Today my group and I discussed fear. Not just fear but how fear can be totally debilitating and stop us from getting what we want or where we want to be in our lives. They learned how fear is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. They enjoyed the topic and the idea that there is no greater loss to the world than missing out on their unique contribution because they are afraid to fail or afraid that they don’t have anything worth contributing.
I am honest with my group and told them that I feared quitting smoking. I was afraid to fail….again. I was afraid that those I loved would roll their eyes and say, “Here she goes….again”. My fear kept me from being where I wanted to be…smoke free. So I finally faced my fear. What was the absolute worst thing that could happen if I quit smoking? My answer: that I would fail. My solution to that absolutely worst thing that could happen? Don’t fail.
I haven’t failed and haven’t looked back. I’m coming up on 150 days sometime soon (I don’t really count anymore) and never, ever regretted my quit. I’m not afraid anymore.
I don’t give advice here…much, anyway. But, if I did, it would be to face your fear. You’ll find it’s not so scary. My best wishes to all who decide to quit!!