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I Like Pretty

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 26, 2014

~~Do what makes your soul shine.~~  Unknown

 

I like pretty!  I like pretty smells and pretty sights and pretty things.  Which is why I had my family and friends sniff me often during the early days of my quit and say, "You smell good!!"  Sounds crazy, I know, but it worked for me because....well.....I like pretty.

And so much is now pretty to me!!  I smell pretty, I feel pretty, and even my hair and skin are pretty!!  Not dulled from smoke but glowing with health.  I don't judge myself from the outside but when I look in the mirror, I see confidence, self-esteem, and a shine that comes from knowing I am taking really good care of myself.

For me, pretty comes from within.  Is your soul shining?  Mine wasn't when I was smoking because I knew I had to quit.  I not only didn't feel pretty, I felt pretty bad.

Now?  Oh, my goodness, let me tell you that my soul is singing each and every day!!  Pretty.  My feet scarcely touch the ground, I dance around so much.  Pretty.  And people still say that I smell good.

You can do this.  You can have this!!  You can feel this!!  The world is prettier when you stop smoking.  And you feel so much better.  Feel the glow.  Feel the confidence and the pride and the joy of quitting.  It feels extremely good each day.  And you will look extremely good each day.  Quitting looks good on you :)

Happy Thanksgiving, all.  May you feel the joy of life and the warmth of family and friends.  Most of all, may your soul be shining for the world to see........

Sheri

~~Today do one little thing to take better care of yourself...........then repeat tomorrow.~~  Unknown

 

Taking care of you should be your number 1 priority.  It really should!!  You can't take care of others if you are sick.  You can better take care of others when you are feeling your best.  And we all know that you aren't taking good care of yourself if you are smoking. 

I am usually not very advice driven or "in your face" about your quit.  Not because I don't care, but because I'm not the best at advice or statistics or things like that.  But it's time I tell you what I do know.

1.  You are here on earth for a reason.  You matter to the world....you matter.  Being addicted to nicotine takes you away from that purpose.  You don't feel good about who you are and your shine is dimmed because of that.

2.  Your health means everything.  You need energy to live.  You need your body functioning at its highest level.  Smoking kills.  Period.

3.  You need to believe in yourself.  You have heard, I'm sure, since you were a child that you can do anything in the world you set your mind to.  And you can.  Don't let the addiction win.  Believe in yourself.

4.  No one can quit for you.  Not the Tommys or the Sooties or the Bee Jays of this site.  Your quit is your baby!  Nurture it, nuture you and you will succeed. 

5.  The world waits for you.  Isn't that something?  The world is waiting for your shine!!  You are so much more than you give yourself credit for....and when you quit smoking, you will understand that.  There is a beauty in becoming who you really are and a peace in your soul when you are doing the best for you.

Ok,  That's it.  All the advice I can give about quitting.  For me its so much more than just a cigarette or even just putting down a cigarette.  Its life.  Your life.  And it means the world to me.  It should mean even more to you :) 

Best wishes to each one of you who understands that quitting means life and you are willing to reach for that life!!  Best wishes to each one of you who is still scared, nervous, and/or doubtful.  You can do this and you are so very worth it!!  And best wishes to those who stay here to help, to encourage, to guide.  You shine.

Sheri

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Laugh a Little

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 21, 2014

Its time for that Friday afternoon chuckle....that light little laugh that will calm you, relax you, and get you ready for a terrific week-end!

 

~~Without me, its just asweso~~

~~When I die, I want my last words to be "I left a million dollars underneath the....~~

~~If I ever had to run for my life, I would probably die.~~

~~Hon, I know where everything in the house is.  I live here, remember?      Said no husband ever.~~

~~I hate it when people see me at the supermarket and they are like "what are you doing here?" and I am just like, "oh, you know, hunting elephants."

~~The past, the present, and the future walked into a bar.  It was tense.~~

 

Have a lovely week end, all!!  Remember life is too short to be serious all the time :-)  And know that you ARE in charge of your feeling, behaviors, and attitudes.  Enjoy!!

Sheri

~~Compassionate people are geniuses in the art of living.  More necessary to the dignity, security, and joy of humanity than the discoverers of knowledge.~~  Albert Einstein

So many compassionate people here!  So many who support, who encourage, who guide.  And those who simply care about you.  You can read it all over in the blogs, on the message boards, in personal messages.

This site has it all for those who know it's time to quit.  Even more, this site has people willing to reach out and truly be here for those who know its time to quit.  Not just platitudes.  Not just facts.  But compassion.

What a wonderful site.  What wonderful people.  It feels like home to many.  They build families from strangers.  They heal hurts.  They make you feel like its possible to quit.  To live.  To be....happy.

I hope you each find your peace with your quit.  As Nishan Panwar said, "Choose your thoughts carefully.  Keep what brings you peace, release what brings you suffering.  And know that happiness is just a thought away."

Sheri

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Living Fearless

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 20, 2014

~~You  gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.....do the thing you think you cannot do.~~  Eleanor Roosevelt

 

I know a lovely woman who had her first child when she was 17 years old.  By the age of 27, she had a total of 6 darling children but no job skills, no HS diploma or GED, and very little knowledge of the world.  She blossomed into a gracious, lovely butterfly in her late 30s as she obtained her GED, travelled as a coordinator for an exchange student program, went to college, and became a strong community leader.  She now has her teaching degree and lives knowing she can do anything.  No fears there :)

I am by no means a gracious, lovely butterfly....but I am ok with that.  I have faced many, many fears including the fear of failing when I quit smoking.  I no longer fear failure because it finally dawned on me that I didn't have to fail. 

You truly do gain strength, courage, and confidence by looking fear in the face.  It always backs down, you see.  You are so much more than any fear you have.  So do the thing you think you cannot do and look fear in the face!!  I'm willing to hold your hand if you need me to :) 

I am proud that I continued on during those times I was afraid.  I am proud of the fact that I quit smoking and didn't fail.  And I am proud that I really don't have any fears anymore.  I can live this life...day by day.  Dancing a bit (it doesn't matter who's watching), reaching out to others (it doesn't matter who smacks you away), and always trying my best to be kind (everyone on earth deserves a bit of kindness).

May we all find peace and serenity today...even if its just for a moment in time.

Sheri

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As I See You

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 19, 2014

~~Notice when your heart leaps up in joyous exuberance....in those moments, the voice of your spirit is speaking directly to you.~~  Justine Willis Toms

 

I love feeling 'joyous exuberance'!!  I love feeling warm fuzzies, overwhelming love, calm acceptance, and quiet peace.  Focusing on these positive emotions brings...well, more joyous exuberance and warm fuzzies :)  While I also have negative emotions....fears, anger, frustration, etc.....those are small, quickly over with, and forgotten as my brain goes once again towards the positives.

Why would anyone choose to dwell....to live....to wallow.....in negative emotions?  I don't think many do.  I think that we sometimes lose our way and can't see our way out.  That's why we need those helping hands, those heartfelt hugs, those kind words.  What you say, what you do, what you touch.......they all have the power of turning a life around.  The miraculous ability  to help heal.  The gift of giving hope.

I can't change anyone's life path.  I can't take away events, situations, or even words spoken.  But I can and I will use what I have inside me to maybe teach  someone relax just a bit.  Help someone find that faith they have buried inside.  Or even, perhaps, spark hope in someone who has lost their way.

You can quit smoking you know.  You can be happy.  You can forgive.  You can.....do anything you chose to do and be anything you chose to be.  You have the talents, the gifts, the lovely light that shines for others to see.  Maybe you just need a kind word to bring it forth.

I believe in you.  Sincere hope that you believe in yourself as well and see yourself as I see you....as we here see you....you are precious.  Enjoy the world today...it's full of beauty!!

Sheri

~~Every time you find some humor in a difficult situation, you win.~~  Unknown

 

I got a response to one of my blogs last night that was unusual.  I had to read it twice.  And then I had to laugh.  Not what I would consider an appropriate response, but the writer did catch my attention.

I made a mistake last week.  It caught up with me last night as well.  Double whammy?  Nope, just a learning experience.  I keep reading that you only learn and grow when you step out of your comfort zone.....I believe I should have a PhD by now :)  I left my comfort zone far behind.....

But nothing can make me smoke.  I can be hurt but I won't smoke over it.  I can be tired, lonely, angry, upset, embarrassed, lost.......but I won't smoke.

Because the one thing I really do understand is that I have control over my addiction.  I can choose to smoke or I can choose to continue to be an ex-smoker.  And I am happier, healthier, and more confident as an ex.

Have a truly marvelous Monday, all! 

Sheri

~~She decided to practice loving herself completely and unconditionally.  She deserved to give herself what she so freely gave to her family and friends.~~  Queenisms

 

So this week-end I am getting my hair cut because it's beend driving me crazy.  It may sound simple but I hate spending money on myself so this is a big deal to me :)

What are you going to do for yourself this week-end?  It doesn't have to cost money.  It could be a quiet cup of coffee out on the back porch.  Taking a hike.  Letting the dishes stay in the sink while dancing to the radio.

But please, please remember that you deserve yourself what you so freely give to your family and friends!!  Patience, kindness, love.......you deserve all that. 

Treat yourself well, my dear quitters!!  You are worth it.  And share if you feel like it....what are you going to do?

Love to you all,

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Just Be

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 14, 2014

~~Be yourself.  Life is precious as it is.  All the elements for your happiness are already here.  There is no need to run, strive, search, or struggle.  Just be.~~  Thich Nhat Hanh

 

I wish I could tell you how utterly serene it feels like to "just be".  How peaceful and calming it is.  No struggles to control my world.....no searching for what will make me "better".....no striving for perfection.  These days, I just am.

Maybe that's how I got through my quit so far.  I didn't "struggle" with a craving.  It appeared and I left it there until it went away.  And it always went away.  I didn't have to act on it, fight with it, or run from it. 

Just be.  How simple.  How precious.  How enlightening.

Today, keep it simple and just be.  Enjoy.  Relax.  Be yourself.  Love yourself.  How simple it can be.

Just be.  You can do it.  And it can change your life as you let go of the struggles.  As you stop running.  As you simply live in this moment, here and now.

May you all feel the amazing serenity of this day.  May you all feel the quiet joy of this moment.  May you all finally understand how simply beautiful you are.

Sheri

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Giggles

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 13, 2014

Boy, I was going to come here today and be really wise and full of wonderful tips and advice.  Then I realized that its not going to happen :)  I laughed instead.  So I want to pass on a few chuckles....a bit of cheer....a smile or two.  Because that's who I am today.

~~I'm warning you.  Don't mess with me!  I know Karate, Judo, Kung Fu, Tae Kwon Do, Jujitsu, and 28 other dangerous words!~~

~~An officer came to my house and asked me where I was between 5 and 6.  I replied, "Kindergarten."~~

~~In my world, everyone's a pony and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies.~~

~~Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the main reason I have trust issues.~~

~~ Dear Lord, all I ask for is a chance to prove that winning the Lottery won't make me a bad person.~~

~~10 top reasons for procrastination:  1.                                      ~~

I hope you are smiling just a bit, my lovely quitters :)  The world can be a funny, kind place to be.  Enjoy it.  Remember that we are family.  And family means that no one gets left behind or forgotten (David Ogden Stiers).

We are here for you as well.

Be happy today,

Sheri

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Yep, It's Me

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Nov 12, 2014

No quotes today.  No cheerful little notes of encouragement.  Just me.  Words.  Thoughts. 

Several people have asked if I'm cheerful all the time.  If I really am this happy.  If I am positive during the day or just here on the blogs.

Can't get upset over questions like that :)  Its nice to know you are interested in who I am. 

I haven't always been positive.  Haven't always been cheerful.  It takes practice!!  Really.  Just as it takes practice to feel negative....to develop bad habits.....to cut off your friends.  It takes practice to see the beauty each day.....to feel joy......to think positive.

I like it.  I like me.  Ready for a quote now?  ~~She loved life and life loved her back.~~  Unknown

It would be nice if people thought that of me.  I do love life.  I love people.  And I like to encourage others to see the best in themselves....and in the world.  Its simply who I am now.

526 days of not smoking.  524 days of feeling great about it (the first two days of cold turkey kinda sucked.).  And all because I like me, I like life, and I make the best of where I am.

I like you all just the way you are, whether it be sweet, grumpy, nice, kind, bitchy, angry.....and I hope you like me the way I am as well. 

May your day be filled with love, laughter, and serenity,

Sheri

~~Celebrate life.  Laugh out loud.  Dance for no reason.  Have fun.  Dream big.  Create new paths.  Be bold.  Make mistakes.  Be kind.  Try something new.  Take risks.  Inspire.  Be inspired.  Shine brightly.  Make things.  Be an explorer.  Love unconditionally.  Share.  Live fully.  Never stop learning.  Never stop growing.  Be curious.  Be present.  Open your mind.  Give hugs.  Expand your heart.  Be yourself always.  Live your passion.  Enjoy simple things.  Have gratitude.  Listen.  Breathe deeply and smile.~~  Unknown

 

Why wait until 365 days quit to celebrate?  Why wait for birthdays?  Why wait for Christmas?  Thanksgiving?  Celebrate life today!!  You've been quit for 10 hours?  Celebrate!!  That is a marvelous accomplishment!! 

Today will never, ever, ever come again.  Why not celebrate it?  You are here, right now.  Why not celebrate that?!

Life holds surprises.  The world offers you beauty.  Every second is a chance to live.  So take that and run with it.  Don't dwell on what you've lost in life.  Don't hold on to how life has treated you unfairly.  Don't worry about what may be around the corner.

Celebrate life and much more importantly.....celebrate YOU :)  How lovely you look today.  How strong you are.  How kind.  How creative.  You don't really need a reason other than you are here today on earth.  Celebrate that!  Celebrate you.

Each of you is unique, priceless, precious.  I know that.  I've read your blogs, I've seen you give of yourselves here, I've talked to you.  My gosh, you are extraordinary!!  So celebrate you.  Don't wait for Hallmark to design a card, don't wait for Congress to declare a holiday.....decide that you are worth it.  Make a cupcake.  Buy a donut with pretty sprinkles.  Smile at yourself.  Read a good book.  Whatever you choose to celebrate. 

You are worth it. 

Still dancing today.......Sheri

~~I am no artist but today I will color.  I understand no rhythm but today I will dance.  I will let myself surrender all control and feel joy.~~  Unknown

 

Happy Monday!!!  What a lovely day to quit smoking :)  What a beautiful day to keep your quit :)  And what a gorgeous day to be alive.

What to know a secret?  I still get stressed sometimes.  I still feel negative emotions.  But rather than craving a cigarette......I crave a hug.  A kind word.  A smile.  When I feel negative, I simply crave something positive.  And I love that!!

So today, try to replace those negative things.....stress, anger, frustrations....with positives.  A gentle touch, a laugh, a kind word.

And feel the joy of your quit!!  You smell wonderful!!!  You look amazing!!!  You can breath, you can smell, you can taste all the marvelous things the world has to offer.  Today, feel the joy. 

Do a little dance......sing a little song......giggle.  Hug.....smile.....cartwheel.  Truly feel the joy of your quit.  So when you feel stressed, you can pull out the positives you feel today....and do them again when needed.

I am so proud of you all!!!  I am proud of me!!  And I love Mondays :) 

Dancing today,

Sheri

~~Don't be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life.  You don't have to live forever, you just have to live.~~  Unknown

 

I danced in the rain last night.  It was fun!!  Two neighbors also got in on the act as did their children.  Today I get to take 6 teen-age girls shopping and out to lunch.  I may sing along to the radio while I drive and maybe I can get these girls to sing with me.  I may meet someone new.  I may learn something new.  Who knows what today will bring?!

I read somewhere that we really should enjoy today as we are the oldest we've ever been and the youngest we'll ever be.  I kinda like that!  I just want to really live and squeeze out every enjoyable minute I'm here on earth.  Not every minute is enjoyable but I tend to get through the bad minutes and then forget them while hanging on to the good and remembering them forever.

When I quit smoking (538 days ago, I think), I gave myself the greatest gift ever!!  No more dividing my time into the smoking/not smoking moments.  No more thinking about where I can smoke, do I have enough to last the weekend, where is my lighter, can I sneak away.....you know?  My time, my precious time is once again mine!!  I get to decide what I do, my addiction doesn't dictate it anymore.

So, whatcha gonna do today?  Maybe touch someone's life?  Maybe have your best day ever at work?  Maybe sing that one song you've always loved?  Maybe feel tickled that you quit smoking?  Maybe be kinder to yourself than you usually are?

Whatever you do, please live this day!!  It's a gift.  And so are you :)  Thank you for making me feel like what I say matters.....you've made someone else's day already!  Enjoy yours.

Sheri

Long work week.  Lots of sadness and drama.  I need some laughter.....so my lovely co-workers and friends sent me some :)

 

~~Common sense is like deodorant.  The people who need it the most never use it.~~

~~A chicken crossing the road is poultry in motion.~~

~~People often say that motivation doesn't last.  Neither does bathing.  That's why its recommended daily.~~

 

~~I have CDO, it's like OCD but all the letters are in alphabetical order.....

............as they should be.~~

 

~~If I've pissed you off already today, I'm sorry.  If I haven't, please take a number and I'll be with you shortly.~~

~~My trail of thought derailed.  There were no survivors.~~

 

Lighten up and share a laugh.....its Friday!!

~~I am happy.  I have air in my lungs, love in my heart, serenity in my mind, and peace in my soul.  I am blessed with the best that the world has to offer.~~  Doe Zantamata

 

I heard a heartbreaking story yesterday of sexual abuse, physical violence, and broken children.  I did my job and was supportive, helpful, and positive.  Inside, I will never understand the cruelty and ugliness of those who hurt others.

And so I wake grateful today.  My life is not perfect but there is no abuse.  There is no ugliness on a daily basis.  There is no wondering if I can feed my family.

I am blessed.  I am happy.  And I will continue to work with those who live in pain, fear, and ugliness.

I am not smoking through my days anymore.  I can handle things in a healthy way :)  And I can teach others how to live in a healthy way as well.

You can do this!  You can quit no matter what is going on in your life.  This site helps.  These people care.  And you are worth it :)

May you find happiness in your day and in your quit today!!  And may you find yourself dancing just a little.....with a smile on your face and a song in your heart......

Sheri

~~I forgive myself for having believed for so long that I was never good enough to have, get & be what I wanted.  ~~  Ceanne DeRohan

 

I'm a very happy person.  Very appreciative for all I've been blessed with.  Very positive.  Very hopeful.

But I haven't always been this way.  And I think it's now important to really share with you a part of my not so positive life because maybe it will help someone else.  Maybe it will keep things in perspective. 

A little over 4 years ago, I was here on ex....quitting, making friends, helping others.  I thought I was doing well.  One day after a particularily devistating event, I wasn't doing well anymore.  Rock bottom on the healthy emotions scale!  Crying uncontrollably, feeling hopeless......it was bad.  And the worst part was I never saw it coming.  It had nothing to do with this site.  It had nothing to do with my quit.  It was ME.  I was the problem and I was a mess inside.  And I didn't know why.

I called a friend.  She listened, she didn't judge, she didn't offer advice.  And then I talked with another friend in West Virginia.  She listened, she was practical, she was funny.  And then I looked within and knew it was time to fogive myself, time to let go of the negative self-talk and self-beliefs, and time to change.

I tried therapy for awhile but it wasn't helpful to me.  (It may be to you, however, so do NOT follow in my footsteps.  Please get professional help if you need it!!!)  I ended up quitting my highly stressful job, focusing on my lovely kids and grandkids, got healthy physically through yoga and good nutrition, and found a job I absolutely loved.  And mostly I learned to love myself....my faults, my flaws, my talents, and my heart.  Some would call this whole person wellness.  I simply call it a miracle :)

Now?  I found my quit....519 days, I believe.  I won't be smoking anymore.  I like myself too much and I am edcuated on all I need to do to keep my precious quit.  Surprisingly, there's more!!  Quitting is only a small part of who I am as a person (although its one of the most important things you can do for your physical and emotional health!!).  I have found my balance.  And if I don't see something coming, now I have a group of family and friends who will tell me it's time to take care of myself.  I can't do it alone....no one truly can.  And I'm ok with that!

So why I am telling you this now?  Because maybe you don't see it coming.  Take a good look inside yourself....are you balanced?  Do you feel good about who you are?  Are you healthy or heading towards good health?  Do you have positive coping skills?  If you say no to any one thing, maybe you need change.  Positive, lifesaving, wonderful change :)  Grab your support system, educate yourself on you (what makes you happy?  How much sleep makes you feel better?  What are you good at?), and understand that you deserve an amazingly good life.  Let the negative fall away with the cigarettes.  You don't need either.

Quitting is a good step in the right direction!  Life is a journey.  Skip down your path with a light heart, shining your light for all the world to see.  I can't wait to see it :) 

May you all find balance today and surround yourself with those who love you.  God bless,

Sheri