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To Be Yourself

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Feb 27, 2014

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."

I truly relate to that and have come to appreciate who I am, flaws and all.  But sometimes when people are going through their initial stages of quitting smoking, they tend to grasp at anything that will help.  I know I did in the past.  Patches work best....I'll try that.  Cold turkey works best...I'll do that.  I even went into the "she sounds sane.  Why can't I be like that?" when I was struggling with a past quit.  It's like thinking the whole world know how to quit but me.  When I finally decided that I needed to quit my way, regardless of whether anyone else understood or not, I did it....and I did it well!  I found what worked for me and in the process, I became more aware of who I was.  So if I were ever to offer any piece of advice, I would say.....

Quit your way.  Find what works for you.  If you want to whine, whine.  If you are a happy quitter (like our James), be happy.  If you need patches, use them.  Eat, drink, do whatever you need to do to find that success.  Simply do it your way.  Be yourself.  And, taking it one step further, enjoy being yourself!!  The more you love who you are, the easier your quit will come. 


Be your own kind of beautiful, my friends!  Find joy in life and find joy in you.  Life's too short to do anything else :) 


I am not here much anymore as my 3-D life is full and exciting.  I always find something to do :)  But every once in awhile, I think about this site.  The people who are now friends....the friends who make me smile....and the gratitude I feel to be smoke free.  So many still struggle, can't find their way, and literally hurt due to the horrible addiction to nicotine.

I don't have any magic potion.  I don't have the wisdom of those who have stayed here to help you.  But I can say that if you simply relax, you will truly understand that the best is yet to come.  It will come.  The feeling of happiness because you don't want to smoke.  The feeling of joy because you dismissed a smoking thought without regret.  The feeling of surprise because you went a week...a month....several months...without thinking about a cigarette.

When you are struggling, understand that it is temporary.  You will get through it.  You can get through it.  No one died from quitting, no matter how badly you want to give up.  Breathe and know that the best is yet to come.  And it is worth the effort and the wait.

I am no one special.  I don't come here often.  I am not smarter, prettier, or better than anyone, smoker or ex-smoker.  But I am one of millions who have successfully quit.  After years of "trying", I am committed and it feels so darn good :) 

Remember, you have the power to say "This is not how my story will end!"  Don't let smoking control your life.  Quit, learn to stay quit, and move on with things.  There is so much more out here than smoking.

The best is yet to come.