Hi ya'll. I've not been here in a while and thought I should stop in and leave a positive word or two.
I'm getting closer to my one year quit date. Exciting! I have to admit, I wasn't all that confident that I would come this far without even one puff! But I have! I'm proud of myself, and I make sure to reward myself now and then.
If I can do it, you can do it.
I thought that cigarettes had such a strong hold on me (40 years of smoking), that I'd not ever be able to quit.
However, last year I began to work more on myself with raising my self esteem, educating myself about nicotine by finding this site and whyquit.com and reading Allen Carr's book (Easy Way To Stop Smoking). All made a HUGE difference for me. The confidence grew and grew, then with the help of my doctor, counselor, and a little wellbutrin, I finally crossed over to the other side! I wasn't sure if I'd stay there, but just took it ONE DAY AT A TIME, and I just kept listening to/reading self help material to increase my self esteem, and kept educating myself more about nicotine as much as possible.
As of now, there are lots of days that will go by where I haven't had one thought about smoking. I do still have days where it may catch me off guard and I feel a crave, but I just take a deep breath and think about how much good that deep breath feels and does for me. I think that deep breathing is one of the best tools of knowledge you can take with you on your stop smoking journey. I still use it today. I'll even see how many deep breathes I can get in while going to and from my car, so I can get as much fresh outdoor air as possible. I'm exercising more, and I still hunt for healthy snacks to help with the oral fixation. I was never much of a gum person, but tic tac's are working nicely!. And apples, and cherries, and nuts, and not so healthy candy, etc.
I'm feeling much more confident now than I did the first month or so, but I make sure to not let myself get OVER confident. Because I learned (From THIS site), to expect to be caught off guard on occasion, even way down the road. A craving may arise out of nowhere, and you don't want to cave in!
So I just keep reminding myself how GLAD I am to be an ex smoker, and enjoy the pats on the back from people who are proud that I quit, and the increased self confidence it gives me knowing I can take control of my life!! I was SO hooked on the nicotine and never thought I'd be able to quit, that I would say, "If I can quit smoking, I can do ANYTHING!" How LIBERATING it is!!!
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I know I can get through this. I just feel like I have to be more careful than usual. I need to keep my self-esteem up there to help keep me from failing. Deep breath, hold it.. slowly let it out. Repeat.
My quit was last Christmas Eve at midnight (2016). About two weeks later my brother went to the hospital cause he began to have trouble breathing. He was having heart failure and his lungs were filling up with fluid. Then, he discovered he had stage 3 lung cancer, including in the limp nodes, and another spot in a bone at the top of his leg. He's 74 years old, and smoked his whole life I assume. All of MY life anyway, and that's 54 years. And he smoked a lot, as did most of my family my entire life. The minute he found out of the cancer, he quit smoking. Just like that. I was quite proud of him, even though it took such a drastic discovery and after so very many years, for him to do so.
He had daily doses of radiation in the leg until they were finished with that. In the mean time, he had to have two stents put into his heart and was told he may need a triple bypass in the future, but they wanted to work on the cancer first. He decided to began chemotherapy treatments on his lungs. I was saddened at that choice, but didn't know what else to tell him. It was pretty much an all day trip to the hospital each time. I believe it was 5 days a week. Every time he'd finish a round of chemo, his heart would begin to fail and lungs fill with fluid and he'd be back into the hospital. This happened about 5 times over 5 or 6 months, and he just kept getting weaker.
His last round of chemo was about 2 weeks ago. Last Wednesday (about a week ago), his heart failed again for the last time. The chemo did him in. He passed away that afternoon in the hospital. Between his son, my sister, and myself, we are taking care of all the arrangements. We're having a memorial gathering, but it isn't until another week and a half from now. I just put the obituary in the paper today. I'm struggling to keep myself strong enough to be able to focus on my own things that need focusing on. But, I am pushing through! Thank you everyone here for the support. It's so good to know there are others who understand the difficulties.
Okay, I think I'm good now. Thanks for listening as I release my words. Another deep breath in, hold it... Slowly letting it out. Thank you, God for walking with me. Amen.
You guys are great. Thank you for all the encouragement. I'm thinking it was a good thing that I decided to come here earlier today and write a short blog, because... Afterwards, my friend called me up and asked me to go out to eat. We did. This person is a smoker, but respectful of my having quit. But after a couple of drinks, we decided to go to the casino.
I've not been to the casino in a long time (since before quitting). And my friend smokes like a fiend! It was a great test for me. And I can say for myself that I passed with flying colors. Besides, I think I breathed in enough second hand smoke, that it was as if I smoked a pack.
I say that it was a good thing that I stopped in earlier because I was able to read some of your comments and feel the support before I went out on that little test adventure. THANK YOU to all who responded. You're amazing. sophia-22gregp136 @jennifer_quit_05-01-14 elvan @
Hi ya'll. I haven't posted in a while so thought I would. My now out-of-nowhere, sudden, every-once-in-a-while smoke urge reminds me that I should get back here. It's been 4 months, 6 days, 17 hours, and some odd minutes now since I quit. I'm pretty happy that I'm staying quit for this long, and get a little scared sometimes that I might cave in. Then I start taking those deep breaths, and tell myself stuff like, "No, that is not what you want! You like/love yourself too much to go back to THAT. Then you'll just hate yourself for doing it! Yucky! Stinky! No need for it. You know that if you have just one, later it will be another one, then another..." Then I distract myself and carry on. =)
It DOES get easier. And the pangs/urges get further and further apart. I don't recall for sure, but I may have actually had a day here or there go by without thinking of smoking at all! Excited to see that happening more and more!
One would think that at 1 month, 2 weeks, 5 days and 12 hours into one's quit, that it would be easier than it is.
Last couple of days I've been having some very tough moments and feel like I'm getting closer and closer to giving in. WHY is this!? I know that I'm feeling deprived at these times, and need to stop feeling that way, SOMEHOW. The only thing I can think of is, did I mess something in Allen Carr's book? What do ya'll recommend I do now? My mind is of course trying to trick me into thinking I'll feel so good to have a cigarette. I will allow myself to picture it (smoking) briefly, only to realize that it will taste terrible and I would really be mad at myself for having given in to a great quit. Am I treading dangerous ground by allowing myself to picture this? Is this the brink of self-destruction? I keep forgetting that this could also be my lack of meds (Wellbutrin). I started cutting back a week or two ago, maybe too much. I will have to keep watch with this aspect. I realize I may have been trying to cut back too soon, considering I was a 40 year long smoker. It has also been a while since I blogged, partly due to the new website format. I'm still learning how to navigate it.
So anyway, I feel a bit better already just having blogged. Thank ya'll for being here and listening! =)
I was already a sugarholic, but since my quit seems I'm eating more of it. And the salt! I've never eaten a lot of salt before. Now it seems like it's constantly pretzels or popcorn. Chocolate, licorice, hard candies, you name it. Tell me most of it is a phase!
Got about 6 or 8 sudden hard craves today, too. I felt close to giving in a couple of times. Uggg...
One thing I AM learning is that, keeping busy really helps. My problem is that I do most of my work from home, and am on the computer a lot. Seems like everytime I get up from the computer is a cue/trigger (cause I used to go outside to smoke). When I am away from the house part of the day it really helps.
Thanks for all the support you guys! Yer the bomb. =)
Apparently, that three week mark I've read about has some truth in it. I've passed my three week quit a couple of days ago, and over the last few days I've noticed that I'm not thinking of cigarettes as much. It could also be that I'm a little busier than I was before, but still, I think it will continue to get easier. =)
My almost 73 y/o brother is about to have a three-way bypass in a couple of days (heavy smoker). I'm hoping he will be sticking around for a while longer and nothing goes wrong throughout this process. If something does go wrong and he should pass away, I must stick to my quit! I feel confident that I can, too. Just need to avoid my negative, smoking sister as much as possible. But that will be difficult since she's super close with our brother (she's 71), and I'll need to be there for support. *Sigh. It's okay, I'll still do it. =)
Made it to three weeks quit, as of 22 hours ago. The last couple of days seemed to be easier. Not sure if it's cause I've been busier or ? I think my deep breathing is getting to be more habitual, particularly when I start to feel stressed, and that may be helping. I AM looking forward to it being easier and easier as time goes on. All while trying to keep my guard up! =)
Thank you to all of you supporters! You guys rock! Heck, it's nice getting support not just for quitting, but for ANYthing! For that, I am still sticking close by. =)
This came to mind the other day, and I thought that some of you might be able to relate to it. It is a sort of poem I discovered many years ago. Maybe some of you have seen it before. I related it to relationships, but thought some of you who quit several times might relate. I like it so much that I printed it years ago, put it in a frame and on a wall in my house! =)
There’s A Hole In My Sidewalk – by Portia Nelson
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in… it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault… I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
Is it harder not to smoke when you're depressed? I've been feeling depressed today and it makes me want to just give up on the quit. I guess I just feel like beating myself up when I get depressed which is why I feel like I'm going to cave in. I lose confidence and then get worried that I'm gonna give in. *Sigh.