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7 Lovely Logics

1.  Make peace with your past so it doesn't spoil your present.

2.  What others think of you is none of your business.

3.  Time heals almost everything, give the time, some time.

4.  No one is the reason for your happiness except you yourself.

5.  Don't compare your life with others.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

6.  Stop thinking too much, its alright not to know all the answers.

7.  Smile, you don't own the problems of the world.


Some say that quitting smoking is a roller coaster ride.  To me, life is that ride.  From weddings to funerals to bankruptcy to definitely has its ups and downs.  New jobs, old friendships, misunderstandings.....need I go on?  I used to smoke through all this.  Whenever life got tense, I got stressed, things got uncomfortable....I smoked.  I didn't deal with the problem....I just smoked.

Smoking hasn't been an option for me for the past 417 days.  So, early in my quit, I had to consciously remind myself "I don't do that anymore" when I wanted to smoke rather than live.  Then I had to consciously think "What else can I do to handle my emotions?"  I had a host of things to do....take a walk, take a few deep breaths, laugh, dance, sing, talk to a friend....good grief, I could do so many other things than smoke!

In 417 days, I have done all those things and more.  I don't have to consciously remind myself "I don't do that anymore".  I don't even consciously have to think "What else can I do to handle my emotions?"  I automatically do something else!  Yep, I may head out the door for a walk.  I may take a few deep breaths and handle the situation.  Or I may simply allow life to happen without me doing anything about it at all. 

What a delightful way to live!!  Life still hands me some challenges.  Life still holds some hurts and some sadness and some stress.  But I don't think about smoking through it.  I love my life and all its ups and downs.  I love my friends (and you know who you are!) and all their brightness and shine!  I love the challenges and the beauty, the splendor and the struggles.

I live those 7 lovely logics at the top of this blog.  It helped in the early days of my quit.  Along with being positive, understanding that smoking was not an option, and knowing that even if I didn't quite want to quit, I could still do it.  It was IS all....worth it.  I'm worth it!  And so are you!!  Delight in your life.....delight in you!!  You are worth it.

Happy Saturday and God Bless!!



Why Not You?

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jul 22, 2014

~~Handle yourself with tender, loving are more precious than you believe, more valuable than you think, and worth more than you'll ever know.~~  Unknown


She quit......he quit......they quit.....everyone seems to be quitting.  So why not you?  Instead of thinking, "I can't do this".....why not think "Why not me?  I can do it because I am just as ________as anyone else."

She is are you, my friend.

He is are you, my friend.

They have it do you, my friend.

You have within you all the courage, strength, and intelligence it takes to quit successfully.  You feel the same things everyone else feels.  You struggle sometimes just like everyone else struggles.  You deserve all the joy, love, and goodness that everyone else deserves.  So much of what we go through is the same, even though we are all so different.

So rather than think "Why me???!!!"  think "Why not me?  I can do it, too!!"

Believe in yourself.  Understand yourself.  Love yourself enough to be good to yourself.  And truly know deep in your heart that you CAN quit.  You have everything you :-)  It's all there.  The courage.   The knowledge.  The strength.  You have it all. 



~~Strength doesn't come from what you can do, it comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn't.~~  Unknown


I enjoy coming here and writing about all the things that I think it takes for a successful quit.....loving yourself, being gentle with yourself, and being kind to yourself.  It's my way of helping.  I want you to succeed.  But I don't talk enough about strength.  And strength is the basis of anyone quit.  Your strength for your strength for mine.  You see, I finally figured that out when I quit this very last time.....410 days ago.

I quit without this site and without any other site.  I told my kids but then I simply did what I knew I had to do.  No trumpets, no fanfare, no fireworks.  I knew that when I put them down, it was finished.  No "maybe it will work or maybe it won't".  No "I hope this time is the last time".  No "I am afraid I can't do it".

Failing wasn't an option.  Quitting meant never again even thinking of slipping, relapse, sneaking, or failing.  Quitting meant forever being smoke free.  And so, with that mindset, I quit.

There are no magic potions, no secrets to quitting, no perfect formula.  It is not easier for some than others.  Just as smoking doesn't discriminate, neither does quitting.  You don't have to be rich, have a high IQ, or be short, tall, shy, or outgoing.  Anyone can quit.

Just remember, please, to recognize your strength in quitting.  You haven't smoked in 5 hours?  Cheer!!  You are strong.  You feel weak, come here, ask for help....cheer!  You are strong.  You are curled in a ball on your bed sobbing but haven't smoked?  Cheer!!  You are strong.  Strength isn't in having no desire to smoke....strength is in not smoking, regardless of your desires.

Excuse me, please, for rattling on......I just want you to know you can quit successfully.  After all, I did :)  And I'm just someone like you who used to be a smoker.

Peace to all on this lovely, rainy Saturday!



My Apologies

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Jul 10, 2014

~~Let your dreams be bigger than your fears, your actions louder than your words, and your faith stronger than your feelings.~~  Unknown

A dear friend of mine let me know that he didn't know how to comment on my blog about looking lovely because he didn't feel 'lovely'.  My words often sound pretty and delicate and sweet because, well.....I'm female.  I like pretty and delicate and sweet. 

Yet underneath these words are other words although I might not say them enough.....strong, courageous, determined, and dedicated.  Any person, male or female, who quits smoking has these traits.  And to me they are also lovely words :)  When you hold on to your quit when you are stressed or hurting, you reflect the strength that it takes to get through life.  When you are afraid that you can't do it....but do it anyway, you reflect the courage it takes to face your fears instead of giving in to them.  When you feel weak inside but continue your non-smoking journey reflect the determination it takes to go on no matter what.

Yes, I often write how I think.  I can't apologize for that.  But I apologize if my words made anyone feel like I wasn't addressing their journey.  I am and I do.  Look in the mirror, my male and female quitters, and you will see what I see.  A success. A hero.  An amazing person who can do anything he/she puts his/her mind to!

I know with total faith that you can quit successfully.  I know you have the strength, the courage, the determination to see it through.  Now it is up to you to realize that same thing.  Because as much as I believe it, you have to believe it as well.  You are a your own hero, your own best friend.  Keep your quit strong.

Peace to all this lovely Thursday!!


~~Don't wait until you've reached your goal to be proud of yourself.  Be proud of every step you take towards reaching your goal.~~  Unknown

Have you looked at yourself recently?  I mean really looked at yourself?  I saw you when you decided it was time for you to quit smoking.  You were excited, proud, and a bit fearful....but you looked lovely! 

I saw you when you passed your first two weeks of not smoking.  You were excited, proud of yourself, and simply glowing.  You looked lovely.

I saw you when you were having a bad day.  Stress, cravings, and doubt were hammering at you but you battled for your health....and you looked lovely.

I see you a lot here.  I see you excited, happy, fearful, stressed, sad, and tired.  I see you joyful, glowing, shining, and proud.  I see you weary, grumpy, angry, and hurting.

You are always, always lovely.  Beauty comes from within, you see.  It doesn't matter whether you are having a good day or a bad day.  It doesn't matter if you are happy or sad or feeling fat or feeling grumpy.

It comes from your hope.  It comes from your faith in yourself.  It comes from living your life in truth.  It comes from getting back up when you've been knocked down.  It comes from never giving up....always trying, always knowing that in the end, you will have beaten your demons, your bad habits, your trials in life.

You are lovely.  If you need reminding, I will say it over and over again until you look in the mirror and see what I see.....what we all see.  The beauty within.  The courage.  The strength.  The determination.  The peace.  The understanding that your life is worth everything, especially the uncomfortableness in quitting smoking.  You can do it.  I know it.  And if you need reminding, I will say it over and over again until you believe it as well.

You are lovely and you are worth it!  Peace to all,