When one decides to quit smoking, we kind of make a deal with ourselves. We look inside and decide that this is what we’re going to do like it or not. Then the fear steps in. It’s a fear of changing our lifestyles and even though we know it’s a positive thing, we still fear it.
We think of what life will be like without cigarettes. We wonder how we’ll deal with the stressful times in our lives when we don’t have a kind of tool that we always had to deal with these things. We wonder how we’ll cope with life itself without that nasty little stick. Some of us even look at the cigarette as an old friend that we don’t want to lose.
And our own minds seem to fight us every step of the way, trying to convince us that it’s something we can put off till later. Or after the first uncomfortable day that we face, the mind tells us that this will not work. Our own minds screams at us, convinced that we’re not giving our bodies what they really need.
This is the face of addiction. A thing that causes what should be a positive decision to seem at the very least negative. This creates a kind of turmoil within our own minds. We fight ourselves until that day that we become committed to achieve this positive goal for ourselves.
Once we become committed, we decide that we will fight this negative thinking that goes on within us. We decide that we will ignore this negativity and this is when we start to develop determination to defeat this negative aspect in our minds.
Determination can be as strong or as weak as you let it be in my opinion. But it’s also something that can be created if we try simply by looking at the positives rather then dwelling endlessly on the negatives which is what our own addicted minds try to generate. When we listen to the negatives, we loose hope. We lose our belief that yes, we can do this!
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that our quits can be as easy or as hard as we choose to make them. If we can squash our fear of quitting and if we can focus only on the good aspects of quitting, it just makes the journey easier. And in turn we gain a belief within ourselves that we can actually achieve this positive step in our lives. We believe that we can overcome the initial discomfort of quitting.
So try to live each day understanding that we are indeed doing a good thing in our lives. Try to live each of those hard first days when our minds and bodies fight with us in the spirit of the positive. Keep your determination in the forefront and believe in yourself. Believe that you can do it. Understand that this time in your life is only temporary and that soon all the discomfort will only be a memory.
Do whatever it takes to lead ourselves out of our addiction. We are the only one’s who can really fight for our lives. We are the only ones who can save ourselves from the negativity that can consumes us! We are the only ones who can take that final step and put our addiction away because we know that our future means more to us then a little discomfort right now. And in the end, we are the ones who can be proud of ourselves for beating an addiction that simply robs us of life and breath!
Just a few random thoughts from one who is in the beginnings of a journey that will last the rest of my life . .