do you see the strong body....the muscles in your legs?  Do you delight in your coffee making skills?  Do you enjoy the fresh smell of nature after rain?

Or.....

Do you avoid looking in the mirror because of your wrinkles....bad teeth....crazy hair?  Do you get dressed in slightly baggy clothes so no one can see you've put on some pounds?  Do you absentmindedly make and drink coffee as you silently plan your day....forgetting to look at the beauty of nature?

Mindfulness.  Being present in the moment.  Knowing you are good enough just as you are.  These things matter.....they make life mean something.  Taking pride in your quit.  Feeling your courage, your commitment, your integrity....honoring who you are.  These things also matter.  They make life mean something.

You can choose, of course.  But don't dismiss yourself so easily.  You matter.  You make life mean something to so many of us.  Value that.  Value yourself.  Love who you are....wrinkles and all.  You are perfect just as you are.  We all know that....but you have to as well. 

Be kind to yourself, my friends.  Be gentle.  Treat yourself as you are the most important person in the world....because you are.  Say the truth that you carry in your heart.....be silly, be kind, be weird. 

Merry Christmas to all!!  If you need a friend, a card, a gift, message me. 

Sheri

A little practical advice as you quit smoking: 1. Commit to your quit! Once you put them down, forget that you ever smoked. Find other, healthier ways to cope. 2. Be real! You won't die from craving a cigarette. You won't go crazy and the world won't end. Do NOT allow yourself to make a mountain out of your quit. 3. Give it time. Your body time to heal...your brain time to reprogram....yourself time to adjust to being a quitter. 4. Take better care of yourself. Start good habits and surround yourself with all you love. Give yourself the gift of life. 5. Don't take life so seriously!! Laugh, giggle, chortle, and guffaw. Life is just better when you laugh. 6. It's your quit so do it your way. You are the one who knows you best so quit your way. If whining makes you feel better, whine away. NRT it if you want to. Have a plan or wing it. Totally up to you. Bottom line? Thousand of people quit every day. If they can do it, if we can do it, so can you!! Believe in yourself.

~~You are a beautiful creation....perfectly imperfect....a work in progress....you have everything you need to fulfill your purpose....don't dilute yourself for any person or any reason.....you are enough....be unapologetically you.~~ Dr. Steve Maraboli

Just wanted to remind you that you are much more important than you may think you are.  It doesn't matter if you live alone, if you are one in a crowded family, if you don't think you're anything "special".

You are.  Special.  Unique.  Needed.  Wanted.

This world would be lost without you.  You touch hearts.  You are amazing!!  Your smile....your kindness....your thoughts.....make the world a better place.  Make it lighter. 

I just thought I would remind you.  So that you push on when you get weary.  So that you continue your journey when you want to quit. 

Keep your head high.  Know that the world will wait for you because the world would be so much less without you.  It cheers for you.  It needs you.

So don't give up.  Don't think you don't matter.  Don't smoke because "no one cares anyway".  The whole world cares, my friends.  You matter.  Don't give up and don't give in. 

I just thought I would remind you.........

~~This is the part where you find out who you are.~~  Unknown

It wasn't until I decided that I didn't like who I was that I created the me I did like.  I didn't like that I allowed a cigarette to dictate my hours.  I didn't like that I couldn't control my mind when I wanted....really wanted....to smoke.  I didn't like that I chose going outside to smoke rather than staying inside with my family.  I didn't like who I had become.  Weak-willed, stinky, and ashamed of it all.

So there I was.  Miserable.  It was time to change.  It was time to build off my strengths.  It was time to have some fun.  I was going to make the rest of my life the best of my life.  So I quit.  I decided how I would quit.  I decided when I would quit.  And I decided that nothing would make me smoke again.

I was in control.  And, looking back now, I can say that I always was in control, I just didn't know it.  Hard to think when your brain....your whole being....is addicted to a chemical.  Or whatever nicotine is.

I have a life I love.  I love that I am healthy.  I love that I make the decisions in my life...clear headed and rational.  I love that each and every moment, I am grateful that I remain smoke free.

You can do it, you know.  You can find joy in quitting.  You can find yourself once that smoke clears and your brain is once again your own.  You will delight yourself.  You will astound yourself.  And most of all, you will save yourself.  And it will feel absolutely amazing to be your own hero!!

918 days for me.  Maybe it's only 1 hour for you.  Maybe it's one week.  Maybe you haven't even quit yet.  I started there myself.  I know.  But I'm here to tell you that in 918 days, you can be here telling others the same thing I am saying to you now.  Life is grand when you don't smoke!!

All the best to you!!  Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Today Is

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Dec 1, 2015

~~I believe the world is one big family and we need to help each other.~~   Jet Li

Today is "Giving Tuesday"....a global day of giving back to our communities and our favorite charitable causes.  Ex is one of my communities so I am giving back to a community that means the world to me :)

Thank you.  Thank you for allowing me to express myself so often and so freely.  Thank you for allowing me to be standoffish or emotional or warm fuzzyish or however I wanted to be.

Thank you for not forgetting me.  A kind word on my board, a gentle sentiment on my blog.  Thank you.

And, most of all, thank you for attempting to help each and every person who comes here to stop smoking.  It is a daunting task some days, I'm sure, but this community never fails...never faulters....never gives up.  I am in awe, I am amazed, and I am so humbled to be a small part of a great big heart!

Thank you.

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Hidden Truths

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 30, 2015

~~There are no secrets in life, just hidden truths that lie beneath the surface.~~  Unknown

I smoked for such a long time.  I am divorced.  I let down a close friend.  I got angry at my daughter.  I wish to let you all know I am no saint.  I am not perfect.  And I most certainly make my share of boo-boos.

I have demons in my past.  Most people do.  But I leave them in the past.  No need to drag heavy shadows with me everywhere I go.  They do no one...especially not me....any good anymore.  I do not struggle with my demons.  I do not fight my way through the murky depths of my past misdeeds.  I do not allow shame or humiliation or embarrassment weigh down the joy that has broken free in my soul.

I love to remind people that their past does not define who they are.  We all have those pesky little lurking demons.  Play with them rather than fight them.  They can't hurt you, you know.  Only you have that power.  And you know that pange of sorrow that hits when you hear that "special" song?  After awhile, it won't have the power to hurt you either.  Rather it will feel sweetly sorrowful and hold a special place in your heart.

And that thing you regret with your whole being?  That one that holds you back from truly feeling free...and happy....and joy....and light?  It was simply a lesson learned, honey.  So you learn, you thank the world for the experience, painful though it was, and you let it go.

Sometimes I think we smoked because when addicted to a substance, we don't have to work our way out of the negative world we think we live in.  A vicious cycle in a way.  But when the smoke clears and we wipe the film from our eyes, that negative world begins to fade with the smoke.  An illusion built from an addiction we didn't understand.

Life is life, my friends.  We make our worlds good or bad.  Harsh or beautiful.  Battlefield or balanced.  Our past?  Well, we all have one.  Mistakes?  All made 'em.  Let them loose.  Leave them where they belong.  And know that the past is simply part of your journey.  It teaches.  It builds.  It gives you gifts such as integrity, courage, grace, and strength. 

Keep your head held high and your eyes forward.  And know that a bad day....even a bad year...does not equal a bad life.  I can't promise what the future holds, but I can promise that you can find joy in you no matter what the future holds. 

ps.  Remember, if you need some Christmas cheer, or know someone here who does, message me a name and address and I will make sure they receive something for Christmas.  Its not just for kids anymore :)

Sheri