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Just For Today

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 May 30, 2015
~~Dance with your fear, recognize grace, revel in beauty, and feel wonder.~~ Why focus on smoking...or quitting...or triggers....or cravings when the whole world is out there waiting for you? Live it! Enjoy it!! And let go of your addiction. Just for today, feel wonder. Just for today, revel in beauty. Just for today, live your passion. Let it go. Let it be. And enjoy. Just for today. Sheri
~~You're already wonderful.~~ Quitting can make you feel good about yourself. It can boost your self-esteem and build your confidence. It can enhance your courage. Quitting builds...... on what you should already have. Because you are already wonderful. You are kind, you are talented, you matter. You are so very loved. You are needed. You are vital. But addiction cunningly cuts you off from those positives until your whole world revolves around the idea that cigarettes are your only friend and make you feel better. Addiction cuts you off from your family and friends and gives the illusion that you are "misunderstood" and "targeted unfairly". Addiction kills. Your spirit as well as your body. Let it go. Stop allowing your addiction control of who you are, what you think, and how you behave. Educate yourself on how addiction works and how to heal from it. Let it go because as powerful as it can be, it doesn't truly have any power that you don't allow it to have. Educate yourself. And remember that you are already wonderful....your addiction can't take that away from you. Your recovery will remind you just how amazing you are. I hope this helps. I know...I've been there. Sheri
~~Some changes happen deep down inside of you. And the truth is, only you know about them.~~ Judy Blume That's what happened to me when I quit. I knew, deep down inside, I wasn't going to fail. But of course others didn't quite believe me. I'd quit before....several times...and they'd heard it all before. But I knew. I was done with the serial quitting. I was done with the feeling like a failure. I was done with feeling tired. I was done. And that was the difference. I didn't leave the door open for a slip or relapse. I didn't weaken my resolve by saying I would "try" or I "hoped" I could do it. You can quit. Of course you can!! But its so much easier when you firmly close the door on smoking. When you put them down, know that its forever. Deep down inside. Sheri
~~If you're struggling, you deserve to make self-care a priority. Whether that means lying in bed all day, crying, sleeping, rescheduling plans, finding escape through a good book, watching your favorite rv show, or doing nothing at all--give yourself permission to put your healing first. Quiet that voice telling you to do more and be more, and today, whenever you do, let it be enough. Feel your feelings, breathe, and be gentle with yourself. Acknowledge that you're doing the best that you can do to cope and survive. And trust that during this time of struggle, it's enough.~~ Danielle Koepke Long quote, I know, but so very pertinent and important to hear when you're struggling. It is not OK to ignore your hurts...brush off your struggles....take care of others while putting off caring for yourself. So take the time to nurture yourself. Deep inside your soul, you know how to heal. You know how to get healthy. How to become the you that you're meant to be. Don't let your addiction win. Don't think you can't or your not worth it. Take the time you need and love yourself whole. Gentle hugs to those struggling today. You're in my prayers. Take care. Sheri
~~I don't want to survive, I want to live.~~ Yep, that's me!! No more nail biting, shoulder tensing, heart pounding days of "I just have to make it through this!! . You know those days. The ones where you fight your want of a cigarette or struggle with the guilt of your last slip or worry about his long you're going to last this time. That's not living. That's wasting days...months....years you'll never get back. Time wasted. Opportunities lost. Memories left unmade. I made my quit different this time. I gave myself two days to be as miserable as I wanted. I also took smoking entirely off the table. There was no "failing" possible. Then I started to live. Yoga and walking kept me peaceful. My family and friends kept me occupied. And I started paying attention to life. Nature in the mornings....beautiful!! The sounds around me....lovely!! And finally, the me I was always meant to be.....unique and quirky! Quitting is controlled by you. Your emotions are controlled by you. The way you view yourself and the world is controlled by you. I hope you fill it with beauty and wonder and joy. Hugs to all, Sheri
Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Never Perfect

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 May 23, 2015
~~Though she be but little, she is fierce.~~Shakspeare I don't always respond to blogs. I don't always even read responses to my own. Sometimes I don't respond to messages on my board. I often forget about private messaging. Its not that I am a snob. Its not that I ignore others. And I definitely don't intentional forget about people. I often have nothing to add that hasn't already been said. I am sometimes shy. I also do a lot of this on my phone and its hard to type. But if I see someone beating themselves up, I will respond. If I see someone I love hurting...and I love all of you!....I will respond. And if I see someone forgetting about the beauty and the joy and the importance of living, I will respond. I am fierce when it comes to treating yourself with the kindness and care you show others. No one here is any more important than you are! Life is precious and so are you. I am not the perfect ex member. I am a delightfully imperfect person. But please never doubt I care about you! Your health, your happiness, your life. You matter and I will be the first one to point that out :-) I hope you quit and I hope you stay quit! But even more, I hop
~~Sometimes I'm struck by the thought, "I can't believe I exist.". It is a magical and extraordinary thing to exist.~~ How very blessed we are today to have one more day to love our families.....to enjoy the sun.....to breathe the fresh air....to hear the sounds of laughter. If you were lucky enough to awaken today, don't waste time thinking about a cigarette. Wonder instead of the magical and extraordinary thing to exist. To be. Release all those worries and let go of all that stress. Free your heart of all that pent up resentment and drop all the baggage you've been carrying through the years. Today allow your spirit to heal. Treat your soul kindly and with respect. You exist! You truly are a miracle. Today you can heal from the hurts life can bring and you can embrace the wonder of knowing you exist. Restore your spirit and learn to love who you are. Best wishes to each of you, my friends! Sheri
~~I am not a victim. No matter what I have been through, I'm still here. I have a history of victory.~~ You don't have to be brave or strong or intelligent or skilled. You don't have to be witty or pretty or skinny or assertive. You don't have to be college educated or rich or creative or brilliant. You just have to quit. And never smoke again. that is all you have to do.
~~You have to know what sparks the light in you so that in your own way you can illuminate the world.~~ Its time, you know. Its time for you to let go of your thoughts of smoking...your thoughts that you aren't good enough....the thoughts that you 'can't'. Stop all those self harming, addiction driven thoughts and become who you really are. You are amazing! You are delightful! You are creative and unique!! And its time to bring all that is truly you to the forefront and illuminate the world with your brilliance. No more hiding behind a cloud of smoke. No more negativity. No more hesitations or delaying or putting off travelling your true path. And if you are thinking that I am not talking about you, know that I am addressing exactly that...you and your thoughts of not being brilliant or talented or good enough. Its time for you to shine, my friends! And we all have it in us! Smoking buried our true spirits....addiction is ugly like that...but its time to come out of the shadows!! Illuminate the world, my friends! Its time. Happy Friday! Sheri
~~Don't give up. The best is yet to come.~~ Quitting won't always be a struggle. It won't always be scary or tiring or frustrating. You won't always be anxious or depressed or hungry. The best is yet to come. The joy of breaking free from this horrible addiction is just ahead. More time to spend on things you love, more money of course, and a lovely sense of freedom as the thoughts of smoking dwindle into nothing. From the moment you put that last cigarette out, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep your eyes on that light and fill your heart with hope. The best is truly yet to come. Happy Sunday!! Sheri
~~Be your amazing, gorgeous, beautiful self! Stand in your sparkle and dare to dream big.~~ As I was doing my yoga this morning, I felt so content and peaceful. This happens more and more. And every day I count my blessings that I was able to work through my addiction and focus on my strengths and gifts. May today be your day to find contentment in your life! May you feel peace. May you find your joy. Let today be the first day of many in your life where you stand in your own sparkle and dare to dream big!! Love to you all, Sheri
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Never Forgotten

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 May 15, 2015
~~Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty, than the person who has nothing to eat.~~ Blessed Teresa of Calcutta I read an article on FB where a 79 year old man, recently released from the hospital, called 911 because he had nothing to eat and no one who cared. Broke my heart. In the same way when those here relapse...or don't ever quit...and they feel alone, unwanted, or abandoned by others. Breaks my heart. I can't remind you enough that you are much more precious than you ever give yourself credit for!! You are so much more than 'a smoker' or a serial quitter'. You are a miracle the world's been waiting for!! The universe is just waiting for you to find your sparkle. Yes, I can be poetic rather than 'normal' but I am honest and sincere. Each of you matter. To me, to this site, to your family and friends, to the world. Know that we believe in you. That we are your biggest fans and loudest cheering section. NEVER give up on yourselves!!! You are cared about, you are wanted, and you are loved. You don't have to blog here or write or put yourself out there....I know you're out there. I used to be you. Gentle hugs, Sheri
~~Happily ever after starts now.~~ Fairy tales end with happily ever after. We are lucky in that we get to live our happily ever after when we let go of smoking. our days get better, our bodies get healthier, and our lives get more beautiful. May today be everything you wish it to be. Make mistakes, take chances, be silly, be imperfect, trust yourself and follow your heart. Love to you all, Sheri
~~when you're happy, you enjoy the music, when you're sad, you understand the lyrics.~~ Frank Ocean Did you know that singing for only 10 minutes a day reduces stress, clears sinuses, improves posture, and can even help you live longer (PreventDisease.com)? What song brightens your day? What song brings a smile to your face? My kids and I even have songs that bring back family good times. We dance to MJ's Dance Party on the Wii...knowing all the words to the songs, of course :-). My son sings "Stuck Like Glue" to make me feel better. Music is important to us!! What about you? Is music important to you? Can you whistle tunes? Do you play an instrument? Write lyrics? PS... Instead of smoking in the car, I would sing at the top of my lungs. And when a crave hit, I would sing "Eye of the Tiger". Silly but effective. May you find joy in music! Sheri

~~You are perfect the way you are; there is no need to change anything except the thoughts that you aren't good enough.~~ 

Because those thoughts that you aren't good enough will keep you smoking.  They will nag at you until you relapse.  They will put a damper on your days....days you will never get back.  They will hound you.  Hurt your relationships.  Make you unhappy yet unaware of why.

Please let these words sink in.....you are perfect just the way you are.  With your flaws.  With you mistakes.  With your faults.  We ALL have them!!  There is joy in imperfections, you know. It doesn't make you any less a magnificant person.  Embrace them!!  Love them.  They are part of what makes you....you.

Knowing I am impatient makes me deliberately more patient.  Knowing I had a not good childhood makes me more gentle with children.  It is our faults that sometimes bring out the very best in us.  Imperfections, you see, aren't meant to keep us down, they are meant to make us shine.

So erase the thoughts that you aren't good enough and understand that you are perfect just the way you are.  You may bend, you may err, you may make a whopper of a mistake......but that's simply being human.  It's ok.....you're ok.  Learn and move on.  Don't let life's bumps or your imperfections tie to you to your addiction.  Don't let your mistakes make you feel like smoking is your only friend.  Its an ugly addiction...that's all it is.  Learn and move on :)  You deserve to be smoke free....you deserve to really live!!

Be good to yourself today and do something you love!!  Peace, Sheri

~~Breathe in joy and strength, breathe out wisdom and peace.~~ As you start your day, give yourself permission to feel joy today. give yourself permission to feel happy. Give yourself permission to just be. Don't look at yesterday it's done and over with. Don't look at tomorrow, tomorrow isn't promised. Don't worry for worry changes nothing. Don't stress because you can't function under stress. Today remind yourself that anything's possible! Wonderful amazing things may happen! You are in control of your thoughts. May you have a wonderful day! Sheri
~~Love and compassion are necessities, not luxeries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.~~ Dalai Lama I bet I know what you're thinking...or what you've probably thought once or twice since coming to this site. I bet you're thinking,"I know they are trying to help but they don't understand how hard it is for me!!". Some others may have thought, "I wish they'd stop telling me to read, read, read!" Some of you ask for 'tough love' while others ask for understanding. Some need to blog every feeling while others don't want to share anything. I know all this because I used to be you. Most of us have been there. But don't forget the most important piece of quitting. IT NEEDS TO COME FROM YOU!!! We can tough love you to death...but we can't quit for you. We can smother you with warm fuzzies and affection, but we can't quit for you. Nothing we say, do, suggest, direct, caution, or point out will quit for you. This is why I remind you gently to love yourself. This is why I remind you that you are ridiculously amazing and treasured. This is why it is vital that you treat yourself with kindness, gentleness, respect, and love. Your quit comes from you. Your choices, your courage, your heart. We simply give you the tools. Shine bright, our lovely quitters, with the light that comes from confidence in yourself. Take our tools and heal yourselves. You are soooo worth it!! Hugs to you all, Sheri
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I Hope

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 May 10, 2015
~~She woke up one day and decided to quit cleaning her house and start decorating her soul instead.~~ Unknown I hope you quit smoking. I hope you find the strength to hold on to your quit. I hope you honor your commitment to yourself to quit. And in doing so, I hope you fall in love with life. I hope you learn to treasure yourself. And I hope you recognize what a gift you are to the world. Sheri

~~To have a dream is one thing but to live it is another.  It takes grit, moxie, spirit, passion.  A fiery determination to make it happen and the courage to stand loudly and proudly in the world you've created for yourself.~~  Unknown

I have created a lovely, calm, magical world.  Time for yoga, time for family, a passionate love for life that thrills me every day.  It's my world and I am proud of what I've created.

What's your world like?  Do you have a dream or are you living it?  Have you moved past the fears and the self-doubts into the world of delightful exploration and creative expression?

When I put my last cigarette down, it was with the clear understanding that I could never smoke again.  And then thoughts of being a smoker were erased.  I was a non smoker.  So when stress happened, I learned ways to ease my stress.  When disaster struck, I dealt with the disaster.  When I was bored....well, I was never bored. 

Its not enough, I don't think, to quit smoking if you don't continue to move forward.  When you are stuck with the thoughts of "I used to smoke through this" or "I can't get past this", you flirt with your addiction.  Instead move forward.  Learn relaxation techniques if you're stressed.  Get a hobby.  Feel delighted with you.  Enjoy nature.  Take a college class.

Because, my friends, when you quit smoking you are giving yourself permission to live!!  You will have more money.  You smell spectacular!!  You have so much more time to enjoy your day, your family, your world.

Don't flirt with your addiction.  Let it go.  Move on.  And welcome to a world full of such peace, joy, and delight that you will eagerly embrace your life as a kind, passionate human being. Not just a "smoker" or an "ex-smoker" but so much more!!

You are a miracle, my friends....please treat yourself as gently and kindly as you treat others.

Sheri

~~Tension is who you think you should be; relaxation is who you are.~~Chinese Proverb I am relaxed. Relaxed in my quit. Relaxed in my life. It's who I am. But, just as in all things, it takes practice to relax. It takes deliberate thought. It takes conscious effort. Especially if you are used to NOT relaxing or loving yourself. Those pesky little words..."I'm so stupid", "I'm fat", "I can't".....erase them. Those nagging little thoughts..."I'll start tomorrow", "I'm too busy", "I never do anything right"...toss them! Be deliberate in your desire to relax. "This too will pass"..."I am OK"..."I will get through this". Learn to love yourself day by day. Learn to find joy day by day. Tension is not who you are!! Love to you all, Sheri
~~You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.~~Unknown Today I have 700 days of not smoking and I am still so thrilled I was able to quit! I couldn't do it until I was able to value myself. I was so used to putting everyone else first. I was so used to thinking of everyone else first. I didn't even realize that I was disappearing because everyone else mattered more. So I simply changed my way of thinking and started to enjoy my journey. What fun its been! Life is a joy and so am I :-). And so are you. Be good to yourself, treat yourself gently, and never forget that you matter to the world. You are important and so is your quit. I hope you enjoy your day and find reasonreasons to laugh!! Sheri

~~Never seek your importance through the standards of the world.  Know your worth.~~

So who are you?  What are your talents? What do you like about you?  What are your dreams?

Yes, I know you quit smoking...or want to quit smoking....or struggle with your quit....or enjoy your quit.  I know.

But I want to know more!! Not because I'm nosy (although I am!) but because when you start talking about all the good in you, you feel good.  When you start thinking about all that is precious to you, you start to feel precious too.  When you start realizing all you've accomplished in your life, you start to feel your worth.

I've talked about myself...a lot :)  I like me.  But I was hoping that others would also open up and realize that you are sooooo much more than a quit...or a smoke.  You are a miracle.  You bring something wonderful to the world that would not be here at all without you.  Not just words, my friends, truth.

So shine your light for us.  Tell us what makes you smile.  Tell us where your heart is.  Tell us about all that's good about you.  Do you like to laugh?  Do you have a best friend?  Do you hum in the car?  Dance in the rain?  Cook?  Paint?

Ok, I'm nosy.  But all that good in you...all that worth...all that magic....needs to be shared.  Maybe not here with us if you are too shy or too private, but out in the world where people are losing hope.  Losing faith.  Or just simply lost.  They need you.

So its your time to sparkle, my friends!!  Don't  seek your importance through the standards of the world....tell the world who you are instead.  Let us know.  Share your magic....you may be the cause of beautiful events....lovely thoughts....happy times. 

peace, Sheri

~~She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.~~ Proverbs 31:25 Kind of a bold quote today but I believe it is needed. So many have been affected by the actions of others. While I am sure you recognize that relapse isn't contagious, the unease....the questions....the fear of "failure" can simmer silently in your mind until smoking almost seems like a relief. It isn't of course! There is no reason to fear someone else's choice to smoke. Do you speed while driving because someone else speeds? Of course not! Do we go to the gym and get healthy because someone else is going to the gym and getting healthy? Of course not! This is a quit smoking site. Some people are going to quit. Some people are going to smoke. Neither should come as a surprise. Just remember that your quit is under your control! Feel strong...feel confident...and protect your quit as you protect other things you love. With care...with joy...with courage. Know you've got this! And feel the delight each day that quitting brings you. For its when you take it for granted that you risk losing it....just as other things you love and take for granted. Focus on you and allow others their journeys. Above all don't worry about what hasn't happened. That's a waste of precious time. I will not fear the future!! Sheri

~~When you speak from your heart and say the words your soul has only dared to whisper, that's when miracles happen.~~  unknown

 

I usually speak from my heart.  It's simply part of who I am.  But I also know that often people hesitate to speak their truth....sometimes out of kindness, sometimes out of fear, sometimes because they are only beginning to find out who they are.

It's an exciting journey, you know.  Finding your truth.  Finding who you are.  Discovering the miracle you are.  Experiencing sheer delight in life. 

Smoking does not define us....no matter how ugly addiction is.  It simply eclipses who we truly are.  We often do unhealthy things.  Take dangerous risks.  Throw caution to the wind.  It's called being human. 

We make our mistakes.  We defy.  We dare.  We challenge.  We wonder.  We experience.  That's called living.  How marvelous life is!!

So, this is me, speaking from my heart.  It's time we focus on living our lives with zest...with enthusiasm....with gratitude.  Focus on you and living your truth, speaking from your heart saying the words your soul has only dared to whisper.  Let others live their truths.  Allow others their journeys.  Focus, my dear friends, on YOU and YOUR life and YOUR path.  Spread your joy into the world and your soul will sing!!

Much love to you all!!  Sheri

~~Authenticity:  the daily practice of letting go of who we think we're supposed to be and embracing who we are.~~  Unknown

If I came here to post that I needed help with my quit, many people would respond.  If I posted that my life was falling apart, many more people would respond.  If I posted that I was having a crappy day or I was sad or I needed a hug, wonderful people here would respond.

But what if I didn't post those things?  What if my life is lovely....no matter if I have a good or bad day?  What if I wake dancing?  What if I hum through my day?  What if I am so happy....so positive....so delighted with life, that nothing negative or ugly or hateful could change my attitude?

What then?

Well, that simply tells me that I am ok.  That I have this balanced life thing down.  That I am on the right path. 
 

No, I don't need EX to help me with my quit.  But at one time I did.  And at one time, EX helped.  Now I am here offering support of my own....in my own little quirky way.

No one needs help forever.  Soon, you will get your "ah-ha!" moment and understand what quitting is about.  And you may choose to move on with your life or you may choose to stay and offer your own quirky support to those who ask for help. 

I'm not really sure that what I say makes a difference with anyone's quit.  But knowing that it might, I continue to write....to encourage....to show that it's ok to dance to your own music.  Quitting is not only possible, it's inevitable.  It's up to you to decide to take your quit into your own hands.

Enjoy your weekend!  Sheri

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Be Fierce

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 May 1, 2015
~~This is the day I will be stronger, braver, kinder, and unstoppable. Today I will be fierce.~~ unknown May today you feel your own power. Sometimes that means quieting your mind, listening rather than talking, and learning rather than staying in your comfort zone. Other times, truly being interested in those around you can help bring things in perspective. Feel confident today. Be kind and gentle with others. Be your own best friend. And don't forget to laugh! Just for today, be fierce. Understand you are in control of how you feel and what you do. Simply be today. And learn how extraordinary being you is. Sheri