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No quotes today, no happiness, no joy.  Sometimes in life there is heartbreak and last night it was my turn.  Life is like this.  The ups and downs are often blindsiding and quick.  The suddenness can take your breath away and leave you feeling stunned and broken.

Life is like this.  Underneath the pain, I understand this and am willing to take my share of hurt.  I am truly blessed to be alive and to have so many lovely people in my life.  I will survive,  But today I simply feel broken and sad.

May you all remember your blessings when life takes you down a path of sadness or hurt.



I usually write once in a while here simply because I have found happiness and peace in my life and I like to share that with others.  Hopefully it's as contagious as a cold :-)

However, a dear friend pointed out that most people here don't even know who I am as far as my own struggles with quitting.  I don't mind sharing....I just didn't think it mattered.  But, here goes:

I found this site 4 or so years ago during a time in my life when I was wanting to quit.  I had some major health problems, lost my very bestest friends within a year of eachother, and was definitely not at my best.  But I thought I had this quit thing down.  I was doing very well until........

Until I wasn't doing very well.  I hit rock bottom in my life, never mind my smoking.  But I think now that this was God's way of getting me on my road....the journey I am supposed to be taking.  Still, it was a rough time and I relapsed.

I am now 329 days smoke free.  I am happy, relaxed, and doing well.  What was, was....I can't change that.  But I had my "ah-ha" moment and found that quitting this time wasn't as tough as I thought.  I am more positive, more looking ahead than behind, and very ok with who I am. 

To make a long story short, I love my life.  I love myself enough to quit smoking, exercise, and eat healthy.  I find joy in everything.  I try to be kind.  I love to help others.  I am not afraid!  Not afraid to try new things, not afraid to live life smoke-free.  I still have bad's part of life.  But I handle it as it comes and never get in my own way anymore.

So, that's my story.  That's my bit of sharing.  I don't know that it changes anything....but I've been there as each of you have.  Day 100.  I know how it felt for me.  And we are all different.

I hope all of you love yourselves, are as kind to yourselves as you are to others, and know that you matter to the world!!


~~How do you say thank you for sunshine or health....for clear days or gentle rains.....for happiness, joy, or love?  You say it by sharing what you have.  You say it by making the world a better place in which to live.~~  Thomas D Willhite


I have so much to be thankful for.  I can breathe.  I can dance in the rain.  I can see beauty.  I can feel my grandchild's hand in mine.  I can hear music. 

I hope you all take a moment today and count your many blessings.  You all help make the world a better place!  You bring a unique perspective, a gentle joy, a sweet smile into each day for those around you and for those here. 

Focus on the blessings in your life and appreciate the beauty.  Allow smoking to be just a distant memory of something you used to do. 

I believe in you!


And the world is a brighter place because you are in it.~~  Sheri


Don't forget, quitters, to take gentle care of yourself always.  Not just in the early days of your quit when your body is healing itself and your mind is learning to live brightly without nicotine.  Not just in the later days when everyone just assumes you are "all better" because you haven't smoked in one month, two months, six months.  Not just when you are tired or stressed or sad.


Take gentle care of yourself so you understand how magnificent you are!  So you appreciate yourself....your humor, your creativity, your intelligence.  You are exactly who and what and where you are supposed to be and you are lovely. 


Have a joyous day, sweet quitters!!



~~As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen.~~  Winnie the Pooh


Some people love adventure.  Others hide from it and some simply don't see it. 

Why is that important?  Life is fun when you adventure!  Life is full of excitement, happy surprises, and sheer joy when you adventure! 

Climbing mountains.  Dancing in fountains.  Blowing bubbles for my grandchildren.  I love them all!

Planning a trip to Ireland.  Roller skating and hula hooping.  Learning to paint with oils.  Love them all again!!

I could go on and on!  But my joys, my adventures are about me.  You have your own joys.  You have your own excitements.  Remember them.  Find them.  Enjoy them!

Let go of the smoking.  Let go of the focus on it being so hard.  Look forward to the adventures you can have instead.  Look towards the joys in life.  The moments that make you smile.  The friends....the family...the love. 

Life is short and so very precious!  Feel the excitement.  Live the joys.  Love the happiness you find when you let go of whatever holds you back. 

Happy Monday, all!  What a glorious way to start a lovely week :-)  Enjoy.


Sending up a gentle prayer for all who are struggling today.  With quits, with family problems, health problems....whatever may weigh you down.  Please know that people care--I care--and that you aren't alone.

While it may seem like happiness is for others, happiness is also for you.  While it seems like blessings are for others, blessings are also for you.  Tough times are a part of life for everyone and it takes everyone sometimes to help see us through them.

Remember, you were created limitless and there is nothing you cannot achieve.  Nothing.

So sending up a prayer for those who are struggling today.  May you understand that troubles are temporary and you will soon shine again.  Until you do, others are here willing to shine their own light your way.

God bless,


~~Any act of kindness, no matter how small, has the power to turn a life around.~~  Unknown


Life can move kind of fast and often we get caught up in all we should, could, need, and want to do.  Many times that leads to our lives spinning out of control and we turn to negative habits....smoking, overeating, relieve that stress.


Let me offer an alternative.  It doesn't cost any money, it doesn't take much time, and it is so beneficial to you and others. 

Kindness.  Practice kindness each and every day.  A simple smile.  A brush of the cheek.  A hug.  A warm word.  That's all.

To the cashier who worries about making ends meet.  "You look wonderful today in that color blue."

To the old man who walks your neighborhood each day.  "Would you like a glass of water?"

To your daughter who has a snotty attitude.  "I love you always, no matter what."

To a "serial quitter" here on Ex.  "I will never give up on you."

The examples are endless.  People need kindness these days.  Many are lonely, often overlooked.  Many are depressed.  Some are resigned to never feeling special, never thinking things will get better, never believing that the world can be full of hope and promise.

Any act of kindness, no matter how small, has the power to change a life.  Change someone's life today by paying attention and offering kindness.  The life you change may also be your own :-)

Have a very lovely day, my friends!!


I have somewhere in the neighborhood of 307 days now.  It should have been over 1000.....if I were smarter it should have been my whole life.  But it is what it is and I'm happy with my 307 :-)

When I made the decision that this was it and I was done smoking, I also made the decision that I had put my family through enough with my smoking....I wasn't going to put them through hell with my quit as well.  So I not only put together my "quit kit", I also put together my happiness journal so I could make this quit..well....happy.

Don't get me wrong, I still had moments of "Ugh!" but rather than moan to my family about how hard this was, I joked with them, I laughed with them, and I made sure that they were more important than wanting a cigarette.  Now, along with my 300+ days, my family and I have wonderful memories of my early quit days,

No, this isn't advice for others.  I don't give advice.  I'm simply reflecting on 300+ days of love, laughter, and healing.  What a wonderful life I have!! 

Have a very blessed day, my friends!


~~That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.~~  Emily Dickinson


LIfe is good.  It just is.  Regardless of what's going on, regardless of events in my life, regardless of my job, regardless of anything going is good.  I am blessed to have finally figured that out because I was headed.....well, let's just say somewhere not good.  It took a few good friends who believed in me at a time when I lost belief in myself to hold me up until I found my balance again.

Did you ever hear that saying, "love yourself, accept yourself, & be good to yourself because without you, the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things"?  I fully believe this!  So for my friends here....for the Tommys and the Thomases, the Bee Jays and the Sooties, the Kathys and the Teresas, the Ricks and the Shawns....without you, I am without a source of many wonderful things!

It was your belief that I could quit smoking that gave me my belief I could quit.  It was your kindness that made me feel like I was worth the quit.  And it is your heart that shines so brightly that I can find my way when lost.

Quitting?  If you ever doubt you are worth the time, the energy, the effort of quitting.....just let me know.  I will be happy to remind you that you are special.  You are so very much worth your quit.  Don't ever give up or give in.  Remember, life is sweet :)

What a wonderful miracle you are!!


But Rick M has 5 fabulous years of being smoke-free!!  He is not only a marvelous quitter, he is so wonderful at reaching out to others here.  He encourages, he lifts, and he makes quitting seem doable.

Rickie, thank you for all you do.  For being kind.  For noticing those struggling.  For making us think we can do this.  For helping us through the hard times.  For enjoying the good times with us.

If anyone deserves to celebrate, it is you.  You are an amazing and remarkable man.  Congratulations, my friend, and thank you so much for all you do.




ps,  I don't know how to put links here to his page (or any page) or I would!  Sorry, Ohio!!

Did you know that analytical chemistry is a subdivision of chemistry dealing with qualitative and quantitative determination of chemical compounds?  Or can you solve f(x)=ao + En+1 (2-b/x+6x)3/4yn?

Or do you have the solution for curing cancer?  Can you explain the theory of relativity?  Do you understand the wind velocity in relation to flight?


Yeah, me neither. Most of us can't do that. That stuff is HARD!!  But quitting smoking isn't.  Just don't smoke.  It isn't rocket science.  Don't make it complicated.  Once you wrap your mind around the fact that you don't smoke anymore, don't smoke anymore.  Ever.  Period.


Have a marvelous smoke-free day!!



True Beauty

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Apr 2, 2014

Beauty comes in many different shapes, colors, and forms.  People can be beautiful, the world most certainly can be beautiful, music can be beautiful.....I could go on and on as I find beauty everywhere!

However, I found true beauty yesterday when I was teaching my group.  I had them listening to Sabre Dance while blindfolded so they could truly listen and maybe pick out specific instruments that they could hear.  Did you ever watch a talented musician play music?  Oh, it was simply breathtaking!  The orchestra moved with the music!  It was amazing!  The musicians were simply beautiful.

Then I got excited and we then watched an artist paint a picture (You tube gives us everything!).  Again, the movement was beautiful!  The artist reflected that beauty as she was totally immersed in her art.  I was thinking that true talent is beauty.  I talked to my group about it and they agreed that seeing someone live their passion was beautiful.  They enjoyed it but didn't believe that it applied to them as well.

I believe they are wrong. Of course I told them so!  I told them that living with passion can apply to anyone.  Doing things with passion can apply to anyone.  Life is full of ways to express yourself!!  Life is also full of wonderful opportunities to find your passion.

Giving up smoking gives us more time to find our passion, to watch the beauty of life, to fully enjoy the miracle of being here on earth.  Don't miss the opportunities! 

True beauty is within you, my friends.  It is within all of us....we just need to find it and bring it forward.  Find your talent, find your skills, find your passions and you will be truly beautiful.

Smoking takes so much away from us.  It isolates, it steals time, it steals our beauty.  Let it go.  And live in beauty :)

Happy day to you all,