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2015

~~I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning.~~  JB Priestly

Isn't it lovely to wake up and realize you have one more day to spend loving life?!  Enjoying family.  Laughing.  Forgiving.  Healing.

To me, life is a journey filled with the unexpected.  And I have found that if you focus on the positive and keep your eye on the good, the unexpected doesn't have to destroy who you are.  Its how I quit smoking.  Its how I lived through my uglies.  It keeps me looking forward.  And it makes me so glad to be alive!

I believe that there is magic out there in the world.  There are miracles waiting for people to notice them.  There are good souls shining their light so that we don't have to suffer through darkness forever.  Its up to us, though, to look for that magic and believe in those miracles and reach for the shining souls. 

You don't have to.  One of the glories in life lies in choosing what you believe and how you want to live.  I like that feeling of excitement I get when I think about what lies ahead.  Its something good...I know it!  I like also to share that excitement and pass on the delight I feel when looking at my lovely world.  I hope that someone somewhere catches a glimpse of that magic simply by understanding me.

It has been an amazingly beautiful day so far.  While everything hasn't gone my way, I get to go home to a fun 12 year old boy and be surrounded by family and neighbors who keep me smiling.  May you enjoy your world as well :)  Sheri

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Finding the Joy

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 21, 2015
~~Find a place inside where there's joy and the joy will burn out the pain.~~ Joseph Campbell Life has not always been easy. I have had some struggles. I have felt stressed. I've been overwhelmed. I am not immune to the uglies in life. But the joys in my life always...ALWAYS....outweigh the uglies. Because joy is our natural state. Because joy feels better. Because joy reminds me of all my blessings. And no matter how much heartache or pain life brings, I can wait it out and get through it because of life's joys. I have the love of remarkable children. I have an amazing life...a job I love...lovely flowers in my front yard. I am healthy. I have yoga to relax me. Well, the list goes on and on :) I am sure you have joy in your life as well! Sometimes though that joy may get buried underneath the uglies of life. Don't let the uglies win. Remember your joys and know that those joys can hold you through tough times. Also know that you DESERVE those joys!! You deserve good. You deserve relief from life's struggles. Find your joys, my friends, and hold them dear. Sheri
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Who Am I?

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 20, 2015
~~I am perfect in my imperfections, secure in my insecurities, happy with my choices, strong in times of weakness, and beautiful in my own way. I am "myself".~~ unknown I am a Victims Advocate and before that a case manager, rehab advisor and child protective services supervisor. Nothing special. Not glamorous. Not high profile. So who am I to tell you how or why or when to quit smoking? Who would listen to me? Why would anyone listen to me? I guess those things have been in the back of my mind...always. maybe that is why I don't give advice. maybe that is why I don't give tough love. Maybe that is why I've never really told my story. It took me a long time to quit smoking. I failed miserably so many times. I know now that as an addict, I can't play at quitting. I can never have another cigarette...never. I've made it. Over two years quit now and I am solid in it. But quitting doesn't make me a genius. It makes me relieved and proud and happy. I learned a lot during these past two years. I learn to love myself, even my flaws! I learn to appreciate all that I have. And I learned that I can take really, really good care of myself. now maybe it's your turn to quit. Or maybe you quit and feel that this Ricky feelings will never go away. At one time I would have wished that I could take away those icky feelings for you. but now I know that those icky feeling will blossom into something absolutely wonderful and you will grow so much from this process. Your journey is yours to take and I've learned to allow people their journeys. I can walk with you for a while, I can encourage you to enjoy your journey but I can't take it from you and I won't. so Who am I to tell you how or when or why to quit smoking? I am me. someone who is taking a journey similar to the one you're going through right now, someone who spelled the same feelings someone who has gone through the same physical and emotional withdrawal. I will never say I will I understand what you're going through, but we've walked similar paths. at this point in my journey I'd love to stop and turn around and hold out my hand for the next person. you will get through this! It does get easier! And you will never, ever regret quitting. okay, much too long a blog! Enjoy the rest of your weekend and may you learn to enjoy your journey!! Sheri
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You Amaze Me

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 17, 2015

I read a quote that said, "Don't come to my funeral to show me how much you care about me, show me how much you care about me while I'm alive." 

Have I told you all how much I care about you?  I'm not here often to respond to blogs.  But I read.....oh, how I read.  I read about your triumphs, I read about your dreams, I read about your hopes and miracles.  You inspire me, you melt my heart, you amaze me with your strengths and courage.  I wanted to let you know I read your words.

I celebrate your milestones.  Sometimes it's a cupcake with my Jake.  Sometimes it's a dance with my Jay.  Sometimes I pay it forward in other ways.  But I wanted to let you know I celebrate your milestones.

I cry when you're hurting.  I cheer for you when you overcome.  Because you have inspired me.  Because you have supported me.  Because you matter more than you'll ever know.  I admire you. 

I needed to let you know this tonight.  I want you to go to sleep tonight knowing that you have made a difference.  Knowing that someone cares.  Knowing that if you ever really needed to reach out, someone would be here for you.

You most likely have tons of people who care.  You most likely don't need to hear this.  You probably have the confidence, the heart, to know that you are important and that you matter.  But I needed to say it.  I needed you to know.....all of you....that you bring out the best in me in ways you don't get to see. 

So thank you.  Thank you to those who are so very visible here.  And thank you to those who are maybe not so vocal but still here trying to do the best you can with what you've got.  And thank you to those who lurk and read and go through life doing amazing remarkable things without pomp and circumstance....just because that's how you do things.  I am so very grateful to all of you!  Sheri

~~You need to grab life.  You only get one turn.  One ride.  One trip through the universe.~~  Kristen Tracy

Life gave you another opportunity today to:

*  try something new

*  breathe

* create

* love

* laugh

* forgive

In you are spending your time thinking about how much you miss smoking.....how you NEED a cigarette....how stressed you are without smoking, you are missing all life is offering you.

Let go of that active addiction and ease into the joy of recovery.  Let go of that constant battle and eagerly grasp at life.  Release yourself from the chains of addiction and embrace the you hidden within that addiction.

I bet you are funny.  I bet you are sweet.  I bet you are crative or gentle or precious or kind.  And I bet you haven't thought about yourself in terms like that in quite awhile.  Smoking truly can take over your life and addiction clouds not only the air but also your judgment.  And you deserve so much more than that!

So if life offers you the opportunity to:

* try something new

* breathe

*create

* love

* laugh

* forgive

then do it!!  Live life fully!!  Let go of your addiction and release yourself from the slavery of nicotine.  Learn who you really are and then love yourself with all the joy you possess!  Because life isn't about being a slave to nicotine, life is about you...and becoming who you were always meant to be.

Enjoy yourself!  Sheri

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Savoring Life

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 12, 2015
~~Slow down and enjoy life. Its not only the scenery you miss by going too fast, you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.~~ Eddie Cantor I quit being "too busy". Too busy with work, too busy with appointments, too busy to stop and do nothing. I now like doing nothing! I now like doing what I want to do rather than what I think I "have" to. I find life fun and peaceful and lovely. Maybe not just because I quit smoking but in quitting I found my priorities shifting. Where I once found that I thrived under stress, I now find I have nothing to stress over! Where I was once so busy I had to "find" time to smoke a cigarette, I now am never busy. I do things I want to do....I do things I like to do. Even in my job. Even with my friends. Even when I am by myself. Life is life....we make it good or bad. In our behaviors, in our beliefs, in our thoughts. Its up to us HOW we live. But time is universal...when its over, its over and you can't replace it or relive it. So why not savor every day? Why not love life? Why not see the positives? Why not quit smoking and KNOW that you are doing something wonderful? Its up to you. I intend to live in such a way that my future self will thank me for :-). I intend to make good memories. I intend to touch lives in a kind and positive way. And I can only hope that you will value your own life as well. Life is waiting for you.....

~~  Learning to be still, to really be still and let life happen--that stillness becomes a radiance.~~  Morgan Freeman

 

Sometimes it's ok to not be busy.  Sometimes it's ok to simply watch life go by.  Because every once in awhile, having your mind and body become still calms you.  It allows you to breathe, it allows you to be.  Just be.  Not a worker or a mother or a employer or a volunteer......not anyone or anything.  Just you.

And sometimes when you are quiet and your mind is still, you find peace.  The kind of peace that allows your soul to sigh and your spirit to smile.  The peace you've always been meaning to find once you had the time....and the money....and the partner......

Because as you quit smoking and you realize that you are stressed, possibly unhappy, too busy, too negative....just too everything, sometimes you come to the conclusion that changes need to happen now and changes need to come from you.

So sometimes its ok not to be busy.  Sometimes its ok to enjoy that peace you've looked for.  Sometimes its very, very healthy and fun and calming to be still and watch life go by.  Not fighting your quit, not stressing over craves, not being happy or unhappy or angry or feeling anything at all......just watching the clouds, listening to the silence.  Peace begins to creep up on you.  Your breathing slows.  Your muscles relax.  Your spirit smiles. 

And when you find your radiance, you know in your heart that you can come back there when you are too stressed, too busy, too negative....come back to that peace and stillness, watching life go by.  And each time you do, you gain something. Something that makes life interesting.  Something you can draw from when you need it.

Find that stillness, my friends.  Especially when you first quit smoking.  Especially when you are stressed.  Take the time to be still and watch life, being ok with simply being.  Life is a gift.  Stop to enjoy it every now and then.  I wish you peace.....Sheri

~~My past does not define me--I'm free to change and grow, to try on different "me"s, and to set inspiring goals.~~ unknown Do you know how freeing it is when you decide not to be defined by your past? It is an amazing feeling! Like a weight off your chest. So think about maybe not deciding you can't quit because you've never been able to stick it before. Give yourself a break and stop being so hard on yourself! It is ok that you didn't quit last year. It is ok that you didn't quit on your quit date. You are free to change and grow!! Grow into your own power You are free to try on different "you"s!! Become your own hero. I believe that you can quit. In fact, I know you can! But you have to believe and you have to know. Gather the best of you and do it! You are about to understand just how remarkable you truly are..... Sheri
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Relax

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 6, 2015
~~Don't seek, don't search, don't ask, don't knock, don't demand--relax. If you relax, it comes. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, you start vibrating with it.~~ Osho Its time to celebrate!!! We opened our eyes today.....another day to live, to love, to enjoy. Relax. Smile. Giggle. Spend time with your best friend. Spend time in your garden. Hug your puppy. Feel joy. Your life does not have to revolve around smoking....or even around your quit! Get on with life!! Instead of sitting around waiting for the cravings to go away, shrug and ignore them as you have some fun. Instead of worrying about how long it's going to take for you to feel better, go on with your day anyway. Breathe. Relax. your quit is only a small part of who you are and your quit is coming along just fine. As long as you aren't smoking, you are winning! So relax. Smile. And appreciate the day. If you relax, you know, it is there. And you will feel it. You will. Sheri
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Did You?

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 4, 2015
~~You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters.~~ Did you wake this morning delighted to have another day to treat yourself well? Did you look in the mirror and love what you see? did you treat yourself to one more cup of coffee may be watching the sunrise? Did you treat yourself kindly? Forgiving old hurts, healing past pain, accepting your flaws? I hope so. I hope you realize that your life is your own...your fears, your hopes, your dreams are all part of who makes you you. Its OK. You are OK. I'm celebrating my 2 year anniversary of not smoking. I hope you celebrated this well and treated yourself with the kindness that you've always shown me! I am totally grateful and so appreciative of the people here who have shared my journey. From the bottom of my heart thank you!! you each hold a special place in my heart and I will never forget you! Thank you for dancing with me :-) Two years!! Yippee!! Sheri
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You Can

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jun 3, 2015
~~You have a contribution to make. You have a gift that others need. You are the change. Your actions define your impact. You matter.~~ While it takes courage to admit relapse, I believe it takes more courage to keep your quit no matter what life slings at you. While it takes honesty to admit relapse, it takes integrity to honor your commitment to your quit no matter what life slings at you. Get past that idea that your courage comes from anything less than doing what you think can't be done. You can reach the unreachable simply by holding on five minutes longer than you thought you could. Stop struggling to hold on and realize that accepting releases the struggle. Hard doesn't mean impossible and wanting doesn't mean having. Be the change you want to see in your own life. Your actions truly define your impact. The only thing stopping you from quitting is the thought you can't....so don't believe everything you think! Hope this helps, Sheri
~~With the gift of listening comes the gift of healing because listening to your brothers or sisters until they have said the last words in their hearts is healing and consoling. Someone has said that it is possible "to listen a person's soul into existence".~~ Catherine de Hueck Doherty Doesn't sound like this quote has anything to do with quitting, does it? Actually, I learned this quote in victim advocacy training today. It reminded me of how much I love helping others. Helping others heal...helping others find their strength...helping others build their self-esteem. I heard that when you love what you do you never work a day in your life. I've been blessed to find my passion in helping others. But I've learned that in order to help others I had to find balance within myself. So I did. Two years ago this Thursday, I quit smoking. I learned to really take care of myself, nurture myself, and treat myself with the same kindness in which I treated everyone else. That was more of a struggle for me than actually quitting smoking because I wasn't used to putting myself first. But two years later I can say that I did it! Since I won't be online Thursday due to training, I am going to ask all my friends here to do something for me. On Thursday I would like you all to treat yourself kindly. Have that extra cup of coffee in the morning, buy yourself that pretty perfume, or treat yourself with an extra long walk in the park. Take some time on Thursday to get to know and like yourself, and never forget to celebrate your quit! I may not ever "listen a person's soul into existenceexistence" but I hope that I have helped you recognize your worth in your quit. You are perfect just the way you are! Unique and fabulous :-) Thank you all for helping me get to 2 remarkable years!! Hugs, Sheri