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 There are times in our lives that we must face great adversity. Sometimes these things can derail a quit because somehow we see this smoking addiction as a comfort. A way to fill a hole that just can’t be filled. Thankfully I didn’t fall into that trap that we can so easily create for ourselves.


You see, eight years ago I chose to change my future. I chose to look to that future that I wanted so badly to guide me and I put out that last cigarette with a belief that I would never smoke again.


This didn’t happen without a bit of work to get ready to transition to a new life, but every bit of preparation that I did paid off in such an incredible way because now I have the biggest gift I could ever give myself. Freedom from a smothering addiction.


Did I see it as a gift when I first quit? Absolutely not. In fact, like many of you I thought the hard part would never end. Like you, I fought through those first days slowly finding the belief that I was going to win. I had my ups and downs, but never did I lose sight of that shining banner of freedom that I intended to wave high over my head, proudly declaring my freedom to all at last!


When I knew I had a tough day coming during the beginnings of my quit, I’d fear it simply because I didn’t know whether this day would present me with a trigger that could make me cave. But by fearing that day, I also prepared just a little more for it. Like those first days when we quit and prepare for the worst, I did the same before those tough days.


Sure, thoughts of smoking entered my mind on those days but like the first days, I was ready. I knew I’d have to fight just a little harder to get through and over time as I faced these hard days, it became more normal to live them without the cigarette. And once an event becomes normal, we begin to believe in ourselves and not only our ability to remain free, but we reinforce our belief in our desire for freedom as well.


Most of us create a tool box before we quit, filled with all the ideas, supplies, knowledge and suggestions we find during our preparation that we hope will help on those first hard days. It’s wise to keep those tools handy for a while longer, but eventually you won’t need them for you see you’ll have found that wonderful peace that awaits each and every one of us if we’re just willing to fight to get there.


My addiction is now completely separated from the problems that life throws at me. In fact, the thought of smoking a cigarette never crosses my mind for any reason at all. Even if I think of a cigarette it has no power over me and is now simply an image of the mind. A picture that has no meaning.


This is what drives that amazing peace and freedom at the end of our quits for you see, the world really is different now. For me, it’s now my normal not to smoke! I can’t wait to see you get there. There’s just no better feeling!





When we first quit, we find ourselves in an agony of memories of the past and what we allowed ourselves to do. And as we leave the road of addiction to follow a new path of freedom, those memories become our worst possible enemy at first.


We constantly think back to those days before, and we compare it to the moment that we’re living in the present and realize that there was no discomfort in those memories. That the past was way easier to live than the one we’ve chosen to follow now. This sets up the internal argument that we all must face when we quit. Our minds constantly comparing our past to our new and hard present.


On the first days when the lack of nicotine begins its attack, it’s really hard to stay free. And most of us felt horrible on those first days. What makes it even harder is that we have nothing new to compare our past to. The future hasn’t happened yet so we can’t see the amazing feelings that come from losing our addictions.


We can’t see the health benefits. All we can see is the discomfort and even though we knew we’d have to face it, it still attacks our minds with the fury of a tornado, spinning our thoughts into a whirlwind of emotions.


This is when it’s most important to reach out. To ask questions. To busy ourselves with anything besides listening to the thoughts of our smoking past that will occupy our minds. And I think there’s a big change once we have a few days under our belts for you see, we begin to believe that we actually can win this hard war. And with belief comes confidence that we really can achieve our goals.


With belief comes some calm because we lose one more stressor at a time where every little stress can seem monumental. And as we continue to move forward on the path to freedom, slowly building a resolve that cannot be shaken, we begin to find new things to compare our past to. Memories that aren’t filled with a cloud of smoke. Thoughts of a new future free of addiction begins to permeate our minds and before long instead of looking at past discomforts, we begin to see the possibilities that await us in the future.


Our minds begin to focus on thoughts of health and freedom and every day we reinforce our desire to be free for once we see the possibilities that freedom can bring and keep a constant desire to live those possibilities, there’s just no stopping us for you see, we no longer live in the past.






From our hearts

Posted by Chuck_Quit_2-20-2011 May 9, 2019

There is a place deep within our hearts where the reality of freedom lives even when we’re completely in the throes of an addition. The only time we seem to realize this as we fulfill our desire of living in the world addiction is when we let our guard down just a little. When we let that nugget that lives within all of us come forward.


Most addicts push that thought away very quickly because you see, remaining addicted and liking living that life really does take a lot of work and the same self reflection that we use when we do quit. When we begin the quit process so often we forget all the work it took to maintain our addictions.


We had to plan our every move, lest we get caught with a moment where we can’t smoke. We had to make sure that all those cigarettes were securely listed in our budgets. In fact, if an addict is to blow a budget, it’s always to feed the addiction. And more importantly we have to constantly push back against ourselves to remain addicted, simply so that the old self preservation thinking doesn’t kick in and make us uncomfortable while we feed the addiction because after all, that place in our hearts always remembers that little nugget of freedom that’s just waiting to be noticed.


I think one of the hardest things about a successful quit is that it has to come from inside. Being told to quit just doesn’t fit into the addicts recovery program. In fact, whenever someone even brought up the possibility of me quitting, the first thing I felt was anger. Looking back, I realize just how hard I fought to keep my addiction intact.


Which brings me to the actual quit and to be honest, just getting there was half the battle for me. I mean I repelled the thought of quitting like the plague for many long years. After all, bad things only happen to others, right? I was sure I was safe even as loved ones around me succumbed to the final effects of this nicotine addiction and I can tell you, the picture was never pretty. But I continued smoking for many years.


But when I did quit, it came from inside. That little place in the heart blossoming for the first time because for once, I let it. And then I embraced these thoughts of comfort and of a new future if I was just willing to fight to see it. And so I did fight, at first just to take that little glimmer of freedom and turn it into something tangible. Something that I could use to propel me all the way to a new and wonderful life.


For me, that’s where it started. But seeing the realities of what I’d at last chosen to face, I knew that I wasn’t one that could just jump in with both feet for you see, as much as I wanted freedom I still lacked the confidence to truly seek it. So I studied my addiction and how I interacted with it and how it interacted with me. I bagan to see through the barriers that I’d created for myself, and using that knowledge of what made me smoke in the first place, I created my quit plan.


For me, that plan was successful. And now I’m living that freedom that I could only dream of on those first hard days of my quit. There’s something amazing that happens when we can finally see through the cloud of addiction. The mind, body and soul seem to come together to create a will that cannot be stopped. A desire for freedom that will not fade unless we let it and in the end a single action transforms our futures for the better life life that we now see. Keep fighting my friends! It always starts with a single glimmer. It’s up to us to take that glimmer and turn it into something amazing!