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Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Let Go of Blame

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 24, 2019

~~When you blame others, you give up your power to change.~~ Dr. Robert Anthony

 

Of course life can get stressful and your boss can get on your last nerve and your children can break your heart and your spouse doesn't understand you.  And you can say you smoked because you were afraid you lost you job or your neighbor stole your favorite wrench.  You didn't want to blow up at your oldest or you didn't want to cry in front of a co-worker. 

But smoking is entirely and totally your decision.  No one can 'make' us smoke any more than anyone can 'make' us mad.  We get to choose how we react to a person, a situation, or an event. 

So let go of the blame.  Release it and accept that we can't force others to behave in ways that we feel comfortable with.  Their behaviors are a reflection of their truths...how we respond is a reflection of ours.

When we let go of blaming, we start gaining control of our worlds.  Our responses become more in line with who we are rather than a reaction to what we see.  In letting go of blame, we move more easily into gaining control of what we do and how we interact with others.

Blaming means giving up our power to change.  Letting go of blame allows us the freedom to make decisions based on our own thoughts and feelings rather than another's actions.

So a thought for today....let it go.  Allow others to be who they are, period.  And build your world around who you are.  Because who you are is remarkable, amazing, and beautiful.  Truly. 

 

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Time Flies

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 23, 2019

~~Time flies.  Time flies faster every year.  Time flies whether you're having fun or not, whether you're living your life big or small, whether you surround yourself with fear or laughter.~~  Claire Cook

 

Have you ever been so engrossed in a book that you totally forget time?  Or are you one who goes out to the garden for a quick minute to check on your plants and end up spending all afternoon outside?  Or are you an artist who can work on a painting for hours?

 

Time flies when you're having fun.  It's true.  So use that during your quit...especially the early days   Do those things that make you lose track of time.  Maybe a jigsaw puzzle?  Maybe you refinish furniture.  Are you learning to dance?  Or are  you learning some new recipes?

 

I'm a big proponent of having fun!  Of laughing.  Of making memories.  Because you never get a second chance to live life today.  Surround yourself with things you love to do and people you love to do those things with.  Don't get stuck feeling burdened by your quit.  Your quit is a gift and life is a gift...enjoy them

 

That's all I have for tonight.  It's time for evening yoga.  Namaste.

 

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Just for Today

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 23, 2019

~~It doesn't matter who you used to be; what matters is who you decide to be today.  You are not your mistakes.  You are not your mishaps.  You are not your past.  You are not your wounds.  You can decide differently today and at every moment.  Remember that.  You are offered a new opportunity with each breath to think, choose, decide and act differently in a way that supports you in being all that you are capable of being.  You are not less than.  You are enough.~~  Unknown

 

So how about just for today, you allow yourself to be.  You can forgive yourself for your perceived failures.  You can let go of that nagging thought that you're not good enough.  You can, just for today, be content with being you.

 

Today is your opportunity to think differently about yourself.  To act differently.  To decide that you are your own best friend rather than worst critic.  To choose to heal your wounds rather than allow them to fester.

 

It's a good day for you to be all you are capable of being.  Because you are not your mistakes and you are not your past.  You can decide differently just for today.  Love yourself.  Be ok with yourself.  And take that first step forward in supporting yourself in being all you are capable of.  It starts with you and let it start today.

 

It doesn't matter if you are a serial quitter.  It doesn't matter if you haven't quit yet.  It doesn't matter if you up until now you thought you would be a smoker forever.  Take that step.  Decide differently.  Today is your day.  You get to choose who to be. 

 

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

I'm Sorry

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 22, 2019

~~Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all.  Do not let the hero in your soul perish in the lonely frustration for the life you deserved but have never been able to reach.  Check your road and the nature of your battle.  The world you desire can be won.  It exists.  It is real.  It is possible.  It is yours.~~ Ayn Rand

 

I'm sorry you're struggling.  I'm sorry you're sad.  I'm sorry you have yet to reach that smoke free world you desire.  You may stumble, you may waiver, but please don't let that fire go out!!  Don't let that hero in your soul perish!!  It's in you to quit and it's in you to stay the smoke free road and it's in you to become who you were always meant to be.  I promise you it's in you.  And if you have to scrape it off layer by layer and bit by bit, we will be right here holding your hand and reminding you that you are worth it.

Recovery is real.  Living life smoke free is possible.  It exists and it's waiting for you to accept it.  In your time, in your way.  Because that is the only way to do it.  Look inward.  Understand what you're getting into when you quit.  And know that each moment you spend smoke free means you really can live a smoke free life.

You don't believe it, I know.  You have your doubts, you only know a smoking world.  It's comfortable to you even though you know that it's hurting you, too.  Addiction is like that and it's so much easier to believe the lies than face the truth.  No, my friend, smoking does not relax you.  Getting that hit of nicotine...that addictive substance into your brain...that drug....that calms the brain while killing the body.

There will come a time when your fire will once again spark and the hero in you will rise up to lead you into freedom.  Don't ignore it.  Embrace it and move into the world you truly desire.  It is real.

 

Sheri

~~When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive-to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.~~  Marcus Aurelius

 

Life is a gift, you know.  Every breath you take is a blessing.  Every heartbeat a privilege. 

It's another day that you are allowed to enjoy.  Smell the fresh air, feel the wind on your cheeks, hear the music of nature.  The world is alive and you are here, a part of it.  Able to fill your lungs, dance around, hug those you love.

You can choose how you spend your time and that, too, is a precious gift.  Because you can choose to feel the miracle that life itself is or you can choose to see life as a burden as you fight your quit, hating the freedom rather than the addiction, wanting to smoke more than wanting recovery.

Every battle you fight with your quit is in your mind.  It's not real.  You won't really 'go crazy'.  You won't really 'die without a cigarette'.  Your brain is simply running amuck, searching for the feel good substance you have fed it for so long.  It will calm down if you refuse to feed it.  It will get easier.  It will get better.  You can stop fighting your quit and surrender to it.  Whatever happens, happens.  Accept that you may feel ragged for a while.  You may have your moments of sheer weariness and stress.  But that's life and it doesn't need to mean anything other than a bad day, nothing more.

Because life's a gift.  And you...out of billions and billions of people...have been gifted with today.  It will never come again, so make today something special to remember. 

 

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Wie Geht's?

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 21, 2019

~~We do not have to pressure ourselves by insisting that we do or know something before it's time.  When it is time, we will know.  We will move into that time naturally and harmoniously.  We will have peace and consistency.  We will feel empowered in a way we do not feel today.  Deal with the panic, the urgency, the fear; do not let them control or dictate decisions.  Waiting isn't easy.  It isn't fun.  But waiting is often necessary to get what we want.  It is not deadtime; it is not downtime.  The answer will come.  The power will come.  The time will come.  And it will be right.  Today I will wait, if waiting is the action I need in order to take care of myself.  I will know that I am taking a positive, forceful action by waiting until the time is right.  God, help me let go of my fear, urgency, and panic.~~  Unknown

 

Guten Morgen, meine freunde, wie geht es Ihnen*?

Have you ever read a post here and thought, "What are they saying?"  

I did.  Often.  Sometimes it was like reading Greek.  I could read the words but felt no impact from them.  "You'll feel freedom"?  "You really don't relax by smoking"?  "Remember HALT"?  I didn't get it and I don't believe it was from the lack of intelligence.  It wasn't from a lack of desire on my part to quit.  It wasn't even I didn't understand the words.  I did.  I just didn't 'get' them.

I actually stepped away from this site.  I needed quiet time.  I needed 'me' time.  I needed to figure out what I was doing wrong and why I couldn't quit. And I did understand that no one could tell me that.  It was on me.

Please know that not everyone needs to do the same thing!  Some need support, some need information.  Some need reinforcement.  To me, the site was a good distraction from what I needed to do.  I needed to look inward. 

Because there is where everyone's quit truly is.  It's there inside you.  That moment you realize that you don't want addiction to win.  That moment you realize quitting only means not smoking ever again.  That moment you accept that you can't smoke because addiction takes away everything you love.  That 'ah-ha!' moment that changes your quit from a burden to a blessing.

The words from others may make sense or it may be Greek to you.  That's ok.  Your quit is there inside you regardless of what you read about from others.  There is an ease to quitting when it comes from within that may not be there when you look for answers from others.  Only because you won't find your quit in our words, we can only offer what we know.  Your quit is in you.

So this may sound like Greek to you but relax.  Let go of the fear, the panic.  Your quit is there, waiting for you.  And yes, you may struggle with it but it is yours to have in your time in your way.  We so badly want to help get you there but we know that it is yours because we found ours that same way....within us.  And now we know that "Guten Morgen, meine freunde, wie geht es Ihnen" simply means "good morning, my friends, how are you?"  

 

I hope you understand

 

Sheri

 

* Please know that any mistakes in spelling or translations is mine alone.  My German is very rusty

~~When is the last time you did something for the first time?~~ John C Maxwell

 

Since you are quitting smoking, now is a good time to plan some distractions for yourself.  Remember, the busier you are, the less likely you will dwell on relapsing.  So when is the last time you did something for the first time?  Do you remember trying to ride a bike for the first time?  Taking your first college class?  Jumping off the high dive at the community pool?

As adults, we tend to settle into routine.  Work, home, dinner, TV, bed, right?  And sometimes we get in an early morning run or a quick dash to the grocery store.  But somewhere in between our childhood and grownhood, we lost the ability to take action on our dreams.  Because real life sweeps us along and we get caught up in the 'have to' rather than the 'want to'.

You ever wanted to learn to ride a horse?  Take ballroom dance lessons?  Scale a wall?  Learn German?  What about plan that garden in the back yard?  Train for a 5k?  Learn to scuba dive?

Life is filled with fun!  With opportunities!  With discoveries!  Why not explore a bit while you can.  I got my first and only tattoo when I quit smoking.  It's a little Gemini symbol (very pretty) on my ankle.  That's a first for me.  I learned to dance after I quit.  Another first.  I spoke to a room filled with people about substance abuse and pregnancy.  Yikes!  A very scary and shaky first  

Lately I dropped trying new things.  This past year has been quite a challenge.  But life is short and I want to be able to tell God that I truly enjoyed His gift of life to me so I'm sitting down today and making an updated list of things I want to try. 

You may not be the kind of person who likes new things.  That's ok.  But what about doing the things you know you like?  Are you a traveler?  Do you love camping?  Are you an artist?  Being creative is a great coping skill to have while you are in the early days of your quit.  Doing things you love can keep you busy in such a good, healthy way!

It doesn't take money to try new things...although by quitting you will have more money to play with.  It doesn't take any particular set of skills.  All you need is a curious mind and a willingness to try  

 

Enjoy your quit!!

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

I've Learned

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 19, 2019

~~I've learned that things don't always turn out the way you planned, or the way you think they should.  And I've learned that there are things that go wrong that don't always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before.  I've learned that some broken things stay broken, and I've learned that you can get through bad times and keep looking for better ones as long as you have people who love you.~~  Jennifer Weiner

 

This is hard for me, being here right now.  It's easier for me to encourage others than it is to come here and bare part of my soul.  But I think those who know me here deserve an explanation.  My comings and goings rather than just toughing it out like the rest of the elders.  Dedicated and true to the mission of this site.

 

Let me share a little bit of who I am.  I have dedicated a great deal of my adult life to helping families in need.  From economic hardships to sexual abuse.....from abandonment to deliberate burns....I am there for the families.  And I got very good at working with families.  They trusted me, they leaned on me, and shared their secret shames and buried traumas.  Then things suddenly turned deadly and I began working with families who children had been beaten to death...or committed suicide at the tender age of 8....or been so terribly neglected they couldn't walk, talk, or eat solid foods at the age of 3.  I reached my limit.  Couldn't do it anymore.  Often spent my time crying over these poor babies.  So slowly I am changing how I work with families.  I needed to for my own piece of mind.  Still there and still will listen when they need to talk but I am offering more positive services and healthy choices.

 

Here on Ex, I listen.  I offer support and encouragement.  And I hear the stories of health issues.....broken relationships...heart wrenching loneliness.  Believe me, I understand!! And I listen.  I pray.   But there comes a point when reading that someone smokes because they get bad news at the doctor's office....I break for them.  How devastatingly sad that they can't stop being their worst enemy.  That they feel so destroyed by the diagnosis that they immediately turn to the addiction that possibly assisted in giving them the diagnosis.  I understand addiction and I get why they do what they do....but still I spend time crying over these lost souls.

 

Since I feel so much and am a somewhat impulsive person, I choose to let go rather than just 'take a break'.  Of course it doesn't work because here I am once again, but the sorrow and frustration and weariness I feel over this stupid, stupid thing called addiction....and all the damage it does..... can sometimes knock me to my  knees and I react poorly.  Recognizing that is the first step in correcting it, I know.

 

I'm here because of pir8fan and Strudel and indingrl.01.06.2011 and Youngatheart.7.4.12 and Daniela-3-11-2016 and Thomas3.20.2010 and all of those who have shared their quits here.  I'm here because Giulia and jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 and all those who have helped me quit.  And I'm here because of Marilyn.H.July.14.14. and BonnieBee.quit.2.8.15 and OldBones-Larry and all the other exers who offer hope, share their struggles, and stay because they're needed.  

 

Ok, so I am not the best sharer out there and I'm feeling a little out of my element.  But I wanted to let you know why I sometimes do the things I do and I hope you will understand me better.  May we all enjoy the here and now and not worry so much about tomorrow....it will take care of itself.

 

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

Greater Things

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 19, 2019

~~There are going to be days when giving up will seem oh so attractive and easy and perhaps no one will be there to save you but find that inner strength in yourself to get through today and tomorrow because this pain isn't permanent and you are worthy and deserving of such greater things.~~ e.g.

 

This pain isn't permanent.  I promise.  This anxiety you feel...the nervousness...the heightened sense of doom.  All the things you feel when you first quit smoking.  Your emotions are all over the place. At first.  You feel unable to function at your normal level.  At first.

If you cling to this pain, it will gain force. It can so easily snowball into 'just one' so that you feel better.  And then, rather than remembering all the reasons you quit, you will remember that feeling you get when you smoke.  That feeding your addiction.  Addiction wins when you give it power.

You may not quite understand that there are so much greater things in store for you after your quit.  You may not be able to picture your family getting closer to you or your heightened sense of confidence or even your ability to do so much more with the time you gain from quitting, but it's all there.  Waiting for you.  Keep your eyes and your ears and your heart on all you will be gaining each moment you don't choose to smoke.  Build the positive vibes rather than cling to the lies of addiction.

And, please, trust us.  Trust that we have your best interest at heart and trust that we have been in that exact spot you're in right now.  We know the feelings and we know the struggles and we understand all that you're going through in your quit.  Sure, you may have different triggers and different life experiences but addiction is universal.  There is no reason to smoke, good or bad.  And we know that, too.

Settle in for the most rewarding journey of your life!!  There is nothing easy about it but then again, life isn't easy either and we manage to make it work for us   I'm glad you're here, I'm happy you have chosen to quit smoking, and I know you won't regret it.  You are worthy and deserving of such greater things!!

 

Sheri

Dancingthrulife_6.4.13

The Awakening

Posted by Dancingthrulife_6.4.13 Mar 18, 2019

~~Take all the time you need, Sweet Soul, because we don't get anywhere quicker by rushing the process of our healing, of our self-loving, of our freedom.  We get nowhere meaningful in haste.  So ignore the noisy beeping of the world around you, the shoving, the busying, the stressing.  Take all the time you need to gather your thoughts, to have time to exhale and process your feelings because knowing yourself, feeling yourself, that is truly the most important thing.  And just keep being you.  Keep on the journey of being more and more you because it's beautiful.  Because you're just beautiful.  Every inch of you awakening to you is just beautiful.~~  S.C. Lourie

 

Jake and I had to go to Panama City today (Southport to be exact) to get his trombone repaired.  We hadn't been down Hwy 77 since before the hurricane and I was prepared to see a difference.  I was unprepared, however, to see areas of Southport that looked as if the hurricane had hit a week ago instead of 5 months ago.  Buildings and homes destroyed and still sitting there abandoned, fallen, broken.  Most of the tree line gone.  Piles of debris stacked 10 feet tall.  I made a comment to that effect to the business owner taking Jake's trombone.  He simply nodded and said that healing from the hurricane would take time.  The rest of America may have forgotten and assumed that Panama City was back to normal, but it is a new normal.  This man lost his place of business so is now working out of the back of his home.  People are living in travel trailers and even tents while they send their kids to school and go to work.  If you can't find your favorite lunch spot anymore, you simply find a new favorite spot and continue on.  The people of Panama City make it all work.

 

Welcome to the world of healing, dear quitters.  Each and everyone one of us has been through our own hurricane of sorts.  Quitting can beat us down, hold us back, and totally exhaust us.  Sooner or later, we need to heal.  To slow down and recognize what smoking AND quitting have done to us.  Take all the time you need to feel out your new world.  Feel out the new you.  All that you that was buried beneath your need to smoke.  Have patience and know that not only is your body healing, but so is your world.  Everything you used to do revolved around your addiction.  Now you're flying solo and it can be unsettling.  What do you do now when something upsets you?  What do you do when your bored?  Celebrating?  Feel yourself out and allow yourself the time you need to figure things out. Gather all your broken parts and piece yourself together as you heal until you are your new normal.  Different yet better.  Fragile yet whole.

 

Hurricanes are damaging but the human spirit cannot be held down forever.  I witnessed that today and I lived through it myself with my own quit.  We will survive.

 

Blessings to you and yours  

 

Sheri

~~I wish sometimes that you can see yourselves through my eyes.  Then you could see how beautiful and wonderful you really are.  The language of friendship is not words but feelings.~~LCA

 

My friends here are struggling.  Some with health issues, some with mental health concerns, a few with their quits.  And the magnificent group of exers are here to support, thank goodness!  No one should ever feel like they are going through life's trials and tribulations alone.  Because let's face it, we have all at one time or another had similar struggles.  We know and by knowing can offer that kind of empathetic support where others feel understood.

 

I need to start out by saying that quitting smoking isn't a magical cure to life long success.  It doesn't bring you everlasting happiness, universal health, or unyielding strength.  Life is going to bite you in one way or another some time in your lifetime.  That's just how it goes.  But quitting will give you BETTER health than if you were still smoking.  Quitting will give you a clearer mind than when you were smoking.  Quitting will give you a sense that you can get through tough times.  Quitting will give you the freedom to address those things in your life that need your FULL attention.  Quitting will give you the time you need during your day to do those things you need to do, want to do, and enjoy doing.  And, of course, quitting will give you the money you deserve to have for pampering yourself, paying off bills, or taking that long dreamed of vacation.

 

I am totally loving that these same friends with issues and problems are still here, sharing their stories in order to help the next in line.  It's not easy to hear 'cancer' or 'hospitalization' or any other of the words that say we aren't well.  But to take those fears, that diagnosis, those devastating facts and to bring them here to us so we are informed is beyond humbling (in my opinion).  Simply so we get that test done or we make that appointment or we realize that symptom.  Their generosity and selflessness is just stunning.  You have my undying gratitude and utmost respect.

 

Now, for those struggling with their quits.  I hear you.  I hear you say it's hard, it's a daily battle, and it's exhausting.  May I also add that......despite all that, you are doing it.  No one is forcing you to quit.  Please understand what I mean by that because I'm not being mean.  YOU decided to brave your quit, YOU are holding on to it, YOU are making it work.  Look at you!!  You are amazing!!  We may support you but YOU, my dear friend, are the one who is owning your quit.  No one can force you to quit and no one can give you permission to smoke.  It's all on you.  But that shouldn't be a burden, it should be a gift.  I think that those who succeed in quitting understand that difference.  Remember that each day without smoking means you are being strong, even when you don't actually feel that strong.  Give yourself credit for holding on even when you want to let go.

 

Finally, to that one friend who went back to smoking.  No, you aren't a failure.  No, you aren't a loser.  You are simply slowly understanding the power of addiction.  While we say it's all in the mind, the mind itself is a force beyond what we normally think about in our daily, routine filled lives.  So that power can take us off guard when we quit smoking.  Wow!!  Our brains frantically go into overdrive trying to get that substance back....."Anxious!!  Need to smoke!!"  "Stressed, can't get over it without smoking!!"  "Omg, I'm going to go crazy without a cigarette!!"  Please understand that going back to smoking doesn't mean you failed, it means you are addicted.  Learn from it, learn about it.  You can quit with commitment, knowledge, and support.  But you have to do it at your time in your own way.  I'll be here for you.

 

Ok, I think I covered everything I needed to say.  So much for retirement, huh?!  But I love you guys and want you to know how beautiful I think you all are.  Thank you for being here, thank you for sharing, and thank you for touching my life in the most remarkable way.

 

Sheri

~~And suddenly, you know...it's time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.~~  Unknown

 

I've always loved adventures   New situations, new ideas, new challenges.  Normally I leave here for a bit when I get busy or need a break and then come back.  It seemed so important to me to make sure that every quitter know how very much they are needed here in the world.  So I would jump back and forth from my real world to my site world.

After over 5 years here and (I believe) 535 blogs, I am ready to 'retire' my keyboard and hang up my user ID.  I feel confident that I leave quitters in good hands of those who will continue on encouraging, supporting, teaching, and listening.

Marilyn.H.July.14.14. and mikecity write the most heartwarming, upbeat morning blogs for those of us who are here early.  They make us smile and believe that we can do anything!! They are truly blessings here.

Thomas3.20.2010 knows so much about CPOD, elvan offers kindness to all, jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 is both hilarious and knowledgeable.  Daniela-3-11-2016 has such insight and warmth.  JACKIE1-25-15 leads with grace and strength.  Giulia leads with wisdom.  Mandolinrain is a friend like no other.  

There are so many more, of course.  I would be here all night trying to list them all   But know that everything you need to quit is here in these people.  People who volunteer their time, their expertise, their own journeys simply to help you quit smoking.  

May your journey be filled with hope, humor, and much love. 

~~The most effective way to do it, is to do it.~~ Amelia Earhart

 

When I was on the merry-go-round of quitting circuit, I used to honestly wonder how others managed to quit.  20 days quit....200 days quit....2 years quit.....how?  And here I was, a loser.  Weak.  Stupid.  Addicted.

 

Of course I used all the words that pointed to "I can't quit".  "I will try again", "I hope I can", "Maybe this time".  Scared.  Anxious.  Terribly sad.

 

After a failed attempt when I hated myself for caving once again, I had a serious talk with myself.  I had to know why.  Why couldn't I quit?  What was wrong with me?  Was there something wrong with me or was I just a smoker forever?  I didn't like the fact that I smoked even while feeling relief as I sucked in the smoke.

 

Then my 'ah-ha' moment came.  The secret to quitting, I decided, was never to smoke again.  Ever. Close the door on it totally and forever.  Not just "I hope", but not to open that door ever again.  So all I had to do was not to smoke.

 

And I decided I could do that.  I didn't try to figure out the rest of my life, I didn't cement my plan into stone, I didn't even announce to anyone I was quitting.  I quietly shut the door and refused to open it ever again.

 

I was flexible in my approach to making my days bearable.  I did a lot of yoga, deep breathing, meditation.  I took long walks, I slept A LOT, I drank some water, I painted.  I was loving to my children and kind to my friends.  In other words....I simply got on with life.  The most effective way to do it is to do it.  So I did.

 

Now I know some of you struggling are thinking "She makes it sound easy and it's not".  But truly, the only way to quit smoking is to quit smoking. Whether it's easy or hard.  Quitting means never smoking again.   You can struggle, you can make it hard, you can have fun with it, you can have a combination of both easy and hard.  But the only thing you HAVE to do is to not smoke.

 

The merry-go-round of quitting and relapsing can be very wearing on a person.  Discouraging.  Tiring.  Hard.  But you can get off that ride whenever you want to.  It's entirely in your hands.

 

 The only thing you'll ever have to do to keep your quit is to....not smoke.  

~~I hope there are days when you fall in love with being alive.~~ Unknown

 

I sincerely do.  And I hope that even if you are only one day quit, you appreciate the effort it took you to get to that day and you hold tight to that precious day.  And may you love the courage you gathered to step off that smoking cliff.  What a brave person you are!! Truly a warrior.

So I hope you savor those victories, little as they may seem to you.  It's the smallest things that grow into masterpieces! You never have to start over if you don't give in so treasure that first day.  Revel in it!! Recognize the hugeness of it and feel the relief of it.  No more 'I should quit' or 'I need to quit'.  You've done it and now its time to rejoice in it.

I hope there are days you fall in love with being alive and I hope one of those days is when you quit smoking.  

~~"and I said to my body softly,  'I want to be your friend.'  It took a long breath and replied, 'I have been waiting my whole life for this.'"  unknown

 

It seems really silly but it took me forever to understand just how much my body loved me.  It kept working no matter if I ignored it, failed to properly feed it the nutrients it needs to function well, damaged it through smoking, didn't water it, and generally underappreciated it.

Then I read something that sparked an interest.  Something about if you feel lonely, remember there are 5 billion cells in your body focused only on you.  I mean....wow!  Yes, I know about cells and yes, I know my body functions daily.  But I never before really thought about how much my body works at keeping me alive while I do everything I can to make it's job harder.  I didn't drink enough water, I didn't eat well, and even more than that...I didn't treat my body like a friend.

 

Sounds a bit weird, huh?  But the body that keeps me alive...the body that functions without what it needs to function well...the body that keeps me here on earth....wasn't my friend.  I didn't pay attention.  

Until I did.  For me, it's now not just about doing yoga, but it's shutting my mind down to allow my body to enjoy movement.  It's now about knowing more about what foods my body needs to better function and giving it that.  It's about drinking enough water so it works better.  And it's about listening to it when it sends signals.  Of needing exercise.  Of needing vitamins.  Of being in pain.

 

Pain is our bodies' way of saying something is wrong.  It doesn't mean to panic, but rather to pay attention.  Broken bones need to set, a pinched nerve needs care, a headache may mean a dark room and some rest.  Really love your body enough to listen and to respond to what it needs.

 

Since I am somewhat of a fanciful person, I picture that quitting smoking make our cells sing!!  Happily, they begin to repair all the damage we've done through smoking.  And, if not all the damage, our cells work hard to allow our body to function as well as possible.  Sometimes not much can be done for the damage already created, but when you quit smoking, you quit further damage.  And that does mean a great deal to a tired, hurting body.

 

Today I take great care of a body that's taken great care of me.  If I'm tired, I rest.  If I'm hurt, I give my body time to heal.  I am physically active but when my shoulder gives me trouble, I don't push.  I pay attention and respond well to what my body needs.  

 

Sometimes I eat cookies.  Sometimes I stay in my pjs and binge on M*A*S*H episodes.  I have even been known to get overtired.  I'm not perfect.  But I am aware.  

 

So when you quit smoking, pay attention to your body.  Picture billions of cells rushing to heal the damages caused by your smoking.  It may just mean you don't ever smoke again   After all, why put your body through that again???

 

Hugs to all,

Sheri