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And so I dance

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Aug 28, 2014

~~And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.~~  Nietzche

 

I dance.  To everything from the Tennessee Waltz with a friend to The Wheels on the Bus with my grandchildren.  I dance down aisle 11 in Wal-Mart every time we go down aisle 11.  I dance into my office, up to the doors of the people I serve.

I have a friend who can't dance.  She has been in a wheelchair for 10+ years now.  Her greatest wish is to be able to dance with her son one more time.  It will be a miracle if she can.....but I firmly believe in miracles :)

I don't ever want to regret that I missed an opportunity to dance.  I don't ever want to regret that I missed an opportunity to........

-make someone smile

-sing my favorite songs

-laugh

-feel happiness

-love someone

 

450 days ago, I changed my life.  I quit smoking.  By doing that, I gave myself more opportunities to do the things I love.  I don't regret quitting and I refuse to regret not taking the time to do the things that make me happy.

So how much time do you take to do the things you love to do?  Please don't take them for granted.  You have the ability to create a life you love.....a life you are happy in.....a life where you can dance or sing or paint or love whenever you have the opportunity to.  Take it!!  Its so worth the effort.

Love yourself, love your life, and be grateful for all you have.  It's a wonderful life!

May you find peace and joy in today and always,

Sheri

~~Find out where the joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing.  For to miss the joy is to miss all.~~  Robert Louis Stevenson

 

When I stopped smoking 444 days ago, I also quit many other things.....yoga, walking, enjoying early morning outings.  I stopped because I was afraid of triggering a craving that I would not be able to control.  Silly, I know, but I wanted to quit so badly I was willing to do whatever it took to stay quit during those early days.

I quickly got back into walking!!  I now walk 4 miles almost every evening.  I need nature, I need the voices of the people I walk with, and I need the peace I find in moving.  I even run from time to time.

But last night I pulled out my favorite yoga DVD, my electric blue yoga mat, and my favorite workout clothes.  It was like coming home and I swear that my body was finally smiling!  The joy I felt from the familiar moves was simply marvelous.  Total joy.  No, I couldn't move as freely as I did last year but that wasn't the point.  I will get there as far as the moves.  The important part to me was the contentment.  The familiarity.  The joy.

I like to share these moments because I hope others can relate.  I hope someone is nodding and thinking, "I understand that."  But maybe not.

Maybe this isn't the right forum for me to share my thoughts.  Writing is one of my coping skills.  I also like to help people see the beauty in themselves.  Again, maybe this isn't the place to do it.

I guess I want you to be able to find your joy as you quit smoking.  Concentrate on the positives within yourself and that will always be stronger than the negatives that lead back to smoking.  Not everyone is a happy person.  Not everyone will believe in their beauty.  But everyone has their own passions.....and passions lead to contentment, strength, and a knowledge of your own power over your life.  Full circle, it means you can control your quit.  I just choose to do it with a smile and a quickstep :)

May today be your best day ever!!

Sheri

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All I Can Do

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Aug 19, 2014

~~What lies behind you and what lies in front of you pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.~~  Ralph Waldo Emerson

This quote helped me become so much more than I ever thought I could.  Yep, I was full of doubts, full of fears, full of questions......and I disliked what I saw when I looked in the mirror.  It doesn't matter what my past was like.  It doesn't matter "all I had been through".  I saw myself as a victim of life rather than a participant.

You can only be a victim for so long before you begin to yearn for something else.  Not just strength to go on.  Not just courage to face your fears.  Not just the will to overcome.

You begin to yearn for peace within.  You begin to want confidence.  You begin to understand that the only person who can make you whole is you.

And so you learn.  You learn how to like yourself.  You learn that the only person you have to please is yourself.  You learn to become whole.

And once I did....because this has all been about my journey.....I also learned that I had the power to quit smoking.  I had the power to get healthy.  I had the power to change jobs.  I could control my life :)  What a lovely feeling!!

Now, this is just me, but I can say with confidence that you have it within you as well.....to do anything you chose to do.  You have the strength, the confidence, the courage to be, to do, to have anything in your life you chose.  You may, as I did, have to practice a bit.  You may, as I did, have to learn how to be your own best friend.  But its do-able. 

And you are so worth that effort, my friend!  I know that within you is a joyful, beautiful soul who wishes to come forth.  Quitting is so much easier when you like yourself and want to do all you can to protect your health and your life. 

Happy Tuesday and may you enjoy peace and tranquility today......

Sheri

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This Is The Day

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Aug 15, 2014

~~This is the day I shall behave as if this is the day I will be remembered.~~  Unknown

 

No negative talk for me today.  No gossip, no frustration.  Today I will remember that I am here to pass on kindness, to care about people, and to give to others.

Today I will be better than yesterday.

I wish for all of you love, laughter, and peace in your world.

 

Sheri

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To All Of Us

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Aug 14, 2014

~~Like water, be gentle and strong.  Be gentle enough to follow the natural paths of earth and be strong enough to rise up and reshape the world.~~  Brenda Peterson

 

I am normally a very shy person.  Quiet.  But when I feel passionately about a topic, I talk.  I advocate.  And I am not intimidated by other strong opinions or ideas.  I feel passionate about people taking care of each other.  Being gentle, being kind, and simply caring.

 

Everyone who comes to this site comes with the hope of learning how to quit smoking.  Some have already quit and just want to help.  Some need the reinforcement that this site provides.  Others have no idea of where to start.  But we are all here because of our desire to quit and to stay quit.

I applaud each and every one of you.  I wish I had the time to right personal messages to all.  I wish I had the time to personally tell you that I admire your dedication, your hopes, and your courage.  Almost every smoker I have ever known has wanted to quit but does not want to go through the process.  So for those of us who are here.......well, it takes courage.

I feel passionate about people treating themselves as well as each other kindly.  Gently.  The world is tough enough without us beating ourselves up over anything.  You are deserving of good in this world.  You deserve to be treated well.  You deserve kindness.  If you don't get that from others, get it from yourself.  Be your best friend.  Love yourself. 

And remember that everyone here is here for the same thing.  See the hope in the words they right.  See their courage and commitment.  See their faith.  See their beauty.  To all of us here, may we live another day....may we find comfort when we need it.  May we learn that we are all worthy of and deserving of kindness.

Happy Thursday, all!!  May you have peace in your world today.

Sheri

~~Love yourself.  It's really that simple.~~ Katrina Mayer

 

I have been a single mom for about 24 years now.  When my kids were little, we were quite poor as I was working full time but going to college.  No child support or any kind of assistance.  But that was ok as we were happy.  We found so many things to do as a family.  One was "movie night". We could check out movies from the library at no charge :)  We would set up our 'theater seating', turn off all the lights, and watch a movie....of course with popcorn and soda.

My children are older now but they still quote from those movies they saw as kids. We still do the "remember when......" One of their favorites movies was "Mrs. Doubtfire".  They loved Robin Williams!!  And so he helped make memories for my family that have lasted a lifetime. 

He won't be part of my grandchildren's growing up.  So very, very sad that he won't.  We can still watch Mrs. Doubtfire, Good Morning VietNam, Dead Poet's Society......but it won't be the same.

Depression does not discriminate.  It can happen to you, to your loved ones....to anyone.  If you have thoughts of "just ending it all", if you have depression that lasts over two weeks, if you are unable to function in your daily life or struggle to function, please get help.  There is so much help available!  People truly care and are willing to assist you at any time, day or night.

When you have depression, things like quitting smoking can be a mountain you don't think you can climb.  That's when help can really be important.  Please don't think you need to do this alone.  Psychiatrists, therapists, and medical doctors are there to assist your quit as well as your mental health. 

This may sound like a ad for depression and I don't mean it to be.  But I care about each person here and I know the heartbreaking effects that depression can cause.  I want you to be able to feel joy in your life as well as be successful in your quit.  Those who are depressed have a harder time achieving those goals.  Hard, yes.  Impossible, no.  Help's available.

God Bless us all today and may we find love and laughter in our lives :)  Rest in Peace, Mr. Robin Williams, and condolences to his family.

Sheri

~~Believe in yourself and all that you are.  Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.~~   Unknown

 

Today I chose happy over sad.  I chose laughter over tears.  I chose love over anger.  Its so much easier for me to bring forth positive rather than trying to sustain negative.  Being negative takes too much energy.  Being happy is like feeling a breeze on a summer's day.....simply light and easy.

You have choices as well.  You can chose to be happy.  You can chose to not smoke.  Its entirely up to you!

I believe in you.  I believe you are strong enough and wise enough to chose life.  And I am cheering for you!!

Find laughter in this marvelous Monday.  Dance just a little and sing just a bit.  Catch that glimpse of what life can be without cigarettes.  It's truly lovely.

Happy Monday :)  May this week bring you all that you wish for.......

Sheri

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Being Me

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Aug 8, 2014

~~In a world where you can be anything, be yourself.~~  Unknown

 

My name is Sheri, I am a mother, a grandmother, a case manager.  I love to dance, love to laugh, hate numbers of any kind, and dislike money.  I can create, I can organize, I cannot change my oil or fix plumbing problems.

I quit smoking 430 days ago.  I celebrated each and every day for the first month.  Now I simply quietly applaud every now and then :)

Be yourself as you quit.  Find yourself in your quit.  You are a lovely person inside with amazing talents, strengths, and courage.  It's all there.  You just have to use it.  I can promise you that you will never, ever regret quitting.

So who are you?  Are you funny?  Are you creative?  Are you calm?  Can you write?  Draw?  Build?   

Find your strengths, my dear friends, and lean on them for a while.  Be yourself, whoever you are.  And always remember that you are doing something remarkable!!  You are taking back control of your life.  Magnificant!!

What a lovely Friday morning to be smoke free........

Sheri

~~...Find out where joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing.  For to miss the joy is to miss all.~~  Robert Louis Stevenson

 

Today is a new day....a fresh start....a free pass.  Let go of yesterday and don't turn towards tomorrow.  Simply live today the best you can and stay in the here and now.  Find your joy!  Whether it is in your family, music, art, organizing, or nature, joy makes life sparkle. 

So allow sparkle in your world today.  Smile a bit.....dance a bit....sing a bit....and love a lot!  And you'll find that you will think about smoking less, you will struggle less, and you will celebrate your quit a little more.

My wish is that you will be happy today and find your world is sparkling :)

Happy Thursday, sweet people!!

Sheri

~~Open you eyes and see that life is beautiful.~~  Unknown

 

Take a moment this morning to hear the birds sing.....to smell the fresh air......to feel the soft wind on your cheeks.....to linger in a hug of a child.  Just take a moment and feel that life is truly beautiful.

Then you can continue your day content in the knowledge that you can handle your journey.

 

Have a lovely Wednesday, dear people!!

Sheri

~~In your day, surround yourself with people who love you, motivate you, encourage you, and just make you feel good about being.....you!~~  Unknown

 

So many people come to this site and read.  Great!!  Some come and want to learn about quitting.  Great!!  But some come.....and wish they were truly a part of ex.  Wonderful!!

So don't be shy.  Don't be nervous.  Come and introduce yourself!!  Write a blog and let us know who you are.  Come make some life long friends, some wise guides who can help you navigate the ins and outs of your quit.  Don't just wish to be a part.....you can be a part!!

If you don't know what to do on this site, you can simply write a blog that says, "I don't know what to do."  Trust me, you will soon learn as there are so many marvelous people here willing to help.  If you need a friend, you can simply say, "I need a friend".  Again, someone will rush to help.

I know some of you are just looking to quit smoking.  But studies have shown that it is easier to quit with a good support system in place.  People to celebrate with you, to hug you when you're down, and to guide you during times you can't see that light at the end of the tunnel.

So come on out and play with us!!  Come shine your light.....we want you here!  You are NEVER alone in your journey to quit.  If you've been reading the blogs, you should know that you are never alone no matter what is going on in your life.  People here care and that is always a good thing.

I love to see new people come on board.....this site is about you.  Everyone deserves to have support.  Everyone deserves kindness.  Everyone deserves to quit smoking.

I see you back there...waiting, hoping.  Come out of the shadows!!  It's ok.  I promise.

Happy Tuesday....its a lovely day!!

Sheri

When good things happen to good people, all is right in the world for just a moment.  Everything makes sense and all you feel is joy and contentment. 

This is how I feel today as Bee Jay celebrates her one year quit :-)  Good things are happening to this good person and I am so very happy for her!!  She is kind, considerate, wise, and funny and deserving of happiness and peace.

I am blessed to have her in my life.  She was such a comfort and steady influence when things were going horribly wrong for me and she continues to shine a little light in my topsy turvy world.  Thank you for that, BeeJay!!  You have no idea how you saved me.

And now you are saving yourself as well.  Quitting is not the only good thing you have done in your marvelous life, but it certainly is probably one of the most difficult and rewarding!!  Be proud of yourself, celebrate big, and never forget you are so worth it!!

Many hugs coming your way.  From me, Jake, Tay, Katie, and the rest of the crazy Florida family :)  Congratulations!!!!!!!

Sheri

~~Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you even when you don't see it yourself.~~  Unknown

 

My mother told me today that she thinks I live in a dream world where everything is pretty and the world is full of nothing but kindness.  She didn't mean anything mean by that, she just worries that I'm not realistic.  I have been known to dream :)  I have been known to be positive :)  And I also have been known to find joy in even the most stressful situations.

I worked in child welfare for almost 10 years.  I worked with parents who broke their babies bones.  I worked with parents who molested their children.  I worked with children who didn't know how to dream, how to have fun, or how to hope for anything more.  Then I worked in mental health.  I worked with adults who were not wanted by their families.  I worked with adults who were crushed by rejection, abandonment, and who didn't know how to hope for anything else.

I am totally aware of what the world is like today.  I smoked through the majority of it.  What an unhealthy coping skill to have when the world was already full of tragedy and heartbreak!  So I quit.  I also surrounded myself with people who believed I could quit.....who believed that I was needed in the world....who gave me hope, joy, and love when I wasn't the most loveable.

Every step of the way, I found joy.  In the early days of my quit and I had cravings galore........I found joy in the fact that my body was getting rid of the nicotine.  I was supposed to be craving as it's part of the process of recovery.  When I was an emotional mess during my quit, I found joy in the fact that I could now face my emotions....both positive and negative......without smoking.  I could go on and on about finding joy in my days!!  But this is me and this is who I am.  424 days of finding the joy in quitting!!

How about you?  Do you surround yourself with people who believe in you?  Do you rejoice in your quit?  Do you understand that it's only uncomfortable for a few months......and then you can truly live the rest of your life without even thinking of a cigarette?  Please try to find the joy in what you are doing!!  You are giving yourself the best gift in the whole world....the gift of living smoke free!!  You are amazing :-) 

Its your choice, of course.  You can focus on whatever you wish to focus on.  You can be as negative as you want to if that helps you get through your quit.  But the joy is there if you want it......

Hope everyone is having a lovely Saturday!!  Peace and contentment to you all,

Sheri