~~When you blame others, you give up your power to change.~~ Dr. Robert Anthony
Of course life can get stressful and your boss can get on your last nerve and your children can break your heart and your spouse doesn't understand you. And you can say you smoked because you were afraid you lost you job or your neighbor stole your favorite wrench. You didn't want to blow up at your oldest or you didn't want to cry in front of a co-worker.
But smoking is entirely and totally your decision. No one can 'make' us smoke any more than anyone can 'make' us mad. We get to choose how we react to a person, a situation, or an event.
So let go of the blame. Release it and accept that we can't force others to behave in ways that we feel comfortable with. Their behaviors are a reflection of their truths...how we respond is a reflection of ours.
When we let go of blaming, we start gaining control of our worlds. Our responses become more in line with who we are rather than a reaction to what we see. In letting go of blame, we move more easily into gaining control of what we do and how we interact with others.
Blaming means giving up our power to change. Letting go of blame allows us the freedom to make decisions based on our own thoughts and feelings rather than another's actions.
So a thought for today....let it go. Allow others to be who they are, period. And build your world around who you are. Because who you are is remarkable, amazing, and beautiful. Truly.